Post on 07-Jul-2020
VAZHGA VAZHAMAGA….
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Nerinjil kumaar.S,
Was positioned as DGM-Training , HR Manager (TVS) & Principal in ITI
28 Years of Exp in Academic , Corporate HR & Trg ,
Qualified in Engineering, Management, General/Labour Law
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Certified as a CII –Exim Business Excellence Assessor and in competency Mapping,
MBTI, Train The Trainer, QMS, IMS and TRIZ by Russian TRIZ Masters &
TPM Hands on learning experience with Prof.Kawashima of JIPM, Japan. Etc..,
Life Member- ISTD,ISTE,QCFI ,CCF
What do you know about yourself
What is your goal in life – next 5 yrs
What for you are Studying and Going to live
Your Likes , Favourites and Dislikes
Do you know everything about your friend
Do you share everything to your lover, if not
why ?
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Exercise ; 1
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Working
with
People
Self
Management
Communication Listening
Team
Building
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Cricketer
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What is meant by ;
E Q
I Q
Numerical A
Verbal A
Emotional Intelligence
EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE - 4 COMPETENCIES
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Personal competencies ; 1.Self Awareness
2.Self Management
SOCIAL Competencies; 3.Social Skills
4.Social Awareness
EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE - 4 COMPETENCIES
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1.Self Awareness ;
Emotional Self Awareness
Accurate Self Assessment
Self Esteem
Personal Competencies
EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE - 4 COMPETENCIES
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2.Self Management has 6 ;-
Integrity
Motivation
Self control
Conscuiousness
Creativity
Achievement orientation
Personal Competencies ;
EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE - 4 COMPETENCIES
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3. Social Awareness has 3 ;-
Empathy
Organisational Awareness
Service Orientation
Social competencies ;
EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE - 4 COMPETENCIES
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4. Social SKILLS has 4 ;-
Leadership
Change Management
Conflict Management
Team Work
Social Competencies ;
Write your Skills – Competencies -
Achievements
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Exercise ; 2
Skills ; What Type of abilities a person
need , to perform a job
Competencies; Requirement for success
,Translates skills into on the job behaviors that
demonstrates Ability to perform . So,
Competency = A S K
Ability+ Skill + Knowledge
TALENT ; High degree of Ability or of Aptitude
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Education-20% + Other Skills 80% = Employability
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Self
Control Integrity &
Conscientious-
ness
Creativity
Motivation &
Achievement
Orientation
# 2
Emotional
Self
Awareness
Accurate
Self
Assessment
Self
Esteem # 1
Empathy
Organizational
Awareness
Service
Orientation # 3
Emotional Intelligence ; Elements and Competencies
Leadership
# 4
EI
SELF AWARENESS
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SELF AWARENESS – WHAT IT IS
Having a deep understanding of one’s
emotions, strengths, weaknesses,
needs, drives
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SELF AWARENESS – WHAT IT IS
These people have high self worth.
They are prepared to voice unpopular
views and take risks for what they
believe is right.
This is Self Esteem.
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SELF AWARENESS
Self Awareness is the vital foundation skill for three
emotional competencies
Emotional Self Awareness
Accurate Self Assessment
Self Esteem
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1.KNOWING SELF
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Identify your Blind Self
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Exercise ; 3
Do SWOT Analysis…
Your Vision
Where you want to settle
What you want to do
Why
How
When
SELF MANAGEMENT
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I’m OK I’m NOT
YOU ARE OK
Accepts self worthwhile and valuable Other people are also worthwhile and valuable Communicates his appreciations of strengths and also that of others
At mercy of others Seeks support and recognition Communicates he is self rejecting
YOU ARE NOT
OK
Provides support for himself Rejects support from others Need to leave him alone Communicates he is ok but others are not
No source of support and acceptance Withdraw from relationship Communicates to others both self rejection and rejection of others
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Public
Self
Blind
Self
Dark
Self Private
Self
INSIGHT
Things I Know Things I Don’t Know
Th
ing
s t
hey
Kn
ow
Th
ing
s t
hey
Do
n’t
Kn
ow
Johari Window
SELF
Solicits feedback
Unconscious
Group Self-
Disclosure
or Gives
Feedback
Self Awareness…
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Self Awareness…
Public
Self
Blind
Self
Dark
Self Private
Self
Give
Feedback
To reduce Private Self
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Public
Self
Blind
Self
Private
Self
Solicit Feedback
To reduce Blind Self
Self Awareness…
Dark
Self
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Ideal Window
Public
Self
Blind
Self
Dark
Self
Private
Self
Give
Feedback
Solicit Feedback
Self Awareness…
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Self
Control Integrity &
Conscientious-
ness
Creativity
Motivation &
Achievement
Orientation
# 2
Emotional
Self
Awareness
Accurate
Self
Assessment
Self
Esteem # 1
Empathy
Organizational
Awareness
Service
Orientation # 3
Emotional Intelligence ; Elements and Competencies
Leadership
# 4
EI
2.SELF ASSESSMENT
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FILLING THE POT
To enable participants to gain an
understanding regarding their strengths
and weaknesses.
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Exercise ; 4
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Self
Control Integrity &
Conscientious-
ness
Creativity
Motivation &
Achievement
Orientation
# 2
Emotional
Self
Awareness
Accurate
Self
Assessment
Self
Esteem # 1
Empathy
Organizational
Awareness
Service
Orientation # 3
Emotional Intelligence Elements and Competencies
Leadership
# 4
EI
SELF AWARENESS…
Accurate Self Assessment
This is the ability to know one’s inner resources, abilities,
values, beliefs and limitations.
People with this competence are reflective; they learn from
experience; are open to candid negative feedback, new
perspectives, continuous learning and self development.
Such people possess the skills to receive and give negative
feedback.
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Feedback
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Accurate Self Assessment …
Giving feedback
Be Descriptive and not Evaluative
Describe the Feelings the other person’s behavior
evokes in you instead of asking him to behave
differently.
Be Specific and not General
Comment on Controllable behaviors and not those
which the other person cannot change.
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SELF AWARENESS…
Accurate Self Assessment …
Giving feedback …
Give feedback as soon as possible after the occurrence instead of
giving it all at one time.
Describe the Effect the other person’s behavior has on you instead
of trying to Analyze reasons for his behavior.
Give feedback on both Positive and Negative aspects of the other
person’s behaviors.
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SELF AWARENESS…
Accurate Self Assessment …
Giving feedback …
Introspect - are you giving feedback to help him become better or to
punish him, to dominate him, to win against him or is it a demand
for change?
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SELF AWARENESS…
Accurate Self Assessment …
Receiving feedback
Whenever possible Solicit feedback rather than Waiting for the
other person to take the initiative and give you feedback.
Listen to and Understand the feedback. Do not let your mind
wander while the other person is giving you feedback.
Check that what you have understood is what the giver means. Do
not Assume.
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SELF AWARENESS…
Accurate Self Assessment …
Receiving feedback …
Seek Clarifications, ask for examples or more data. Do not try to
justify or defend or explain your behaviors.
When the feedback is inconsistent with your perception of
yourself validate it with others. Do not Discount it because it is
negative.
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Exercise ;5 PENCIL, ERASER AND PAPER
To create an awareness
regarding the way they are
using their potential and
opportunities.
3.SELF ESTEEM
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WRITE DOWN THE NAMES OF PERSONS WHOM YOU
KNOW IN DAILY LIFE HAVING SELF ESTEEM
RATE THEM AS
LOW
HIGH
IF SO WHY? LOW / HIGH 44
Exercise ; 6
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Self
Control Integrity &
Conscientious-
ness
Creativity
Motivation &
Achievement
Orientation
# 2
Emotional
Self
Awareness
Accurate
Self
Assessment
Self
Esteem # 1
Empathy
Organizational
Awareness
Service
Orientation # 3
Emotional Intelligence Elements and Competencies
Leadership
# 4
EI
Self Esteem…
“Self-esteem - is appreciating your own
worth and importance, having the character
to be accountable for your own behaviours,
and acting responsibly toward others”.
“Everything begins with self-esteem, your
concept of yourself”.
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Self Esteem
This is having a strong sense of one’s self worth and
capabilities.
Such people present themselves with self assurance ; they
have “presence”.
They are prepared to voice views that are unpopular; are
decisive and make sound decisions despite uncertainties.
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Self Esteem…
This man…
On November 22, 1963 this man shot and
killed President John F Kennedy. His
name was Lee Harvey Oswald.
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Self Esteem…
This other man…
Not him. He went on to become the
President of the U S A. His name was
Franklin D Roosevelt.
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Self Esteem…
One of Low Self-esteem
and one of High Self-esteem.
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Self Esteem…
Self-Esteem = Self-Efficacy + Self-
Respect
“I am a superior being destined for
greatness.”
- Napoleon
“After that shot my career started ……. I
was fearless.”
- Michael Jordan
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Self-Esteem = Self-Efficacy + Self-
Respect
Self-respect is what you think and feel about
yourself. It is the deep down inside feeling of
your own worth.
Setting realistic standards
Self-respect lies within
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BLIND WALK ;
TO LOOK IN TO THEMSELVES AND GAINING A
DEEPER UNDERSTANDING.
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Exercise ; 7
Self Esteem…
How self-esteem develops - Childhood
“A child’s life is like a piece of paper on
which every passerby leaves a mark”.
Influence of Parents
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Self Esteem…
An extensive survey revealed :
When the mother had high self-esteem -
66% of the children had high self-esteem.
When the mother created happiness at
home - 91% of the children had high self-
esteem.
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Self Esteem Vs Parents
An extensive survey revealed :
When the children had firm and fair
parental decisions - 85% had high self-
esteem.
When parents showed a lot of affection -
79% of the children had high self-esteem”.
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How self-esteem develops - Adolescence
Physical appearance
External symbols
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ADULTHOOD
Defining ourselves in terms of the things
we possess
Defining ourselves in terms of what we do
for a living
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Adulthood…
Defining ourselves in terms of an internal value
system and emotional make up
Ayn Rand
A man who accepts the role of a
sacrificial animal will not achieve the
self-confidence necessary to uphold the
validity of his mind, and the man who
doubts the validity of his mind will not
achieve the self-esteem necessary to
uphold the value of his person”.
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Characteristics of people with low Self-
Esteem
They may experience the “failure syndrome” –
“I always fail - Why try?
”They tend to maintain an external locus of
control
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Characteristics of people with low Self-
Esteem…
They have poor communication skills and
exhibit poor human relations skill
Sometimes they engage in self-destructive
behaviours
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Characteristics of people with high
Self-Esteem…
Future oriented and not overly
concerned with past mistakes or
failures
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Self Esteem…
Characteristics of people with high
Self-Esteem…
Can cope with life’s problems and disappointments
Lee Iacocca “The scars left by Henry Ford
especially on my family will be lasting, because
the wounds were deep. But the events of recent
years have had a healing effect. So you move
on.”
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Self Esteem…
Characteristics of people with high Self-
Esteem…
Can feel all kinds of emotions without
letting those emotions affect their
behaviour in a negative way
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Characteristics of people with high Self-
Esteem…
Can help others and accept help from
others
“First rate people hire first rate people.
Second rate people hire third rate people”
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Characteristics of people with high Self-
Esteem…
Can accept other people as unique
individuals
Exhibit a variety of self-confident
behaviours
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SELF AWARENESS…
Self Esteem…
The Power of Expectations - Own
“What the future could hold, and what each of us could become, is
limited mainly by what we believe”.
Self fulfilling prophecy
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HOW TO BUILD SELF-ESTEEM
“The level of our self-esteem is not set once and
for all in childhood” Nathaniel Branden
Identify and Accept your Limitations
Take Responsibility for your Decisions
Develop Expertise in Some Area
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Exercise ; 8
SHARING ACHIEVEMENTS
To enhance the self esteem of the
participants by sensitizing them
to their achievements.
High Self-esteem Cycle
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Positive Perception
of Self and Others
High Achievement
Positive
Talk
Healthy
Self-Confidence
Healthy
Relationships
Low Self-esteem Cycle
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Negative Perception
of Self and Others
Low Achievement
Negative
Talk
Lack of
Self-Confidence
Unhappy
Relationships
LEARNING FROM THE SESSION
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At the end of the session; Participants can able to ;
Know oneself and How to improve Blind - Self
• Understand about three emotional competencies
Emotional Self Awareness
Accurate Self Assessment
Self Esteem
• Identify his Emotions,Strenghth,Weakness and drivers
• Self Esteem ,Impact of Low and High Esteem in daily
life
• How High Esteem helps to achieve Positive thoughts
and Good Human Relations,Communication,Team
work
Break through
Improvement
Retainment
(DWM)
Top Mgt.
Sr Mgt.
Mid. Mgt.
1st Line
Mgrs/Supe
rvisors
Operators
Share of Responsibility
Responsibility of Functions
Responsibility of Functions
Engineers-BE/DME
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