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Happiness Revisited

A worship service by Mike Mallory

Presented at the Evergreen Unitarian Universalist Fellowship

On 5/1/11

http://www.mikemallory.com/inside.htm

http://www.mikemallory.com/inside.htm



Cast (in order of appearance)

Reader 1

Reader 2

Mike

Persephone

Apollo

Athena

Hades

Demeter

Reporter

Musician

Zeus

Reader 3

Reader 4

Reader 5

Reader 6

Paul Churchland

Patricia Churchland

Washerwoman I

Washerwoman 2

Johnny

Reader 7

Reader 8



Individual Candle Lighting ♥ Prelude -

Prologue

Reader 1

The prologue is from “The Golden Bough” by Sir James George Frazer.

Reader 2

We seem to move on a thin crust, which may at any moment be rent by the

subterranean forces slumbering below. From time to time a hollow murmur

underground or a sudden spurt of flame into the air tells of what is going on beneath our

feet.

Mike

Welcome to the Evergreen Unitarian Universalist Fellowship this is the first day of May,2011. This day has a lot of pulpit possibilities: It is May Day, and associated with theInternational Workers of the World. May Day is also related to the Celtic festival of

Beltane and the Germanic festival of Walpurgis Night. Despite these obvious subjects,this morning will be devoted to the subject of Happiness. According to the statisticianNic Marks the most desired condition in the world is the state of Happiness, which

justifies the subject of the worship service this morning. But, Pagans do not despair Persephone is with us and Demeter will make an appearance shortly. (Persephone, Apollo and Athena are picking flowers from a bouquet. Enter Hades

who surreptitiously observes the three flower gatherers.)

Hades

(Approaching) Why, hello. It’s Persephone isn’t it?

Persephone

Uh, yes. It is nice to see you Hades.

http://www.evergreenuu.org/


http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/International_Workers'_Day


http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Celt

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Beltane

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Germanic_peoples

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Walpurgis_Night

http://www.ted.com/talks/nic_marks_the_happy_planet_index.html


http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Persephone



http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Celt

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Beltane

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Germanic_peoples

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Walpurgis_Night


http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Persephone



Hades

Persephone, this may seem a little sudden to you, (taking Persephone by the arm) but

I’ve been looking for a Queen to share my rule of the Underworld and I think you will do

just fine. (Starts to drag Persephone off to the Underworld)

Persephone

(Resisting) Oh, I don’t think this is a good idea. Not at all! (Persephone is abducted)

Athena

(Artemis and Athena stare after Persephone) Run and tell Demeter. (Artimis runs

offstage)

Demeter

(Artimis Enters with Demeter, looks at Athena and then after Persephone)Persephone!!!! (Exit Demeter, Artemis and Athena during song)

Introit – If you’re happy and you know it (Cast)

If you're happy and you know it clap your hands.(clap clap)If you're happy and you know it clap your hands.(clap clap)

If you're happy and you know it then your face will surely show it.If you're happy and you know it clap your hands.(clap clap)

If you're happy and you know it join in singing.(beckon to congregation)If you're happy and you know join in singing.(Beckon to congregation)If you're happy and you know it then your face will surely show it.

If you're happy and you know it join in singing.(beckon to congregation)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FrsM9WggCdo

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FrsM9WggCdo



If you're happy and you know it shout "Hooray!"(Hoo-Ray!)If you're happy and you know it shout "Hooray!"(Hoo-Ray!)If you're happy and you know it then your face will surely show it.

If you're happy and you know it shout "Hooray!"(Hoo-Ray!)

READER 1

If you want to be happy, you’re in the wrong country. The Country with the happiest

people is not the United States, but Denmark.

READER 2

(shocked) Where the tax rate is close to 50%?

READER 1

The US ranks number fourteen behind Costa Rica, Canada, Panama and Brazil.

READER 2

Let us come together this morning in the spirit of reflection as we look at the way

Happiness influences our lives. Please join me in reading our Declaration printed in

your order of service.

Declaration

Love is the spirit of this fellowship

And service is its law.

This is our great covenant:

To dwell together in peace,

To seek truth in love,And to help one another.

http://www.forbes.com/2010/07/14/world-happiest-countries-lifestyle-realestate-gallup-table.html

http://www.forbes.com/2010/07/14/world-happiest-countries-lifestyle-realestate-gallup-table.html



READER 2

At the end of each service we sing of carrying the flame until we meet again. (to

congregation) Is there anybody out there who has carried the flame of peace and loveall week long?

READER 1

(Hopefully at least one hand will go up. If not a shill will wait for 5 seconds and put their

hand up. Pick someone from the congregation, to her or him -) Would you please help

us light the chalice. (usher the volunteer to the chalice)

Call to Worship and Chalice Lighting

READER 2

The chalice has many meanings, but it is certainly a symbol of our collective spirit, as

we join together each week in renewal. For some of us our individual flame may have

been extinguished by the gusts that buffet us in our work, or other struggles. But, when

I look around on a Sunday morning I see that there are always many brightly burning

flames reflected in the eyes and the smiles of fellow members. Please join me in the

unison response printed in the order of service.

Chalice Response (enter REPORTER and MUSICIAN)

Rise up, O flame, by thy light glowing,show to us beauty, vision and joy.

MIKE

My relationship with life came to a metaphorical fork in the road about thirty years agodriving up I-5 one afternoon. NPR was running a story about an American who had

studied multiple-note or throat singing for several years in Tibet. The reporter started

her interview.



REPORTERDid you have a good time in Tibet?

MUSICIANIt’s not about having a good time; it’s about knowing what kind of time you are having.

MIKE

I began to consider that the search for contentment was better directed at self-awareness than trying to accumulate happiness.

READER 2

What do you mean by happiness?

MIKE

As the title of this worship service suggests, I do want to muddle around in the

traditional ways of looking at and attaining happiness and then explore an alternate

approach.

READER 2

Will we be happy at the end?

MIKE

I hope this service is enjoyable, interesting and moderately challenging, but I’m notexpecting to generate any lasting happiness. In fact I will argue that the idea of happiness, at least as presented by culture, is flawed and doomed to be frustrating.

READER 2

Surely there is happiness in the world.

MIKE



The ancient Greeks thought so and listed love, sex, good food, alcohol, money andcelebrations as ways of achieving happiness.

READER 2

Do you know Marijo? I think that applies to some modern Greeks as well.

READER 1

Based on an historical perspective the condition of our bodies and drugs can be added

to that list.

READER 2

There are so many different ways to be happy.

READER 1

What counts as happiness changes over time. Young adults think of activities full of

excitement, while older adults imagine peace and quiet.

MIKE

The list goes on and on. Think of all the words that could satisfy the statement, "I am

happy when (blank).

READER 1

I have a glass of wine.

READER 2

My daughter gets a good grade.

READER 1



My retirement account goes up instead of down.

READER 2

Diseases in third world countries are reduced or eradicated.

MIKE

The term "Happiness" is generally thought to refer to some mental or emotional interior

state that is pleasurable. But there is a critical problem with this way of thinking.

READER 1

If I say that a bouillabaisse with a rich and fragrant broth has made me happy I must be

referring to a specific complex sensory experience.

READER 2

If I say I am happy because the Unitarian Universalist Service Committee has provided

a sanitary fresh water system in Ethiopia, I have no sensory experience of the event

and any pleasure will derive from a harmony of my ideals and the facts of the world.

MIKE

There is no significant overlap in the way a good bouillabaisse and a new water system

make a person happy. It is hard to conceive of a family resemblance between these two

disparate interior states. I believe that finding a definition of happiness based upon

either the similarities of conditions, which make a person happy, or the similarities of

subjective states is doomed.

READER 1

Are we left without happiness?



(ENTER DEMETER)

ZEUS

(ENTER ZEUS. He approaches DEMETER who is sitting by some dried flowers.)

Demeter, this can’t go on. Nothing is growing. There is no food. Persephone is goneto the Underworld, we have lost a daughter, but we need to move on.

DEMETER

I am so worried about Persephone, stuck in the underworld. I am empty without her. I

feel lifeless. There is nothing inside of me to bring to the world.

ZEUS

(Considers. Takes Demeter by the arm and leads her offstage) Come inside, I will talk

with Hades and see what I can do. (Zeus and Demeter exit)

MIKE

I offer an alternative way of viewing happiness which does not rely upon the identity of

interior states or conditions. I view "happiness" as inherently evaluative. Under my

approach I imagine a continuum with agony at one end and ecstasy at the other end.Between agony and the midpoint lies suffering. Between ecstasy and the midpoint lies

happiness.

READER 3

So, the statement "I am happy” is then a claim that I have evaluated my interior state

and judge it to be within the range of states between neutrality and ecstasy.

READER 4

Sounds complicated

MIKE



Worse, I think it is impossible, but we will get to that later.

READER 3

Wisdom has it that meaningful connections with others lead to happiness. In thiscommunity, one of the ways we stay connected with each other is through the

information provided to us in the Announcements. This morning we are honoring the

Announcements by embedding them in the service.

DONNA

(Welcome and Announcements from Clipboard – please include the following)Our minister is not in the pulpit this morning. Instead, we are presenting an “alternative

service”. The views expressed in this service are those of Mike Mallory and do notnecessarily represent the opinions of the other “Evergreen Players.”

MIKE

I would like to Introduce the distinction between "good day,” "good life" and ecstatic

moments.

READER 3

This from “The Happiness Myth: Why What We Think Is Right Is Wrong” by Jennifer

Hecht, “There are three distinct kinds of happiness, and though they are not unrelated,

they are not usually in harmony with each other. A good day can be filled with many

mild pleasures, repeatable and forgettable, and some rewarding efforts. Euphoria is

intense, lasts powerfully in memory, and often involves some risk or vulnerability. A

Happy Life requires a lot of difficult work (studying, striving, nurturing, maintaining,

negotiating, mourning, and birthing)…”

READER 4

A good meal is part of a happy day. Mother Teresa's indefatigable service to the

disadvantaged is building a happy life.



MIKE

“The big desires have always been food, wine, sex, revenge, riches, products, and

fame. The danger, beyond fat, stupidity, syphilis, narcissism, taxes, clutter, and gout—ismeaninglessness.” (Hecht)

READER 3

Notice that building a Happy Life requires sacrifice and effort that make it more difficult

to have a Happy Day. A Happy Day is fulfilled in momentary pleasure. A Happy Life is

fulfilled with the terminal perspective that a life has been lived in harmony with core

values and principles.

MIKE

A life in service to your greatest values, including religious values, is claimed by the

wise to reward you. That is unless you have a change of heart and find yourself having

invested your precious existence in a bankrupt ideology.

READER 4

The wise also tell you that a moral life will bring you happiness.

READER 3

The happiness / morality link is often driven by our fear that the people who do us wrong

might end up happy in the end.

MIKE

Surprise! It doesn’t always go around or come around. Nasty and self-centered people

can end up as happy as anyone.

READER 4



Money can’t buy happiness.

READER 3

In a study of the people whose average net worth is $78 million dollars titled The Joysand Dilemmas of Wealth, ”The very rich turn out to be a generally dissatisfied lot, whosemoney has contributed to deep anxieties involving love, work, and family. Indeed, theyare frequently dissatisfied even with their sizable fortunes. Most of them still do notconsider themselves financially secure; for that, they say, they would require onaverage one-quarter more wealth than they currently possess.”

READER 4

Don’t tell a single mother working two jobs to put her daughter through college that

money would not buy happiness.

READER 3

Don’t tell a family holding fundraisers because their insurance will not cover the costs of

a kidney transplant for their toddler son that money would not buy happiness.

READER 4

Happiness correlates with wealth only to the poverty line, after which the correlationfades out.

READER 3

Generosity is said to lead to a Happy Life.

Offertory - READER 4

We will now take the morning offering. Would the greeters please come forward? If this

is your first time at Evergreen, please let the collection plate “pass you by.” Consider this one on us. Please join me in reading the Offertory Response printed in your order

of Service.

http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2011/04/secret-fears-of-the-super-rich/8419/







This is a Fellowship of ourselves,

Its energy and resources are our energy and resources,Its wealth is what we share,

When we contribute to the life of this community

We affirm our lives within it. (Offertory music by Gayle Sells)

MIKE

My first point has been that the term “happiness” cannot refer to a specific experience or

the conditions giving rise to that experience, but the evaluative process of organizing

experiences based on pleasures: both gross and refined. The organization of

experiences requires the comparison of one interior state with another. My second

point is that such comparisons are at least impractical, if not impossible. We will

illustrate.

READER 5

At any given moment each person’s life has a variety of features that would affect

happiness: physical comfort, the status of relationships, including family and friends,

career, security, personal characteristics such as integrity or self-respect.

READER 6

Each state would have different criteria for satisfaction and would not be susceptible to

comparison with others. Furthermore, the importance of a particular condition is a

matter of arbitrary focus.

READER 5

Today I am unhappy because I am focusing on my relationship.

READER 6

Today I am happy because I am focusing on my career.



READER 5

It gets worse when you try to compare a current interior state with a past state or the

imagined state of another.

READER 6

Recall the core point made by Ekhart Tolle in the Power of Now .

READER 5

Equanimity resides in the eternal present when the distracting comparisons to the pastand future are stilled.

MIKE

Let's Review:

READER 5

1) Deciding where you are on a continuum of happiness is a matter of arbitrary focus on

a narrow selection of possible conditions.

READER 6

2) The complexity of comparing one interior state to another is hopelessly unworkable.

READER 5

3) Comparisons with the past and future, at least according to Tolle, are crazy-making.

MIKE



The discussion of happiness can be reduced to a discussion of the electrochemical

process.

READER 5

The ingestion of some chemicals alters the perception of pleasant moods and humans

have a long history of finding and using mood-altering drugs.

READER 6

Laudanum, an opium mixture was widely used in the 19 th and early 20th Century in part

for mood elevation.

READER 5

Beginning in 1898 the Bayer Company started manufacturing Heroin. The name was

meant to convey the heroic efforts of the drug in managing the symptoms of

Tuberculosis.

READER 6

Until 1903 Coca Cola’s active ingredient was cocaine.

READER 5

A headline from the Los Angeles Times, in 1902 read, “They Thirst for Cocaine: Soda

Fountain Fiends Multiplying. Slaves to the ‘Coca Cola’ Habit”

READER 6

We now recreate a imagined conversation found in a 2007 New Yorker Magazine article

profiling Paul and Patricia Churchland, two neuroscientists at the University of California

at San Diego.

PAUL CHURCHLAND



(PAUL CHURCHLAND is preparing dinner, PATRICIA CHURCHLAND ENTERS with a

briefcase in hand) Welcome home Pat.

PATRICIA CHURCHLAND

Paul, don’t speak to me, my serotonin levels have hit rock bottom, my brain is awash in

a glucocorticoids, my blood vessels are full of adrenaline and if it wasn’t for my

androgynous opiates, I’d have driven the car into a tree on the way home. My

dopamine levels need lifting. Pour me a Chardonnay; I’ll be down in a minute. (EXIT

PATRICIA in one direction, EXIT PAUL in the other).

READER 6

Herald columnist, Dr. Elizabeth Smoots, tells us that during a state of “flow” as

popularized by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi (pronounced MEE-hy CHEEK-sent-me-high)

the brain secretes larger amounts of hormone serotonin, producing enjoyment,

wellbeing and calmness. When actively creating, the body releases adrenocorticotropic

hormone ACTH, producing the artist’s high, which promotes enthusiasm and

productivity for hours.

READER 5

Today alcohol, caffeine and anti-depressant medication are all widely used to manage

negative emotional states.

READER 6

Hecht asks why alcohol containers that caution pregnant mothers do not go on toprovide warnings to parents that the overconsumption of alcohol leads to abuse, neglect

and the emotional scaring of millions of young children every year.

MIKE

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wikipedia:Pronunciation_respelling_key






Leading a life of happiness is an idea that emerged out of the imagination of the

enlightenment and is hard-rooted into the American consciousness.

READER 5

More from Jennifer Hecht, “Jefferson got the phrase ‘the pursuit of happiness’ from

George Mason, who’d been using the locution for a while.... The real meaning of the

“pursuit of happiness” was a bold claim that we ought to be allowed to peel off from the

crowd and do our own thing. Enlightenment ideas about life suggested that individuals

had value, and dignity, and had the natural right to try to be happy. The ‘pursuit of

happiness’ we find in the Declaration of Independence was a revival of an ancient idea.

In private letters, Thomas Jefferson referred to himself as an Epicurean, and admired

the ancient doctrine’s philosophical naturalism, its secularism, and its pursuit of the

happy life.” (ENTER WASHERWOMAN I, WASHERWOMAN II and JOHNNY)READER 6

Jennifer Hecht says that, “Historically, the average person expected to be a little

miserable most of the time and ecstatic on festival day. We now expect to be happy all

the time, but never riotously so.”

WASHERWOMAN ONE

(The two WASHERWOMEN are kneeling cleaning clothes; JOHNNY stands behind

them with a basket full of clothes) Your Johnny (gesture to Johnny) is eight years old.

It’s about time he went to work.

WASHERWOMAN TWO

That’s about right, isn’t it Johnny?

WASHERWOMAN ONE

His father is a mason and his uncle is a cobbler. What’s it gonna be for Johnny?

WASHERWOMAN TWO

Well Johnny, what’s it gonna be



JOHNNY

I just want a life that will make me happy! (Washerwomen look at each other for a

moment and then start laughing)

WASHERWOMAN I

Enough of this foolishness, let’s get home now. (EXIT WASHERWOMEN AND

JOHNNY)

READER 5

There is a saying in China where, despite the rising standard of living, life is often one of

drudgery that a person can “chi ku”, which literally translates as “eat bitterness”, butmeans that one can endure hardship: become hardworking and not be a whiner.

American culture holds out a different promise.

READER 6

There has been a cultural shift in the reading of the enlightenment idea found in the

Declaration of Independence.

READER 5

I have the inalienable right to the pursuit of happiness.

READER 6

I have the right to be happy.

READER 5

I have the right to a life of happiness.



READER 6

I have the right to a happier life.

MIKE

Of course, the idea that you can forever move further along the continuum toward

Ecstasy is unrealistic at best and probably pathological. The Buddha taught that we

should free ourselves from desire. As the philosopher, Alyson Irvin, notes, Plato’s

recipe meant to free us from want. And this brings up another significant influence on

my present perspective: the book "How to Want What You Have: Discovering the Magic

and Grandeur of Ordinary Existence” by Dr. Timothy Miller.

READER 6

He writes, “The philosophy of wanting what you have is supported by the underlying

assumption that there is beauty, meaning, truth, love and mystery in the world at all

times and under all circumstances, although these things are sometimes hard to

perceive, or even to imagine.” We are distracted from the grandeur of our world by

desires, which are both insatiable and relentless.

READER 5

Miller is a cognitive therapist, who won’t appeal to everyone, but this technique has abetter track record than medication in managing depression.

READER 6

Miller asks us to take an inventory of our life, to literally count our blessings, growing in

appreciation of the richness and beauty in our lives right now.

READER 5

He asks us to turn our focus from What we Wish We Had to What We Have Now.

http://www.amazon.com/How-Want-What-You-Have/dp/0380726823






READER 6

Please join me in signing Hymn # 354 a song that celebrates the full range of the

human condition.

READER 6

Like Ekhart Tolle, Timothy Miller asks us to still our urge to compare the conditions of

our life with the life of our neighbors or the life we see advertised on TV or the live we

image we deserve. He advises against making value judgments about our feelings,

emotions or other interior states.

READER 5

Miller advances three principles to guide the non-comparative life.

MIKE

Attention, a term synonymous with mindfulness referring to a directed focus of

awareness.

READER 6

The desire for a different life is a distraction from really seeing the life you have. Miller

asks us to focus attention on what is in front of us instead of fantasizing.

READER 5

Attention implies acceptance. Unless you accept something you won't get close enough

to see it clearly.

READER 6

Several years ago, before Mike had a compost bin or a yard waste receptacle he kept

lawn clippings in a trash bag for garbage pick-up. One day he walked by a half-filled



bag of clippings and caught a whiff of the decomposing grass from the week before.

(MIKE acts out the scene) His first reaction to the odor was repulsion, perhaps a genetic

aversion to rotting vegetable matter. But, he was skeptical that his repulsion was

justified and decided to explore the fragrance. He opened the bag and stuck in his

head. Then he took a deep breath. (Pause for inhalation) Stripped of his preconceived

avoidance he found the scent of rotting grass clippings to be surprisingly sweet with a

fruity top-note and a deep and earthy finish. While he did not seek out opportunities to

experience the aroma of rotting grass clippings, he did find less repulsive than he

imagined.

MIKE

Miller’s second principle is Gratitude.

READER 6

Gratitude generates an acknowledgement of dependence on the world.

READER 5

This dependence is reflected in the 7th UU Principle. I affirm and promote respect for

the interdependent web of existence of which I am a part.

READER 6

Acceptance of dependence leads to humility and gratefulness.

READER 5

When window shopping, excitement quickens as you imagine your home filled withinteresting cool display items, but our houses are already filled with items you were

excited to purchase and bring into your home.

READER 6



The excitement of shopping was culturally noted in the Eighteenth Century euphemism

for orgasm: "Spending.” The metaphor for fatigue, “I am spent” derives from that

euphemism.

READER 5

Your spouses and partners are the same, living human being that rendered you

speechless in the face of your passion.

MIKE

The interdependence of us all leads to Miller's third principle: Compassion.

READER 6

Compassion calls us to travel to the emotional underworld with another.

READER 5

Unless you are willing to experience pain, you are incapable of compassion.

READER 6

It’s not about having a good time; it’s about knowing what kind of time you are having.

READER 5

And, you cannot understand yourself, if you shy away from unpleasant emotional states.

READER 6



In Bright-sided: How Positive Thinking is Undermining America, the author Barbara

Ehrenreich, points out that America has developed a unique ideology of “positive

thinking”

READER 5

“Positive Thinking” can lead to the mistaken belief that there is something wrong with a

person if her experience is negative or pessimistic.

MIKE

I have a pet peeve about phatic communication, the language of greetings and

departures. I find it pleasant enough when people say, “Have a nice day.” Or, “Good

morning.” But, when a complete stranger asks me, “How’s it going?” I’m annoyed.

Asking me to account for myself is a call to intimacy, and there is neither the time, nor the space in the grocery store checkout line. Furthermore, any brief answer other than

“fine” or “good” solicits a response as though something is wrong. I always imagine I am

in an ant colony and soldier ants are checking my chemical signature for defects.

CONNECTING IN FELLOWSHIP - READER 5

This is the time in our service for us to spend two minutes greeting your neighbor. Try

to include those you do not already know well in your greeting.

(SOUND OF GONG)

ZEUS

(ENTER ZEUS stage right, he walks across the front of the stage exiting stage left.

Offstage) Hades, we must talk. Come to the surface……………Please.

ZEUS

(ENTER ZEUS AND HADES stage left, they walk together to center stage. ZEUS’ arm

is around HADES shoulder. They are conversing quietly. They stop and ZEUS turns to

face HADES.) Look, Hades since Persephone was taken to the underworld, Demeter

has not been herself. There is no food; the people are starving. Persephone must be

returned.

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HADES

Persephone is mine; I have a right to a queen.

ZEUS

Yes, yes, you have a right to a queen. (Puts his arm around Hades’ shoulder and theywalk to exit stage right) But, Hades you must take another as your queen. (EXIT ZEUS

AND HADES stage right.)

READER 7

Unpleasant feelings appear with important lessons of self-understanding.

READER 8

Unpleasant feelings should be honored rather than avoided.

READER 7

Miller encourages us to open non-judgmentally to all of our feelings. In doing so we may

find that the feelings are less painful than originally expected. The Buddha advised his

monks to meditate on fearful and disgusting sights until they overcame their aversion.

MIKE

In the same way that I found the odor of decaying lawn waste not entirely unpleasant,

some emotional states commonly thought to be negative, may turn out to be surprisingly

benign.

READER 7

We are taught that success is positive and failure is negative, yet each condition

presents a valuable learning experience.



READER 8

The sense of betrayal contains an embedded story of mutual trust and respect.

READER 7

We learn that some emotions are negative, but that added value judgment does not add

any useful information to the heart of the experience.

READER 8

It is common when someone dies that we respond with a celebration of the life of the

deceased.

READER 7

Yet, how often, when a relationship breaks-up do we similarly celebrate the relationship

that has come to an end.

MIKE

It is not necessary that you celebrate the end of a relationship, but the path to

wholeness requires that you own the emotional states that arise. Learning to accept the

full range of mental / emotional states is part of the process of maturing or actualizing

into the fullness of humanity.

READER 8

Children often prefer sweeter foods such as fruit and cereal, but do not prefer vegetables.

READER 7

As tastes mature, most adults come to acquire a taste for a variety of vegetables.



READER 8

Similarly, a child may cry if she doesn’t get her own way. But in time the young woman

comes to appreciate and even feel gratitude for her capacity for patience.

READER 7

As an older woman, she may come to gratefully experience even disappointment as a

process of bringing her vision of a better world into sharp relief.

READER 8

If you can acquire a taste for Blue Cheese, you can acquire a taste for Blue Feelings.

READER 7

There is nothing wrong with you if you are experiencing interior states you judge to be

negative.

READER 8

(to CONGREGATION) Please join me in the unison reading printed in the order of

service. The reading is from Jennifer Hecht and brilliantly describes what it is to have a

personality. (Pause) “Consider that we all have an internal empty field at birth, and as

we grow, we experience shocks in certain areas of the field, which we respond to by

building up a great pile of stones in that spot, to protect ourselves from being hurt again.

As time goes on, the inner field grows crowded with stone mounds. Moving around in

such a field requires inventive choreography; and that dance is what a personality is. A

person with a lot of mounds is going to look pretty crazy when she tries to walk astraight line.”

READER 7

You are your entire embodied emotional and cognitive landscape.



HADES

(ENTER HADES and PERSEPHONE stage left, they are hand in hand. Enter ZEUS

and DEMETR stage right) I have brought Persephone to the surface as we agreed.

PERSEPHONE

Mother! Father!

ZEUS

Hades, you have the gratitude of all of Mount Olympus.

HADES

(PERSEPHONE looks back and forth between them. To PERSEPHONE, gesturing to

ZEUS) Go. (Bringing a pomegranate from his cloak) Persephone, here is something

for your travels.

PERSEPHONE

(Taking the Pomegranate) Thank you, Mr. Hades. (ZEUS AND PERSEPHONE EXIT

state right, HADES returns and EXITS stage left)

Anthem “You Can’t Always Get What You Want” Mick Jagger and Keith

Richards

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7knIi3LGf4M&feature=related

No, you can't always get what you wantYou can't always get what you wantYou can't always get what you wantAnd if you try sometime you findYou get what you need





I saw her today at the receptionA glass of wine in her handI knew she was gonna meet her connectionAt her feet was her footloose man

You can't always get what you wantYou can't always get what you wantYou can't always get what you wantBut if you try sometimes you might findYou get what you need

And I went down to the demonstrationTo get my fair share of abuseSinging, "We're gonna vent our frustrationIf we don't we're gonna blow a 50-amp fuse"

Sing it to me now...

You can't always get what you wantYou can't always get what you wantYou can't always get what you wantBut if you try sometimes well you just might findYou get what you need

You get what you need--yeah, oh baby!Oh yeah!

I saw her today at the receptionIn her glass was a bleeding manShe was practiced at the art of deceptionWell I could tell by her blood-stained hands

You can't always get what you wantYou can't always get what you wantYou can't always get what you wantBut if you try sometimes you just might findYou just might findYou get what you need

You can't always get what you want (no, no baby)You can't always get what you wantYou can't always get what you wantBut if you try sometimes you just might findYou just might findYou get what you need, ah yes...



READER 7

It turns out that Persephone did not avoid the underworld. It was that Pomegranate.

Once Persephone tasted of the food of the underworld she was fated to return.

PERSEPHONE

I return to the underworld for about four months a year. That is a third of the time. It is

a life I can endure. After all, I am a queen in the underworld.

READER 8

Cycling in and out of the underworld turns out to be much harder for Demeter who

worries about it, than for Persephone who lives it.

MIKE

Clinical depression, which I would define here as the either being trapped or the feeling

of being trapped in the underworld is serious, but having depressing interior states is not

a problem and most of those on anti-depressant medication are not clinically depressed.

READER 7

It would not be unreasonable to expect a life like Persephone, spending a third of the

time in the emotional underworld.

READER 8

A life of perpetual happiness is not only unrealistic; it would deprive you of half of thehuman range of emotion.

READER 7

Let us honor the full range of our humanity.



READER 8

It is time in the service when we have prepared a space for the sharing of Joys and

Sorrows. This is an opportunity for those with Joys that cannot be contained or Sorrowswhich call for compassionate listening to come forward. Please queue up on either side

of the sanctuary. A candle will be lit for you. Please provide your name and speak

directly into the microphone.

JOYS AND SORROWS RITUAL

READER 8

(Lights Candles and assists speakers) I light one additional candle for all of the

unexpressed joys and sorrows that remain in our hearts.

MIKE

(Meditation or Prayer ) We hold these things in our collective heart. Amen.

READER 7

Jennifer Hecht closes out her book with these observations.

READER 8

“Happiness has not increased in the United States since 1950. Plotted on a graph, all

sorts of measures of living conditions climb in broad, steady strokes, but happiness just

lies there. “

MIKE

“If we want to think clearly, with room for originality, we must notice that being obsessed

with the stuff you do about happiness is a wrong turn, a terrible tangle of double talk and

contrary information about how to make a happy life. We need to relax these polemicsand try on different variations of behavior. Maybe it is okay to be fat. Maybe you want to

rethink whether what you get out of shopping has anything to do with buying a lot. “

READER 7



“Maybe common concerns about people who have a lot of sex or no sex are just noise

and things are okay the way they are for now. Maybe we can stop feeling so conflicted

about shallow American culture and recognize that we are lucky to have something

shallow to share. Why not put your arms in the air and party like you just don’t care? “

READER 8

“You are a mammal with extraordinary potential, but we have to take care of you if you

are going to fulfill that potential. You have to do some work—wisdom work, celebration

work—and you also have to learn to be a truth detector, to know that the rules for

happiness propagated by the culture at large are not to be allowed to take up too much

time and energy. “

MIKE

I close this service with a quote by Robert Frost: “The only way round is through.”

Please join me in a closing circle.

Closing Song – Carry the Flame

Benediction – I invite you to join me in a life of attention, gratitude and compassion.

Acknowledgments and Notes:

Let me express my heartfelt appreciation for the thirteen cast members and

Dennis on sound, who made the first and perhaps last production of this service a

success. Everyone was committed to the presentation and worked hard to make it all

happen just the way it was designed to work.

I would like to thank artist, Jennifer Wu, for helping me to translate the Pinyin“Chi Ku.”

I was confronted about the use of the “patriarchal” version of the Persephone

Myth, when an earlier version emphasizes the feminine power of the Goddess and

recites that Persephone was rescued by Hecate, an admittedly interesting deity. I can

only say that I was more familiar with the version I used and it served my purposes. I



will say however, that my interpretation is consistent with the feminist reading, which

sees Persephone as strong and not in need of rescuing in the first place. Additionally,

the two attendants to Persephone were said to be Athena and Artemis, but the role was

given to a male, so Artemis became her twin brother Apollo.

Lastly, let me say that typos keep coming to the surface like rocks in a field. If you encounter any, please try to read around them.

© 2011, Mike Mallory

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