Boys Are from Mars, Girls Are From VenusSue BohlinProbe Ministriessue@probe.orgSuebohlin.com

Not All Kids Are the Same

Active,athletic

Sensitive, creative

Girly-girl

Tomboy, jockette

Boys Girls• Sense of self:

achievement• Have to have

something to do

• Self-reliant• Ask for help =

weakness

• Sense of self: relationships

• Relationally-oriented

• Connected to others

• Ask for help = compliment

Boys Girls

Competitive

Cooperative

Boys Girls

Linear: focus on one thing at a time

Compartmentalized (like a chest of drawers)

Multi-taskers: juggle many little things at once

Connected (like a ball of yarn)

Boys Girls• Action-

oriented

• Hostility: physical

• Verbal

• Hostility: verbal

Boys Girls

Need a goal Enjoy the process

Boys Girls

Bond shoulder to shoulder

Bond face to face

GirlsEmpathy

nurturers:• Relating to and

understanding others’ feelings

• Compassion• Softness• Tenderness• Comfort

Boys Aggression

nurturers:• Physically

aggressive touch and words

• Challenging• Competition• “You’re OK,

get up”

Boys Girls• Primarily needs

respect Trust,

acceptance, appreciation, admiration, approval, encouragement

• Needs to be needed.

• Primarily needs cherishing Tender care,

understanding, respect, devotion, validation, reassurance

• Needs to be protected.