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Emotional Intelligence

At Work

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Overview I. Why is EI important? II. What is EI? III. What is the link between Emotions, Thoughts and Behaviors?

IV. How can I use EI to enhance my Work Relationships?

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Emotional Intelligence:

Why is EI important?

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Why is EI Important?

A. Think of someone who you consider an exceptional leader

B. On separate post-its, jot down the qualities of this leader

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EQ-i 2.0 Model

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Emotional Intelligence:

What is it?

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Emotional Intelligence

Travis Bradberry, Emotional Intelligence 2.0

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Emotional Intelligence

Inner Focus Outer Focus Awareness Self-

Awareness Social

Awareness

Management Self-

Management Relationship Management

Travis Bradberry, Emotional Intelligence 2.0

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Emotional Intelligence Components

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Self-Perception- Understanding who I am

Self-Regard To accurately perceive, understand and accept one self.

Self-Actualization To strive to achieve personal goals and actualize one’s potential.

Emotional Self-Awareness To be aware of and understand one’s emotions.

Self-Expression – Expressing my emotions

Emotional Expression To show and communicate your feelings

Assertiveness To effectively and constructively express one’s emotional needs.

Independence To be self-reliant and free of emotional dependency on others.

Interpersonal—Developing and maintaining relationships

Interpersonal relationships To establish mutually satisfying relationships and relate well with others.

Empathy To be aware of and understand how others feel.

Social Responsibility To identify with one’s social group and cooperate with others.

Decision Making—Using emotions to make better decisions

Problem-Solving To effectively solve problems of a personal and interpersonal nature.

Reality-Testing To objectively assess the “here and now” reality of any given moment/situation.

Impulse Control To effectively and constructively control emotions.

Stress Management – Coping with challenges

Flexibility To adapt and adjust one’s feelings and thinking to new situations.

Stress Tolerance To effectively and constructively manage emotions.

Optimism To be positive and look at the brighter side of life.

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Exercise: Goldilocks Too Much--Too Little--Just Right

• Work with a partner

• Identify a TV or Movie character depicting each component

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Emotional Intelligence:

What is the link between Emotions, Thoughts and Behaviors?

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SELF

Inner Focus Outer Focus

Awareness

Self-Awareness Social Awareness

Management Self-

Management Relationship Management

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Self-Awareness

Capability to:

Recognize your emotions in the moment

Understand implications of your emotions

Tolerate discomfort as you feel emotions

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Self-Management

Capability to:

Make constructive choices, especially when triggered

Recognize different situations call for different responses

Make your emotions work for you, not against you

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What’s your trigger?

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The Amygdala Hijack An immediate,

overwhelming emotional reaction to a trigger

Intense response that bypasses rational thinking

Aka: “What was I thinking?”

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Amygdala Hijack

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Amygdala Hijacks Differ

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Manage the Amygdala Hijack

Label your feelings

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Manage your Emotions: P.O.D.

Pause and acknowledge the activating event

Observe what you are thinking, feeling and the potential consequence of your actions

Do Something Different by challenging yourself to have a new action and outcome

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SOCIAL

Inner Focus Outer Focus

Awareness

Self-Awareness Social Awareness

Management Self-

Management Relationship Management

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Social Awareness

Capability to: • pick up • interpret emotional cues of others

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Relationship Management

Capability to use emotional cues to inform behavior:

Yours

Others

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Help OTHERS manage THEIR Amygdala Hijacks

Help them Label THEIR

feelings

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Help OTHERs Manage Their Emotions: P.O.D.

Pause and acknowledge the activating event

Observe what THEY are thinking and feeling

Do Something Different by challenging them to have a new action and outcome

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Emotional Intelligence:

How can I use EI to enhance my work relationships?

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• Emails

• Meetings

• Tense situations

• Complex problems

• Tough decisions

• Unfamiliar surroundings .

EI Appears Everywhere

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Viewpoints of EQ at Work

Staff Marginalize Emotions

Staff Accept and Value Emotions

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Emotional Intelligence

Inner Focus Outer Focus Awareness Self-

Awareness Social

Awareness

Management Self-

Management Relationship Management

Travis Bradberry, Emotional Intelligence 2.0

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Practice Empathy Pay close attention to really understand

what others feel -- even if you don’t share those feelings

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How Empathy Shows up • E – EYE CONTACT • M – MUSCLE EXPRESSION • P – POSTURE • A – AFFECT (EXPRESSION) • T – TONE OF VOICE • H – HEAR WHAT PERSON IS SAYING WITH NO JUDGMENT • Y – YOUR RESPONSE—OFFER SUPPORT

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Empathetic Statements and Excavating Questions

• You must be feeling… • You must be thinking… • You look frustrated… • You sound upset… • What did you think… • What did you wish might happen… • How did you feel…

Source: The EQ Edge Emotional Intelligence and Your Success

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FEEDBACK

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Feedback

1. Convey Positive Intent 2. Portray Situation 3. Describe Behavior 4. Identify Impact 5. Ask Staff to Respond 6. Determine Solutions

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Factors for Success

Motivation: What’s working for me? What’s NOT working for me?

Practice:

What should I focus on? What is my plan?

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Key Takeaways Tame the tiger: be mindful of

your feelings and the feelings of others

Seek to understand: use empathy for better relationships at work—understand without necessarily agreeing