MINDSET

What This Course Is All About

About Me I have a degree in Marine Biology, with a focus on sharks I have worked in pet stores and cleaning aquariums professionally (like the ones at Chinese restaurants and dentist offices) Worked in restaurants – from washing dishes, to cooking, to busboy, to waiter.

I have done tech support at Microsoft

Mortgage loan officer, loan loss mitigation, and short sale negotiations.

Managed call centers and sales departments. Worked as a government civilian contractor on classified projects in South America and the Middle East.

Hello, I am Alan

Hi, I am Peter Alan

& Peter

What will be If I failed! I will be joke to everyone

Lets try to reach our dream atleast.

Its better to try than regret

What is a ‘Mindset’?

Mindset Mindset is the thoughts and

believes that you have

General Mindset Specific Mindset

Why Is Mindset Important?

Thoughts

Beliefs

Attitudes

Actions

Why Is Mindset Important?

Thoughts

Beliefs

Attitudes

Actions

•By analysis is an anti-pattern, the state of overanalyzing (or overthinking) a situation so that a decision or action is never taken, in effect paralyzing the outcome. A decision can be treated as overcomplicated with too many detailed options so that a choice is never made rather than trying something and changing if a major problem arises. A person might be seeking the optimal or “perfect” solution up front and fear making any decision that could lead to erroneous results while on the way to a better solution. (Wiki)

What is Analysis Paralysis?

Alan &

Peter Will I do it?

Or not? What if I fail again!

Mindset Time!

Nature vs. Nurture

Where Does Mindset Come From?

Family, Friends,

Peers, Teachers

Where Does Mindset Come From?

Just like our parents Or exact

Opposite

Where Does Mindset Come From?

Just like a 12 step program….

First step is admitting you have a problem

Second step – Fix It!

Trace it backwards

Negative Mindset

Family, Friends, Peers, And Other

People Experiences

Where does it come from?

Source of Negative Mindset

‘Memory’ Test

Positive

Negative

Negative Is Way Stronger In

Our Mind

Negative Ones Are Stronger

Negative Memories

Why Can’t Our Brain Just Be

Positive?

Alan &

Peter Volcano PETE!!!!

Brain’s Function:

Keep Us Alive &

Procreate

Survival Pain Avoidance

Brain’s Role

Pain Avoidance

Brain’s Role

Brain’s Role

What you were told when you were growing up…

Brain’s Role

‘Hey Brain – the world is safe!’

Really just

about safety UNTIL

procreation

What Are You Really Afraid Of?

…very little to

actually be afraid

of!

Completely ILLOGICAL!

Survival – Ensuring basic human needs (Food/Water, Shelter, Clothing)

Lowest Level:

Survival

Calmness Of Mind, Not Focused On ‘Survival’ At All Times

Now Mind Is Able To ‘Create’

Next Level:

Stability

Living out your purpose

Impacting future generations

Higher Level:

Success

WORLD

Highest Level: Significance

Why Do These Levels Matter?

Levels

Expectations

Negativity Gap

Experience

Gap = Disappointment

Negativity Gap

Negativity

Expectations

Gap = Disappointment

Experience

Negativity Gap

Negativity

Expectations

Gap = Disappointment

Experience

Bitterness & Anger

Negativity Gap

Negativity

Expectations

Gap = Disappointment

Experience

Bitterness & Anger

Alan &

Peter

Son! Don’t let your expectations killl you! The less you expect the

better you live. Not everyone can do all they want!

Negativity Gap

Negativity

Expectations

Gap = Disappointment

Experience

Bitterness & Anger

Negativity Gap

Expectations

Gap

Experience

Is Your Expectation Worthy Of You?

Is The Expectation Attainable?

Are You Willing To Do Whatever It Takes?

Realistic

Negativity Recap Family, Friends, Peers, and Other People

Parental influence – exactly the same, or exactly the opposite

There isn’t really much to truly be afraid of

Brain’s job

Four levels: Survival, Stability, Success & Significance

Expectation Gap

Don’t lower expectations….raise efforts!

Don’t let gurus tell you to set reasonable or realistic expectations

Anything other than ‘normal’ stands out

Living your passion and BIG WHY shows other it’s ‘possible’

Comfortable

Playing it safe

Keeping your dreams from

becoming reality

The ‘Middle’ mindset is

about avoiding risk

Alan &

Peter

Some people are Sheep (well…lots of people are)

Sheep want everyone to stick with the ‘herd’

Black Sheep

…get KILLED

Sheep don’t want you to get hurt

Provide ‘safe’ support

When One Crab Climbs Towards Freedom…

…The Other Crabs Drag It Down!

Is safety back in the ‘pile’?

If we can escape the ‘middle’ and follow

our passion…

Safety

…then it means it is actually possible!

Can be worse than a

Negative Mindset

Dangerously Mediocre

Be careful about who you share your goals with

Don’t Sheep & Crab other people!

Alan &

Peter

Positive Time

No limitations or barriers

Focused on passion and purpose

‘Let’s do this’ mindset

What Does Positivity Look Like?

Absence of stopping because

of fears and doubts

Optimistically blind to bad things

Use 90 Day Goal Example

Don’t Just Divide By 3 Months

Big Why

Circumstances Use 90 Day Goal

Example

Don’t Just Divide By 3 Months

Gabe Murfitt

Positive Mindset Examples

All about overcoming his challenges

Inspiring kids all around the country

http://gabemurfitt.com/

Nick Vujicic

Positive Mindset Examples

Life without limbs and without limits!’

http://www.nickvujicic.com/

Haixia (Blind) & Wenqi (No Arms)

Positive Mindset Examples

Planting trees to help the world!

http://www.onegreenplanet.org/news/blind-man-and-his-

armless-best-friend-plant-trees-in-china/

Are They As Bad As You Think They

Are?

Sometimes Yes, Sometimes No!

Your goals Your passion and BIG WHY are relative to YOU

Your Relativity

Never compare

Never feel like your goals/passions/Purp

ose are ‘good enough’

Your BELIEFS create your ATTITUDES which affects your ACTIONS

Mindset Recap

Focus on positive mindset variety

Live a life of purpose and passion.

Doubts & Fears…lead to…a Negative Mindset…which cause Analysis Paralysis and Procrastination on your

goals and passions.

‘Impossible Is Nothing’ attitude…causing you to be Positively Optimistic…allowing you to live your BIG

WHY!

Crab & Sheep don’t help!

Support

What does ‘real’ support look like?

Ever shared your dreams, hopes, goals and heard:

Non-Support

“You can’t do that”

“What makes you think you can do _______?”

Watch out for Haters!

The closer people are to you, the longer they have known you…

Support Proximity

Alan &

Peter Lets try my T-shirt idea. What can be worse! Lets be confident and try! I hope it

will work out.

Be careful, Especially at first,

Who you share with

Don’t assume others will want you to succeed

Find the RIGHT support!

Support

Should

Won’t ever get banned

Obligation

Guilt Negative

Yes everyone uses it…

Worst….Word….Ever!!

“You should go to college”

“You should clean your room”

“You should read a book instead of watching TV”

“You should take the dog for a walk”

“You should go outside and do something fun instead of sitting there playing video games. It’s a nice day outside!”

Should

You should eat better.

You should exercise.

You should read more self-help books.

You should read the Bible every day.

You should visit your parents/grandparents/family.

Should Sucks

Use language driven by your BIG WHY

Turn Should into Want

“I should eat healthier and exercise” (said while putting another donut into your mouth)

“I want to eat healthy and exercise so that I can be there for my family and watch my kids grow up.” Or (expert level) “I will eat healthy and exercise so that I can be an example of a healthy lifestyle to my family and others.”

Social Pressure

Fears

Doubts

Why Do We Should On Ourselves?

Instead…use language that is supportive of your BIG WHY

Don’t ‘should’ on other people either!

No such thing as a permanent, perfect mindset

Action Time

Admit you have a

(negative/mediocre mindset)

problem

Action Step: #1

Identify Fears & Doubts

Action Step: #2

What Is Running Your Life?

List of ways you

Procrastinate

Action Step: #3

Compare lists…create

your ultimate ‘Cause’ and

‘Symptom’ list

Action Step: #4

Positive Mindset +

Taking Action

Action Step: #5 Must have both parts of the

formula!

‘Motivation is not enough. If you take an idiot and motivate him, you then have a

motivated idiot.’ – Zig Ziglar

Habits

Or “The chains of habit are too weak to be felt until they are too strong to be broken”

– Samuel Johnson

Phases Of Creating A

New Habit:

Honeymoon

Stall

Doubt Persistence

Autopilot

Habits

How Long Will That Take?

Get REAL Support

Habits

Find A Mindset Accountability Partner

Here are some basic steps to

help you develop this habit:

• Stop what you are doing and/or thinking about • Ask yourself questions like these: • “Is what I am doing right now the best thing for me to do?” • “Why am I doing this if it’s not getting me where I want to be?”

• Take time out to identify mindset issue – journaling, meditating, going for a walk – whatever will help you dive into what you are thinking and where it came from (just make sure that this task isn’t one of your procrastination symptoms)

Do You Have A New Understanding Of

Lastly… There Is A Right

Mindset –

Live Your Passion And Purpose

Now

Alan &

Peter Thanks Alan.

Your motivation change my life!

I did nothing Peter. Everybody should just overcome their fear and

follow their dream.

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