TheRelentlessMind

“HowToWinTheMentalGameAndMaximizeYourPotential”

Createdby:TreySlate

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YouAre

Unstoppable

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Intro

Thepurposeofthismentaltrainingbookletistohelpyoumaximizeyourpotential.MichaelJordanonceclaimedthat80%ofthegameismental.Not80%skill.Not80%physical.But80%mental.

Ibelievemanyathletesleavethementalsideofthegame"uptochance".Themajorityofathletesdon'tpracticementalskillsbecausetheyeitherdon'tknowhowortheydon'tthinkitisveryimportant.Wellconsiderthis,ifarguablythebestplayerofalltimeconsidersthegame80%mentalwouldn'tyouagreethatitwouldberidiculoustoleave80%ofyourpotential"uptochance"?

KobeBryantisanavidmeditatorandcontributesmentaltrainingforhisabilitytohandlepressure.Kobesaidthisaboutpressure,"Somepeopleknowhowtohandleit(pressure),somepeopledon't.Thepressurecangettoyou.Whenyoufeelit,it'showyoudealwithit.Youhavetoprepareyourselfaswellasyoucan."

Kobewouldprepareforpressurebothmentallyandphysically.Hewouldpreparementallybymeditatingandfindinghiscalmcenterwithhisbreathe.Hewouldalsopreparephysicallybydeliberatelypracticingsowhenapressuresituationcamehewouldsimplyfindhiscalmcenterwithhisbreathe,getoutofhisownway,andtrusthistrainingtodotheworkwhenitmattersthemost.

Thinkaboutwhereyoucouldbeifyouweretostartactivelymaximizingyourpotentialbypracticingmentalskills.Andyes,mentaltrainingisaskilljustlikeanythingelse.Theonlywaytogetbetteratmentaltrainingandhonementalskillsistodothereps.Youhavetomastertheprinciples,doMVP'severyday(M-meditate,V-visualize,P-positiveaffirmations),andcommittothejourneyofgettingbettereachandeveryday.

Weallwanttobethebestwecanpossiblybeineverywalkoflife.Mentaltraininghelpsfuelourmindstobeexactlythat.Practicingmentalskillsnotonlyhelpsmaximizeourperformanceonthecourtbutalsogreatlyimprovesourqualityoflifeoffthecourt.Allofthementalskillsyouwilllearnin'TheRelentlessMind'candirectlybeappliedtoyourlifeoutsideofbasketballandhopefullycontributetoyouroverallenjoymentoflife.

Inordertobethebestyou,onandoffthecourt,youhavetoinvestinyourmind.Don'tleaveyourpotentialuptochance.Adopt'TheRelentlessMind'.Dothereps.Andbecomeunstoppable!

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Principle#1:TheEyeofTheHurricane

Hurricanesareknownfortheirdestructivenatureandabilitytodismantleanyandeverythingthatcomesacrosstheirpath. ButwhatifItoldyoutheverycenterofthisdisruptiveforcewasthecalmestareaofthehurricane?It’shardtobelieve,butitistrue. Thecalmcenterofthehurricaneisknownastheeye,andnomatterhowviolentandextremethesurroundingstormgets,theeyealwaysstayscalm. Theworld’sgreatestperformers,ineveryarenaofsportsandlife,understandtheprinciple“TheEyeofTheHurricane”.Theyunderstandtheeyerepresentstheirowninternalexperience,andnomatterwhatishappeningaroundthem,theyarethemastersoftheirowninternalworld.Theyknowthatevenwhentheirsurroundingsarewildandfullofexternalpressures,theycanrestintheeyeofthehurricaneandfindacalmingpeacetoperformthetaskathandwithease. Thebestofthebestthriveunderpressure.Theabilitytoperformunderpressureisaskilljustlikeanythingelse.Theonlywaytogetbetterathandlingpressureistobeinpressuresituations.Thegreatsareabletorecognizepressure,findtheircenter(theeyeofthehurricane),anddowork. Whenyouareabletofindcenter,yougetoutofyourownway.Youarenolongerworryingaboutoutsidepressuresorthingsyoucan’tcontrol,butyouallowyourselftotrustyourtrainingandlettheresultsbetheresults. Thebestwaytofind“youreye”iswithyourbreathe.Yourbreatheisalwaysinthepresentmoment.Ifyoucanfocusallyourattentiontoyourbreathebytakinglong-slowinhalesandcalm-relaxingexhalesyouwillfindyourcenter.

Anytimepressureortheexternalenvironmentstartstorattleyou,findcenter.Focusallyourattentiontoyourbreathingasifaloved-oneslifedependedonit.Focusoncomingbacktocenter,find“youreye”,anddowork.

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Principle#2:WINTheMoment

Theonlytimewefeelpressure,orwhenwefeelfeariswhenwegetoutofthepresentmoment.Thereisnopressureinthepresentmoment.Thereisnofear.Pressureandfearonlyexistwhenwearelookingtothepastorthefuture.Whenwe

arecompletleyengagedinthepresentmomenttheonlythingonourmindsisthetaskathand.

WINstandsfor“What’s

ImportantNow”.Whenwecompletelyfocusonwhatisimportantnowpressureandfeardon’texist.Itisonlywhenwetakeourmindoffthepresentmomentwhenfearandpressureseemtogripussotightly.

WehavetoWINthemoment.The

onlymomentwecanaffectisthepresentmoment.Thehereandthenow.

Beingfullyengagedinthepresentmomentisabeautifulthing.Whenweareabletogetoutofourownwayandjustdo,that’swhenweexperienceflowor“TheZone”.Thereisapointwherethepresentmomentbecomessointensewecompletleyforgetaboutourself. Whenweforgetaboutourselfwenolongerviewourslefasbeingseparatefromthetaskwearedoing.Butwebecomeintertwined.Toexperience“TheZone”wehavetoletthepresentmomentconsumeus.Wehavetoseewhatisinfrontofus.Bewithourbreatheinthehereandnow.Andcompletelyfocuson“What’sImportantNow”.Thatistheonlywaytobeabsorbedinthetaskyouaredoingandengageintheamazingexperienceof“TheZone”.

Thebestwayforyoutoperformatyourhighestlevelistogetoutofyourownway.Don’toverthink.Focuson“What’sImportantNow”andjustdo.WINthemoment.

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Principle#3:ControltheControllables

Inlife,therearemanythingsoutsideofourcontrol.Therearefarmorethingsthatareoutsideofourcontrolthantherearethingsinsideourcontrol.Asfrustratingasthatmaybe,that’sjustthewaythingsare.Wecaneitherfighttocontrolthosethingswejustcan’tcontrolandliveinaworldofchaos.Or,wecanrecognizeandworktowardsthethingsinsideofourcontrolandbesatisfiedwithgivingourabsolutebestwhereweare,withwhatwehave. Thereareonlythreethingsthatarealwaysinourcontrol.Thatisourattitude,oureffort,andourpersepctive.Anythingelseisoutsideour

control…includingresults.

Asdifficultasitmayseemtobelieve,resultsarefaroutsideourcontrol.Ifwecouldcontrolresultswewouldhaveneverlostagameinourlife,missedashot,orfailedinanyendeavorofourlives.But,that’snotthecase.Wejustsimplycan’tcontrolwinning/losingorfailing/notfailing.

Wecan’tcontrolreferees,

wecan’tcontrolfans,wecan’tcontroltheopinionsofothers,andwecan’tcontrolplayingtime.

Butwecancontrolourattitudeineverywalkoflife.Wecontrolwhattypeof

energywepouroutintotheworldeveryday.Wecontrolwhetherwehaveagreatattitudeandremainhumbleinourdailywalk.Wecontrolwhetherornotwegivemaximumeffort.Wechooseeverymomentofeverydaywhattypeofeffortwearegoingtogive.Wecontrolourpersepectiveontheworld.Wecontrolwhattypeoflensewelookthroughtheworldwith.Wecontrolwhetherwehaveapositiveornegativeoutlookonourlife.

Nomatterwhatcircumstanceyouarefacedwithinlifeyouare100%in

controlofwhetheryouhaveagreatattitude,givemaximumeffort,andhaveapositiveperspectiveonthecurrentsituation.

Controlthecontrollables…

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Principle#4:TheWolfYouFeedWins

ThereisanoldNative

Americanproverbaboutayoungboywhowenttohisgrandfatherpleadingforhelpaboutthefightofgoodvsevilthathewasfacingwithinhimself.

Thegrandfatherrepliedtothe

youngboy,“Thereisalwaysawargoingoninsideofyoumyyoungwarrior.Ononesideisanevilwolffullofhatred,anger,false-pride,resentment,guilt,lies,regret,envyandgreed.Andontheothersideisthewolffulloflove,compassion,faith,humility,joy,hope,generosity,kindness,andpeace.Thesewolvesareatwarinsideofyouandeveryoneelseeverysingleday,butonlyonewolfwillwinandbeshownthroughourdailywalk.”

Theyoungboythoughtforamomentandthenpreceeedtoaskhis

grandfather,“Whichwolfwillwin?”Thewiseoldmanrepliedtohisyounggrandson,“Thewolfyoufeed.”Thisoldproverbisagreatillustrationontheeffectsthatourself-talk,what

welistento,whatwewatch,andwhowehangaroundcanhaveontheworldaroundus.

Thethingswewatch,listento,andwhowehangaroundarefeedingoneof

thetwowolves.Somakesureyouarewatchingandlisteiningtothingsthatinspireyoutodowellintheworld.Makesureyouaresurroundedwithpeoplewhoencourageyoutogrowandbecomethebestyoucanpossiblybeineverywalkoflife.

Thewaywetalktoourselfanddescribetheeventsthathappentousare

feedingoneofthetwowolves.Somakesuretotalktoyourselfwithloveandgrace.Makesureyouareconstantlylookingatyourlifethroughalenseofloveandpositivity.

Youarealwaysfeedingoneofthewolvesinsideyou…thewolfyoufeedthe

mostisthewolfthatwillwinoveryourlife.

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Principle#5:SurrendertheResults

“Theultimateillusionofthehumanexperienceiscontrol.Thepersonyouwantbesideyouinbattleistheguywhosurrenderedtheoutcome,andsurrenderedtothefactthathemightdie.Whenyousurrendertheoutcome,youarefreeduptobeatyourbest,tobeinthemoment,andtotrustyourtraining.Itistheonewhohassurrenderedtheoutcomewhoironicallyhasthegreatestchanceofsurvival.”

“Itistheonewhohassurrenderedtheoutcomewhohasthegreatestchanceofsuccess.Itistheonewhohassurrenderedtothefactthathecouldfail,whohasthegreatestlikelihoodofnotfailing.Untilyousurrendertheoutcome,youwillalwaysbethegreatestenemytoyourownsuccess.Inordertoreachyourgreatestpotentialyoumustoperatewithaheartpostureofgratitude,

committothecontrollable,surrendertheoutcome,andtrusttheprocess."–JudahSmith

Ifinditextremelyironicthatwhenwesurrendertheresultswetypicallyget

theresultswedesiredinthefirstplace.Tosomepeopleitmaysoundridiculoustosurrendertheresults,buthereishowthisthingworks:

Whenwesurrendertheresultsweallowourselvestobefullyengagedinthe

presentmoment(theonlymomentwecanaffect).Whenourmindisfocusedonresults,wecan’tpossiblybeinthepresentmoment,becauseourmindsarelookingtowardthefuture(results).It’snotabadthingtolooktowardthefuture,butwhenitcomestopeakperformance,lookingaheadisonlyslowingusdown.Inordertobeatyourbestyouhavetobecompletelyabsorbedinthepresentmoment.Youhavetoconcentrateonthethingsyoucancontrol,beinthehereandnowwithyourbreath,anddothebestyoucanwithwhatyouhave.Thetimeandplaceforlookingaheadtothefutureisn’tinthemidstofcompetition.

Thewarriorwhoisabletotapintotheirgreatestperformanceisthewarrior

whohassurrenderedtheresults,isfullypresent,andabsorbedintheprocess.

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Principle#6:Act

Confidenceisn’tafeeling.Confidenceisanaction.Whenyouactconfident,youfeelconfident.Ifyouwaitonthefeelingofconfidencetojustcometoyou,youwillbewaitingaverylongtime. It’simportanttounderstandthisbecausethisnotonlyappliestoconfidence,butitappliestoconfidence’sgreatestenemy…fear.Unlesswehardwireourbrainstobattleagainstfear,wewillbeheldcaptivebyourownfearsandbeaprisonertothe“whatifs”oflife. Thegoodnewsiswecanwinthisbattle.Wejusthavetodecideeachandeverydaytofight.Justbecausewefeelfeardoesn’tmeanwehavetoactafraid.Wecanactourwayintothefeelingofconfidence.Thistakesboldness,thistakesfaith,andthistakessomeseriousguts.Butthegoodnewsisyoualreadyhaveeverythingyouneedwithinyoutoconqueroryourfears.Oftentimesontheothersideofyourgreatestfearsareyourgreatestopportunities.Don’twasteyourlifeallowingfeartoparalyzeyou.Seizeyouropportunities.Liveyourbestlife.Fearcannolongerstopyou.

Whenyoufeelnervous,orafraid…actintothefeeling.Actasifyouhavedoneitathousandtimes.Trustyourselfthatyouareequippedtohandletheoutcomenomatterwhatitis. Courageisn’ttheabsenceoffear…itisthemasteryoffear.Wemasterourfearbyfeelingthefear,butactinganyway.Whenweconsistentlyactboldlyinthefaceoffearwebuildmoreandmoreconfidence.

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However,sometimesyourfearwillbecomeareality.Andwhenthatfearbecomesareality,youwillrealizeyouarefullyequippedtodealwithitandyouwillbereadytotakethenextleapoffaithyourliferequires.

Onedayyouwillhavetolookbackonyourlifeandacceptthepathyouhavetaken.Don’tletthatpathbemarkedbyfearsthatgrippedyoutightlyandheldyouprisoner.Makesureonedayyoulookbackatyourlifeandyouareproudoftheleapsoffaithyouhaventakenandthescarsyouhaveearnedfromactingboldly.Thelastthingyouwantofyourlifeistolookbackandwonder“whatif”.

Actconfident.Bebold.Becourageous.

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Principle#7:GoAllIn

Goingallinisscary.Becausewhenwegoallintherearenomoreexcuses.Youcan’tsay,“Ijustwasn’ttryingveryhard.That’swhyIfailed.”

Ibelievethereasonmostpeopleareafraidtogoallinisbecausethey

areafraidofhowtheywilllookWHENtheyfail.Andyes,Isaidwhen.Becausefailureisinevitable.Thesooneryouunderstandthat,thesooneryoucanbeonyourwaytomaximizingyourpotential.

Whenyouacceptthatfailure

isinevitableandisasteppingstonetoyourdevelopmentasaplayer/personyouwillbemorewillingtogoallin.

Whodoyouwanttoberememberedas?Doyouwan’ttobethepersonthatplayeditsafe,performedwellattimes,butnevermaximizedtheirpotential?Ordoyou

wanttobethepersonthatfinishesempty,withnothingleftmoretopossiblygive?

Theonlywaytobesatisfiedwithyoureffortoflifeistofinishempty.

Eachandeveryday.Finishempty.Giveeverythingyoucanpossiblygive.Foryouaren’tworkingjustfortoday,butyouareworkingtowardsthepersonyoudesiretobecome.

EveryoneadmiresgreatensswhenitisseenonTV,butifeveryone

weretoseetheprocessittooktoachievegreatness,peoplewouldn’tbeasimpressed.Youwanttoknowwhy?Becausegreatnessisearned…notgiven.

Manypeopleassumegreatnessisonlyreservedforaselectgroupof

people.Thatisalie.Greatnessisearnedthroughhard-work,andwhenpeopleseetheprocessofyouworkingyourgutsouttheywontunderstand.Buttheydon’thaveto.Itisyourdream.Itisyourgreatness.Youjusthavetoseizeit.

Finishempty.Giveyourabsoluteeverything.GOALLIN.

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Principle#8:DrinkFromTheValley

Failureisinevitableandifyouarefullycommitedtoadoptingthe“RelentlessLifestyle”,givingmaximumeffortandreachingyourfullestpotential,failureneedstohappen. Failureisthesteppingstonetoyourgreatness… Failureiswhatisgoingtopropelyoutothatnextlevel… Youjusthavetokeeppressingforward…

Whenyouhavefailedoverandoveragain,learnedfromthosefailures,anddecidedtokeeppushingforwardevenwhenthereisnothingbutgiganticmountainsaroundyou,that’swhenyouwillbeonyourwaytoreachingyourfullestpotentialasaperson. Thisiswhattheprinciple“DrinkFromTheValley”isallabout.Weallwanttobeonthemountaintoplookingoverourwonderfulaccomplishments,anddon’tgetmewrongthemountaintopisgreat.Butthemountaintopisn’tnearassweetunlessyouhadtogothroughavalleytogetthere.Itisthefailures,thehardships,andthestrugglesinlifethatnotonlymakegreatachievementssowonderful,butwhatmakesgreatacheivementsevenhappen.

Itisthevalleysinlifethatprepareyouforsuccess.Itisthevalleysinlifeyouwillcometoloveandappreciate.Becausethevalleysiswhereyoulearn,itiswhereyoubecomestronger,anditiswhereyoudevelopyourgrit. Climbingamountainisn’teasyjustasreachingahigh-levelofmasteryisn’teasy.Itisthevalleysthatprepareusforthisclimb.

Whenyoufailandyoufindyourselfinavalley,don’tthrowapity-party.Drinkfromthevalley.Allowthefailuretobuildyoustrongerthanbefore.Allowthe

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failuretohelpyougrowmoreintothepersonyouwanttobe.Allowthevalleytofuelyoutoworkharder.

Youhavetodigyourwayoutofthevalley.Butyoucandoit.Youalready

haveeverythingyouneedinsideyou.Sometimesyoujustneedfailuretoawakenthebeast.

Sowhenyoufail,drinkfromthevalley.Whenyouhavemusteredupstrength

topressforward,maketheclimb.Onceyouclimbandconqueorthemountain,appreciatetheview,becauseanothervalleyheadingyourway.

ALWAYSstayhumble.ALWAYSstayhungry.Andalwaysremember,Fail.Drink.Climb.Conqueor.Repeat.

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Principle#9:ChopWood,CarryWater

“Beforeenlightenment,chopwood,carrywater.Afterenlightenmeent,chopwood,carrywater.”–Unkown

Thisoldproverbteachesusthattohavesuccess,orhappiness,youhaveto

committotheprocess.Andonceyouhavesuccess,youstickwiththeprocess.Everyyearthereare30playerspickedinthefirstroundoftheNBAdraft.

Whatoftenseparatesthetheseplayersfromthepackiswhattheychoosetodoaftertheyaredrafted.

Mostoftheseathletesspenttheirwholelifedreaming

forthisreality.Formanyoftheseathletesoncetheyreachthispinnacleofsuccessthewillrelax…theywillstopchoopingwood,andcarryingwater…theywillstopworking.ButforthefewwhowillgoontobecomeNBAAll-StarsandplayintheNBA10+yearsaretheplayerswhokeepworking,whokeepchoopingwood,andcarryingwater.

Lifeisn’tabouttheendresult,orhowmuchfameyouachievehereonearth.

Lifeisaboutwhowearebecomingeachandeveryday.Itisaboutbecomingthebestpossibleversionofyourselfandaddingvaluetothisworld.

Life’senjoymentwontbefoundinyoursuccesses.Youwillachievesuccess

andyouwilljustwantmore.Successwillneverfulfillyou.Learntolovetheprocess.Learntotakeyoureyesofftheendresultandfixthemonthehereandnow.Learntolovetheeverydayofgettingbetter.Learntoloveworkinghardeachdayandbecomingthebestyou…that’swherelife’senjoymentisfound.

Therearenoshortcutstosuccess.Therearenoshortcutstogreatness.Itis

hardwork.Itismundaneattimes.Justlikechoppingwood,andcarryingwater.Butyouhavetocommittotheworkeveryday.Whenyousucceed,chopwood,carrywater.Whenyoufail,chopwood,carrywater.Why?Becausetheprocesswillbuildyoustrongerthanyoucouldeverimagineandprepareyouforgreatchallengesandobstaclesahead.

Youhavetolovetheeverydaygrind.Youhavetolovechoppingwood,andcarryingwater.

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BonusParable:“TheGreatCarpenter”

Thereasanoldparableaboutaagreatcarpenterwhobuiltthemost

magnificenthouses.Thecarpenterhadbeenworkingformany,manyyearsandwasreadytoretire.Hewasknownworldwideforhismagnificentcraftsmanshipandthequalityofthematerialshewoulduse.But,hewasgettingoldandhewasreadytoenjoyspendingtimewithhisfamily.

Thegreatcarpenterwenttohis

contractorandtoldhimhewastoretireandstartspendingmoretimewithhisfamily.Thecontractorwasverysadtohearthisforthiscarpenterwashisprideandjoy.Hekindlyaskedthecarpentertojustbuildonelasthouse,hejustaskedthisonefavorfromhisdearfriend.Thecarpenterhesitantlyagreedandbegantobuildthisonelasthouse.

Asthecarpentersbegantobuilditwaseasytoseehisheartwasn'tallthe

wayinit.Hedidn'tobsessoverthedetailsasheusuallywould,hewasn'tpreciseinhisworkmanship,heusedcheapmaterials,andhedidn'tbuildwiththesamepassionashealwayshadinthepast.Thecarpenterjustwantedtobuildthehouseandgetitoverwith.

Whenthecarpenterfinallyfinishedthehouse,hewasveryrelieved.Hewent

tohiscontractorandtoldhimhehadfinishedhislasthomeandwasnowreadytoenjoysomequalitytimewithhisfamily.Thecontractorthankedthecarpenterforallhishardworkovertheyearsandasagiftofhisgratitudehehandedhimthekeytothehousehehadjustbuiltandtoldhim,"thisismygifttoyou".

Ifonlythecarpenterhadknownhewasbuildinghisownhousewewouldhavebeensomuchmoreprecise,somuchmoredetailed,usedonlythehighestqualitymaterials,andwouldhavebuiltthehousewitheveryounceofpassionhisheartwouldpourout.Butinsteadthegreatcarpenterhadtoliveinthehousehehadreluctantlybuilt.

Itisthesamewithus.Weliveourlivesdistracted,reactingtotheworldaroundusinsteadofdeliberatelyacting,andwillingtogivelessthanourabsolutebesteffort.Thenallofthesuddenwelookaroundatthesituationwehavecreated

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andrealizewearelivinginthehousewehavebuiltthroughourdailyactions.Ifonlywewouldhaveknownthateachdayweourbuildingourownhouse.

Weallneedtothinkofourselvesasthecarpenter.Imaginethehouseyouwanttobuild,visualizethepersonyouwanttobe.

Eachdayyouarebuildingthathouse….eachdayyouhammeranailintowho

youwillbecome.Buildyourlifewithpurpose;itistheonlylifeyouwilleverbuild.Thereare

nodo-oversinthisworld.Evenifweonlyliveforonemoreday,thatdaydeservestobelivedwithpassion,purpose,anddignity.Yourlifetomorrowwillbetheresultofthedecisionsyoumake,theattitudeyouapproachtheworldwith,andtheeffortyouputforthtoday.Sobuildwisely….