April 22, 2015Entry Task:• Why do people date?

Target:• Dating purposes &

types of love

Ground Rules

• What should they be?• Think..• Discuss…• Follow them

AGENDA…• The Purposes of Dating

• Appointment with love

• Types of Love

• Ladder of Love

• Love or Infatuation?

The Purposes of Dating

Socialization:

• To develop appropriate social skills

• To practice getting along with others in different settings

Recreation:

• To have fun and enjoy the companionship of others

• To try new and different activities

Mate Selection:

• To see others in many different settings

• To compare the personality and characteristics of many people

• To determine if you could live…for the rest of your life with this person

An Appointment With Love

Types of Love• Romantic Love

– Puppy Love• Sexual Love

– The intimate expression of love.

• Pragmatic Love– A rational, reasoning kind of

love.• Platonic Love

– The spiritual and intellectual relationship between a man and a woman.

• Companionship Love– A love typically found in

good friendships.• Altruistic Love

– Selfless love or concern for the spouse.

• Manic Love– A crazy, possessive,

jealous kind of love.• Self-Love

– An egotistic, narcissistic kind of love.

In an ideal marital relationship, you would experience all types of love, everyday. However, until you are married, you can still experience most types of love with a variety

of people.

The Ladder of Love

Ladder of Love• Mature love for others• Love for children

• Love for the opposite sex

• Love for someone the same sex, older

• Love for same sex friend

• First love outside the family

• Love of other relatives

• Love for secondary caregiver

• Love for primary caregiver

• Self-love

• Love for humankind, very unselfish love.• Unselfish love with ability to love without

expecting anything in return.• Begins with interest in the other sex and

continues throughout life.• Role model and exemplified what you

wanted to become.• Close friend of the same age and sex.

• You had fun with this person and loved him for the times shared.

• Love of a relative which brought a special sense of security.

• This person met your needs and cared for you. Usually your father.

• Your primary caregiver (usually mother).• Until you love yourself, you cannot

truly love another.

Love vs. Infatuation

• Grows slowly• Long lasting• Trust• More realistic• More thoughtful

• Happens quickly• Short-lived• Physical thrills• Jealousy• Rush to marry

LOVE INFATUATION

• Happens suddenly• Under one circumstance

• Know only a few character traits

• Self centered

• Love grows over time• Known under many

circumstances

• Learn all characteristics of the person

• Other person centered

LOVEINFATUATION

• More than one person• Problems are glossed

over

• May be based only on physical attraction

• Doesn’t want to wait for anything

• May end suddenly

• Seen as deprivation

• Only for one person• Face problems and

try to solve them• Physical attraction is

a small part• Endures• Can wait for marriage

• Each group will divide the statements about love into two piles.–Infatuation

–Love

• Divide into groups of 4-5.

Love vs. Infatuation