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Three Essential Ingredients for Growing Your Small Group
Ministrywith Dr. Randy Wollf
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What Makes Small Group Ministries Grow?There are three key church factors
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An Atmosphere of Prayer
Pastor models a life of prayer
Testimonies of answered prayer are shared
Prayer and fasting emphasized by leadership
Opportunities to pray with others
Messages on prayer
Intercede
Culture of Multiplication
High value of multiplying the number of:
Growing new Christians
New leaders
Emphasis on helping new Christians grow
Clear equipping system
Continual encouragement to recruit more leaders
Equip
Proactive Coaching
Personal meetings between the coach and small group leader
Coach aware of leaders’ needs and praying for them
Group is visited by a coach
Coach
Christian Leadership Pyramid
Skill
TeamJesus’ example
Community...love one another
deeply... (1 Peter 1:22).
CallingFor we are God’s workmanship...
(Ephesians 2:10).
CharacterBe imitators of God, therefore, as dearly
loved children (Ephesians 5:1).A Growing Relationship with God
So, then, just as you received Christ Jesus as Lord, continue to live in him, rooted and built up in him...
(Colossians 2:6-7).
Biblical Truth...on his law, he
meditates day and night.
Psalm 1:2
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GOOD COACHINGHelps leaders solve problems
And better cope when there is just too much.
11When things don’t go as planned.
GOOD COACHINGHelps re-evaluate plans and solutions.
When we lose sight of where we are.
GOOD COACHINGHelps you better understand where you are at!
The ART OF DEFLECTION
The PROFESSIONAL HELPER Syndrome
Some First Thoughts...
You do not get to clarity ALONE.• Coaching is about the PERSON. We coach
the person… and work the problem.• Coaching is MINISTRY, not just problem
solving.• Coaching is about ACTION, not just
reflection.• Coaching bridges the gap; between
INSIGHTS and NEW BEHAVIOUR… • Coaching is about DISCOVERY… what a
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CoachingThe purposes of a man’s heart are deep
waters, but a man of understanding draws them out. --Proverbs 20:5 (NIV)
Though good advice lies deep within the heart, a person with understanding will draw it out. --Proverbs 20:5 (NLIV)
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REAL-TIME COACHING
• WHO ARE THEY?• WHY DID THEY COME TO THIS SESSION?
(EXPECTATIONS)?• WHAT COACHING HAVE THEY DONE?
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TERMNOLOGICAL CONFUSION
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Coaching
Coaching stands beside and draws insight out.
Mentoring goes before and places insight
within.
CLARIFYING
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ClientAgenda
HelperAgenda
Asking
Telling
Coaching
Mentoring
Discipling
Teaching
Relating the Terms
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The C.O.A.C.H. Model™
CONNECTING with the leader.
Determining the session OUTCOMES.
Building AWARENESS of the issues and current reality.
Determining the next steps and COURSE of action.
Reviewing the HIGHLIGHTS and key insights of the session.

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CONNECTING with the leader.
Goal – Build rapport and trust
Example questions:• How have you been?• How are things going? At work? At
home? At the church?• What insights have you had since
we last met?• In what ways have you sensed the
Holy Spirit speaking to you since our last meeting?
• What progress did you make on the action steps you were going to take?
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Determining the session OUTCOMES.
Goal – Find out what the person would like to discuss
Example questions:• What result would you like to take
away from our meeting today?• What would you like to work on?• What would make today’s meeting
successful/helpful for you?

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Building AWARENESS of the issues and current reality
Goal – To discover more about the outcome identified in the previous stage
Example questions:• Talk to me about what you’re
presently thinking• What do you see as some of your
major obstacles?• Let’s look at this from a different
perspective: What else could be happening?
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Determining the next steps and COURSE of action
Goal – To capture insights and put them in actionable steps
Example questions:• What actions would you like to take
moving forward?• What options do you think most
address what you would like to achieve?
• Which of these would you like to do? How? When?
• On a scale of 1-10 (with 10 being high), how confident are you that you can do this plan?
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Reviewing the HIGHLIGHTS and key insights of the session.
Goal – To give the person an opportunity to share lessons and goals
Example questions:• What would you like to remember
from this time?• What parts of the discussion were
particularly helpful?• What awareness do you have now
that you did not have before?• What are your action steps?

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Listening Expanding
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FocusingEmpowering
Listening Expanding
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Core SkillLISTENING
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Three Levels ofListening
–LEVEL 1: YOU… You are listening but the pre-occupation is really you…not them
–(INTERNAL)–LEVEL 2: THEM…You are listening, seeking to hear the
issues behind the issues and understand (FOCUSED)–LEVEL 3: YOU AND THEM …You have entered their
world, and together you both are looking at the world and addressing the issues (GLOBAL)
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FIVE Ways to Listen Better(Empathetic Listening)
Listen with your mindListen with your bodyListen with your wordsListen with your intuitionListen with the Holy Spirit
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How Do You KnowIf You Have Listened Well?
Leader feels listened to/understoodYou begin to understandTogether you begin to surface the real issue
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CORE SKILL: Expanding
The Power is in the Questions!
•Change begins the moment you ask a question.•The key to coaching is good QUESTIONS.•Questions can help coaches to both LISTEN and
EXPAND awareness.
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Often Good Questions are about Asking the Obvious
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The Power is in the Questions!
•Questions that OPEN-Up•You Say the question as an OPEN question, they initial
PracticingQuestions
The Power is inthe Questions.
Seven Types of
Questions
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Open EmotiveStatementsWho, What, When WhereDevelopmentWhyPermission
The Power is in the Questions!
•Questions that OPEN-Up•You Say the question as an OPEN question, they initial
PracticingQuestions
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1. Open – What makes you think…?2. Emotive – How do you feel…?3. Testing Assumptions – I am hearing…
what have you decided? 4. Who, What, When Where5. Development – What does this say
about how God is shaping you?6. Why – What could you have done?7. Permission – Can I…?
The SWITCHFROM: God what do you want ME to say…
TO: God what are YOU at work doing?How are you at work Lord? How can I serve your agenda?
How can we, together, join you in that work?
Alignment
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GOOD COACHINGHelps pinpoint the problems
GOOD COACHINGHelps to reveal the issues surrounding the issue.
WHAT’S THE ISSUE?> Pinpointing the CORE issue> Issue behind the issue.> What’s holding them back?> What could be driving them, or controlling them?QUESTIONS + POSSIBLE FEEDBACK
AWARENESS IDENTIFYING the JUGULAR
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S.M.A.R.T Action STEPS
1. Specific 2. Measurable 3. Attainable 4. Relevant
5. Time-Framed
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CORE SKILL: FOCUSING
“A goal properly set is halfway reached.”
-- Abraham Lincoln
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S.M.A.R.T. Action Steps
PATTERN:(WHO) will do (WHAT), (HOW MUCH) by (WHEN).
I will contact Bill, about the funding
request, and will see if he will commit to
the $500 gift, by Dec. 1st.
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Listening Expanding
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The Power of The ASSISTNational Anthem
EMPOWERMENT
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Clip - Power ofEncouragement
THREE WAYS toENCOURAGE/EMPOWER:
• Affirm Effort• Acknowledge Progress• Celebrate Success
EMPOWERMENT
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