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VAZHGA VAZHAMAGA….

1 Breathing Exercise

Nerinjil kumaar.S,

Was positioned as DGM-Training , HR Manager (TVS) & Principal in ITI

28 Years of Exp in Academic , Corporate HR & Trg ,

Qualified in Engineering, Management, General/Labour Law

&

Certified as a CII –Exim Business Excellence Assessor and in competency Mapping,

MBTI, Train The Trainer, QMS, IMS and TRIZ by Russian TRIZ Masters &

TPM Hands on learning experience with Prof.Kawashima of JIPM, Japan. Etc..,

Life Member- ISTD,ISTE,QCFI ,CCF

What do you know about yourself

What is your goal in life – next 5 yrs

What for you are Studying and Going to live

Your Likes , Favourites and Dislikes

Do you know everything about your friend

Do you share everything to your lover, if not

why ?

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Exercise ; 1

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Working

with

People

Self

Management

Communication Listening

Team

Building

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Cricketer

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What is meant by ;

E Q

I Q

Numerical A

Verbal A

Emotional Intelligence

EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE - 4 COMPETENCIES

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Personal competencies ; 1.Self Awareness

2.Self Management

SOCIAL Competencies; 3.Social Skills

4.Social Awareness


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1.Self Awareness ;

Emotional Self Awareness

Accurate Self Assessment

Self Esteem

Personal Competencies


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2.Self Management has 6 ;-

Integrity

Motivation

Self control

Conscuiousness

Creativity

Achievement orientation

Personal Competencies ;


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3. Social Awareness has 3 ;-

Empathy

Organisational Awareness

Service Orientation

Social competencies ;


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4. Social SKILLS has 4 ;-

Leadership

Change Management

Conflict Management

Team Work

Social Competencies ;

Write your Skills – Competencies -

Achievements

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Exercise ; 2

Skills ; What Type of abilities a person

need , to perform a job

Competencies; Requirement for success

,Translates skills into on the job behaviors that

demonstrates Ability to perform . So,

Competency = A S K

Ability+ Skill + Knowledge

TALENT ; High degree of Ability or of Aptitude

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Education-20% + Other Skills 80% = Employability

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Self

Control Integrity &

Conscientious-

ness

Creativity

Motivation &

Achievement

Orientation

# 2

Emotional

Self

Awareness

Accurate

Self

Assessment

Self

Esteem # 1

Empathy

Organizational

Awareness

Service

Orientation # 3

Emotional Intelligence ; Elements and Competencies

Leadership

# 4

EI

SELF AWARENESS

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SELF AWARENESS – WHAT IT IS

Having a deep understanding of one’s

emotions, strengths, weaknesses,

needs, drives

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SELF AWARENESS – WHAT IT IS

These people have high self worth.

They are prepared to voice unpopular

views and take risks for what they

believe is right.

This is Self Esteem.

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SELF AWARENESS

Self Awareness is the vital foundation skill for three

emotional competencies



Self Esteem

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1.KNOWING SELF

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Identify your Blind Self

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Exercise ; 3

Do SWOT Analysis…

Your Vision

Where you want to settle

What you want to do

Why

How

When

SELF MANAGEMENT

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I’m OK I’m NOT

YOU ARE OK

Accepts self worthwhile and valuable Other people are also worthwhile and valuable Communicates his appreciations of strengths and also that of others

At mercy of others Seeks support and recognition Communicates he is self rejecting

YOU ARE NOT

OK

Provides support for himself Rejects support from others Need to leave him alone Communicates he is ok but others are not

No source of support and acceptance Withdraw from relationship Communicates to others both self rejection and rejection of others

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Public

Self

Blind

Self

Dark

Self Private

Self

INSIGHT

Things I Know Things I Don’t Know

Th

ing

s t

hey

Kn

ow

Th

ing

s t

hey

Do

n’t

Kn

ow

Johari Window

SELF

Solicits feedback

Unconscious

Group Self-

Disclosure

or Gives

Feedback

Self Awareness…

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Self Awareness…

Public

Self

Blind

Self

Dark

Self Private

Self

Give

Feedback

To reduce Private Self

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Public

Self

Blind

Self

Private

Self

Solicit Feedback

To reduce Blind Self

Self Awareness…

Dark

Self

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Ideal Window

Public

Self

Blind

Self

Dark

Self

Private

Self

Give

Feedback

Solicit Feedback

Self Awareness…

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Self

Control Integrity &

Conscientious-

ness

Creativity

Motivation &

Achievement

Orientation

# 2

Emotional

Self

Awareness

Accurate

Self

Assessment

Self

Esteem # 1

Empathy

Organizational

Awareness

Service

Orientation # 3

Emotional Intelligence ; Elements and Competencies

Leadership

# 4

EI

2.SELF ASSESSMENT

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FILLING THE POT

To enable participants to gain an

understanding regarding their strengths

and weaknesses.

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Exercise ; 4

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Self

Control Integrity &

Conscientious-

ness

Creativity

Motivation &

Achievement

Orientation

# 2

Emotional

Self

Awareness

Accurate

Self

Assessment

Self

Esteem # 1

Empathy

Organizational

Awareness

Service

Orientation # 3

Emotional Intelligence Elements and Competencies

Leadership

# 4

EI

SELF AWARENESS…


This is the ability to know one’s inner resources, abilities,

values, beliefs and limitations.

People with this competence are reflective; they learn from

experience; are open to candid negative feedback, new

perspectives, continuous learning and self development.

Such people possess the skills to receive and give negative

feedback.

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Feedback

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Accurate Self Assessment …

Giving feedback

Be Descriptive and not Evaluative

Describe the Feelings the other person’s behavior

evokes in you instead of asking him to behave

differently.

Be Specific and not General

Comment on Controllable behaviors and not those

which the other person cannot change.

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SELF AWARENESS…


Giving feedback …

Give feedback as soon as possible after the occurrence instead of

giving it all at one time.

Describe the Effect the other person’s behavior has on you instead

of trying to Analyze reasons for his behavior.

Give feedback on both Positive and Negative aspects of the other

person’s behaviors.

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SELF AWARENESS…


Giving feedback …

Introspect - are you giving feedback to help him become better or to

punish him, to dominate him, to win against him or is it a demand

for change?

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SELF AWARENESS…


Receiving feedback

Whenever possible Solicit feedback rather than Waiting for the

other person to take the initiative and give you feedback.

Listen to and Understand the feedback. Do not let your mind

wander while the other person is giving you feedback.

Check that what you have understood is what the giver means. Do

not Assume.

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SELF AWARENESS…


Receiving feedback …

Seek Clarifications, ask for examples or more data. Do not try to

justify or defend or explain your behaviors.

When the feedback is inconsistent with your perception of

yourself validate it with others. Do not Discount it because it is

negative.

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Exercise ;5 PENCIL, ERASER AND PAPER

To create an awareness

regarding the way they are

using their potential and

opportunities.

3.SELF ESTEEM

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WRITE DOWN THE NAMES OF PERSONS WHOM YOU

KNOW IN DAILY LIFE HAVING SELF ESTEEM

RATE THEM AS

LOW

HIGH

IF SO WHY? LOW / HIGH 44

Exercise ; 6

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Self

Control Integrity &

Conscientious-

ness

Creativity

Motivation &

Achievement

Orientation

# 2

Emotional

Self

Awareness

Accurate

Self

Assessment

Self

Esteem # 1

Empathy

Organizational

Awareness

Service

Orientation # 3

Emotional Intelligence Elements and Competencies

Leadership

# 4

EI

Self Esteem…

“Self-esteem - is appreciating your own

worth and importance, having the character

to be accountable for your own behaviours,

and acting responsibly toward others”.

“Everything begins with self-esteem, your

concept of yourself”.

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Self Esteem

This is having a strong sense of one’s self worth and

capabilities.

Such people present themselves with self assurance ; they

have “presence”.

They are prepared to voice views that are unpopular; are

decisive and make sound decisions despite uncertainties.

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Self Esteem…

This man…

On November 22, 1963 this man shot and

killed President John F Kennedy. His

name was Lee Harvey Oswald.

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Self Esteem…

This other man…

Not him. He went on to become the

President of the U S A. His name was

Franklin D Roosevelt.

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Self Esteem…

One of Low Self-esteem

and one of High Self-esteem.

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Self Esteem…

Self-Esteem = Self-Efficacy + Self-

Respect

“I am a superior being destined for

greatness.”

- Napoleon

“After that shot my career started ……. I

was fearless.”

- Michael Jordan

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Self-Esteem = Self-Efficacy + Self-

Respect

Self-respect is what you think and feel about

yourself. It is the deep down inside feeling of

your own worth.

Setting realistic standards

Self-respect lies within

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BLIND WALK ;

TO LOOK IN TO THEMSELVES AND GAINING A

DEEPER UNDERSTANDING.

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Exercise ; 7

Self Esteem…

How self-esteem develops - Childhood

“A child’s life is like a piece of paper on

which every passerby leaves a mark”.

Influence of Parents

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Self Esteem…

An extensive survey revealed :

When the mother had high self-esteem -

66% of the children had high self-esteem.

When the mother created happiness at

home - 91% of the children had high self-

esteem.

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Self Esteem Vs Parents

An extensive survey revealed :

When the children had firm and fair

parental decisions - 85% had high self-

esteem.

When parents showed a lot of affection -

79% of the children had high self-esteem”.

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How self-esteem develops - Adolescence

Physical appearance

External symbols

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ADULTHOOD

Defining ourselves in terms of the things

we possess

Defining ourselves in terms of what we do

for a living

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Adulthood…

Defining ourselves in terms of an internal value

system and emotional make up

Ayn Rand

A man who accepts the role of a

sacrificial animal will not achieve the

self-confidence necessary to uphold the

validity of his mind, and the man who

doubts the validity of his mind will not

achieve the self-esteem necessary to

uphold the value of his person”.

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Characteristics of people with low Self-

Esteem

They may experience the “failure syndrome” –

“I always fail - Why try?

”They tend to maintain an external locus of

control

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Characteristics of people with low Self-

Esteem…

They have poor communication skills and

exhibit poor human relations skill

Sometimes they engage in self-destructive

behaviours

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Characteristics of people with high

Self-Esteem…

Future oriented and not overly

concerned with past mistakes or

failures

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Self Esteem…

Characteristics of people with high

Self-Esteem…

Can cope with life’s problems and disappointments

Lee Iacocca “The scars left by Henry Ford

especially on my family will be lasting, because

the wounds were deep. But the events of recent

years have had a healing effect. So you move

on.”

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Self Esteem…

Characteristics of people with high Self-

Esteem…

Can feel all kinds of emotions without

letting those emotions affect their

behaviour in a negative way

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Esteem…

Can help others and accept help from

others

“First rate people hire first rate people.

Second rate people hire third rate people”

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Esteem…

Can accept other people as unique

individuals

Exhibit a variety of self-confident

behaviours

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SELF AWARENESS…

Self Esteem…

The Power of Expectations - Own

“What the future could hold, and what each of us could become, is

limited mainly by what we believe”.

Self fulfilling prophecy

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HOW TO BUILD SELF-ESTEEM

“The level of our self-esteem is not set once and

for all in childhood” Nathaniel Branden

Identify and Accept your Limitations

Take Responsibility for your Decisions

Develop Expertise in Some Area

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Exercise ; 8

SHARING ACHIEVEMENTS

To enhance the self esteem of the

participants by sensitizing them

to their achievements.

High Self-esteem Cycle

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Positive Perception

of Self and Others

High Achievement

Positive

Talk

Healthy

Self-Confidence

Healthy

Relationships

Low Self-esteem Cycle

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Negative Perception

of Self and Others

Low Achievement

Negative

Talk

Lack of

Self-Confidence

Unhappy

Relationships

LEARNING FROM THE SESSION

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At the end of the session; Participants can able to ;

Know oneself and How to improve Blind - Self

• Understand about three emotional competencies



Self Esteem

• Identify his Emotions,Strenghth,Weakness and drivers

• Self Esteem ,Impact of Low and High Esteem in daily

life

• How High Esteem helps to achieve Positive thoughts

and Good Human Relations,Communication,Team

work

Break through

Improvement

Retainment

(DWM)

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Sr Mgt.

Mid. Mgt.

1st Line

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rvisors

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