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Experiences based on actions taken to fulfill desiresDecember 21, 2009 at 11:32pm

Our drive for success and happiness in life is often directly proportional to the intensity of our

desires.

Desire is the gas which fuels all movement especially the actions we pursue for fulfilling these

desires.

Is there a formula for ensuring that ouractions get us to the desired results?

We always have within us all the resources that we would ever need...knowledge,experience and

wisdom.

Success and failure in life is really not determined by how much effort we put in to succeed, but

probably by how aware we are about what we would love to do when our life situation demands

it. So the key to unlocking our first door is being aware and acting on that awareness as and

when required.

Starting from 4th Jan'09 through this page, we would be discussing through short video,

discussions, daily action tips, the various flairs ofexperiences based on action one takes on

pursuits taken to fulfill desires.

Look forward to connecting with everyone ... See you soon.

New Year 2010 & IntentJanuary 5, 2010 at 8:12am

Power of Intent

Welcome to 2010, a new year with a new mindset, a new attitude …

There is an innate desire to dump pain, misery with the bygone Old Year.

Comes with New Year a lot of optimism…

What is different?

Otherwise it is just another day… just that the reference has changed.

This brings us to some awareness. Aware that a year has past and a new year has begun.

Awareness is the key to life …

It gives us the time to think & retrospect.


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What brings flair to life are the experiences. Everyone has the right to experiences of their

choices. We therefore around this time find ourselves dumping the discomforting experiences

and looking forward to pleasant experiences.

Every New Year a lot of resolutions are made. Resolutions to experience life appropriately.

We stand today at a point where we can make choices. The choice of how we want to experience

life. Hence, friends, let us bring our awareness to the choices we make to experience the

experiences we go through.

One of life’s sublime tragedies is that most of our life we are on Auto-Pilot, unaware why we are

doing what we are doing, why we are behaving the way we are behaving… making grandiose

conclusions that life is painful, sucks, isn’t giving what we want…

Why isn’t life giving us the experiences we so desired, we wanted? Are we truly aware, what it is

that we want from life?

Have we ever thought what is that we want when we do something, like brushing teeth, eating

food, relationships we get into, jobs we do, even an evening we spend … for every action we

take, simplest, mundane to the most important...

If things are on auto-pilot, results are also on auto-pilot.

If we all want our lives to work, which we definitely are sure we want, then the key is to be aware

and putting the right intent.

Life has shown us at many occasions, that the intent with which we start a process is exactly

what gets delivered at the end of the process.

Therefore clear intent is the key to desired experiences

Desires -> Action -> Experiences

Desires fuel action, which gives us the various experiences we go through. Kind of experiences

one goes through is completely a result of the intent one puts out with the desire beforecommitting to an action.

All discomforting experiences are an outcome of an improper intent. Hence let us bring our

awareness to the Intent.

If the desire is from a void, then the intent of the action is skewed and hence experiences are

unpleasant. Let the intent come from deep desires of the self. Feel the desires completely and

then intent appropriately.

Life gives us many chances. Now is an opportunity to take charge of life, intent appropriately,

think differently & watch the magic of that intent unfold.


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Make conscious choices by putting out the appropriate intent. Train your sub-conscious to pause

before every action and make the appropriate intent. Watch the magic of Universe unfold before

you giving you the right experiences you desired.

Think differently, intent appropriately

Intent for every experience, right from food, fun & abundance in your life.

You have the right to your experience, not to its ownership.

Best wishes for a very Happy & a Prosperous New Year 2010

What role are you playing?January 18, 2010 at 9:43am

The world is a stage, all the men and women merely players – William Shakespeare.

So, if truly men and women are merely playing roles on this large platform and they play their part

well, then the Oscars for that role would follow. We all love rewards … don’t we?

Rewards are the successful fulfillment of our desires… as we discussed last time, if the rightintent is put out, the appropriate results will follow. These rewards you truly deserve.

To qualify for the Oscars each one needs to play their own unique role to perfection. Each one of

us has a specific role we have to play on this large stage of the universe.

The society, the family, the religion & the country in which we are born superimpose a role for us

making it cryptic to identify our larger, unique role in the universe. We get programmed to play

this superimposed role largely based on expectations and for most of us this programming

prevents us from playing the larger unique role of the universe we are meant to play and hence

pain, misery, discontent follows.

So ask your self this one basic question, do you feel in your heart that you are playing that role

which you are the only one meant to play? Which has no pain, misery & discontent but a lot of

pleasure and bliss…

If the answer is “yes”, just hang in there; the Oscars is on its way …

For those who are not so sure, here is an opportunity in this very moment; ask yourself this

question; if I am not playing the role I am meant to play and Oscars are not coming my way …

then how can I determine what my role in my life is?


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If this becomes your intent, then it is exactly what the Universe will give you.

So make intent to the Universe to guide you about what your role in life is meant to be.

Spot the role, crack the plot, the nominations are right there and the Oscars follows …

See you soon.

How to identify your unique role, use intent

appropriately for manifestation and liberation ...February 1, 2010 at 8:06pm

We all have a role and the role is specific. The game of life begins with us discovering that role.

The universe plays this game with us so well, does not tell us straight away, but leaves plenty ofclues. Its like playing a treasure hunt. Sometimes the clues take u nearer, sometimes farther.

How does one pick clues to identify ones role? These clues are simple, they are powerful but

they need to be deciphered correctly. The first and the biggest clue from where it all starts is this

absolutely fantastic, superb, mind blowing emotion oflove. The game starts with love. What is

that you simply love? One of the ways to understand love is to let the mind free. Close your eyes

and identify.... what is that you love? If it doesn't exist in your world, then imagine what would you

love?

Imagination is the most powerful cosmic tool for evolution and discovery. So drop all yourbarriers, every layer of conditioning that is keeping you stuck in your box. Let your mind fly free

and imagine, what is that you love? When to your imagination you will add this very powerful

emotion of love it creates this heavy cocktail called passion. With the intellect when one develops

the courage to follow one's passion it becomes a source of inspiration. With inspiration there

would be a purpose to life.

So the biggest clue is to get in touch with what you love, discover that and follow it to the "Tee"

and the universe will conspire to give you the route to fulfill the inspiration. An easy way of

understanding if you are on track, if you are playing your role in life or not is a very simple two

step process:

Step 1: Do you love what you are doing?

Step 2: Is the universe making the process effortless for you?

If you are playing the role you are supposed to play the Universe will keep approving every single

take of yours as an actor .

Broadly, from my observations, if that would help you identify your role, one incarnates for one of

the following seven different reasons:

1. Spiritual - influencing destiny of millions - e.g. Gandhi, Mother Theresa

2. Mental - curious souls - need for find answers for why, all scientists


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3. Vocational - career - artists, painters, corporate . experience success

4. Financial - love money - love to feel, touch, experience .

5. Familial - through relationship - house wives who just love supporting and find joy in taking

care of others

6. Social - networking, making friends .

7. Physical - people who love their body - actors .

A simple clue would be, close your eyes, check out the happiest moments of your life, those

moments where if time stopped and if the universe told you pack your bags, its time to go..

you would have absolutely no regret to leave this world.

Has there been any moment in your life where you would be very happy departing from this

planet having lived a moment of completion? That is your clue on the unique role the universe

has for you.

So far about love, now let us talk about movement. So in our lives we have love and we have

movement. Wherever we have movement, there is a flow . we are moving from yesterday to today

and then tomorrow. we are always on the move.We are always on the move, as we want

happiness, because we are unhappy, we want peace because we are ruffled, we want

abundance because we feel poor and we want love because we feel we are unloved

So our entire journey of life is like a pendulum. We are constantly moving .from completion to

incompletion. The huge truth about us is that we are constantly moving between a void, which

gives us an impetus to seek a route, which would make us complete. We are moving always to

complete the void with this nowadays-fancy term "manifestation".What are we doing practically?

We are looking at the void and we are starting with our intent that we do not have this .. so let usget it.. which means when the intent is looking at the void the cycle of manifestation starts there.

So the only thing one lands up is manifesting a bigger void.

Change this mindset now, go back to your intent and start experiencing a feeling of being

complete. That feeling of being complete will only come when one discovers what is that they

love, because when one is operating out of love, then one isn't looking for anything in return, if

there isn't anything expected in return, there is nothing anybody can take away from you, nothing

to be lost as you would be operating in total and complete abundance. So whenever you do

anything you love, you are operating from a position of abundance in it and when you operate

with abundance the feeling is complete.

When the feeling is complete, that becomes like a magic mindset mirror, which transforms your

mind, attitude, and you start operating from a premise of being complete in one area that creates

ripple effects. Since humans are magnets, that completion rubs off into all the other areas of life

and slowly one experiences completion in all areas of life. Many of us keep wishing, wishing that

some mythical, magical power that would grant every wish . The universe in its abundant wisdom

has given us a powerful tool called the mind which is what we could use for manifestation. That is

what all the new age self help books speak about, which is creative visualization, laws of

attraction, the secret, all of them focus on manifestation through ones mind, through love, through

passion.


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Where there is manifestation, there is an equal and opposite force "liberation". It is when your

game of manifestation is complete that at an opportune moment the universe will step in and will

liberate you from whatever it is that is keeping you stuck .Friends, focus at this moment on one

single thought..

Discover what is that you love, embrace it completely, it will give you a feeling of completion, that

will rub off into every area of life which is not working at the moment . when this happens, you

have your Oscar !!!

Keep this going and we will discuss further in our next meetings. .

Faith & LoveFebruary 15, 2010 at 7:49am

If we want life's rewards, i.e., the Oscars of Life, which are happiness, joy, success, peace and

anything and everything we are craving for, and we are all actors on this large stage then you

must play your part well.

The role is one that we have willingly and carefully chosen to play in the movie of life under an

extremely talented director. So, if we are all actors,who willingly signed up for playing a role and

there is an extremely talented director, then just think.. how we would play that role .

How would you go about acting that role to perfection?

1. Study your our part carefully

2. Feel that part completely, you are no longer acting, and you are the part. This comes through

the language of love; understand the part you are meant to play through the feeling of love.

Once you embrace your part, the next facet of the making of the movie is having complete faith in

your director. Faith is completely necessary, in the director - the talented cosmic director of this

universe, while you pay attention to your part .

In the movie there will be other lead actors and actresses. Some will share the lead platform

along with you. These are people closest to you, perhaps your family, your professional

colleagues, these are people whose decisions, actions and emotions cast a profound impact on

you. but to play your part successfully your focus must be on you executing your part. while you

need to be aware and sensitive, to your co-actors, at no point of time, being sensitive should ever

take anything away from you embracing this role uniquely, completely and effortlessly.

This is where most of us miss a step, because we are constantly looking at the environment,

society to give us feedback on how we are playing out our role !!! We thus ask our co-actors,

actresses to give us feedback which then becomes our focus and we adjust our role play to suit

them. We don't realize that when we do this we are breaking an unspoken rule in playing a role in


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a film as an actor, which is, implicit faith in the script and the director.

So if there is something you truly love, embrace it, live it out, watch your environment, be

sensitive, but don't compromise your truth. Coz we are all petrified of being rejected, as social

animals we are petrified, by our religion, our own beliefs with which we fashioned our lives, with

the moral standards and ethics that our society super imposed on us when we were growing up .

by our own securities whether this role can make our career, by our fears if it would give us the

necessary money to support a living, by our own demonic doubts, our families, our friends, our

societies accepting our part.

Thus very often our life moves to a fear based role-play instead of an love based role play. When

we are operating out of a fear-based role-play the rewards naturally start dwindling.

So if you have had the good fortune or divine grace to figure out what is that you love doing, what

it is that when you are doing time space loose relevance, what it is that when your are doing your

heart stops, you would have absolutely no regrets to leave. If you have figured that out, face your

fears .Close your eyes and go through every fear, which keeps you from embracing your part,

your role, go through it, one by one, face your fears.

What is the worst that could happen? Close your eyes.

- Will your religion outcast you?

- Will the beliefs that you grew up with downsize you ?

- Will your family throw you out ?

Live out the worst !!! But in you heart of heart, stick to your love. You will be pleasantly surprisedat the outcome.

An actor after studying his part, living out that part with complete passion under the able hands

and guidance of a divine director, the results are and will be spectacular. Sure there will be

doubts, there will be fear.

Close your eyes, go through those fears, have implicit faith in your love. Faith and love, friends

are the keys.

Grab that key right now and make the leap of faith, best of luck.

So, did u get an opportunity to face your fears?February 21, 2010 at 7:34am

When fear strikes, most of us have a natural tendency to run - we flight, we don't want to face our

fears. The tragedy of life is that, the more you run away from your fear, the more it will stalk you, it

will keep pursuing you, many times across time and space, until sometime, one day, something

inside you snaps and you turn around and say, let me face it! Fight it!The moment you get the

courage, the belief, to fight your fear, it is no longer a fear!


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So, if you have got the opportunity of going through the entire story we are discussing until now

through this medium, of what is your love and identifying every single fear which prevents you

from living it out, then you are "walking the talk".

For any change to come, friends, there are three inherent basic steps in the process:

1. Receiving the knowledge or the wisdom, which dispels the darkness within your space

2. After receiving the wisdom, one goes through an internal re-wiring, a re-wiring in which one

mentally applies this knowledge or wisdom to the situation in ones own mind. This is when one

mentally confronts all their fears

3. Implementing this knowledge, wisdom and walking with it in ones day to day life.

No Oscar award was ever won by shooting in the rehearsal room!!! It was neither won by reading

the script over and over again. No Oscar award was also won by one telling self what a fantastic

role he/she has written for self!!! For the Oscars, you have to act in front of the camera. Walk out

there, walk through your life, play your part. This is where you must take your leap of faith. Faith

in yourself, faith in your director.

Remember, everything you are holding on to your dear self at this moment of time, which can

induce the fear of loss, everything, be it your name, be it your job, be it your family, be it your

relationships, be it your beliefs, are all transient in nature.

One of the biggest truths in life is that "everything in this world comes with an expiry date". As a

matter of fact, the most intimate relationship one shares in life is with their breath, because, that

is the only one which stays with them right from their birth to the point they decide to move into

the light at death. Even breath terminates at that point! After breath, the second most intimaterelationship you have is with your own core, with your own self, with your own truth, with your own

love. Every other relationship is nothing but a transient experience. To prolong a transient

experience would you ever run the risk of compromising with your core? If you were wise, you

would never do that, because transient experiences will come and go, but what you are at your

core will remain with you.

Once you shift your focus from the outside environment and move into your own inner space,

walking your life with faith, embracing it with love, knowing fully that in the short term, there will

be ripples of conflict, but fear not. There is the strength of love in your heart. If your love is true, if

it is genuine, it will always win.

How do you know that your love is genuine?

Oh! When you think of that activity, there are tears of inspiration, there are moments of profound

gratitude, there is this light feeling that there is nothing in this world that could really matter and

there is an amazing retrospective clarity in life. Wisdom dawns, illumination happens and life

becomes very simple. Once you have understood what is that you love, battle your fears,

conquer them in your head. Understand that if one is here, there is a lot of cosmic support to play

that part which one has chosen. Go ahead in the outside world and walk the talk, having implicit

faith.Take the first big step, "do it". The rewards are in the doing, in the moment.


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When you start playing your role effortlessly, the awareness naturally moves away from the

rewards . the rewards do not matter anymore, because the rewards are in the moment itself, the

sheer joy, the sheer bliss, the sheer experience of being involved in every frame of the movie that

you are involved and playing a role in, that pleasure of the moment becomes the reward itself.

When one wins Oscars moment by moment, people around, universe decides that you have

done a fantastic role and you do deserve your eternal oscar as well. But let that not be the

barometer of influence. It should be in ones ability, conviction and strength to live ones love

minute by minute, moment by moment, absolutely in the now and let the universe take care of the

rest of it.

May you enjoy implementing this every single second. Till we meet again happy introspecting!!!

Summarizing the philosophy so far ...March 11, 2010 at 7:15pm

We are at an extremely important junction in the flow of our thoughts. We are exploring and

understanding the process of life through a fantastic movie made by the universal creator, who is

its director, scriptwriter and screen play writer as well. When we focus on this movie we realize

there are so many scenes in the movie that are full of suspense. There are many scenes of

actions, tears, melodrama, humour and sometimes there are a few scenes appearing to be

completely out of place.

Yet if the movie is an award winning movie everything makes complete sense always. So at times

when we watch the film, we realize that the answer that we are looking for comes in some

subsequent scene. But since our minds are attuned to constantly moving across times, unsure of

ourselves, insecure of our results, focusing on the end result rather than in the doing, we now

want the security of an answer in advance and that is when our focus moves away from playing

our role in the moment. So, if you have implicit faith in playing your role in the moment effortlessly

and with complete faith, in the fact that at an appropriate point in the movie, the master director

up there will pull out his magic rabbit and a scene enters your life that completely changes your

paradigm of your existence. The scene may not be clear to you right now, the scene may not

appear on your horizon at this moment, but remember that the scene is there and that

remembrance comes from faith. Faith that the director is brilliant and that he has written out a

fantastic script. You would never act in a script, which is not in consonance with your core

theme.

At every point of time, friends, you are The lord and master of your own destiny. If you have

written out a script and role for yourself, then rest assured, that script and role has wisdom, it has

the rewards, it has joy and bliss inbuilt into it. Sometimes, you just need the patience and the

wisdom to be with it . act your part with complete love and remember the universe will give you

that opportunity that is guaranteed. You will get an opportunity to play your part with love and

when you embrace your part with love, keep your conviction in your heart clear. The result may

not be immediate, but if you keep the faith, at an appropriate juncture in your movie, the right

scene comes up with the right result, the suspense is over and the drama is over and there is this

fantastic feel good factor in your heart which tell you the movie was absolutely worth acting and


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living out in totality.

To summarize this thought process what we covered in these 5 videos:

1. You are the lord and the master of your own destiny

2. You have chosen the role in which you are going to act

3. You have a director who is brilliant, impeccable track record, one who has not failed over

thousands of years.

4. You have actors and actresses who are co-sharing the platform with you.

5. Focus on your role

6. Feel the love in the role, which is how it is identified.

7. Be sensitive to actors and actresses in the scene, but your focus should be constantly on your

role.

8. In every moment of your acting the role with love, the reward is following

9. The scene changes perhaps sometimes after a while to convince you that you are on the right

track

10.You live out all this in sequence, you crack life, easily smoothly and effortlessly.

Go over these 10 points, in the middle there are diversions of fears of incompletion, face them,

challenge them, just like if you were to prepare yourself for any part. Orient yourself to this

philosophy totally and completely with every breath so that the next time I come back right back

into your lives, with the subtler tips on how once you have identified your role, you are going to

refine it like a master. You are going to polish it like a diamond, so that in this universal jewellery

collection your unique gemstone, that quality which you embody, which you represent, shines

throughout this universe in its own impeccable uniquely ebullient way.

Enjoy this journey,

Welcome to our concluding episode on intent &

thought - how this potent combination manufactures

our realityMarch 29, 2010 at 1:36pmBefore we move onto the next segment of the program, I would like to leave all of you with one

hypothesis, something which I would like all of you to consider, maybe read it a couple of times

and identify how your own life has spun a unique drama around your core. This takes us back to

the reason of our existence or our purpose on this planet. It all comes down to the experience the

soul is choosing to go through its physical incarnation. This experience isn't about it being a good

experience or a bad experience...it merely is an experience and at times it is larger than life ...and

the only language this experience can be understood and can be deciphered or decoded by is

the language of love.

Love is the power of creation. Love is the language of the soul. The soul chooses the experiencewhich it wishes to go through in its incarnation on earth. However, existence on the earth has its


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own pluses and minuses and there are no free lunches on this planet. The moment you decide to

participate in this game of life, there is a gate pass which allows you to participate in this game

and this is where our challenge with ourselves begins...So, the soul chooses the experience, it

chooses the incarnation, arrives on earth and the moment it arrives on earth it is thrust right in

the middle of inescapable cauldron of programming. This programming,these perceptions come

largely from our parents, from the society in which we are born, from the religion in which we

choose to incarnate, from the education we receive and the economic status we are growing up.

Each one of these in its own unique way leave a huge perceptive imprint in our own mind.

This perceptive imprint in most cases, goes way, way on the other side of what the soul has

chosen to experience. Life now becomes a conflict. Very few of us have the courage to recognize

and challenge it and most of us succumb to the perception and treat this perception as the holy

truth and this truth now becomes our belief. Once this belief is established, our mind works

overtime, to prove this belief through what we call the drama of life. So if you take a random

sample of people across the world, you would probably discover that maybe 70 or 80 or even

90% of people on this planet are not happy with their lives and the reason is not very difficult to

comprehend.They are not happy because their life is not moving in tandem with the experience

they had chosen at the soul level.

The only person who can bring this back on track is you. Even God up there cannot help you in

bring you back on track for the soul experience because on earth we have free will, we have the

power to choose, we have the power to decide. Where you are in your life, you have a choice,

choice of continuing to grumble, choice of continuing to suffer, choice of continuing to become a

martyr, choice of continuing to loosing yourself to the greater glory of others, becoming a dead

duck in the bargain and eventually die a sad and solemn death ... you can choose that bybecoming a victim to the perceptive filters running your lives.

That is one choice. The flip side of the model is to get in touch with what you truly love and do not

worry about whether this love fits into the perceptive model of this world or not. Your job is not to

fit your love into a perception, the world will build perceptions around what you love ...So if you

identify what you love and you have the courage and the will to make the first shift on your own,

the first step to reclaiming your joy, your happiness, your completion, if you want to do that, it is

absolutely imperative that you make the first move of reclaiming, moving, stepping forward and

embracing what you love, that one huge act of courage. The moment you do that friends, believe

me, this magnificent machinery of what we call as the universal pool of manifestive wisdom willstart working overtime and you will start generating miracle after miracle in your life. A miracle

which will instantly transform your life from a pedestrian existence to an extremely sublime

journey; A miracle which will transform your entire being from a human who is vacillating from an

extremes of pain and pleasure to an enlightened master who is enjoying this journey of life in

bliss. Learn to discover and embrace what you love. The key to happiness lies in your love for

yourself.

From here on, our subsequent sections will focus on how once our thoughts and intent are in

place what is that we should check in our behavior to make this package deal absolutely

complete.


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Thought to Process - Step 1 - Love yourself & the

world loves you...

April 15, 2010 at 7:43pmWelcome to the second segment of this journey. This journey in which, I am your friend,

colleague, your co-traveller, looking for my own destinations, my own answers, just like you are,

perhaps enjoying this journey the way you must be enjoying too.

I am going to share an extremely personal side of mine with all of you, perhaps these are shades

of my being which are not very well known, for all of you who are not aware, I started my journey

from a very different background. I was associated with financial markets for a long time. In the

year 1993-94, I went through a devastating & shocking financial crisis, which absolutely wiped

me and my family clean. Those were tough days when I probably saw death first hand, days in

which I personally had become an object of ridicule, from so many people in the environment,people who I had thought were very close to me. and when people who are close to you hurt

you.. It hurts, it really hurts and yet today Yuvraj Kapadia is sitting, walking this with you with love,

joy and a lot of fun. Often when I think back on those times and I wonder, what is that I held on to

for dear life ? What is that which helped me preserve my sanity, which helped this Yuvraj Kapadia

emerge out of an absolute abyss of darkness... just one thing

Throughtout my journey, I never lost love for myself, never ever lost love for myself. Since we are

the magnet which spins our reality around us, I held onto that love, I constantly told myself that I

am unique and I am here for a purpose, something happening in my life is a drama I have

chosen to play. I know it sounds difficult but I did that. Never lost my self respect, never lost mylove, perhaps just lost a passage of time.

The world does to you exactly what you do to yourself. Always remember this.. the first golden

rule of happy existence. You want to have fun in life ? You want to feel loved by people ? You

want to be accepted by this universe ? It all starts with you doing the same thing to yourself.

Make a list of all the things you would love doing, just for yourself, no matter how people perceive

it, don't worry, do it, start working and moving to a state where your focus is joy, the joy of being,

the love of living.. and as you start doing that my friends, you will naturally start seeing a major

miracle unfolding.., it is a question of time and space. when the universe around you will start

mirroring exactly the same story.

So, if for example, you keep doubting yourself. then the only thing you will see in the universe

around you is greater and greater opportunities for greater and greater doubt !!!If you keep hating

yourself. The only thing you will attract from this universe is hate and more hate from people. If

you keep feeling miserable about yourself the only people whom you will attract in your universe

are the ones who will make you feel more miserable. So the story, my friends is only YOU, YOU

& ONLY YOU,... now that your awareness is getting ready to shift from being an absolutely

unaware actor to an aware actor. Just check this out. All good actors at some point of time in their

career start becoming very aware of how they are acting. they keep watching their own movies,

why do they do that ? Well, because they love themselves. They just love themselves fully. It is

the same with cricketers, all the good cricketers will keep watching their own innings. because as


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you keep watching yourself, you love yourself and you open yourself up to betterment, things just

keeps getting better and better. Bottom line, you are moving from unaware actor to aware actor

from aware actor to your own director and finally god willing and I am truly hoping for all of us,

that this exercise we have launched together with my intent and your support and beyond that

with universal consent and blessing, if this journey is pulled off right, I am extremely confident

that each and every one of us will finally land up taking charge, dawning the mantle, of being our

own producers as well. So, once again, choice. If you want to move, from being an unaware actor

to becoming producer, director and lead actor of your movie with complete awareness, start

loving yourself fully. Start treating yourself with complete respect. Become your own role model,

admire yourself and as you start doing all these things to yourself, naturally you will start seeing

your environment conspiring to mirror itself in your belief.

It is a very, very basic truth but it is very huge. Love yourself the world loves... you hate yourself

the world hates you because the world around you my friends is nothing but an amplified mirror

of your own attitude and your belief to yourself. Sounds simple, is very simple. Nothing difficult,

nothing complicated.

We are now moving from the concept to the action.. we are now moving from thought to process.

and the first step in the process again is love and accept yourself wherever you are, right now,

100%. Start doing that and then with a hawk's eye, just watch, what's happening in the

environment, magic is just about to unfold.

Understanding love through Human BehaviorApril 26, 2010 at 9:51am

I am back with a very concrete action plan this time.

Since many of us find it difficult to make the journey inwards into what we truly love, fully and

completely, which, ideally should be the approach, in reality, for many of us, it is not so simple.

There is too much of pressure from the environment, from our own people and these are people

we love, parents, children, spouse, colleagues, each one of them demanding a certain

behavior… this could take one far away from whatever one would have love for oneself… so in

case that route is a little difficult, another very simple approach is getting into the depth of human

behavior.

So, from this segment onwards, I am going to share with you a few very simple truths, of how we

all behave. Why am I sharing this with you? If you understand this, you will probably understand

why people around you are behaving how they are behaving… because the principles of

behavior don’t change… and if you can understand why people around you are behaving the way

they are behaving… it obviously becomes very simple then to make peace with your own self.

Most of us always conclude when things in our life especially things in our relationships are not

going too well, we are right, we are hurt, people around us are mean, they are going out of their

way to actually, literally jack us !!! But they are behaving the way they are, simply because they

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So let’s begin this exercise of understanding how we all behave. The first very simple truth on this

journey is starting with a postulate, which says, people always work perfectly… yes, the

statement is bold and is subject to a lot of questioning instantly and is triggering a lot of questions

in your mind and thinking what crap !!! How can this be justified!!! Hold it and think.

Every person doing whatever activity he or she is doing, is doing it based on his or her internal

meter of perfection which may or may not match your own meter. So very often if you are in a

company and if you believe that you are absolutely indispensable to the company, you need to be

needed all the time, then my friends….u r in a jack…ask me why? Most of us have this as a vital

belief as that is how we feed our bruised and battered egos… whenever we realize that we are

absolutely indispensable to a system, or to another person, all that we are doing is using that as

an excuse to shore up our own battered self esteem because the fact of the matter is no body is

indispensable. Breathing is there today, it will stop tomorrow and things will go on… simple truth

of life !!! Nothing stop !!! Things just go on!!!

It is our lack of self worth which makes us believe, that we are intrinsic to the successful

existence of other people in our lives. The fact is… we are not!!! Having said that, if you still follow

that belief, that you are absolutely indispensable, what are you going to manifest in your

company? You are going to manifest people around you in your company who will make sure that

some mistake or the other remains committed because that gives you a reason to justify your

basic belief that you are indispensable. Where does this take you? You will keep hiring more and

more people who will make silly mistakes and you will not only land up dishing out their salaries

and supervising them too, just to hold the belief that you are indispensable.

Now, a very good way of flipping this model is, if your staff is making a silly mistake some where

or the other and they are consistently making this one mistake, then are you able to spot a

pattern that they are doing everything else absolutely correct. This basically means that they

have perfected the art of executing your task with only one mistake. Who ever said that perfection

was getting things 100% right? Perfection is simply mapping and delivering a consistent output to

a certain belief, that is perfection; there is no other benchmark for perfection. So if your staff has

mastered the art of making only one mistake and that too because you want to feel that you are

indispensable, that is exactly what they would do. Shocking…is it not? Now, if your ego permits

you to break this cycle, start focusing on the 99 things that they are doing correctly. Now, if this is

done, I know for a short while, there might be turbulence in your organization, in your life, maybea little disturbing, but by and large the love that you will start to feel in your heart, when you start

appreciating the 99% of the things which are happening correctly, in your estimate, is what will

actually transform that 99% into 100%.

Think about it, so the next time your servant makes a mistake at home just think of the ten other

things the same servant is doing absolutely correctly. I am not for a moment saying that you must

condone what is wrong or what doesn’t work, but since where ever your mind focuses is exactly

what you will get, If you mind focuses in picking faults in others, then the only thing you will get in

your universe will be people with more and more faults. Let us focus instead on the good things

people are doing around you, appreciate that. That will make you feel love and the moment youwill start feeling this love in an absolutely subtle and silent manner, this potent transformative


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power of love will make sure that whatever change is required to be introduced into the system

happens painlessly, effortlessly, compassionately & lovingly.

Be the change you wish to see around you. So if people work perfectly start applying the same

paradigm to yourself. You are also working perfectly. So wherever you are in life at this matter, no

matter what you are doing, you are doing just fine. If this statement brings a smile on your face, I

believe this exercise is absolutely worth the effort. Right here, right now, wherever you are, you

are fine. Enjoy this...

Human Behavior - await external environment

sanctioning our happinessMay 20, 2010 at 12:29amAt one level most of us still depend on our environment to sanction our happiness; we depend on

our loved ones to love us to make us feel loved . Let's unravel this game a little deeper.

A huge truth about human behaviour revolves around communication. The truth simply states

that the meaning of the communication is the result that it gets. Most of us in life, especially when

we are dependant on an environmental interaction are completely focused only on what we are

saying and since we are dependant on the environment, if we disconnect from the result that the

environment gives us we invite pain.

For example, this communication is happening in English and for this communication to be

effective; all of you must understand English. But if all of you have no clue of this language, and

then the meaning of my communication is entirely redundant, useless, and stupid, which is what

is seen with many trainers in several workshops. We are all constantly showing the world what

we know, which is fine provided we are operating out of self love, which we are not. so since we

are looking for an approval from people, the only way you will get that approval is when you

speak what they want to hear. So if you speak what the people want to hear, it is but natural that

you will get exactly the result you wanted to get in the first place.

Making sense? Think about it? You want leave from work. Ok, so you go ahead and tell the boss,

I need leave tomorrow. Boss is already thinking, Oh gosh, if this guy takes leave tomorrow, there

is a deadline to be achieved for a certain project report which he was to submit and thanks to you

taking leave perhaps he will not be able to make that submission,... chances of you being granted

that leave are very poor. But the moment you tell the boss, I have made arrangements for the

submission, don't worry, nothing for you will get stuck, the report will be delivered to you by so

and so person,in that case can I take leave tomorrow? Rest assured my friends, the leave is

guaranteed. You will get the result that you require.

This is true at every single juncture of life. So when you appreciate other people naturally in turn

they land up appreciating you. You get exactly what you want. When you help other people

succeed in life rest assured your own success is guaranteed. A lot of times in life when it comes


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to this communication, the reason we disconnect from the environment is because we get

emotionally involved in what we are saying and the moment we get emotionally involved in what

we are saying, we seek justification for the communication the way we are projecting it. And of

course, since it does not bring the desired result, it keeps the flag of conflict continuing into

perpetuity.

So just pause for a moment and put yourself into the shoes of the other person, and understand

what is it that the other person wants to hear. If you figure that out and speak exactly that

language, then whatever you want from that person gets delivered to you effortlessly. Sometimes

following this requires you to challenge your own perception and belief. So if you have a boss

who likes to be praised, if you have a boss who likes to control people, give him the control,

praise the boss, no problems, give him exactly what he needs. If you deliver to him exactly what

he needs whatever you want from him gets delivered to you effortlessly.

This is so true when it comes to dealing with our own children. Most of the time when it comes to

our children we are constantly telling them what to do, all the time and we expect our children to

listen to us round the clock. Have we ever paused to think how much do we listen to what the

child wants to tell us? Without getting irritated, without pushing, what is the child is trying to tell

us? Can we process this without our own filter of perception? Many parents say, of course we

talk to the child all the time, we always want to know what is happening in the child's life. Sure,

what they want to know is what happened at school, what is the homework that has to be done.

that's the last thing the child wants to talk to the parents! The child probably may want to tell how

he went on to the road and played cricket and scored a brilliant 50 runs !!! The child probably

wants to tell you about what happened with his friend in school and how he managed to get two

marbles extra in a game he was playing. Are we willing to listen to that? No, we are not and thenwe expect our children to listen to us all the time. So, if only you could take out ten or fifteen

minutes in the day when you are just listening to what your child wants to tell you and listening

carefully without interruptions making the child feel extremely important as if at that moment the

only thing that exists for you is your child. Believe me my friends for the rest of the time in the day

the child will listen to you completely.

Think about this. Do unto others what you want others to do to you !!If you want results, help

people, achieve and get the results that they are looking for. The moment you crack that, it is

another missing piece in your jigsaw puzzle. You can't find your own piece, no problem, just help

arrange the other pieces that are obviously falling into place. That is easy because universe istalking to you the environment is talking to you it is telling you exactly what it wants from you.

Help that fall into place, you get your result automatically & naturally as a corollary. Always

remember this, you want the results? Give other people the result they want first. This challenges

your belief, your perception, do it, you will get your result.

This of course since we are taking the entire module from the perception of the external

environment talking to us for us to figure out what we want to do. Going back two videos, if you

are already on the path of self-love, then you can just chill and watch the video without trying to

apply any part of it. The choice is completely yours, but for those of us who are still looking at the

environment as a feedback mechanism for self acceptance these are a few simple rules whichwill help your life become better, simpler, much more effective in turn polishing you for your Oscar


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of life.

Enjoy and have fun.

Problem can never be sorted out at the level at

which you create itJune 7, 2010 at 8:30pm

Hi, continuing our series on mastering our lives …through understanding our mind. Let us look at

how our minds are working right now. At one level, we are all seeking peace, we are all seeking

happiness, we are all seeking abundance. Which one of us is not! If that is what we are seeking,

it is pretty obvious that perhaps we do not have it, because, if we had it, we would not be seeking

it. So, if we are not happy, not peaceful, let us understand what makes us unhappy.

Broadly speaking everything that makes us feel unhappy falls only in one of the following two

categories:

a) The way other people behave with us or the way the situation jacks us up!

b) Our own behaviour.

There is nothing in this world, which has the ability to make you feel upset, UNLESS YOU

DECIDE TO FEEL THAT WAY

Ideally, we would all love to see other people change. How we would love it! How we would wishour boss becomes this kind, compassionate, benevolent character who will give us leave

whenever our heart requires it. How we wish we could manifest a wife who would give us

unconditional love and embrace us for whatever we are even though we may stink like a pack of

shit and how we wish our friends would tolerate our worst habits. We would love for everybody to

change and how we would love the destiny to smile at us and give us a lottery of a million US

dollars! How we would love our business prospects to shoot up as India is growing at 8% … We

would all love these things… idealistic solution........ bottom line truth.... very elusive. So for all

those of us who are stuck in the rigmarole of waiting and waiting for people to change and

situations to change are perhaps condemned to waiting… because that is the only thing they will

do, wait.

Truly what is in your own capacity, my friends is your own behaviour. You cannot control anything

in the universe other than yourself.

Then if it is your behaviour, let us figure out in your behaviour what makes you unhappy? One of

the key things in our behaviour which makes us unhappy is our perceived failures of life. Every

single human who has walked this planet has had a graph of duality, where there have been

moments of ecstasy and moments which have been painful: there are moments of great joy &

success and there are moments of pathos and sadness.

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such thing in life as failure. It is only feedback. Which means, if you have inherent faith in the

director of this plot, in your own most empowered potential and you feel there is something in

your life which is not working in your assessment (please remember whatever is happening is

having an inherent wisdom in it, rather than looking at it as a failure and letting your mind spin out

of control in a negative degrading spiral downwards, if you could start training yourself to

understand that if it is happening, it is happening with divine sanction, which means there must

be a benefit for me.

There is no situation in your life my friends that that will come into your life without an inherent

benefit. Our problem is, we get so caught up in the emotional drama that follows our perceived

failure that very often we fail to spot the inherent benefit in that moment. If you check most

successful people in life, when they talk about their life stories and when they talk about their

lives when they were very difficult, in retrospect they will tell you how those difficulties were

hugely responsible for teaching them and training them and giving them those invaluable

attributes that they so desperately required at that moment of their lives. So, if that is happening

to you today my friends, if there is in your life that is not working right now, just ask yourself if this

is happening for my benefit, let me try and find it. Cause there is a benefit for sure.

Always remember, as Einstein says, a problem can never be sorted out at the level at which you

create it. For solving a problem, one needs to always rise about it. Problems are nothing but

universal’s wisdom’s way of saying move up in life, there is a solution already there which you

need to find and that solution or that benefit is what you need to spot and crack. Now if you get

this very clear in your mind, that all your life’s stories is nothing but a sequence of events in which

you were either learning, gaining, becoming wiser, becoming sharper, becoming more intelligent,

becoming tougher maybe becoming smarter, then the inner programming of your magnet will getbeautifully aligned into this absolutely one way street of positive outlook.

The day you manage, my friends, you have mastered your life. You have mastered your life

simply because whether you believe it or not, it is not the environment which determines your

success or failure, it is always the response you exhibit at that moment in time that will determine

this.

So, right now, just take a deep breath and start talking to yourself that whatever is happening in

your life at this moment of time is because somebody up there wants it to happen and if

somebody up there wants it to happen, then it is in your own interest to allow it to happen andenjoy that and if it is in your interest to allow it and enjoy it then you also realize that you need to

change the way you talk to your own god, because all this while your continuous communication

with your god has been, Oh god, this is such a huge problem. From today let’s just change that,

let’s talk to the problem and tell the problem I have a huge god, which is much bigger than you.

The day you start doing this consistently my friends, you cracked it.

Be with it… it is difficult to digest… I am sure somewhere in your heart a little bulb is going to get

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Our responses to situationsJune 14, 2010 at 8:55pm

We understand all about our response to situations and how our responses actually crack our life

for us. Let me share with you an interesting insight...... you might not be aware but if you look atthe three basic truths which govern our existence on this planet, they are as following:

1. Duality – where there is pleasure, there will be pain; where there is love there will be fear;

where there is joy there will be sorrow; where there is right, there will be wrong; where there will

be correct there will be in-correct; where there is fun there will be boredom; where there is nice

there will be ugly; where there is white, there will be black; where there is light, there will be

darkness. This isn’t a good thing or bad thing; it is one of those truths of our lives. Show me one

person in this universe who has not faced this. You won’t find anybody. Every game has its own

inherent set of rules. There isn’t a game that does not have its own set of rules. For example, if

we talk of cricket, then it has a basic rule that there are two sides playing against each other.

There is also a basic rule that one team will bat while the other will bowl and field and vice versa.

So, if one has to enjoy the game, then one must know the rules and play by the rules. For

example, if both teams want to bat first then, the game won’t be able to be played. Every game

for the pure enjoyment of the game needs to be played with the right rules. One of rules on earth

at the moment is duality. It exists, we can’t run away from it.

2. Linearity – as in linearity of time. So there is a past and that past has a definite impact on the

present and what is being done in the present has a huge impact on the future. So, I am what I

am today, because of a variety of things which happened to me, maybe when I was a child or

while I was growing up and that has now fashioned my response and depending on how I am

responding today, my tomorrow gets fashioned. No running away. This is why we are coming

across to you so very powerfully with this concept: change your response, change your

response… because you cannot change your past, but if you change your response today you

will be almost certainly guarantee that you will be able to change your tomorrow & you would like

that.

3. Rationality – this is uniformly true for everybody. For example, yesterday I went and touched a

hot vessel and my hand got burnt so today, my rationality and logic tells me that I should not visit

the fire again, because the fire will burn me. So, based on the experiences I go through in the

past, I rationally come to conclusions that influence my present, which in turn becomes the

yardstick for my future.

Now if these are the three rules of life, then to crack these rules and enjoy the game there are

three suitable responses. So, what should be your response to these three things? If you were to

make your life work and if you have understood that your life’s success is about your response,

then for these three rules, there are three sets of responses.

So, response #1: Everything in this world has its own inherent value. If I were to ask a question to

all of you, if I give you a stone or a chain of gold what would you select? I am sure, more than

90% of the people would select gold because; in their minds gold is value. Think for a while.


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Suppose you want to dig a hole in the ground, how valuable is that gold? Zero! You might sell it

to buy a stone, but eventually the job is done only with the stone. So, the key take away is

everything that exists on this universe has its own value and one’s wealth gets determined by the

recourses one has, to execute what one needs. So if I want to build a house, then the resources

for me are cement and stone and that is of value. Gold just becomes the means to getting that,

gold itself is not the resource. I can have all the gold in the world, but if I cannot buy stone and

cement with it, then I am very poor because I can’t have a house with it. So, everything has its

value. If you keep that in mind, greed will disappear from your life.

Response #2: Every human is unique and you cannot change him or her. Every single person on

this earth has come for his or her own unique experience which may or may not fall in line with

your chosen paradigm of existence. Not necessary. You must understand that every soul has the

inherent right to pursue its path leading to its fulfilment. So the moment you understand that, you

will stop judging people as good and bad. You will stop judging their responses as right and

wrong simply because it is their chosen experience and you are nobody to judge their chosen

experience because, if God does not judge it, who are you to judge it?

Response #3: The doer in you must embrace the duality totally... the observer in you must watch

the duality totally. This also means that as a human being, since you have come here to

experience emotions there is no running away from emotions. So when you are experiencing joy,

experience it fully, but don’t get married to it. It is the experience of that moment. Similarly, if there

is a situation which gives you sorrow, which gives you fear, understand that in that moment you

need to experience it, experience it and immediately change your mindset to the fact that there is

a benefit and automatically the emotion will disappear and there is no need to get married to it.

If you keep these three things in mind all the time, consistently, #1 you will fulfil your basic

aspiration of being a human who has come here to feel, #2, without taking away from the

pleasure of the feelings, you will be empowered enough at every of point in time through your

intellect and through your response to supersede that emotion and to seek the best response for

yourself at a given point of time. Finally #3, becoming non-judgmental of people around you, will

naturally have people becoming non-judgmental of you. That finally is what each one of us are

looking for.

At core level we all wish to be loved and accepted for what we are and not what we have to

become. Just think of it. How would your life be if you were loved for what you are … I love you …enjoy yourselves…

Take next step with FAITH leaving behind your past

programming !!!June 20, 2010 at 10:33pm

Here i am, back with you, sharing my crazy thoughts..... crazy because, it might sound mad, but

then i have often thought of myself as a mad maverick, who somehow accidentally or by some

divine design understood a little bit about how life can be really good. My life is good,so I just


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thought...maybe I can share my mental musings...perhaps something will work for you.

So, continuing the whole response story, if we are moving away, from the concept of linearity

which means, if i now start telling myself that, so what if my father beat me with a cane ! So what

if mother did not find 10 minutes to hold me and say "I love you"!!! So what if i lost crores of

rupees in a stock exchange scam, does that debar me in this moment from choosing afresh to

participate in the joy of life? I don't think so. Because as part of our evolution, as we start

completing our own games of duality, of rationality & linearity we understand that life is nothing

but a series of opportunities that you have created for yourself to make a choice which works for

you. You are always empowered to make that choice in the here and in the now. So, it is all about

the here and the now.

If we look at the lives of most of the wise men, who have left behind absolutely incredible

impressions on human consciousness,and here i am talking of the evolved people who walked

the planet maybe people who we are praying to as gods and goddesses and if you look at their

lives on earth you will note one huge issue...., that the environment was difficult yet what did they

choose to demonstrate through their life ? They chose to demonstrate, the more hostile the

environment, the greater is the opportunity for me to display my divinity. You can look at Jesus,

you can look at Krishna and you can look at any ascended master who walked the earth. None of

them sat back and said "OH!" because this happened to me in childhood, i am a screwed up

nervous wreck. Each of them chose the childhood programming as the perfect setting for them to

respond through the power of their divinity they carried. So, if they can do it, why can't you ???

What is separating you from them ? Why can't the god in you emerge right now ? Why can't the

goddess in you emerge right now ? Why can't u see that all those events were nothing but

opportunities that gave you the power to discover that you can choose, you can choose to bedifferent.

You can make that choice now and if you make that choice now (i know it is easier said than

done), remember any objective that you wish to accomplish or any experience that you wish to

experience just needs to be appropriately broken down into a series of small and accomplishable

tasks. One of the big mistake we often make in life is that we have a huge grandiose vision of

where we would all love to go, what is that we would love to experience and yet since the route to

that experience is not very clear we land up stagnating in our life where ever we are. In fact that

becomes a perfect defence mechanism for us not to move our butt !!! Because we are so

beautifully conditioned to be where we are and that any change is always difficult. Sointellectually we would love to go there, we would love to make the shift, we would love to be

different but since the road is obscure, since the path is not clear we land up doing nothing.

Let me ask you one simple question from where ever you are in your life in this moment right

now! Is your immediate next step not always clear? So you may not have the entire sequence

planned out till the end. You may have a rough idea of what your big vision is like but the

immediate next step that you can take to move in that direction is always, always, always clear.

All that life asks of you is to demonstrate the courage, the self belief and the self love to take the

immediate next step. Because the moment you take the next step which of course will require

immense amount of faith, the next step after that will also become clear at that moment.


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So if you realize for all those of you who have been faithfully tracking these videos from the time

we started talking you will find a lot of interwoven talk. You will find a lot of cross referencing

happening because at the end of the day the universal truth is huge and my only attempt through

this whole exercise is to show you that there are a million different ways to bring you to the same

universal truth. So having said that take the immediate next step because that is always clear and

have faith. Have faith that when you take the immediate next step and you have the power to take

that step right now, have the power to choose right now it is all about the now, it is all about the

now disconnecting from the toxic effect of the programming you have gone through and

understanding that it has given you the strength and the courage to make that shift, take that

step. Take that step with the belief that if you are at the edge of the cliff and you jump with faith

either the big dude will hold you down there or you will learn to fly and if this is ephermaral and

eternal wisdom which has survived time and space I would strongly advocate imbibing that

wisdom in your life right now. Take the leap of faith, take the next step, don't wait for the

environment to change. Don't wait for things to happen because they won't. You must make the

next move. Let us meet at the next junction of the next move.

As Human, we have a choice to be happy & we are

mostly unhappy !!! Isn't it bizarre?June 28, 2010 at 9:55pm

You know; one of the bizarre paradoxes of human existence is this awareness that we can

choose to be happy and yet we are mostly unhappy. The reasons are not very far to look at. The

biggest negative factor in this story is that when life starts running smooth, when life is beautiful,when life is in cruise control, our intellect tends to go to sleep. We tend to drop our vigilance to

life. We tend to drop our attitude to keeping in mind that the rules do not have to be compromised

when you are playing the game. Once again, quoting a very, very famous cricketer....( I am very

fond of cricket so there are lots of examples of cricket.) there was a legendary Indian cricketer,

who was known for his penchant to score hundreds and when he was asked how he could

consistently score so many centuries in his career, his reply was an extremely intelligent and

pertinent one. He said, every time I touch fifty runs, in my mind, I reset my score to zero. The

moment I do that I am able to bring on my concentration back to peak level because when I am

starting my innings, I am extremely vigilant.

This is true with all of us. When we want to accomplish something, we are vigilant with all the

rules. We will do it right and of course doing it right gives you rewards. Then unfortunately, when

the rewards of life start coming in, we drop that vigilance. We drop the guard and then invariably

there is pain. This is not to berate you, the objective of sharing this thought is not to make you

feel miserable, it is because this is a natural and normal human trend. So if there is pain, then the

pain is nothing but a communication by the universe, which is telling you, mate, pay attention.

Don't ever be scared of pain, in any format. Pain is simply the world talking to you and saying

"jack, you have dropped your guard, you need to just pick it up again." Pain is nothing but the

universe guiding you to take action. Move !!! Having understood that, the best way then of course

is to negotiate this pain by being vigilant all the time. So if the going is good, don't drop your

guard, keep your vigilance up, check the three golden rules of earth at the moment, which are, a)


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have you been consistently treating all things appropriately? B) Have you been accepting people

for what they are? c) Have you been experiencing emotions and are you able to say bye, bye to

them without getting married. If you have been doing this consistently correctly, even when the

going is good, then obviously pain is not going to touch you at all. Remember emotions will come

and go. But emotions are transient in nature, they will come, they will go, don't get married to

them and keep your vigilance meter up. Should you keep your vigilance meter in place and then

it is possible, it is completely possible to learn with pleasure.

In our human mindset we have all associated pain with learning and that is one of the reasons

why if you note, that the first big pain, which came into your life has still not completely left you. I

can guarantee that because you have made that pain into your own teacher because that pain

has been perhaps responsible for your even listening to this video. I am sure, if you life was on

cruise control, you are not going to take these ten minutes and listen to this boring character

talking some shit !!! You are not going to do that. But if you are listening to this video, you are

looking for an answer. And if you are looking for an answer undoubtedly there is some amount of

pain somewhere in the system. Means what? Do you need pain to listen to me ? That is an

erroneous association that we have made. We have always converted pain to a barometer, which

will help us grow, learn, get detached, become wise and do all the nice, nice things that the great

guys speak about but that is our fallacious association, we don't need the pain. So if we can

commit to ourselves that on an ongoing continuous basis we will coach ourselves, actually, with

these rules; then we can all be truly pain free. Just benchmark it all the time. Make sure you are

sticking to the basics. You will never ever have a reason to make pain as your teacher. It is

perfectly possible to learn with love and with pleasure, provided your intellect, your wisdom and

your awareness, do not go to sleep.

I have always compared the human intellect with the "points man", a person who manages the

platforms/lines in the station by changing the tracks for the incoming trains. So, if this person is

caught napping exactly at the time the train comes it will keep going on the old track, similarly

when our intellect going to sleep, which is like being off guard and we keep inviting repeated

cycles of pain. Now, this pain is trying to communicate one story, wake up, become alert, change

your response, pull the lever, and you will find the train will move on to a different platform. When

the train will move to another track, remain alert because there will be another train coming and

you do not want to repeat the same cycle and the same learning in a different format!!

I am sure we have seen this many times before, you have one chronic problem in your life thefaces change, perhaps the situation changes but the problem does not change. Initially the

problem was your father, now the problem is your boss. Basically none of these is the problem,

the problem is your mind and the way you are looking at your life, the rest are personifications,

which you are attracting to help you understand your game. So perhaps in life if you want to wake

up from the snakes and the ladders that we are all playing all the time, be vigilant, be an aware

player, become attuned to the rules, keep your mindset going, and then you will enjoy the snakes

and ladder. Remember the snakes will still come. Inherently there is nothing wrong with the

snakes because sliding down a snake can be a lot of fun. Remember climbing up a ladder can

also be very painful. Understand that, go back to the basics, keep your intellect up and about and

life will be an effortless game of snakes and ladder. You know many people have asked me thatthe guys who designed the snakes and ladder game are actually very sadistic people because


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invariably the fang of the snake is at 99 or 98, just when you need to go to hundred, but then,

which of us stopped playing at hundred? Even when we cracked 100, it was nothing but an ego

booster and we put the dice back to zero and started all over again. So why don't we see the

snake as a great friend who takes you down before you reach 100 and never takes you back to

zero!!! No snake takes you back to zero, just gives you opportunity to continue to play without

your ego hitting your head. Relax, chill!!! Enjoy the slide, keep the vigilance, enjoy the game, life

is a party, best of luck!!!

One has a choice to the experience & not the route it

takes to reach !!!July 5, 2010 at 8:10am

Here we are with a absolutely empowering possibility, a possibility of choosing whatever we wish

to experience. The question now is, we have the right to the experience... sure, but are we wiser

than the universe in telling the universe in what format do we want the experience? This is where

most of us get jacked!So, what we do not realize is that we incarnate in an environment that the

universe has chosen for us to learn something or become wise and very often that environment if

it is hostile, tends to make you to want to change the environment.

Strangely, believe it or not, you will expend the maximum energy of your life in trying to change

that with absolutely zero result. So, what is that the universe is trying to communicate to you?

The universe is trying to tell you that the environment is communicating, for you to accept the

wisdom from it and change your response to yourself to experience a different experience. But

most of us expect that the same environment will change and that is an absolute screw-ball !!!If

you wish to experience abundance, you have a right to experience it, but does that mean that the

abundance must come to you only through the stock market because you are a stockbroker? I

have had innumerable cases of stock brokers who went through cycles and cycles of bankruptcy

simply because, their ego got hurt when they lost money for the first time, me included, and they

are desperate changing their response so that the same stocks which ate away their money will

give them the money back. But that is an ego trip, you are not truly changing your response. It is

the ego hitting back changing your response with a vested interest that the area from where you

got the pain is what will give you pleasure. What we are not figuring out is the area which is

giving you pain is the universe talking to you saying clearly that it is not your area. But we try

even to change our response so that we can convert the same pain into pleasure. Can that

happen? It can never happen, because if fire burns, it burns, there is no way under the sun that

you can convert it into ice. It cannot happen, because, it is the property of fire to burn. If you are

taking this knowledge with the hope that you will change the response so that your current painful

environment will become pleasurable, forget it. You are wasting your time !!! Absolutely !!!You

have the choice of experience but let the universe decide how it wants to give you that

experience. You can experience whatever you want, you can experience money, you can

experience love, you can experience any single abundance of resource which you would like to

experience provided you submit that experience as a petition to the universe, understand you are

the universe's favorite child. The universe will give you that experience but you must be open

enough to let the experience come into your life the way the universe wishes to give it to you. Andwhen the universe wishes to give it to you, the universe will bend backwards to make it happen


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for you !!!So, an absolutely easy way of understanding whether what you are asking for and what

is being granted to you is a part of universal grace or not, is by checking how easily you are

attracting the new experience. The more effortless the experience becomes the more the

universe has a hand in giving you that experience.

I have in my career as a therapist experienced so many clients who are so very desperate for

their husbands to love them or their wives to love them or their children to love them and my

simple question is what is it that you want? Oh, we want to experience love, all right, so tell the

universe I wish to experience love, and be prepared for it. You will never know who will come into

your life to give you love. Does the love only need to come in a format "abc"? Is love so pathetic

and so restrictive that it is the trademark policy of social norm for love to come only in one

format? Especially when the format is giving you pain? Does not work dude! So just sit, think and

have faith in yourself. A lot of people get stuck here.

One more thing, since you have the titular right to the experience, and since in the eyes of the

universe there is no time and there is no space, the way to attract that experience in your

universe is to feel it in your heart as if it is already happening. So, if you wish to experience love

in your life, start behaving as if you are the universe's most loved child, because the way you will

behave with yourself is exactly the way the universe will behave with you. So if you are harsh with

yourself and you keep feeling that you the unluckiest person, then that is exactly what the

universe will give you. If you wait for the universe to give you a series of lucky events to happen

before you begin to believe that you are lucky, then sorry, doesn't work! So, start treating yourself

as your top priority, you are the world's most loved person by yourself. So what if in this moment

other people are not loving you! Love yourself, unconditionally, are you not your most important

person? Believe you are the best for yourself, believe that you are luckiest for yourself, believethat you are God in motion who has come on this planet to experience its magnificence. Drop

your programming and watch, how the universe bends backwards, in its own unique way to give

you that experience and of course having got that experience don't get seduced by its

permanency. There is no such thing on this planet as permanent. What starts will end, what is

good today is bad tomorrow, the wisdom is to completely live every moment of your life. It lies in

completely living every moment of your life perhaps as if it is the last moment or the last day of

your life. This is a very ancient teaching that I got from a Buddhist monk, who would often tell me

that Yuvraj, one of life's easiest ways is to put a placard in your pocket which simply says today is

the last day of my life. Watch how your response to yourself will dramatically change with that.

So, if you live every moment of your life assuming that it would be the last moment and you doonly those things which gave you total, pure, undiluted self acceptance, go ahead and do it.

Formula for winning, formula for enjoying the win, loosing comes in the way once in a while, how

does it matter? End of the day, loosing is a format of winning differently! Ok?

So,

1. Accept what's happening in your life as a universal sign of change

.2. Become the change yourself for yourself

.3. Open yourself to the universe for the experience you so richly deserve.


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Then perhaps, you will be sitting on a video like this talking to millions of people, who knows,

best of luck.

You can choose to experience whatever your heart

chooses to experience, just don't get married to

them!July 14, 2010 at 8:44am

You can choose to experience whatever your heart chooses to experience. Wow! What a

euphoric feeling. Just give yourself the luxury of closing your eyes and living this out. What is the

deepest experience you would wish to go through? Feel it in your heart and see how fantastic it

feels to experience that. Not that I want to play a party pooper at the moment but as I said, to win

the game you must play the game by the rule. So though you have the inherent right to the

experience and as I mentioned when the going is good our intellect tends to go to sleep and then

we all know what happens to the train, the same experience can completely become your

identification of it, which will then make it your ego.

So let's conclude this series with this thought that you have the right to the experience but not the

right to marry the experience. Which means, the moment you experience, what ever it is, that you

truly wish to experience, take some time out and completely surrender that experience back tothe universe. Remember you are an expression of this universal consciousness that has come on

this planet in a physical format for experiences to be felt through the paradigm of emotions.

One cannot feel emotions without a body. Every single emotion felt is throughout the body. Ask

people who get their thrill when their car starts racing from 0 to 60 in 5 or 6 seconds because

they have this fantastic horse power engine, it's a physical feeling, the thrill, the excitement, the

fear, all emotions are felt in the body. So you are on this journey to experience whatever

experience you wish and feel the emotions in your body but remember when the experience is

done, if you surrender it back to the universe then you don't identify yourself with the experience

and you remain a fresh slate and an open petal for a new experience, a different experiencesomething you can embrace in a different format all over again.

Nature in its inherent wisdom teaches us the most amazing truths of life and nature does it purely

because that is how nature is. So if you look at nature every morning a flower will bloom because

that is the experience of that flower on that day. The very next day the same flower will not bloom

in the same manner. It will choose a different experience. A bird may chirp at 6am in the morning

and may not chirp the next day because that is the experience of chirping at that moment. So

nature shows you in its infinite wisdom how every moment is following its own inherent

experience of that moment. Have you seen nature doing everything in precise clockwork timing?

No, that does not exist and nature does it because that is the evolution of nature. The day ashumans we understand this completely that at a given point of time, whatever it is that your heart


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wishes to experience is what you should completely experience in that moment, surrender that

experience to the universe, thank it with gratitude for having given you the luxury of the

experience and open yourself up like a fresh slate, you shall walk this planet as a humble student

of life who mastered its intricasies. Very much like nature, a different day a new way to fly up to

the sun and you will realize that you will never ever get bored of life, because life is nothing but a

series of beautiful experiences which you link segment by segment, piece by piece to eventually

make a fantastic garland, a garland that you could call your own unique experience in life.

However, no body gets married to the garland. You take it, experience it, surrender it.

This should be the last rule for this series. When I come back next time, it will be with a

completely different mindset, a completely different pitch because I would presume all these

things are already playing somewhere at the back of your mind. I do not know at this point in time

what my next video is going to be. But suffice to say, this video concludes and extremely

important, an extremely important junction. It is a major junction like the terminus where many

trains come together and you kind of off load yourself and say alright this is w

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