Accelerate Your Career with Emotional Intelligence · University Instructor ... Emotional...
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Accelerate Your Career with Emotional Intelligence
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Accelerate Your Career with Emotional Intelligence
Facilitator
Darrell Lim
Executive Coach, Consultant & University Instructor
Oak Management Consulting
@darrelljlim
Emotional Intelligence
“The ability to perceive and express emotion, assimilate emotion in thought, understand and reason with emotion, and regulate emotion in the self and others”
– Mayer, Salovey & Caruso
Activity 1
• Word Association Exercise..
”TRUST”
Emotional Intelligence
• Why it is SO important…
The essence of effective
leadership. The necessary glue to
link technical skills and IQ
together.
EQ is an essential ingredient to top performance.
RELATING to others is a key competency in leaders
EQ distinguishes great
leaders from merely
good ones
EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE
What is Emotional Intelligence? Self Awareness: Knowing one’s internal states, preferences,
resources and intuitions
Self Regulation: Managing one’s internal states, impulses and resources.
Motivation: Emotional tendencies that guide or facilitate reaching goals.
Empathy: Sensing what people feel, being able to take on their perspective and cultivate rapport with a broad diversity of people
Social Skills: Adeptness at inducing desirable responses in others.
Self AwarenessINTRAPERSONAL(self focused)
INTERPERSONAL(other focused)
Awareness: The degree to which people seem in touch with their emotions
EmotionalPERCEPTION
Detection: The degree to which people seem aware of others’ emotions
Regulation: The degree to which people seem to maintain positive emotional states
EmotionalCONTROL
Influence: The degree to which people seem intentionally to affect others’ moods, thoughts, and behaviors
Expression: The degree to which people seem to communicate desired emotional states to others
EmotionalSHARING
Empathy: The degree to which people seem to feel what others are feeling
Self Awareness
• Emotional awareness• Accurate self assessment• Self-confidence
Which ones are you currently excelling at? And which ones do you need to work on?
Activity #2
• Get into pairs …
• Round 1: Tell your partner all of your “have to’s” and “must do’s” coming up in the next week. You’ll have 30 seconds, and then switch up
• Round 2: Convert the “have to’s” and “must do’s” into “I choose to” or “I’m going to.
Self Regulation
Self Regulation
Self Regulation
• I can’t do anything let’s think about some possibilities.
• That’s just who I am I can change the way I am.
• He drives me up the wall I can choose how I’ll let him affect me.
• I can’t or I have to I will decide and I will choose.
Self Regulation
• Self-control• Trustworthiness• Conscientiousness• Adaptability• Innovation
Which ones are you currently excelling at? And which ones do you need to work on?
Motivation
• Achievement Drive• Commitment• Initiative• Optimism
Which ones are you currently excelling at? And which ones do you need to work on?
Activity #3
• Find one partner to do this with
• Tic – Tac – Toe !
• Win as many times as you can within 60 seconds
Empathy
• Understanding Others• Service Orientation• Leveraging Diversity• Political Awareness
Which ones are you currently excelling at? And which ones do you need to work on?
Social Skills
• Influence• Communication• Conflict Management• Leadership• Change Catalyst
Which ones are you currently excelling at? And which ones do you need to work on?
Discussion
What are you going to do about the top 3 items that you know is holding you back from moving onto the next
stage of your career?
Follow Up …
• Suggestions On How To Incorporate More Emotional Intelligence Into Your Context.
• Interested in a FREE Emotional Intelligence Assessment? Email [email protected]
Learn More• Emotional Intelligence
Daniel Goleman (1995)
• Working with Emotional Intelligence
Daniel Goleman (2000)
• Primal Leadership: Learning to Lead with Emotional Intelligence
Daniel Goleman (2013)
• Understanding and Developing Emotional IntelligenceOliver Serrat at Cornell University, School of Industrial and Labour Relations (2009)
• The 7 Habits of Highly Effective PeopleStephen Covey (1989)
