Under the skin

Under the skinUnderstanding the anxieties and conflicts of urban youth11There is a generation gap between meand my dad (parents?)I feel disconnected with my own family. Yet there is no getting away from itI feel a sense of inequality even within my family

2There is a divide between what I want and what my family expects of meI feel trapped because my dependency on family is the enemy of what I desire in life2

3DEPENDENCE DISTRESSDependence is the enemy of my desire3DEPENDENCE DISTRESS

Understanding the urban Indian youth

I am Daddys petI love my family members from whom I have learnt somethingMy success is relevant only if it means something for my familyThere is nothing to match familys love especially when you are vulnerable6I feel proud to be groundedI feel worthless because my success means nothing to my familyThe only people worthy of my sacrifice are my family6

I want the independence but worry about losing control

8Ultimately what parents push me for is good for me

The onus of success is squarely on me

So long as I am responsible for results I am not answerable to anyone

I feel confused about my life choices because choosing to go my way, may expose my inabilities8

To be successful, you have to be different (although with a risk of getting exposed)

He joins the army against the wishes of his parents & finds himself unable to cope initially

An IIM A pass out, he took a rather unconventional path &chose to make a living out of his passion for cricket

Death of romance girls want the money and boys want the trophy (girl/wife)

Real friendship is formed at school..As you grow you realize that friendship isnt all that it seemed

10Friends letting you down is the ultimate betrayal

Friends are my support systemMy friends come before familyI feel betrayed because I exposed my vulnerabilities and they let me down when I was at my most vulnerable10Death of romance girls want the money and boys want the trophy (girl/wife)

Real friendship is formed at school.As you grow you realize that friendship isnt all that it seemed

11Friends letting you down is the ultimate betrayal

Friends are my support systemMy friends come before familyI feel ashamed of myself because my friends success over me hurts when the stakes are high11

A reality show in which a person who doubts his/her boyfriend's/girlfriend's loyalty, can ask for a loyalty test on him/her

Taakiyaarikimastichalti hi rahe!Insight: Real friendship is formed at school..As you grow you realize that friendship isnt all that it seemed

He/she feels bad when another participant wins at his/her cost. Ultimately, they are all there in the battle to win

Omkara appoints Kesu over Langda as his successor, which makes Langda extremely disappointed & jealous of Kesu

Result day: Dost fail ho jaaye to dukhhotahai, leken dost 1staajaaye to zyadadukhhotahai!While growing up involves giving up what I cherished, I must in order to earn my independenceBig city purposefulness over small town charmWork and career are becoming my focusCollege is my introduction to big bad world where cut throat competitiveness is life

I feel helpless because in the process of gaining my independence I end up being a slave of society 14My ideal job would be in line with my valuesI will trade off a bit of my desires for securityIts a bad world out there, I am trying to fight it my own way14

ARTIFICIAL INDEPENDENCEIndependence really means slavery of someone else15

ARTIFICIAL INDEPENDENCE

Understanding the urban Indian youth

HrithikRoshans characterI am proud of my achievementsMy best is not good enough because there arehigher benchmarks aroundI forever live with the fear of losingIts no longer adequate to be merely successful unless you stand outI fear under-achievement because everyone else uses unfair means to win

I feel scared of being powerless because the society cant be trusted to be fair18I want power because good guys lose18I fear under-achievement because everyone else uses unfair means to win

I feel scared of being powerless because the society cant be trusted to be fair

47%of youth think its ok to sleep their way to the top35%think its ok to cheat & lie to dowell at work60%say they would look for shortcuts to success

Deep down am alone but I would hate for this to become obvious which is why I need the pretense of relationshipsI need to create a glamorous faade because the world is constantly judging meI have things to hide and very few can be trusted withthem without judging meI have to belong to a gang of friends and do what it doesI hate myself for what Ive become in order to mask my vulnerability21Deep down I know, I must bank on myself21

MASK IS MEI hate my mask but I must22MASK IS MEUnderstanding the urban Indian youth

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