Self-Coaching, Dec 2012

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Self-coaching

Photo: Seth Anderson

Ed BatistaDec. 6, 2012www.edbatista.com/self-coaching.html

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Consider…Why am I here today?

What are my goals for this session?

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Coaching? Self-coaching?

Self-engagement

Goal-setting

Taking action

Assessment

Values & vision

Self-acceptance

Agenda

Photo: Theresa Thompson

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What’s coaching?NOT consulting, advising or mentoring

Client owns the agenda

Client has the answers

Photo: Seth Anderson

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99% of coaching = Self-coaching

91% of engagements < 18 months

High demand, limited resources

Self-coaching?

Photo: Seth Anderson

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NOT a solitary experience

“Coaching team” is key

Augments other forms of support

Self-coaching?

Photo: Seth Anderson

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Perspective on ourselves

Practices that support learning

Self-engagement

Photo: lian xiaoxiao

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Work in progress

Open to learning

Carol Dweck: Mindset

Perspective

Photo: jm3

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Talent & intelligence are inherent traits

Mistakes are failures or character flaws

Negative emotional response to mistakes

Talent & intelligence can be developed

Mistakes are learning opportunities

Pay close attention to mistakes & learn more

Fixed Growth

Carol Dweck: Mindset

www.j.mp/dweck99

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Consider…In what ways do I have a fixed

mindset?

Where could I shift to a growth

mindset?

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Reflection

Conversation (“coaching team”)

Documentation (in any form)

Practices

Photo: Rollan Budi

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Consider…What opportunities do I have to

reflect?

Who could be on my coaching team?

How might I document my experience?

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When we are…

Committed

Able

Unconflicted

…goals support performance

Goal-setting

Photo: John Trainor

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Photo: John Trainor

However…

Goals can diminish motivation &

enjoyment

Learning goals may trump

performance goals

Threatening goals are counter-

productive

Goal-setting

Photo: John Trainor

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Photo: John Trainor

Effective goals…

Generate feedback

Heighten commitment

Don’t obscure the big picture

Goal-setting

Photo: John Trainor

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Consider…What is a current goal of mine?

How could this goal help me get

started?

How might this goal demotivate me?

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Resistance & motivation

Nir Eyal: Desire Engine

BJ Fogg: Behavior Model

Principles of change

Taking action

Photo: Christian Senger

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Healthy prudenceTrusted intuitionSatisfaction with the presentNeed for rest or calmLethargy or inertiaLack of confidence or resilienceExcessive caution or risk-aversion

Healthy ambitionAspirational goalsDrive to overcome obstaclesDetermined “grit”

Unchecked drivesUnchallenged beliefs (I must…)CompulsionsSocial pressure

Useful

Not

Resistance

Motivation

Gas or brakes?

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Nir Eyal: Desire Engine

www.j.mp/nireyal2

Action

Commitment

Variable

Reward

Trigger

ExternalInternal

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BJ Fogg: Behavior Model

Motivati

on

Ability

High

High

Low

Low

Activation Threshold

www.behaviormodel.org

Triggers Work

Triggers Fail

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1. Break down big changes into tiny

steps

2. Celebrate small victories

3. Experiment to test assumptions

4. Build skills through parallel

processes

5. Start small & scale up

Principles of change

Photo: bhav.bhav

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Consider…What forms of motivation am I

feeling?

What forms of resistance?

What do these models suggest for

me?

What triggers might be useful?

What change principles could I apply?

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One form of documentation

Data as a trigger

Don’t Break the Chain

Assessment

Photo: Stephen Heron

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Don’t Break the Chain

Photo: Stephen Heron

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Don’t Break the Chain

Photo: Stephen Heron

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To track or not to track?

Goals & (de)motivation

Assessment

Photo: Stephen Heron

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Self-coaching is the how

Our values & vision are the why

Developed over time

Values & vision

Photo: Muhamed Muha

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Consider…What values are reflected in my goal?

What’s my vision for the future?

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The self-improvement trap

Balance aspiration & acceptance

Self-acceptance

Photo: Gideon Tsang

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Consider…What will I take away from this

session?

What’s the next step I want to take?

When will I do it?

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Thank you!

Photo: Seth Anderson

Read more on self-coaching atwww.edbatista.com/self-coaching.html

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www.edbatista.comPhotos:Slides 1, 4-6 & 31: Lifeguard Chairs by Seth Anderson, www.flickr.com/photos/swanksalot/4215424034/ Slide 3: Compass (Agenda) by Theresa Thompson, www.flickr.com/photos/theresasthompson/7163227255/ Slide 7: Mirror Image (Self-engagement) by lian xiaoxiao, www.flickr.com/photos/lanx/204766223/Slide 8: Traffic Cones (Perspective) by jm3, www.flickr.com/photos/jm3/2644059971/in/photostream/ Slide 11: Golf Swing (Practices) by Rollan Budi, www.flickr.com/photos/rollanb/2972392183/ Slides 13-15: Archer (Goal-setting) by John Trainor, www.flickr.com/photos/trainor/2902023575/ Slide 17: Barber (Taking action) by Christian Senger, www.flickr.com/photos/30928442@N08/7120592995/ Slide 21: Tram Lights (Principles of change) by bhav.bhav, www.flickr.com/photos/bhavbhav/2373855409/ Slides 23 & 26: Chain (Assessment) by Stephen Heron, www.flickr.com/photos/sbh/3940566486/ Slide 27: Photographer (Values & vision) by Muhamed Muha, www.flickr.com/photos/muha/1016691310/ Slide 29: Hug (Self-acceptance) by Gideon Tsang, www.flickr.com/photos/gideon/436065491/