Gender Communication Are men from Mars and Women from Venus?
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Transcript of Gender Communication Are men from Mars and Women from Venus?
Gender Communication
Are men from Mars
and
Women from Venus?
You Just Don’t Understandby Deborah Tannen
Males Females
Guise of Oppositionone-upsmanship
Guise of Connectionone-down
Focus on Statusavoid failure
Focus on Involvementavoid isolation
Focus on Independence Focus on Intimacy
Logical - thinkers Emotional-feelers
Problem-Solvers Gift of understanding
Sex and Gender Differencesin
Personal Relationships
• Gray’s motivation is $$$$$$$• 18 million from book sales
• $35,000 per seminar
• Claims are grossly exaggerated• use of anecdotal information
• Polarizing men and women offensive• creates greater distance
Moving Beyond Stereotypes
• Stereotypes become standards of behavior
• Bi-polar contructs essentialize “male” “female” qualities
• Behavior - Attitude Discrepancy
• Result - little social or scientific payoff
Understanding sex/gender requires more than stereotypes
Putnam (1982)
• Stereotypes do 2 things:
• a way to predict male/female behavior
• way to establish a baseline for expectations
about others
• Makes life simple and easy to explain
Canary & Emmers-Sommer Claim:
• Stereotypes do not adequately/accurately represent men/women’s interactions in personal relationships
• traditional view is outdated which distorts interactions
• people sometimes rely on stereotypes as guidelines for interaction-attitude behavior discrepancy
Defining Terms
• Sex - biological
• Gender - psych, social, cultural
• Sex role identity - degree to which one’s self is linked to biological differences
• Gender role identity - degree to which one’s self concept connects to psych, social, cultural understanding for males and females
Fear/Emotionin Personal Relationships
• Men - withdraw in close relationships and avoid discussion about relational issues
• Women - express feelings with more confrontational / hostile affect.
• Both experience fear about relationships– identification w/ gender role relates to
expression of fear
Similarities in Emotion
• Both bristle at unfair treatment
• Both avoid verbal venting of sadness
• Happy men and women both experience
closer and more satisfaction in reltshps
• Temperment (personality types) indicate
differences - not sex
Love, Sex, Intimacy
• Men and Women 82% similar
• Males/females-don’t subscribe to conventional, traditional gender roles
• Dwell on experience of LOVE• romantic dependency, compatibility,communal love
• Traditional Couples• less inclined to express feelings of closeness
• discuss intimate details of relationship
Both communicate
intimacy
through touch
DisclosureDual career Partners
• Both disclose to achieve/decrease intimacy
• high levels of SD resulted in more
relational satisfaction
• Both reported NOT disclosing for fear of
presenting an unwanted image
Romantic Involvements
• Both similar in willingness to sacrifice goals for relationship
• Both engage in sex to establish relational intimacy
• Women more likely to engage in sex to achieve emotional intimacy
• Men more likely to engage in sex for casual physical involvement
Clark, 1990
• Males or females approached opposite sex and propositioned him/her with a request to go to subject’s apartment
• RESULT - men significantly more likely to comply with the request.
• Male “Green-light” - Female “Red-Light” Phenomenon
Are there more similarities than differences
between men and women?