Encore 5 Preparation For Retirement

ENCORE

Rabbi Elliot SchoenbergDirector of Career Services

And International Placement2012

Preparation for Retirement for the Rabbi

EXERCISE

WHAT WILL THE FIRST DAY OF MY RETIREMENT LOOK LIKE?

Copyright 2012 by Rabbi Elliot Schoenberg

http://www.linkedin.com/in/elliotschoneberg

Old Pschology

Development Productivity Leisure



New Psychology

Development Productivity Development, ProductivityLeisure

Leisure



TimeLine

What is the right time for you to retire?

Time Certain? Phased in?



The Decision

YOURS YOUR BOARD’S



The Decision

PARTICULAR AGE INCOME LEVEL

65?

68?

72?



Time LineHOW ARE YOU SPENDING YOUR TIME NOW?

HOW DO YOU WANT TO BE SPENDING YOUR TIME IN RETIREMENT?

Work

Learning

Volunteering

Leisure

Work

Learning

Volunteer-ing

Leisure



Enjoyment/Pleasure/Leisure

•Message from society, retirement equals fun

•Look for fun based on your interests.

Myth: Unstructured life is ideal

•In less that a year, most retirees seek structure more than leisure



Engagement

Involvement. Flow. Lose yourself

Challenging Demanding

Not Purchased

Match our strengths

Strengths are used across all contexts. Copyright 2012 by

Rabbi Elliot Schoenberg


MEANING

Find meaning or seek purpose. Third level up. Using your abilities in the service of

something larger than yourself.



Retirement Pyramid

Meaning

Engagement

Leisure



Mattering

The need to feel noticed, appreciated and depended upon.

Important for people to believe that they count in others’ lives and that they make a difference to them.

Once I retire, how will I continue to hear the applause



Consequences of Mattering

Lifecycle events trickiest issues – only special personal relations always with permission

Myth: Thinking you will not need an

audience in retirement – why rabbis continue to do life cycle events

Why it is hard to let go of a calling



Rabbinic Identity

Who am I without my job? The sum of the roles you play and

behavioral characteristics you display “Identity is the bridge between who we

feel ourselves internally to be and who we are recognized as being by our social role.” Ruthellen Josselson

The greater the work commitment-the greater the loss of the work role will be



Myth

Thinking you will not need an audience in retirement



Identity

You need to be able to step out of your role - How do you go off duty?



Identity

What will you do for the high holidays? Do you need to be officiating somewhere?



Planning

Are you retiring from or retiring to something?



Towards Something

Do another degree – MSW Continue the part of the rabbinate you

enjoy the most, e.g. pulpit, hospital chaplain

Take an avocation make it more intense, e.g. book collector

Part-time pulpit – once a month unlikely Just let it develop – see what happens



Buy a life style or design a life



Employment

Rabbis wish to continue working because they are still competent despite the growing age gap with congregants



Be flexible in retirement. Retirement is not a straight line.

There will be surprises for sure.

Always have a Plan B



Eitzah Tovah: Talk

Consultations with spouse and other family members - it is a joint decision

Do you children know your plans?



Eitzah Tovah: Action

Start your retirement career - while still able



Eitzah Tovah: Respect

Learn how will your institution be showing you respect? How important is it to you?



Spirtuality

How will you renew your spiritual life?



Eitzah Tovah: Plan

Need to plan retirement- with intention and with forethought



Planning

We are responsible for our own retirement

Myth: We took care of others now they will take care of us.



Why people do not plan

Makes them anxious Can not predict the future Because in denial Energy is in the present-not the future.



Planning Tips

Think in terms of chapters. Take advantage of planned

happenstance .Importance of being open to change as a result of chance occurrence.

Be open to invitations Modify your ambitions. Ratchet them down. Construct a personal narrative using narrative

psychology



Planning Tips Con’t

Use appreciative inquiry. Build on your positives.

Rehearse your new purpose. Try it on for 2 months.

Read about the future Use a surrogate. Do an informational interview

with someone already doing your new role or purpose.

Identify roadblocks



Exercise

When you hear the word retirement what images, phrases come to mind?



ENCORE

Rabbi Elliot SchoenbergDirector of Career Services

And International Placement2012

Preparation for Retirement for the Rabbi

Encore 5 Preparation For Retirement

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