Three Keys to Self-Direction and Leadership
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leadership is innate Leaders make themselves by being pulled toward compelling challenges. Anyone who takes responsibility for a situa=on, problem, or opportunity, and mobilizes resources is a leader. (Noel Tichy)
and situa2onal
Think of 2mes when…
1. You felt compelled to step up to a situa=on, problem, or opportunity that required others to join you. And you did. And you grew.
2. You did not feel compelled to step up to a situa=on, problem, or opportunity. So you didn’t. And you cruised.
What was different?
“People need leadership” (so last millenia)
When on purpose and free, people
lead themselves quite well.
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Self-‐Efficacy With high self-‐efficacy, you:
• see challenges as opportuni=es to gain new mastery
• engage more deeply in ac=vi=es
• bounce back more rapidly from set-‐backs
With low self-‐efficacy, you:
• avoid challenges
• emphasize your personal failings
• have liUle confidence in your abili=es
Developing Self-‐E
fficacy
Mastery Experiences
Always be mastering something.
Social Modeling
Engulf yourself with models. Be a model.
Social Persuasion
Encourage. Release discouragement and
invalida=on.
Physiological and Psychological Responses
Maintain physical and
mental fitness.
Will Ella Wheeler Wilcox (1850-‐1919)
You will be what you will to be; Let failure find its false content In that poor word "environment," But spirit scorns it, and is free, It masters =me, it conquers space, It cows that boasdul trickster Chance, And bids the tyrant Circumstance Uncrown and fill a servant's place. The human Will, that force unseen, The offspring of a deathless Soul, Can hew the way to any goal, Though walls of granite intervene. Be not impa=ent in delay, But wait as one who understands; When spirit rises and commands, The gods are ready to obey. The river seeking for the sea Confronts the dam and precipice, Yet knows it cannot fail or miss; You will be what you will to be!
Some ways to master Inten=on
Allow yourself to want Focus on wants, not needs List wants frequently
§ Include Be, Do, Have § I prefer x to y § I believe/value
Let go of shoulds When upset or uncertain, ask “What do I/we want?” Prac=ce segment intending
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Awareness The first key to change #1 approach to leadership development Mindfulness | Being Present AUen=on | Focus | Medita=on Clearing | Releasing | Breath work
Reac2ve Mind
Resourceful Mind
Fear
Inspira=on
Purpose
Seek safety
Poor results
Results that maUer
Mind
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Ways to develop Awareness Prac=ce Responsibility Catch Sooner game Try on points of view Study scarcity & abundance
Stop evalua=ng/judging and start looking Understand your biases Examine your fears
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Inten2on -‐ Awareness -‐ Confront
1. Create 3 columns with a header row
2. In the boUom center column, list all of your commitments
3. Label the columns No | Yes | Hell Yes
4. Empty the middle column
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No
Yes
Hell Yes Nulla quis sem at nibh elementum imperdiet. Duis sagirs ipsum. Praesent mauris. Fusce nec tellus sed augue semper porta. Mauris massa. Ves=bulum lacinia arcu eget nulla.
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Source: Derek Silvers
Characteris2cs of Good Goals CLARIFY INTENTION
The more clear you are about what you want and intend to accomplish, the beUer.
FOCUS ATTENTION
If you want to be sure something will happen you must focus aUen=on on it.
REMOVE OBLIGATION “Goals” become a burden when people believe they have an obliga=on to do them.
GENERATE ENERGY
Good goals lead to excitement, dedica=on and a deep desire to do it.
hUp://co-‐evolu=on.com/goals.php
Becoming more means choosing to re-‐condi2on your mind with
Inten2on, Awareness, and Confront
You already have all of the capabili=es Your condi=oning/programming may not be suppor=ng you. You can refactor that.