SELF-AWARENESS AND SELF-LOVERachel Navaro and Julia MulliganTAMS

Self-Awareness

Is: The ability to be consciously in touch with

what is going on inside of your body on a physical/emotional level

Sometimes referred to as body awareness, inner guidance or intuition

A benefit of having boundaries and being grounded

Is not: Your likes, dislikes or personality

Self-Love

Is: The ability to love oneself without judgement Humble Unconditional Always uplifting A verbIs not: Arrogance or conceit Masturbation Punishment Something you have to earn A noun

What’s so important about self-love? It feels good – to you and others It effects your life on all levels It is essential for loving others in a

healthy, unconditional manner It increases confidence and awareness of

personal skills and abilities It helps you make good decisions

How can we begin to love ourselves?

1. Through increasing self-awareness:1. Boundaries (physical)2. Grounding

2. Through increasing thought-awareness3. By choosing to think positive, affirming

thoughts4. Through the creation of new core

beliefs

Self-Awareness: Boundaries

Boundaries and grounding are essential for a healthy relationship with oneself and others

Your boundaries define physical limits. They make clear the separation between oneself and others

Boundaries are intelligent, like a cell wall (structural support, protection, and filter) they “let in” what is good for you and “keep out” what is not

*Do activity

Personal Space Invaders

Self-Awareness: Grounding

Boundaries and grounding are essential for a healthy relationship with oneself and others

Your grounding cord connects you to the earth

Grounding keeps you balanced between the energies of inspiration and imagination and the stable earth energies of intuition and instinct

Boundaries and Grounding

BoundaryInspiration

Intuition

Instinct

Grounding Cord

Thoughts have power

There is no such thing as a useless thought. Each thought you have has power

We have between 50,000 and 75,000 thoughts each day

90-95% of our thoughts are repeated each day We are largely unaware of our thoughts Most repetitive thoughts are negative (fear,

judgement, depressing, rejection, scarcity and resentful)

Thoughts do not just stay in your head, they extend out of you and effect others (saliva experiment)

Thought Awareness

Start paying attention to the thoughts in your mind. This makes the unconscious stream of negative thoughts conscious, and also allows you to more easily choose positive thoughts

Tool: Place a check on a notecard every time you notice a negative thought. Do not judge the thought for yourself, just notice it.

Tool: Notice when your inner peace has been disturbed. Any disturbance can usually be traced back to a negative thought. Once you identify it, you can chose a different thought.

Making affirmations work

Remember that you are creating something new and fresh, not trying to redo or change what already exists. Every moment is an opportunity to create what you desire.

Try to believe that your affirmation can be true. Temporarily suspend your doubts and judgements

Phrase them in the present tense, as if you already have it

Phrase them in the most positive way you can. State what you want rather than what you don’t want.

*M & M activity

Common core beliefs that can be a problem: (check any that you believe) I’m not OK, There’s something wrong with me, I’m

unworthy/undeserving I’ve made mistakes in my life and deserve to suffer for them It’s bad to think highly of yourself. You’ll become obnoxious and

brag about yourself Love comes from others, not self I will be happy and love myself when, I get all A’s, I have the right

partner, get the right job, etc. People, including me, are basically bad, selfish, cruel, stupid,

untrustworthy, sinful or foolish The world is an unsafe place There’s not enough ________ (love, money, happiness, food, etc.)to

go around Life is pain, suffering, and hard work, it’s not meant to be fun I don’t have control over what happens to me, I’m powerless to do

anything about my life or the state of the world Love is dangerous, I might get hurt

“The most powerful thing you can do (and it is very powerful) to change the world is to change your own beliefs about the nature of life, people

(especially yourself) and reality, and begin to act

accordingly.”Shakti Gawain

Thoughts to remember

If you don’t want to do it, become it, be it then don’t talk about it

Know your power, believe in yourself, and keep your core strong and safe