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HPC 3O Parenting
Deciding to Parent
Source: Cunningham, Mary K., Eva Meriorg, Laura Tryssenaar. 2003. Parenting in Canada. Toronto: Thomson Nelson.
Why Decide to Parent?
• To nurture a new generation
Parental Leave• In 2001 federal government changed policy
• Parental leave available for one full year
• Can be divided between parents or taken by one parent
Commitment• Continues after child grows up
• Financial support: schooling, business and household start-up, debt repayment
• Emotional support: encouragement, advice, listening
• Adult children sometimes return home: unemployment, divorce, illness, drug rehabilitation
Making the Decision to Parent• Even if a child is unplanned, the arrival is
a result of CHOICES
• To have sexual relations – the only method of birth control that is 100% effective is abstinence
• Abortion
• Adoption
Informed Decision Making• Weigh the advantages, disadvantages, and consequences of
becoming a parent
• Remember every situation is different
• Making an informed decision, is usually a good decision
Informed Decision Making• Consider what you
want to do in your life prior to children
• Travel
• Education
• Expensive hobbies
• Save money
A Decision Web
Am I ready to be a parent
now?
Do we have the right skills and
attitudes?
Do we have the time and energy?
How do our families and friends feel about
children?
Do we enjoy being with children?
Are we physically and
emotionally ready?
Can we afford a child?
Will my partner share the
responsibility?
Factors Influencing the Decision to Parent
Social and Cultural Influences• Before becoming a parenting Canada, youth is
pressured to • stay in school
• get a reliable income
• establish a strong relationship before becoming a parent
Factors Influencing the Decision to Parent
Education• Learning opportunities in
many areas – including parenting
• Higher education opens doors to more interesting and higher paying jobs
• Longer a person stays in school the less likely they are to experience unemployment
Factors Influencing the Decision to Parent
Finances• Financial problems can strain single parents and couples
• Can effect parent-child relationship
• Being a parent means more time away from paid work and more expenses
Factors Influencing the Decision to Parent
Parenting Partnership• Advantages:
– If one parent is tired or ill, the other can take over
– Children can see more than one perspective
– Children learn communication skills by watching their parents
Factors Influencing the Decision to Parent
Personal Maturity• Emotionally and intellectually mature people tend
to be considerate, respectful, and responsible
• Able to establish healthy family atmosphere
Factors Influencing the Decision to Parent
Age• Women are most fertile between
mid-twenties and mid-thirties
• Before 19, the body is still growing, so women compete with growing fetus for nutrients
• Complications and birth defects higher for women older than mid-thirties or in teen years
• For men, the production and quality of sperm deteriorates with age
Factors Influencing the Decision to Parent
Health• Physical and mental health
important because pregnancy and child rearing are stressful
• Substance use and abuse can effect child’s growth – even before conception
• Consider inherited diseases and birth defects that may be passed onto children
Factors Influencing the Decision to Parent
Life Experience• Difficult experiences in
life – such as abuse, incest, or buried anger – need to be addressed before having children
• People tend to imitate their parent’s parenting styles
How will life change if I become a parent?
Lifestyle Changes
• Babies determine how life is lived:– Eat when hungry– Awaken to be fed or
changed throughout night– Teething– Bed-wetting– Colds, fevers– Nightmares– Equipment spilling into
every room – toys, diapers, bedding, clothing…
Lifestyle Changes
• How will life change?
– Serious upheaval for couples
– Time to be alone
– Personal interests
– Intimacy
– Privacy
Couples who have thought about and planned forparenting are often able to face this stressful time moresuccessfully than those who have not.
Pleasures of Parenthood
Pleasures of Parenthood
Advantages of Delaying Parenthood
• Complete education• Begin careers• Get relationships off to a good start
Disadvantages of Delaying Parenting
• Your biological clock is ticking!
• Optimal childbearing years do not last forever
• In late 40s men’s production of sperm is reduced
• Younger parents are more energetic
• Infertility may be the result of delaying parenting for too long
• Medical intervention is stressful, expensive, and has a high failure rate
Remaining Childless
• Focus on other aspects of life
• Take pleasure in caring for other people
Adoption• Not as many children available for adoption
because many young mothers keep their children or terminate their pregnancy
• Many families look to overseas adoption – which can be expensive
Questions• Community Circle:
Share with the class three goals or dreams that you want to accomplish before having a child (or another child). Describe two life goals you want to share with children.
• What are the advantages and disadvantages of delaying parenthood?
Responsibilities of Parenthood• Parents are responsible
for how their children act in public
• Ensure they get along with and respect others
• Learn right and wrong• Parents are continually
modeling behaviour to their children
Challenges For Working Parents
Meal Planning• Takes time to shop and
prepare healthy meals
• Processed and packaged foods are easier to prepare, but poor in nutrients and high in calories and fat
• Get children involved in food preparation
Challenges For Working ParentsTime Management• Establish routines:
– Morning activities: brushing teeth, breakfast, getting dressed, etc.
– Schedule parent-child time after school on a regular basis– Plan for family time each weekend
Challenges For Working Parents
Caring for a Sick Child• Most child-care places
refuse to take sick children
• May need to take time off work when children are ill – or arrange for alternate childcare, i.e.: neighbours, or family members
Challenges For Working Parents
• Before and After School Child Care• Working parents will need to arrange care for their children until they
are either 10 or 12 years old• Options:
– Community Programs• Local schools, churches, or community centers may offer child-care that
costs less than full time child-care
– School-Age Child-Care Programs• Child-care centers may offer after-school programs if children can get there
safely• May be offered at school
– Family Home Child Care• Often offered by a stay-at-home-parent with child of a similar age• Not usually provincially approved
Review
• Community Circle: Describe three to five life experiences that you have had that will affect how you will parent in the future.
Video
• Teen Epidemic Part 1
• Teen Epidemic Part 2
• Teen Epidemic Part 3
• Teen Epidemic Part 4
• Teen Epidemic Part 5
• Teen Epidemic Part 6
• Teen Epidemic Part 7