Boys Are from Mars, Girls Are From Venus
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Boys Are from Mars, Girls Are From VenusSue BohlinProbe [email protected]
Not All Kids Are the Same
Active,athletic
Sensitive, creative
Girly-girl
Tomboy, jockette
Boys Girls• Sense of self:
achievement• Have to have
something to do
• Self-reliant• Ask for help =
weakness
• Sense of self: relationships
• Relationally-oriented
• Connected to others
• Ask for help = compliment
Boys Girls
Competitive
Cooperative
Boys Girls
Linear: focus on one thing at a time
Compartmentalized (like a chest of drawers)
Multi-taskers: juggle many little things at once
Connected (like a ball of yarn)
Boys Girls• Action-
oriented
• Hostility: physical
• Verbal
• Hostility: verbal
Boys Girls
Need a goal Enjoy the process
Boys Girls
Bond shoulder to shoulder
Bond face to face
GirlsEmpathy
nurturers:• Relating to and
understanding others’ feelings
• Compassion• Softness• Tenderness• Comfort
Boys Aggression
nurturers:• Physically
aggressive touch and words
• Challenging• Competition• “You’re OK,
get up”
Boys Girls• Primarily needs
respect Trust,
acceptance, appreciation, admiration, approval, encouragement
• Needs to be needed.
• Primarily needs cherishing Tender care,
understanding, respect, devotion, validation, reassurance
• Needs to be protected.