Self-Coaching, Dec 2012
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Self-coaching
Photo: Seth Anderson
Ed BatistaDec. 6, 2012www.edbatista.com/self-coaching.html
Consider…Why am I here today?
What are my goals for this session?
Coaching? Self-coaching?
Self-engagement
Goal-setting
Taking action
Assessment
Values & vision
Self-acceptance
Agenda
Photo: Theresa Thompson
What’s coaching?NOT consulting, advising or mentoring
Client owns the agenda
Client has the answers
Photo: Seth Anderson
99% of coaching = Self-coaching
91% of engagements < 18 months
High demand, limited resources
Self-coaching?
Photo: Seth Anderson
NOT a solitary experience
“Coaching team” is key
Augments other forms of support
Self-coaching?
Photo: Seth Anderson
Perspective on ourselves
Practices that support learning
Self-engagement
Photo: lian xiaoxiao
Work in progress
Open to learning
Carol Dweck: Mindset
Perspective
Photo: jm3
Talent & intelligence are inherent traits
Mistakes are failures or character flaws
Negative emotional response to mistakes
Talent & intelligence can be developed
Mistakes are learning opportunities
Pay close attention to mistakes & learn more
Fixed Growth
Carol Dweck: Mindset
www.j.mp/dweck99
Consider…In what ways do I have a fixed
mindset?
Where could I shift to a growth
mindset?
Reflection
Conversation (“coaching team”)
Documentation (in any form)
Practices
Photo: Rollan Budi
Consider…What opportunities do I have to
reflect?
Who could be on my coaching team?
How might I document my experience?
When we are…
Committed
Able
Unconflicted
…goals support performance
Goal-setting
Photo: John Trainor
Photo: John Trainor
However…
Goals can diminish motivation &
enjoyment
Learning goals may trump
performance goals
Threatening goals are counter-
productive
Goal-setting
Photo: John Trainor
Photo: John Trainor
Effective goals…
Generate feedback
Heighten commitment
Don’t obscure the big picture
Goal-setting
Photo: John Trainor
Consider…What is a current goal of mine?
How could this goal help me get
started?
How might this goal demotivate me?
Resistance & motivation
Nir Eyal: Desire Engine
BJ Fogg: Behavior Model
Principles of change
Taking action
Photo: Christian Senger
Healthy prudenceTrusted intuitionSatisfaction with the presentNeed for rest or calmLethargy or inertiaLack of confidence or resilienceExcessive caution or risk-aversion
Healthy ambitionAspirational goalsDrive to overcome obstaclesDetermined “grit”
Unchecked drivesUnchallenged beliefs (I must…)CompulsionsSocial pressure
Useful
Not
Resistance
Motivation
Gas or brakes?
Nir Eyal: Desire Engine
www.j.mp/nireyal2
Action
Commitment
Variable
Reward
Trigger
ExternalInternal
BJ Fogg: Behavior Model
Motivati
on
Ability
High
High
Low
Low
Activation Threshold
www.behaviormodel.org
Triggers Work
Triggers Fail
1. Break down big changes into tiny
steps
2. Celebrate small victories
3. Experiment to test assumptions
4. Build skills through parallel
processes
5. Start small & scale up
Principles of change
Photo: bhav.bhav
Consider…What forms of motivation am I
feeling?
What forms of resistance?
What do these models suggest for
me?
What triggers might be useful?
What change principles could I apply?
One form of documentation
Data as a trigger
Don’t Break the Chain
Assessment
Photo: Stephen Heron
Don’t Break the Chain
Photo: Stephen Heron
Don’t Break the Chain
Photo: Stephen Heron
To track or not to track?
Goals & (de)motivation
Assessment
Photo: Stephen Heron
Self-coaching is the how
Our values & vision are the why
Developed over time
Values & vision
Photo: Muhamed Muha
Consider…What values are reflected in my goal?
What’s my vision for the future?
The self-improvement trap
Balance aspiration & acceptance
Self-acceptance
Photo: Gideon Tsang
Consider…What will I take away from this
session?
What’s the next step I want to take?
When will I do it?
Thank you!
Photo: Seth Anderson
Read more on self-coaching atwww.edbatista.com/self-coaching.html
www.edbatista.comPhotos:Slides 1, 4-6 & 31: Lifeguard Chairs by Seth Anderson, www.flickr.com/photos/swanksalot/4215424034/ Slide 3: Compass (Agenda) by Theresa Thompson, www.flickr.com/photos/theresasthompson/7163227255/ Slide 7: Mirror Image (Self-engagement) by lian xiaoxiao, www.flickr.com/photos/lanx/204766223/Slide 8: Traffic Cones (Perspective) by jm3, www.flickr.com/photos/jm3/2644059971/in/photostream/ Slide 11: Golf Swing (Practices) by Rollan Budi, www.flickr.com/photos/rollanb/2972392183/ Slides 13-15: Archer (Goal-setting) by John Trainor, www.flickr.com/photos/trainor/2902023575/ Slide 17: Barber (Taking action) by Christian Senger, www.flickr.com/photos/30928442@N08/7120592995/ Slide 21: Tram Lights (Principles of change) by bhav.bhav, www.flickr.com/photos/bhavbhav/2373855409/ Slides 23 & 26: Chain (Assessment) by Stephen Heron, www.flickr.com/photos/sbh/3940566486/ Slide 27: Photographer (Values & vision) by Muhamed Muha, www.flickr.com/photos/muha/1016691310/ Slide 29: Hug (Self-acceptance) by Gideon Tsang, www.flickr.com/photos/gideon/436065491/