Women Demystified

Communication skills presentationArpit Agarwal

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Background

• Recipe for disaster:– Small town guy– Focus only on academics– Studied at Trichy– That too NIT

• Searched for solutions– Made friends– Ladder theory

Learning

• Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus– “Why do we always have to work for them?”– “Why doesn’t she send me as many SMSs as I do?”– “I stand for gender equality. Why are they given an

undue advantage?”• All women are queens and princesses • They are committed and extremely sensitive• Life is much tougher being a woman– Prejudice, Restrictions, Glass ceilings, unwritten

rules…

Ladder Theory

• One ladder for most men – that of attraction– All women on the same scale– Higher the women, more interested he is

• Women have two ladders– One for attraction, One for friendship– Both equally important – Both are equally close emotionally – Friends constitute the sense of personal

‘space’

Attraction

Men’s ladder

Attraction

Friendship

Women’s ladders

Ladder rules

• Ladder jumping not allowed – A best friend may never become

boyfriend– She may not share everything with

her guy

• A person higher on the ladder gets preference– Availability at a particular time matters

• Simultaneous progress on both is a myth

Attraction

Friendship

Women’s ladders

Takeaways

• Be clear what you want from her– Most women set their expectation in first few

minutes

• “We are just friends” could be the truth– Women take time to trust a person– Don’t push and spoil a good friendship

• Observe your Ma, sister, colleagues and friends– Rough-toughness can take you nowhere– Being gentle mannered is a good idea

References and disclaimerwww.laddertheory.comwww.ladderwiki.comPersonal views only. Your experience may differ.

Not an attempt to humiliate anyone.Just showing a way to understand relationships

May not solve all problems of your life.

Number of women in life does not mean successIt could actually mean the opposite!

All queries welcome – arpit_agarwal@iitb.ac.in

Thank You!