Post on 26-Aug-2014
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Values & Confidence Workshop
KATE O’REILLY // @CLEVERKATE #unleashed // #40forward
–Iggy Azalea
“First things first, I’m the realist.”
Hi, I’m Kate.My ears aren’t even.
KATE O’REILLY // @CLEVERKATE #unleashed // #40forward
“The conversations and language around beauty, bodies, brains, accomplishments, power, assertiveness have to be clear and
smarter and more direct. We have to own our power and embody it. If you’re loud, be loud. If you’re smart, say it it out loud. If you do amazing things, talk about them. If your daughter doesn’t want to
dress like other girls, or is assertive, or puts herself out there, support her. But support yourself, too. Make your reality something that resonates with her. If you work 3 or 4 jobs to support you and your family, talk about what that means and why you’re doing it.”
!-Nancy Lyons // @nylons
Okay, so let’s do that.(Like, right now.)
KATE O’REILLY // @CLEVERKATE #unleashed // #40forward
I am __________________.
Say one true, positive thing about yourself aloud. Do not say sorry. Do not make a hotdish.
Mayonce. Beyalbright.
OMG LOL BBQ did she really put Beyoncé & Madeleine Albright on the same slide!? Damn right I did. Think of who you admire and use them as a beacon.
BUILDING BLOCKS OF CONFIDENCE
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!ACCEPTANCE
VALUES
RISK
COMMUNITY
Let’s break that down.
This slide was *thisclose* to being an R. Kelly lyric.
Calm — good sleep, regular yoga, drama-free relationships, being organized, managing “noise” !
Tradition — making things from scratch from my Grandmother’s recipes, carrying on special family practices, recalling my parents’ values and deciding which ones I would carry on !
Honesty — honoring commitments, being on time, being kind & clear in difficult situations, clearly stating my needs !
Happiness — simple and real: music, finding beauty, dancing, laughing, being curious, helping people succeed !
Stability — well-managed finances, routines, stocked cupboards, being prepared !
Community — solid and supportive friendships, working family relationships, donating time and funds selflessly to those who are struggling, spending money locally
Six* ways to gain confidence and better define your values
that you can do today (or tomorrow).
!!!!!
*Choose one. All six at once will make you crazy.
Six things you can do to gain confidence today: !• Get enough sleep. Sleep solves ALL THE PROBLEMS. I schedule sleep. On my phone, at 9:20PM, a reminder goes off: Time to wind down. Every night. !• Eliminate jealousy as an emotion. Want something for yourself? Go get it. !• Wear only clothes (AND SHOES) that make you feel amazing. If someone says you look great in a color: believe them and wear it more. !• Break up with one person that weighs you down. Actively/or fade away. Be kind and be done. !• Go to a restaurant and order the first thing that looks good. Then put the menu down and talk to the person across from you about real things. !
REPORT BACK TO ME ON TWITTER, by email , or in person!
–Frances Hocutt // @franceshocutt
“Competence builds confidence.”