Welcome to TGIF Orientation

Welcome to TGIF Orientation

Why we are called

•T - The•G - Group• I - In•F - Fresno

Steering Committee• Created in 2001• Bylaws• Chair-mistress • Six other positions

– Vice Chair– Secretary– Demo Coordinator– Events Coordinator– Fund Raising Coordinator– Public Relations Coordinator

• Term of positions• Listed on TGIF website’s bylaw page• TGIF Steering Committee needs you

Mission Statement

• The purpose of TGIF is to promote and facilitate, safe, sane and consensual BDSM for adults with those interests, by providing a discreet, safe, supportive, atmosphere through education, discussion, resources and group events.

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TGIF is NOT

• A swinging singles club – or• A dating service – or• A place for sex orgies

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TGIF IS

• A place for BDSM education

SLAVETRAINING

DISCUSSION GROUPS

TOY MAKING

WORKSHOPSBAY-AREA

PRESENTERS

TGIF IS also

• A place to make nonjudgmental friends

We need you

• A good way to meet people is to volunteer

TGIF Membership

• TGIF is open to all people who have attained the age of 18 and who have not been banned from group membership by the TGIF Steering Committee. No person shall be denied membership in this organization on the basis of race, sex, color, national origin, age, marital status, political views, disability, sexual orientation or kink.

How to Become a TGIF Member

1. Attend two munches or non-play events.2. Attend this TGIF membership orientation3. Complete the TGIF membership agreement

form4. Pay dues

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What is BDSM? (Bondage, Discipline, Sadism, Masochism)

• BDSM is one of several names given to a collection of behaviors that involve bondage, spanking, domination and other activities that are done in an erotic context. We believe that it should be practiced in a safe, sane, consensual and non-abusive manner. BDSM is a form of erotic play that involves significant emotional and physical risks and thus requires instruction in order to ensure reasonable safety.

Recommendations for Safety

1. Know your play partner

2. Leave reality out of it

3. Try it yourself

4. Prepare for emergencies

5. Have a silent alarm (safe call)

Recommendations for Safety (cont.)Short, Short Negotiation Form 1. Experience Level Novice Tried it a few times

Experienced 2. Level of Play Mild Medium Hard

3. Anything you would like to try? 4. Medical Problems: 5. Emotional Reactions: 6. What safewords are you used to? 7. Hard Limits: 8. What type of sexual touching, if any, are you comfortable with?

9. Is it ok to leave marks? If so where? 10. Roles you like to play:

11. Is it ok to have other another person join our scene? 12. Anything else you think would be important to tell me?

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6. Negotiation

Recommendations for Safety (cont.)

7. Use safe-words

8. Check in with submissive

9. Make sure “toys” are rounded off on edges

10. Start lightly and build slowly

11. Use the one-to-ten technique

12. Strike only muscled, fleshy areas of the body

Recommendations for Safety (cont.)

13. Use soft or plain paraffin candles

14. Self experiment with clamps before using

15. Do not try piercing or breaking the skin

16. At first play with no bondage

17. Don’t tie too tight

Recommendations for Safety (cont.)

18. Never leave a person alone

19. Should be able to free someone in one minute

20. Use caution when doing self-bondage

21. Play involving suffocation CAN BE LIFE THREATENING!

E-groups

• TGIF_Announcements• FRBDSM• FresnoDM• TGIFDinner• TGIFCampPerv• TGIF_Tenth_Anniversary_Committee• TGIF_Steering_Committee_Forum

FRBDSM E-Group Rules

• No real names, (phone numbers, address)

• No personal ads

• No flames

• No under 18 year old

FRDSM E-Group - Other Things

• Remember email goes to all e-group members

• Personal discussion• No RSVP• Off topic• Forward to everyone you know• Jokes• Subject line

E-vites

• Usually go out a week before the event• Usually for members-only events• RSVP • What you will bring (per person)• Guests• View Map• Payment via PayPal• Addy Changes

Bringing Guests

RSVP Rule

• The TGIF steering committee has adopted a rule that states: "If a member RSVPs to afunction and does not give at least 24 hours cancellation notice they will be required to pay the function fee. Until the fee is paid theperson is put on a waiting list for any future functions."

TGIF Events

• Socials and other non-play• Educational• Orientation (Educational)• Munch (Social)

Play Parties

• TGIF does not hold play parties

PLAY PARTIES

Socials and Other Non-play Events

• NO playing

• NO toys

• NO children

• NO exceptions

Confirmations

• Usually go out the Wednesday before a Saturday event

• Three days before a week-day event

Educational Events

• Donations

• RSVP

Promoting BDSM Awareness & Understanding

• Fresno State • Alliant• Fresno City College (future)• Other (suggestions?)

Basic Protocol

• Collared submissive

• Dominants

• Other couples

No means No

• It is ok to ask a Dominant or submissive to play

• Don’t keep asking over and over once you have been told “No”

• Don’t take “no” personally

Common Dungeon Rules

1. Ultimate Safe-words (purple)

2. Courtesy

3. No blood sports, water-sports, fire-play, wax-play, single tail, winch

4. Cleanup

5. Penetration only with barriers

Common Dungeon Rules (cont.)

6. Loud vocal response equals gag

7. No alcohol or illegal drugs

8. Time-limit on equipment (30 minutes)

9. No pictures without permission

10.Smoking in designated areas

Common Dungeon Rules (cont)

11.Social and snack area not for play

12.No voyeurs talking in the dungeon

13.Notify dungeon monitor; don’t stop play yourself

14.Do not play with other people’s toys without permission

TGIF Website

• www.TGIFresno.org• About us• Bylaws• Contact us• Members• Calendar• Links• Books• Join TGIF

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TGIF Member Discounts (on member page link)

Name Company Name Address/Addy Product Discount

John Massage Therapy Van Ness, Fresno massage 25%

Domina The Frugal Domme www.frugaldomme.com bondage toys 15%

Alan & nancy Snake Pit Leather Works www.snakepitleatherworks.com whips & floggers 15%

JT’s Stockroom www.stockroom.com B& D toys 10%

Orpheusandindigo@yahoo.com knives 10%

The End (of the presentation)

• Fill out evaluation form• Read and fill out membership application

After that, you are officially a TGIF memberWelcome to TGIF!

We have TGIF pins, decals and t-shirts available