Self-coaching

Photo: Seth Anderson

Ed BatistaDec. 6, 2012www.edbatista.com/self-coaching.html

Consider…Why am I here today?

What are my goals for this session?

Coaching? Self-coaching?

Self-engagement

Goal-setting

Taking action

Assessment

Values & vision

Self-acceptance

Agenda

Photo: Theresa Thompson

What’s coaching?NOT consulting, advising or mentoring

Client owns the agenda

Client has the answers

Photo: Seth Anderson

99% of coaching = Self-coaching

91% of engagements < 18 months

High demand, limited resources

Self-coaching?

Photo: Seth Anderson

NOT a solitary experience

“Coaching team” is key

Augments other forms of support

Self-coaching?

Photo: Seth Anderson

Perspective on ourselves

Practices that support learning

Self-engagement

Photo: lian xiaoxiao

Work in progress

Open to learning

Carol Dweck: Mindset

Perspective

Photo: jm3

Talent & intelligence are inherent traits

Mistakes are failures or character flaws

Negative emotional response to mistakes

Talent & intelligence can be developed

Mistakes are learning opportunities

Pay close attention to mistakes & learn more

Fixed Growth

Carol Dweck: Mindset

www.j.mp/dweck99

Consider…In what ways do I have a fixed

mindset?

Where could I shift to a growth

mindset?

Reflection

Conversation (“coaching team”)

Documentation (in any form)

Practices

Photo: Rollan Budi

Consider…What opportunities do I have to

reflect?

Who could be on my coaching team?

How might I document my experience?

When we are…

Committed

Able

Unconflicted

…goals support performance

Goal-setting

Photo: John Trainor

Photo: John Trainor

However…

Goals can diminish motivation &

enjoyment

Learning goals may trump

performance goals

Threatening goals are counter-

productive

Goal-setting

Photo: John Trainor

Photo: John Trainor

Effective goals…

Generate feedback

Heighten commitment

Don’t obscure the big picture

Goal-setting

Photo: John Trainor

Consider…What is a current goal of mine?

How could this goal help me get

started?

How might this goal demotivate me?

Resistance & motivation

Nir Eyal: Desire Engine

BJ Fogg: Behavior Model

Principles of change

Taking action

Photo: Christian Senger

Healthy prudenceTrusted intuitionSatisfaction with the presentNeed for rest or calmLethargy or inertiaLack of confidence or resilienceExcessive caution or risk-aversion

Healthy ambitionAspirational goalsDrive to overcome obstaclesDetermined “grit”

Unchecked drivesUnchallenged beliefs (I must…)CompulsionsSocial pressure

Useful

Not

Resistance

Motivation

Gas or brakes?

Nir Eyal: Desire Engine

www.j.mp/nireyal2

Action

Commitment

Variable

Reward

Trigger

ExternalInternal

BJ Fogg: Behavior Model

Motivati

on

Ability

High

High

Low

Low

Activation Threshold

www.behaviormodel.org

Triggers Work

Triggers Fail

1. Break down big changes into tiny

steps

2. Celebrate small victories

3. Experiment to test assumptions

4. Build skills through parallel

processes

5. Start small & scale up

Principles of change

Photo: bhav.bhav

Consider…What forms of motivation am I

feeling?

What forms of resistance?

What do these models suggest for

me?

What triggers might be useful?

What change principles could I apply?

One form of documentation

Data as a trigger

Don’t Break the Chain

Assessment

Photo: Stephen Heron

Don’t Break the Chain

Photo: Stephen Heron

Don’t Break the Chain

Photo: Stephen Heron

To track or not to track?

Goals & (de)motivation

Assessment

Photo: Stephen Heron

Self-coaching is the how

Our values & vision are the why

Developed over time

Values & vision

Photo: Muhamed Muha

Consider…What values are reflected in my goal?

What’s my vision for the future?

The self-improvement trap

Balance aspiration & acceptance

Self-acceptance

Photo: Gideon Tsang

Consider…What will I take away from this

session?

What’s the next step I want to take?

When will I do it?

Thank you!

Photo: Seth Anderson

Read more on self-coaching atwww.edbatista.com/self-coaching.html

www.edbatista.comPhotos:Slides 1, 4-6 & 31: Lifeguard Chairs by Seth Anderson, www.flickr.com/photos/swanksalot/4215424034/ Slide 3: Compass (Agenda) by Theresa Thompson, www.flickr.com/photos/theresasthompson/7163227255/ Slide 7: Mirror Image (Self-engagement) by lian xiaoxiao, www.flickr.com/photos/lanx/204766223/Slide 8: Traffic Cones (Perspective) by jm3, www.flickr.com/photos/jm3/2644059971/in/photostream/ Slide 11: Golf Swing (Practices) by Rollan Budi, www.flickr.com/photos/rollanb/2972392183/ Slides 13-15: Archer (Goal-setting) by John Trainor, www.flickr.com/photos/trainor/2902023575/ Slide 17: Barber (Taking action) by Christian Senger, www.flickr.com/photos/30928442@N08/7120592995/ Slide 21: Tram Lights (Principles of change) by bhav.bhav, www.flickr.com/photos/bhavbhav/2373855409/ Slides 23 & 26: Chain (Assessment) by Stephen Heron, www.flickr.com/photos/sbh/3940566486/ Slide 27: Photographer (Values & vision) by Muhamed Muha, www.flickr.com/photos/muha/1016691310/ Slide 29: Hug (Self-acceptance) by Gideon Tsang, www.flickr.com/photos/gideon/436065491/