STOP ASSUMING, START ASKING QUESTIONS:HOW TO TURN CONFLICT INTO
COLLABORATION
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Get interested in the grey areas.
Both sides needed to win.
Positions
Interests
Needs
Common ground
Position
Interest
Need
I swapped my placards for post-it notes.
Listen
Listening is not the same as waiting to speak.
Reflect
Clarify
Really useful questions:
What do you want to see?
Can you tell me more about that?
What would that give you?
What do you want to achieve, that this could help you with?
Not really questions:
Have you thought about doing this instead?
What kind of dumb idea is that?
You haven’t really thought this through, have you?
It’s not helpful to rescue people.
Position
Interest
Need
We move from conflict to collaboration when we listen louder to the things we don’t
understand; when we move away from being right, towards the
uncomfortable truths.
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