V RANGANATHANcorporate trainernlp master practitioner

The story of store managerThe doctor & patientSchool teacher & studentBus embarrassing moment

PARADIGMSParadigms are frames of reference we see the world not as it is but as we are,- or sometimes as we are conditioned to see.Our paradigms, correct or incorrect, are the sources of our attitudes behaviors & ultimately our relationship with others-STEPHEN R COVEY

Exercise 1Have you ever had such experience where your assumption went wrong?What was the assumption you made?Think about some other assumptions you may have made. what will you do this week to work on one of them ?

EFFECTIVE HABITSKnowledge(what to, why to)Skills(how to)Desire(Want to)We are always conditionedby the gripping power of habits

Exercise 2Think of two habits you have, one good & one badWrite down the knowledge, skill, desire connected with those habits;Are you willing to break away from bad habits? If so write down three things you will do immediately to break away from it.

MATURITY CONTINUUMINTERDEPENDENTINDEPENDENTDEPENDENT

PRIVATE VICTORY habit 1Be PROACTIVE

STIMULUSRESPONSEFREEDOM TO CHOOSESelf awarenessimaginationconscienceIndependent willPROACTIVE MODEL

Proactive people recognize they are responsibleRESPONSE-ABLE

Responsibility is RESPONSE ABILITY

CIRCLEOFINFLUENCE

CIRCLE OF CONCERN

PRIVATE VICTORY- HABIT 2BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND

IMAGINING WHAT YOU WANTAS IFIT ALREADY EXISTSOPENS THE DOORTO LETTING IT HAPPEN --Shakthi Gawain

1.If you are given all the power under the sun What would you be doing?

2.What will be your mission in life?

3.What will be your purpose for living?DEVELOP A PERSONAL MISSION STATEMENT

PRIVATE VICTORY habit 3Put first things first

TIME MANAGEMENT MATRIXurgentNot urgentiMPORTANTNOT

IMPORTANT1ACTIVITIES

CRISIS,PRESSING PROBLEMS,DEADLINE DRIVEN PROJECTS3ACTIVITIES

INTERRUPTIONS,CALLS,MEETINGS,PRESSING MATTERS2ACTIVITIES

PLANNING,RECREATION,RELATIONSHIP BUILDING,RECOGNISING NEW OPPERTUNITIES4ACTIVITIES

TRIVIA,PLEASANT ACTIVITIES, CHATTING,TIME WASTERS

The key to successDont simply prioritize your work; you need to necessarily work on your priorities

The key is not to prioritize what is on your schedule, but to schedule your priorities

PRIVATE VICTORYBE PROACTIVEBEGIN WITH THE END IN MINDPUT FIRST THING FIRST

PUBLIC VICTORY EMOTIONAL BANK ACCOUNTDEPOSITSWITHDRAWALSDISPLAYING KINDNESS & COURTESY

KEEPING PROMISES

CLEAR EXPECTATIONS

LOYALTY TO THE ABSENT

APOLOGISINGDISPLAYING UNKINDNESS

BREAKING PROMISES

SHOWING DISLOYALTY

HAVING CONCEIT, ARROGANCE EMOTIONAL BANK ACCOUNT IS A METAPHOR FOR TRUST IN RELATIONSHIP

PUBLIC VICTORY HABIT 4THINK WIN WIN

WIN WIN INTEGRITYMATURITYABUNDANCE MENTALITY

PUBLIC VICTORY HABIT 5

SEEK FIRST TO UNDERSTAND, THEN BE UNDERSTOOD

GENUINE LISTENING MEANS SUSPENDING MEMORY,DESIRE JUDGEMENT-AND FOR A FEW MOMENTS ATLEAST EXISTING FOR THE OTHER PERSON - M.P NICHOLS

EMPATHETIC LISTENINGWITHIN THE OTHERS FRAME OF REFERENCE ATTENTIVE LISTENINGSELECTIVE LISTENINGPRETEND LISTENINGIGNORINGWITHIN ONES OWN FRAME OF REFERENCE

PUBLIC VICTORY HABIT 6SYNERGISE- is the habit of creative cooperationSYNERGY is respecting differences & finding new ways of working together

SYNERGY means 1+1= 11 & not 2

PUBLIC VICTORYTHINK WIN WIN

SEEK FIRST TO UNDERSTAND, THEN BE UNDERSTOOD

SYNERGISE

HABIT 7SHARPENING THE SAW

The world for thosewho

for something -- V RanganathanFALLSSTAN D