Three Essential Ingredients for Growing Your Small Group Ministry

Three Essential Ingredients for Growing Your Small Group

Ministrywith Dr. Randy Wollf

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What Makes Small Group Ministries Grow?There are three key church factors

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An Atmosphere of Prayer

Pastor models a life of prayer

Testimonies of answered prayer are shared

Prayer and fasting emphasized by leadership

Opportunities to pray with others

Messages on prayer

Intercede

Culture of Multiplication

High value of multiplying the number of:

Growing new Christians

New leaders

Emphasis on helping new Christians grow

Clear equipping system

Continual encouragement to recruit more leaders

Equip

Proactive Coaching

Personal meetings between the coach and small group leader

Coach aware of leaders’ needs and praying for them

Group is visited by a coach

Coach

Christian Leadership Pyramid

Skill

TeamJesus’ example

Community...love one another

deeply... (1 Peter 1:22).

CallingFor we are God’s workmanship...

(Ephesians 2:10).

CharacterBe imitators of God, therefore, as dearly

loved children (Ephesians 5:1).A Growing Relationship with God

So, then, just as you received Christ Jesus as Lord, continue to live in him, rooted and built up in him...

(Colossians 2:6-7).

Biblical Truth...on his law, he

meditates day and night.

Psalm 1:2

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2-DAY

Coaching Skills Training

COACHING helps facilitatebreakthrough

in the lives and development of

risk-taking, Kingdom leaders.

www.leaderbreakthru.com

COACHING SKILLSCOACHING PATHWAY

2-Day TRAINING


GOOD COACHINGHelps leaders solve problems

And better cope when there is just too much.

11When things don’t go as planned.

GOOD COACHINGHelps re-evaluate plans and solutions.

When we lose sight of where we are.

GOOD COACHINGHelps you better understand where you are at!

The ART OF DEFLECTION

The PROFESSIONAL HELPER Syndrome

Some First Thoughts...

You do not get to clarity ALONE.• Coaching is about the PERSON. We coach

the person… and work the problem.• Coaching is MINISTRY, not just problem

solving.• Coaching is about ACTION, not just

reflection.• Coaching bridges the gap; between

INSIGHTS and NEW BEHAVIOUR… • Coaching is about DISCOVERY… what a

person discovers they implement. .www.leaderbreakthru.com

CoachingThe purposes of a man’s heart are deep

waters, but a man of understanding draws them out. --Proverbs 20:5 (NIV)

Though good advice lies deep within the heart, a person with understanding will draw it out. --Proverbs 20:5 (NLIV)


REAL-TIME COACHING

• WHO ARE THEY?• WHY DID THEY COME TO THIS SESSION?

(EXPECTATIONS)?• WHAT COACHING HAVE THEY DONE?


TERMNOLOGICAL CONFUSION


Coaching

Coaching stands beside and draws insight out.

Mentoring goes before and places insight

within.

CLARIFYING


ClientAgenda

HelperAgenda

Asking

Telling

Coaching

Mentoring

Discipling

Teaching

Relating the Terms


The C.O.A.C.H. Model™

CONNECTING with the leader.

Determining the session OUTCOMES.

Building AWARENESS of the issues and current reality.

Determining the next steps and COURSE of action.

Reviewing the HIGHLIGHTS and key insights of the session.

Coachingthe Development

of Leaders

CoachingLEADERS


CONNECTING with the leader.

Goal – Build rapport and trust

Example questions:• How have you been?• How are things going? At work? At

home? At the church?• What insights have you had since

we last met?• In what ways have you sensed the

Holy Spirit speaking to you since our last meeting?

• What progress did you make on the action steps you were going to take?


of Leaders

CoachingLEADERS


Determining the session OUTCOMES.

Goal – Find out what the person would like to discuss

Example questions:• What result would you like to take

away from our meeting today?• What would you like to work on?• What would make today’s meeting

successful/helpful for you?


of Leaders

CoachingLEADERS


Building AWARENESS of the issues and current reality

Goal – To discover more about the outcome identified in the previous stage

Example questions:• Talk to me about what you’re

presently thinking• What do you see as some of your

major obstacles?• Let’s look at this from a different

perspective: What else could be happening?


of Leaders

CoachingLEADERS


Determining the next steps and COURSE of action

Goal – To capture insights and put them in actionable steps

Example questions:• What actions would you like to take

moving forward?• What options do you think most

address what you would like to achieve?

• Which of these would you like to do? How? When?

• On a scale of 1-10 (with 10 being high), how confident are you that you can do this plan?


of Leaders

CoachingLEADERS


Reviewing the HIGHLIGHTS and key insights of the session.

Goal – To give the person an opportunity to share lessons and goals

Example questions:• What would you like to remember

from this time?• What parts of the discussion were

particularly helpful?• What awareness do you have now

that you did not have before?• What are your action steps?


of Leaders

CoachingLEADERS


Listening Expanding

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Coaching Skills

FocusingEmpowering

Listening Expanding


Core SkillLISTENING


Three Levels ofListening

–LEVEL 1: YOU… You are listening but the pre-occupation is really you…not them

–(INTERNAL)–LEVEL 2: THEM…You are listening, seeking to hear the

issues behind the issues and understand (FOCUSED)–LEVEL 3: YOU AND THEM …You have entered their

world, and together you both are looking at the world and addressing the issues (GLOBAL)


FIVE Ways to Listen Better(Empathetic Listening)

Listen with your mindListen with your bodyListen with your wordsListen with your intuitionListen with the Holy Spirit


How Do You KnowIf You Have Listened Well?

Leader feels listened to/understoodYou begin to understandTogether you begin to surface the real issue


Listening Expanding

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Coaching Skills

FocusingEmpowering

Listening Expanding


CORE SKILL: Expanding

The Power is in the Questions!

•Change begins the moment you ask a question.•The key to coaching is good QUESTIONS.•Questions can help coaches to both LISTEN and

EXPAND awareness.


Often Good Questions are about Asking the Obvious



•Questions that OPEN-Up•You Say the question as an OPEN question, they initial

PracticingQuestions

The Power is inthe Questions.

Seven Types of

Questions


Open EmotiveStatementsWho, What, When WhereDevelopmentWhyPermission


•Questions that OPEN-Up•You Say the question as an OPEN question, they initial

PracticingQuestions


1. Open – What makes you think…?2. Emotive – How do you feel…?3. Testing Assumptions – I am hearing…

what have you decided? 4. Who, What, When Where5. Development – What does this say

about how God is shaping you?6. Why – What could you have done?7. Permission – Can I…?

The SWITCHFROM: God what do you want ME to say…

TO: God what are YOU at work doing?How are you at work Lord? How can I serve your agenda?

How can we, together, join you in that work?

Alignment


Listening Expanding

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Coaching Skills

FocusingEmpowering

Listening Expanding

www.leaderbreakthru.com p.6

38When the obvious is no longer obvious!

GOOD COACHINGHelps pinpoint the problems

GOOD COACHINGHelps to reveal the issues surrounding the issue.

WHAT’S THE ISSUE?> Pinpointing the CORE issue> Issue behind the issue.> What’s holding them back?> What could be driving them, or controlling them?QUESTIONS + POSSIBLE FEEDBACK

AWARENESS IDENTIFYING the JUGULAR


of Leaders


S.M.A.R.T Action STEPS

1. Specific 2. Measurable 3. Attainable 4. Relevant

5. Time-Framed


CORE SKILL: FOCUSING

“A goal properly set is halfway reached.”

-- Abraham Lincoln

www.leaderbreakthru.com p. 46

S.M.A.R.T. Action Steps

PATTERN:(WHO) will do (WHAT), (HOW MUCH) by (WHEN).

I will contact Bill, about the funding

request, and will see if he will commit to

the $500 gift, by Dec. 1st.

www.leaderbreakthru.com p. 47

Listening Expanding

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Coaching Skills

FocusingEmpowering

Listening Expanding


The Power of The ASSISTNational Anthem

EMPOWERMENT


Clip - Power ofEncouragement

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZXnT84Eu-oA

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZXnT84Eu-oA

THREE WAYS toENCOURAGE/EMPOWER:

• Affirm Effort• Acknowledge Progress• Celebrate Success

EMPOWERMENT


Listening Expanding

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Coaching Skills

FocusingEmpowering

Listening Expanding


Three Essential Ingredients for Growing Your Small Group Ministry

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