Wounded Healer to Worthy Helper™ Personal and Professional Development

for behavioral health staff, teams and programs September 21, 2016

By Maeve O’Neill, MEd, LCDC, LPC-S, CDWF Life Healing Center

Santa Fe, NM

Greg Potestio, MPA Manager of Programs and Technology

NAADAC, the Association for Addiction Professionals

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gpotestio@naadac.org

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Cost to Watch: Free CE Hours Available: 1 CEs CE Certificate for NAADAC Members: Free CE Certificate for Non-members: $15

To obtain a CE Certificate for the time you spent watching this webinar:

1. Watch and listen to this entire webinar.

2. Pass the online CE quiz, which is posted at

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3. If applicable, submit payment for CE certificate or join NAADAC.

4. A CE certificate will be emailed to you within 21 days of submitting the quiz.

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Control Panel

Asking Questions

Audio (phone preferred)

Polling Questions

Maeve O’Neill, MEd, LCDC, LPC-S, CDWF maeve.oneill@life-healing.com

Webinar Presenter

Your Life Healing Center Santa Fe, NM

Webinar Learning Objectives

Recognize need for vulnerability and authenticity in behavioral health work

Demonstrate understanding of the guideposts to wholehearted living

Apply concepts and make plan of action

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“You can’t take people professionally where you’re not willing to go personally” - Brene Brown

Our legacy as BH professionals

Welcome and Intros

Mindset-Language

Behavioral Health PROFESSIONALS, TEAMS, ORGANIZATIONS • WAR-Willing, Able, Ready

• HOW-Honest, Open, Willing

• Culture-Talk, Trust, Feel

The Daring Way™ CONCEPTS • Courage-Compassion-Connection

• Show Up-Be Seen Live Brave

• Guideposts to Wholehearted Living

Rising Strong™ PROCESS • Reckoning

• Rumble

• Revolution

BHForce-Behavioral Health workforce • Workplace

Agenda

Manifesto of the Brave and

Brokenhearted

-Brene Brown’s Rising Strong

• Substance Use/Relapse

• Sexual activity with clients

• Sexual activity with staff

• Sharing pornography

• Possession of weapons

• Destruction of property

• Dishonesty, lying, stealing

• Loved ones call about domestic violence concerns

• Threats of harm to self and others

• Name calling, disrespect, bullying, gossip

What would YOU do?

What would you do? A. Offer Treatment B. Discharge C. Personnel Action

Polling Question #1

Individuals become casualties in distressed organizations: -self destruct in the face of excessive demands for adaptation Organizations have power to do harm: -to themselves, to their leaders, to those who work in them and to the public

William White “The Incestuous Workplace”

My Story, Your Story, Our Story

Willing

Able

Ready

BH Professionals

Physical, emotional, sexual abuse Physical or emotional neglect Household mental illness Household substance use Incarcerated household member Domestic abuse Parental separation or divorce -University of Oxford's Department of Psychiatry Public Health Study

Adverse Childhood Experiences

How many ACEs do you have? A. 0-3 B. 4-6 C. 7-10

Polling Question #2

You are loved and lovable Worthy of love and belonging Boundaries Rest and Play Accountability and Respect Joy and Gratitude Learn to be vulnerable Teach you to feel Laugh, sing, dance, create Always belong here Truly, deeply seeing you

My Story, Your Story, Our Story

Honest

Open

Willing

BH Teams

Compassion Fatigue/Burnout

Uncertainty, Risk and Emotional Exposure

Authenticity Practice

Talk

Trust

Feel

BH Organizations

L – Listen O - Observe V - Validate E - Educate E - Empower C - Consistency A - Accountability R - Respect E - Empathy E - Excitement

How to Help

Didn’t CAUSE it Can’t CURE it

Can’t CONTROL it

Can take CARE of myself COMMUNICATE feelings Make healthy CHOICES

By CELEBRATING myself, my job, my purpose

7C’s

SAMHSA’s Definition of Recovery Guiding Principles

The Daring Way-Dr. Brene Brown

SHOW UP BE SEEN

LIVE BRAVE

• Permission Slips • Gratitude • Trust and the Marble Jar • Arena • Armory • Shame Shields • Values • Identities and Triggers • Open Heart

DARING WAY CONCEPTS

“Laughter, song, and dance create emotional and spiritual connection; they remind us of the one thing that truly matters when we are searching for comfort, celebration, inspiration, or healing; We are not alone” ~Brene Brown

ARENA ANTHEMS

MANIFESTO FOR HELPING PROFESSIONALS

• The values that guide me to show up and be seen are... • I stand for... • I am most curious about... • I am most passionate about... • I have the courage to... • I love... • In my heart of hearts, I... • I am on this planet to... • I will love myself by... • I will dare greatly by...

Mantras and Manifestos

COURAGE

• Asking for what you need • Speaking your truth • Owning your story • Setting boundaries • Reaching out for support

COMPASSION

Attributes of Empathy (Wiseman)

-Perspective Taking -Stay out of Judgment -Recognize Emotion -Communicate Emotion -Mindfulness

Self-Compassion (Neff)

-Self-Kindness -Common Humanity -Mindfulness

EMPATHY & SELF-COMPASSION “We have to commit to practicing, screwing it up, and circling back.”

CONNECTION

Shame is the intensely painful feeling or experience of

believing we are flawed and therefore unworthy of

acceptance and belonging.

DEFINITION OF SHAME

Shame Resilience

• Recognizing Shame and Triggers

• Practicing Critical Awareness

• Reaching Out

• Speaking Shame

Setting Boundaries Clarifying Intentions Finding True Comfort Cultivating Spirit and Connection

ENGAGEMENT as HEALTHCARE

PROFESSIONALS

Honesty and Integrity Respect and Accountability Gratitude and Respect Setting Limits

ASPIRATIONAL VALUES

GUIDEPOSTS for WHOLEHEARTED LIVING

Authenticity - Let go of what people think Self-Compassion - Let go of perfectionism Resilient Spirit - Let go of numbing and powerlessness Gratitude and Joy - Let go of scarcity and fear of the dark Intuition and Trusting – Let go of need for certainty Creativity – Let go of comparison Play and Rest – Let go of exhaustion as status symbol Calm and Stillness – Let go of anxiety as a lifestyle Meaningful Work – Let go of self-doubt Laughter, Song and Dance – Let go of being in control

W – Worthy H – Humor O - Open L - Limits E – Expectations H - Helpful E – Enjoyment A - Authentic R - Resilience T - Traditions E - Emotions D - Deliberate

WHOLEHEARTED for BH Staff

Courageous Professionals Compassionate Teams Connected Organizations

BHForce- Behavioral Health workFORCE

Reckon with EMOTIONS HEART Rumble with THOUGHTS HEAD Revolution is new BEHAVIOR HANDS

Brave and Brokenhearted

Boundaries Reliability Accountability Vault Integrity Non-Judgement Generosity

BRAVING

Definition of FORCE: Strength or energy as an attribute of physical action or movement JOIN THE MOVEMENT!

BHForce- Behavioral Health workFORCE

CULTURE

The set of behaviors, values, artifacts,

reward systems, and rituals that make up your organization. You can “feel” culture when you visit a company, because it is

often evident in people’s behavior, enthusiasm, and the space itself

1. People are waiting in line to join the team 2. Turnover is low 3. Top leaders are not insecure about other leaders succeeding 4. Gossip isn’t tolerated 5. Lateral leadership is outstanding 6. Team members are energized by the mission 7. It’s not just a job 8. The team believes they are more important than the task 9. People are smiling 10. Fear is missing 11. Communication is strong 12. Change is welcome Tim Stevens in Fast Company

Enviable Workplace Culture

Workplace Health

Scarcity – “Never _____ Enough” Comparison, Guilt, Humiliation & Embarrassment

PRACTICE - 4x a day -Wake Up -Leave Home/Get to work -Leave work/Get Home -Bedtime WORKPLACE - DAILY

Rituals – Personal and Professional

What is Your Plan?

BHForce-Membership Behavioral Health workFORCE

For Individuals, Teams, Orgs Coaching calls Weekly email assignments Daily inspirational quotes Unlimited texts/email Access to social media (Facebook/LinkedIn pages)

Thanks for all you do! Delaney, Maeve and Aidan

By Brene Brown: • Daring Greatly • The Gifts of Imperfection • I thought it was just me (but it isn’t) • Rising Strong

Additional Personal Development: • Super Soul Sunday on OWN channel • Paulo Coehlo-The Alchemist • don Miguel Ruiz-The Four Agreements

Resources

Maeve O’Neill, MEd, LCDC, LPC-S, CDWF

maeve.oneill@life-healing.com

Life Healing Center Santa Fe, NM

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Cost to Watch: Free CE Hours Available: 1 CEs CE Certificate for NAADAC Members: Free CE Certificate for Non-members: $15

To obtain a CE Certificate for the time you spent watching this webinar:

1. Watch and listen to this entire webinar.

2. Pass the online CE quiz, which is posted at

www.naadac.org/healertohelper

3. If applicable, submit payment for CE certificate or join NAADAC.

4. A CE certificate will be emailed to you within 21 days of submitting the quiz.

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