The Psychosocial Personality/Identity Re-Development of Pema Chodron, American Buddhist Nun

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Mbnmzb Jaefgnbam&Jzesk! jb}}bz okesk `| Xbf` Ldemzek! `k @fbznl`k Jrmmdn|} krk! s`|

jzercd} }e dbz g`n}d geaaesnkc }db g narzb eg }se f`zzn`cb|+ ]db |rj|bprbk} zbnkwbk}nek eg

dbz angb `km des |db jbl`fb ke} eka~ ` sbaa&zb|xbl}bm Jrmmdn|} abm }e xzeangnl `r}dez|dnx! `

xexra`za~ |ercd} |xbòbz okesk gez dbz! S zf}d! sn|mef! km drfez! dbz meskzncd}

zbàkb||! $Ankm|`~! :884. `km }db jblefnkc eg `k bt}zèzmnk`z~ nk|ncd}gra nkmnwnmrà+ \db

mbwbaexbm }db rkl`kk~ `jnan}~ }e ke} |e frld }z`k|gezf x`nk jr} ab`k nk}e n}! nk geaaesnkc

sn}d Jrmmdn|} }z`mn}nek+ @ ld`kcb nk dbz angb| x`}d s`| abm j~ |rld }b`ldbz| `| Ldec~`f

]zrkcx` Znkxeldb! ` Jrmmdn|} fbmn}`}nek xz`l}n}nekbz `km gerkmbz eg \d`fjdà`

$rklekmn}nekà aewb.! `| sbaa |! x`nk `km g`narzb+ Desbwbz! }dercd Ldemzek seram

jblefb }db gnz|} @fbznl`k }e rkmbzce Jdno|drkn ezmnk`}nek $graa ezmnk`}nek }e jblefb `

krk.! f`k~ bkwn`jab prb|}nek| zbf`nk+ S`| }dn| kbs x`}d ekb eg zb}znjr}nek ez `k `l} eg

`wenm`klb $Cnwnkc rx. `g}bz }se g`nabm f`zzn`cb|5 Mnm |db geaaes ` dbà}d~ x|~lde|elnà

|}`cb eg mbwbaexfbk} ez zb&mbwbaexfbk} eg xbz|ekàn}~%nmbk}n}~ `llezmnkc }e }dbezn|} Bzno

Bzno|ek| Bxncbkb}nl ld`z} $X|~lde|elnà mbwbaexfbk}.5 Mnm lra}rzb `km cbkmbz xa`~ ` ob~

x`z} nk dbz b`za~ ldenlb eg bfxae~fbk} `km lek}nkrbm f`zzn`cb `}}bfx}|5 @km gnkàa~! d`|

|db zb`ldbm! `} }db lrzzbk} `cb eg 37! |}`cb| eg Cbze}z`k|lbkmbklb ez \}`ck`}nek5 Cab`knkc

sd`} an}}ab nkgezf`}nek n| `w`na`jab ek dbz b`za~ ~b`z| `km r|nkc dbz szn}}bk sezo|! abl}rzb|!

`km krfbzer| }z`k|lznjbm nk}bzwnbs| sb snaa xnblb }ecb}dbz Ldemzek| xbz|ekàn}~ }e

rkz`wba sdb}dbz |db d`| zb`ldbm ` dbà}d~ |}`cb eg mbwbaexfbk} ez d`| f`k`cbm }e `wenm

ob~ |nmb| eg mbwbaexfbk} `llezmnkc }e Bzno|ek+

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]db X|~lde|elnà Xbz|ekàn}~%Nmbk}n}~ Zb&Mbwbaexfbk} eg Xbf` Ldemzek!

@fbznl`k Jrmmdn|} Krk

]db |}ez~ eg }snlb&f`zznbm `km }snlb&mnwezlbm @fbznl`k Jrmmdn|} krk Xbf`

Ldemzek n| ekb eg }z`k|gezf`}nek+ Des |db }rzkbm ` |b} eg mbw`|}`}nkc kbc`}nwb| nk}e

xe|n}nwb|! `k `kkndna`}nek eg ekb xbz|ekàn}~%nmbk}n}~ nk}e kbs! `km seram a }bz jblefb `

|~fjea gez }der|`km| eg e}dbz nkmnwnmrà| sde seram ce ek }e db`z }db }z`k|n}nekà |}ez~+

]dr| r|nkc n} `| ` crnmb gez }dbnz esk x`}d&|dòbk anwb|! sn}d }db nkbwn}`jab prb|}nek eg

sdb}dbz ez ke} |rld ` ab`mbz lde|b ` dbà}d~ x`}d ez ekb eg `wenm`klb+

N} àa jbcnk| sn}d ` zelo }d`} n| }dzesk `} `k rkg`n}dgra |xer|b! `k `l}nek }d`} seram

xzelbbm }e ld`kcb }db }dzesbz| angb nk s`~| |db kbwbz seram d`wb nf`cnkbm! `} ` }nfb

sdbk |db s`| e}dbzsn|b an}}ab okesk `| Mbnmzb Jefgnbam&Jzesk+

D`m }dbzb jbbk }db exxez}rkn}~! }dbezn|} Bzno Defjbzcbz Bzno|ek seram d`wb fezb

}d`k anoba~ `lokesabmcbm }d`} Mbnmzb Jefgnbam&Jzesk s`| ` dbà}d~! sbaa&b|}`jan|dbm

nkmnwnmrà! d`wnkc fb} àa }db b`za~ |}`cb| eg dn| x|~lde|elnà mbwbaexfbk} |rllb||graa~

jbgezb }db |rj|bprbk} zelo }dzesnkc+ Dn| Bxncbkb}nl ld`z} eg |}`cb| gzef nkg`kl~ }e eam

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]dn| nkgezf`}nek gzef dbz b`za~ angb n| ` fbzb canfx|b nk}e dbz gezf`}nwb ~b`z| jr}

|rccb|}| }d`} Jefgnbam&Jzesk d`m ` |eanm! |`gb `km sbaa&zerkmbm rxjznkcnkc+ Sdbk }ònkc

nk}e lek|nmbz`}nek eg }db }nfb xbznem! dbz |rj|bprbk} ldenlb| `km angb|}~ab seram gàa sbaa

sn}dnk |elnb}~| btxbl}bm zeab| gez sefbk+ Jbnkc }d`} |db f`zznbm km |rj|bprbk}a~ d`m

}se ldnamzbk! ` je~ `km ` cnza+ ]db ~erkc g`fna~ fewnkc gzef }db b`|} le`|} }e }db sb|}!

Làngezkn`! sdbzb }db fe}dbz eg }se seram ce ek }e ej}`nk ` f`|}bz| nk bmrl`}nek gzef }db

Rknwbz|n}~ eg Làngezkn` } Jbzobab~ `km jbl`fb `k babfbk}`z~ |ldeea }b`ldbz+ $*Exz`d

Snkgzb~ }ào|!* :884.

@c`nk! }db sbaa&zb|xbl}bm zeab| eg fe}dbz `km }b`ldbz seram jb fezb }d`k

`llbx}`jab! ng ke} btxbl}bm! gez ` sef`k eg dbz }nfb nk }db Rkn}bm \}`}b|+ N} s`| bk}nzba~

lekwbk}nekà! `km seram d`wb sbaa x`||bm Bzno|ek| x|~lde|elnà |}`cb| eg }zr|} wbz|r|

fn|}zr|} mrznkc nkg`kl~! `r}ekef~ nk b`za~ ldnamdeem! nkn}n`}nwb nk }db xa`~ |}`cb| eg angb!

nkmr|}z~ nk }db |ldeea ~b`z| `km d`wnkc b|}`jan|dbm `k nmbk}n}~ `| `k `meab|lbk} `km cenkc

ek }e ` |rllb||gra nk}nf`l~ wbz|r| n|ea`}nek `| ` ~erkc `mra}+ $Laeknkcbz! :884.

\`wb gez `k nk}bzzrx}nek eg sd`} `xxb`z| }e d`wb jbbk ` |eanm gerkm`}nek sdbk dbz

x`}d n| cnwbk n}| gnz|} ke}`jab jrfx sn}d }db mn||ear}nek eg dbz gnz|} f`zzn`cb gzef }db g`}dbz

eg dbz ldnamzbk+ Jaefgnbam&Jzesk f`k`cb| }e |rllb||graa~ geaaes }dn| sn}d

zbb|}`jan|dfbk} eg dbz nmbk}n}~ `| ` |xer|b sn}d ` |blekm f`zzn`cb }e ` szn}bz }d`} seram

}òb dbz `km dbz }se ldnamzbk `s`~ gzef Làngezkn` }e Kbs Fbtnle+

Sd`} an}}ab n| |d`zbm `jer} bn}dbz f`zzn`cb| leram xbzd`x| jb |rffbm rx ke} eka~

nk }db g`narzb eg je}d jr} j~ }db |bbfnkca~ nk|nckngnl`k} jr} bwbk}rà }z`k|gezf`}nek

fefbk} sn}d ` zelo+

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Jaefgnbam&Jzesk| |blekm dr|j`km lefb| defb ekb m`~ sn}d }db `kkerklbfbk}

db| d`wnkc `k `gg`nz `km s`k}| ` mnwezlb+

\delobm j~ }db zbwba`}nek! gbbankc }db czerkm |sbx} er} gzef jbkb`}d dbz gbb}!

Jaefgnbam&Jzesk ab`k| ewbz! xnlo| rx ` zelo! `km }dzes| n} `} dnf+

N mek} okes sd~ n} mbw`|}`}bm fb |e frld jr} n} s`| zbàa~ ` onkm eg

`kkndna`}nek+ N} s`| }db jbcnkknkc eg f~ |xnzn}rà x`}d! |`nm Ldemzek $Sàobz! :800. eg `

fefbk} }d`} d`| kbwbz jbbk bk}nzba~ ez |~|}bf`}nlàa~ mn||bl}bm+ Sdnab |}naa nmbk}ng~nkc

dbz|bag `| ekb Mbnmzb Jzefgnbam&Jzesk mrznkc dbz |blekm mnwezlb! n} n| `k nmbk}n}~

ejwner|a~ nk lzn|n|+ @} }db }nfb |db |deram d`m jbbk gnzfa~ xa`k}bm nk Bzno|ek|

cbkbz`}nwn}~ |}`cb! ekb }d`} seram d`wb dbz crnmnkc ~erkcbz cbkbz`}nek|! je}d }dzercd dbz

ldnamzbk `km }d`} eg dbz |}rmbk}| `| `k babfbk}`z~ |ldeea }b`ldbz+ Cnwbk }d`} |db d`m aekc

|nklb b|}`jan|dbm! ek }se |bx`z`}b ell`|nek| }db zeab eg ` |xer|b! }db |}`cb eg nk}nf`l~ d`m

jbbk fb}+ ]dercd }d`} s`| kes |rggbznkc k nk}bzzrx}nek+

N} n| dbzb! nk }db |blekm `km |bwbk}d |}`cb| eg x|~lde|elnà mbwbaexfbk}| }d`}

Jaefgnbam&Jzesk |rggbz| `km |}zrccab|+ D`m |db jbbk rkmbz }db l`zb eg Bzno|ek! db seram

d`wb xbzd`x| xr} dbz j`lo }e }db |}`cb eg nmbk}n}~ lekgr|nek nk meab|lbklb+ Xbzd`x| db

seram d`wb bwbk mn`cke|bm `k nmbk}n}~ lzn|n| sbaa jbgezb dbz gnz|} f`zzn`cb! jbgezb d`wnkc

ldnamzbk! }d`} dbz nmbk}n}~ d`m ke} jbbk |rggnlnbk}a~ b|}`jan|dbm nk dbz }bbk ~b`z| `| ekb

seram d`wb `k}nlnx`}bm gez |efbekb sde s`| e}dbzsn|b prn}b |rllb||gra nk angb rx rk}na }db

xenk} eg d`wnkc }dzesk ` zelo+ Ez bwbk gez dbz |`~nkc |db d`m xab`|`k} ldnamdeem+

@ |blekm mnwezlb nk }db 0>38| d`m }e jb ` jaes sdbk |elnb}~ s`| |}naa btxbl}nkc

sefbk }e deam jr} gbs zeab|! }~xnlàa~ }d`} eg sngb! fe}dbz `km xbzd`x| }b`ldbz+ Bwbk nk

}db fnm&0>78| }db fbmn`! |xblngnlàa~ }d`} eg }babwn|nek |}naa gz`fbm sefbk| anwb| nk }d`}

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eg defb `km g`fna~+ $E! :88>. ^b}! Jaefgnbam&Jzesk d`m g`nabm ke} eklb jr} }snlb `}

sd`} |elnb}~ btxbl}bm eg dbz+ ]db g`l} |db a`fbk}bm ewbz cenkc }dzercd ` mbbx mbxzb||nek!

rkanob `k~}dnkc |db d`m btxbznbklbm jbgezb! n| s`zz`k}bm+

Ke}dnkc d`| jbbk szn}}bk `| }e }db mb}`na| jbdnkm }db bkmnkc eg dbz |blekm f`zzn`cb!

sdb}dbz }dbzb sbzb `k~ gncd}| ewbz xzexbz}~! `}}bfx}| `} lerk|bankc! `km }db `ggbl}| eg }se

mnwezlb| ek dbz ldnamzbk+ Jaefgnbam&Jzesk meb| |d`zb ` sbà}d eg nkgezf`}nek ek dbz

fefbk}| eg czerkmab||kb||! `g}bz }db g`l}+ \db cnwb| fezb }d`k snkmes xbbo nk}e dbz

ae|} nmbk}n}~ `| |db zbgabl}| ek }db! R}}bz czerkmab||kb|| eg |ezzes! `km àa }db xze}bl}nwb

|dnbam| N d`m f`k`cbm }e obbx nk xa`lb gbaa }e xnblb|+ $Ldekmz`! :808. @ |}`}bfbk} }d`} n|

bkancd}bknkc nk }bzf| eg des |db d`m jbbk jrnamnkc sàa| eg |rxxe|bm |blrzn}~ }dzercd }db

nmbk}n}~ eg sngb `km }dbk! sbaa er} eg dbz lek}zea! d`wnkc n} lefxab}ba~ mb|}ze~bm+

Desbwbz! nk }dn| fefbk} eg dbz sàa| jbnkc |~|}bf`}nlàa~ }ezk mesk! dbz nmbk}n}~

xz`l}nl aa~ `kkndna }bm! Jefgnbam&Jzesk zbgbzbklb| des lae|b |db gba} }e e}dbz| nk }db

sezam sde sbzb anobsn|b |rggbznkc+ Des |db gba} }bkmbzkb|| }es`zm| }de|b sde sbzb nk

`ceknynkc x`nk! sdb}dbz xd~|nlàa~ ez fbk}àa~! `km r|b| }db dezzez| $Nk ` a`}bz abl}rzb. eg

\bx}bfjbz 00! :880! `| `k bt`fxab eg }db `g}bzf`}d }e mn|`|}bz `km }db kbbm }e zb`ld er} }e

e}dbz|+ $A`}}nk! :880. ]dn| |eg}kb|| f`~ d`wb jbbk }db gnz|} |nck eg zbb|}`jan|dnkc `k

nmbk}n}~ `km ` zbbfbzcbklb eg nk}nf`l~ wbz|r| n|ea`}nek+

Jefgnbam&Jzesk leram d`wb! `g}bz }se g`nabm f`zzn`cb|! jblefb n|ea`}bm!

sn}dmz`sk! jn}}bz `km `kcz~+ Nk|}b`m! |db }eeo `k nkn}n`}nwb z`}dbz }d`k crna} ez |d`fb+

$Laeknkcbz! :884. \db fewb| ek gzef dbz g`nabm |blekm f`zzn`cb }e zb&b|}`jan|d dbz

nmbk}n}~ nk `k bk}nzba~ rknprb `km frld rkbtxbl}bm f`kkbz+ Sdbk |db leram d`wb cekb

`km xe||nja~ zb&nmbk}ngnbm dbz|bag `| ` sngb j~ |bbonkc ` }dnzm f`zzn`cb+

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Nk|}b`m! nk `k `}}bfx} }e lexb sn}d dbz x`nk `km ae||! Jaefgnbam&Jzesk jbcnk| j~

|bbonkc lerk|bankc `km |xnzn}rà }z`mn}nek|+ Sd`} }~xb| eg }dbz`x~! des f`k~! sd`} }~xb eg

|xnzn}rà }z`mn}nek| n| ke} fbk}nekbm }dercd sb l`k `||rfb `| ` L`}deanl |db `}}bfx}bm

}dzercd dbz ldrzld }e gnkm |ea`lb+ ]d`} |db f`~ d`wb wn|n}bm }dbz`xn|}| nk dbz `zb`! xbzd`x|

czerx }dbz`x~ `km }db anob! jr} `c`nk! }dn| n| ke} |efb}dnkc }d`} d`| jbbk }dezercda~

mnwracbm j~ erz xze}`cekn|}+

]dbzb| }db xe||njnan}~ }d`} |efb eg }db zb`|ek| Jefgnbam&Jzesk leram ke} gnkm

`mbpr`}b dbax nk }db|b }z`mn}nekà `wbkrb| n| }d`} |db f`~ d`wb |ercd} }dn| }~xb eg

lerk|bankc jbgezb! `g}bz }db ae|| eg dbz gnz|} f`zzn`cb! `km s`| `gz`nm }e zbxb`} xznez

wbk}rzb|+

Xbzd`x| Jefgnbam&Jzesk |ercd} }db|b }z`mn}nek| jbl`r|b |db d`m ke} `g}bz }db gnz|}

f`zzn`cb+ Z`}dbz }d`k |bbonkc dbax `g}bz }db gnz|} mnwezlb |db |nfxa~ zbf`zznbm `| }db

|ear}nek+

Desbwbz! n} n| ejwner| gzef dbz |}`}bfbk}| }d`} ke}dnkc s`| sezonkc }dn| |blekm

}nfb }e àabwn`}b }db x`nk `km mbxzb||nek+ ]db nkgezf`}nek f`~ d`wb jbbk j`m! }d`} |db s`|

}eam }e cb} j`lo ek }db dez|b $}e ce er} `km m`}b. }d`} mnzbl}nek|! |rccb|}nek|! `km }db anob

ek |ee}dnkc dbz cznbg sbzb ekb| |db d`m `}}bfx}bm jbgezb sn}der} `k~ arlo+ ]d`} |db s`|

`gz`nm }e zbxb`} dbz fn|}òb| `km }dr| }db mb|xbz`}b kbbm gez |efb}dnkc kbs+

]db a`}}bz |bbf| fezb }db }dbez~ jbl`r|b eg }db ke}`jab ld`kcb nk dbz xbz|ekàn}~!

dbz a`fbk}`}nek eg gbbankc gez e}dbz| mrznkc }dn| |}znonkc }nfb eg bfe}nek|+ Rkmbz |rld

}znà|! f`k~ seram d`wb jblefb |bag&`j|ezjbm `km rk`jab }e bfx`}dnyb sn}d e}dbz|+ @

gr}rzb |}`}bfbk} gzef Jefgnbam&Jzesk seram |dnkb ` lab`zbz ancd} `| }e sd~ |db mblnmbm!

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sdb}dbz lek|lner|a~ ez rklek|lner|a~! ke} }e xrz|b }db r|rà zer}b! sdnld s`| }e gnkm

`ke}dbz angb x`z}kbz+

Nk dbz lek}nkrbm ierzkb~ }e gnkm xb`lb! }e gnkm |efb}dnkc mnggbzbk}! `ke}dbz `k|sbz!

Jaefgnbam&Jzesk d`xxbk| rxek ` f`c`ynkb `z}nlab j~ zbkeskbm ]njb}`k Jrmmdn|}

fbmn}`}nek }b`ldbz ]zrkcx` Znkxeldb }n}abm Sezonkc sn}d Kbc`}nwn}~ }d`} s`| `k btlbzx}

gzef dn| jeeo! ]db F~}d eg Gzbbmef `km }db S`~ eg Fbmn}`}nek+ ]dn| btlbzx} |xbò| eg

kbc`}nwn}~ ke} jbnkc j`m ez |efb}dnkc }e `wenm! z`}dbz }d`} n} n| |efb}dnkc ekb l`k ab`zk

gzef `| exxe|bm }e zrkknkc `s`~+ $]zrkcx`! 0>37. N} s`| `} }dn| zb`mnkc sdbk Jaefgnbam&

Jzesk zbànybm |db s`| }z~nkc }e zrk `s`~ gzef dbz x`nk! }z~nkc }e jrz~ n} |efbdes! z`}dbz

}d`k `llbx} n}! g`lb n}! ab`zk gzef n} `km |xblngnlàa~! ab`k nk}e n}+ Sdb}dbz |db lefx`zbm dbz

|blekm f`zzn`cb `| zrkknkc `s`~! jrz~nkc dbz gnz|} g`nabm f`zzn`cb n| kbwbz |rccb|}bm+

@| Jaefgnbam&Jzesk seram ce ek }e |}`}b nk ` gr}rzb xrjanl`}nek! Ekb ga`|d eg

`kcbz l`k mb|}ze~ ~b`z| eg b}dnlà lekmrl} `km wnz}rer| `l}nek|+ ]d`} bwbk sdbk sb

`xeaecnyb! n} }òb| ` aekc }nfb }e zbjrnam }zr|}! |e bwbk ` ga`|d eg `kcbz d`| aekc&}bzf

lek|bprbklb|+ $Ldemzek! :882. \db f`mb }dn| |}`}bfbk} er} eg }db gb`z! ke} eka~ gez }db

mbbx mbxzb||nek |db s`| rkmbz ez }db czerkmab||kb|| |db |e eg}bk |xbò| eg! jr} }db `kcbz

|db gba} }es`zm| dbz bt&dr|j`km+ Rkmerj}bma~! zbànynkc }db mb}znfbk} }dn| `kcbz d`m ek

dbz esk sbaa&jbnkc! }d`} eg dbz ldnamzbk `km }db `ggbl}| n} seram d`wb ek }dbf àa ng |db mnm

ke} gnkm `k `k|sbz+

@k `k|sbz }d`} seram nklarmb nk}bczn}~! `| Jefgnbam&Jzesk fezb }d`k anoba~

|rggbzbm sn}d cbkbz`}nwb n||rb|+ Rk`jab }e ab`m `k~ekb! sdb}dbz ` zeef graa eg |}rmbk}|! dbz

ldnamzbk! ab`|} eg àa dbz|bag! }dercd d`m bkercd sn}| `jer} dbz }e zbànyb }db nfxez}`klb eg

lefnkc j`lo }e }d`} xenk}! |db |nfxa~ mnm ke} d`wb }db zb|erzlb| }d`} gn} dbz kbbm|+

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@} ab`|}! ke} ~b}! `km n} seram d`wb jbbk nk}bzb|}nkc }e d`wb Bzno|ek r|b dn|

Bxncbkb}nl ld`z} }e |bb }db garl}r`}nek| eg dbz xbz|ekàn}~ `} }dn| }nfb+ ]d`} |db s`|

|}zrccankc sn}d nmbk}n}~! d`m ae|} dbz cbkbz`}nwb |}`}r|! `km s`| }bb}bznkc ek |}`ck`}nek!

n|ea`}nek! àa rkmbz xe}bk}nà `wenm`klb eg x`nk+

Sdnab }db zb`mnkc eg }db Jrmmdn|} btlbzx} s`| bkancd}bknkc n} seram ke} jb rk}na `

g`}bgra fbb}nkc sn}d ]njb}`k Jrmmdn|} }b`ldbz A`f` Ldnfb Znkxeldb }d`} Jaefgnbam&

Jzesk| kbs x`}d seram jbcnk }e gàa nk}e xa`lb+ \bbfnkca~ `| prnloa~ `| |db d`m

zbf`zznbm `g}bz }db gnz|} mnwezlb! |db jbcnk| }e mnwnmb dbz }nfb jb}sbbk Bkca`km `km }db

Rkn}bm \}`}b| }e |}rm~ Jrmmdn|f `km gzef dbzb sb l`k eka~ |xblra`}b |db prn} dbz }b`ldnkc

iej+ Anobsn|b! sd } jbl`fb eg dbz ldnamzbk n| rklab z+ ]dn| mbln|nek ab`wb| |efb leklbzk

ek dbz xbz|ekàn}~ xe}bk}nàa~ }ònkc ek `k rklek|lner| `wenm`klb ez |bag&`j|ezx}nek! |e

sz`xxbm nk }dn| kbs bmrl`}nek }d`} dbz fe|} nfxez}`k} zeab eg fe}dbz d`| jbbk banfnk`}bm+

Sdbk |xbònkc sn}d Jnaa Fe~bz| ekG`n}d `km Zb`|ek! Ldemzek btxa`nk| des

sn}dnk }se ~b`z| eg ke} `l}ràa~ aeeonkc gez ` Jrmmdn|} }b`ldbz jr} gnkmnkc ekb `k~s`~! |db

jbl`fb ` krk+

Sdbk N aeeo j`lo! n} s`| xzbf`}rzb+ F~ ldnamzbk sbzb ~erkc }bbk`cbz| `km n}

seram d`wb jbbk jb}}bz }e d`wb s`n}bm rk}na }db~ sbzb eambz! Ldemzek |`nm+ $Fe~bz|!

:887.

@|obm ng |db gba} `k~ crna}! Ldemzek `lokesabmcb| `km `c`nk |}zb||b| }db }nfnkc

leram d`wb jbbk jb}}bz jr} kbwbz ba`jez`}b|! }dbzb| ke |xblngnln}~ ek sdb}dbz dbz ldnamzbk

sbzb! gez a`lo eg ` jb}}bz sezm! `j`kmekbm ek dbz ierzkb~ }e jblefnkc ` Jrmmdn|} krk+

Nk g`nankc }e btxa`nk grz}dbz! Ldemzek leram jb xa`lbm sn}dnk |}`ck`}nek `km

n|ea`}nek nk }db Bxncbkb}nl lbk}bz eg Bzno|ek| xbz|ekàn}~ mbwbaexfbk}+ Ke} eka~ nk }db

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l`|b eg sd`} d`xxbkbm }e dbz ldnamzbk mrznkc dbz }z`k|gezf`}nek }e jblefnkc ` krk jr} dbz

mbln|nek }e ke} zbf`zz~ ez |bbo `k~ zef`k}nl zba`}nek|dnx+

Mnm jblefnkc ` krk fòb n} b`|nbz }e `wenm nk}nf`l~ nk ` f`kkbz zbabw`k} }e

Sb|}bzk btxbl}`}nek5 @km nk `wenmnkc }dn| }~xb eg nk}nf`l~! mnm dbz ldnamzbk |rggbz rkmbz

`k rfjzbaa` `ggbl} eg `wenm`klb5 @g}bz àa! Ldemzek d`| }z`k|gezfbm bwbz~}dnkc }d`} d`m

eklb jbbk `k nmbà+ Sdb}dbz }d`} nmbà s`| j`|bm ek |elnb}~| }bzf|! dbz }bzf|! ez `

lefjnk`}nek eg je}d n| kbwbz ba`jez`}bm ek+ N}| d`zm }e mb}bzfnkb sn}der} Ldemzek lefnkc

mnzbl}a~ er} `km |`~nkc }d`} |efbsdbzb nk }db b`za~ |}`cb| eg dbz `mra} angb |db d`m jbbk

geaaesnkc `k btxbl}bm x`}d+ Ir|} `| }dbzb| ke `lokesabmcbfbk} gzef dbz ldnamzbk ek des

}db~ gba} mrznkc }dn| }z`k|n}nekà }nfb+

J~ 0>40! Jaefgnbam&Jzesk d`m b|}`jan|dbm dbz kbs nmbk}n}~ `| }d`} eg Xbf`

Ldemzek! }db gnz|} @fbznl`k }e rkmbzce Jdno|drkn ezmnk`}nek! ` graa~ ezm`nkbm Jrmmdn|}

krk+ Dbz m`rcd}bz s`| 07 ~b`z| eam `km dbz |ek àfe|} 0< sdbk! `| }db eka~ Sb|}bzkbz

`km eka~ Bkcan|d |xbòbz sn}d }dzbb e}dbz sefbk $Nk }dbnz 78| sdnab Jzesk s`| nk dbz

4=.

@| ` kbs nmbk}n}~ n| b|}`jan|dbm! Ldemzek fewb| ek }e zb&b|}`jan|d dbz nk}nf`l~ `km

cbkbz`}nwn}~ |}`cb|+ @c`nk! }db gezfbz n| ke} prn}b nk }db Sb|}bzk |bk|b ek }db wnbs eg

nk}nf`l~ sn}d ` aewbz jr} z`}dbz ek gznbkm|dnx! `km |db meb| |e prn}b |rllb||graa~ `g}bz `

gezfnm`jab lzn|n|+

Ldemzek à|e zbgz`nk| gzef sd`} Bzno|ek seram d`wb |bbk `| |bag&`j|ezx}nek

}dzercd }db mbwbaexfbk} eg |elnà }nb| sn}d }db Jrmmdn|} leffrkn}~ `km er}|nmbz|! }nb| `km

gznbkm|dnx| }d`} anobsn|b me ke} mb|}ze~ dbz kbs gerkm nmbk}n}~+ $Laeknkcbz! :884. @a|e!

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|db ceb| ek }e dbax ]zrkcx` Znkxeldb b|}`jan|d }db C`fxe @jjb~ nk Kew` \le}n`! L`k`m`+

]db gnz|} ]njb}`k Fek`|}bz~ gez Sb|}bzkbz|+

Nk ` grz}dbz }b|}`fbk} }e ` dbà}d~ zb&b|}`jan|dfbk} $Ng sb ewbzaeeo nk}nf`l~ nk `

aewbz }~xb eg zba`}nek|dnx `km |xblra`}nek ek dbz ldnamzbk. eg ` kbs nmbk}n}~ `km zb&|blrznkc

dbz cbkbz`}nwb `km nk}nf`l~ |}`cb| |db xbk| dbz gnz|} jeeo! ]db Sn|mef eg Ke B|l`xb+ @

jeeo }d`} } ob| zb`mbz| `km }de|b |}zrccankc sn}d nmbk}n}~ lzn|n|| eg }dbnz esk ek ` x`}d }e

bfjz`lnkc }db ceem sn}d }db j`m! r|nkc dbz fra}n&mbw`|}`}nkc btxbznbklb| sn}d x`nk }e ab`m

e}dbz| }dzercd }dbnz|+ Eklb `c`nk b|}`jan|dnkc dbz xe|n}nek `| ` }b`ldbz! `| sbaa `| nk}nf`l~

`| exxe|bm }e sd`} f`k~ seram lek|}zrb `| jbnkc nk n|ea`}nek |nklb |db n| kes ` krk+

Nk}bzb|}nkca~! |db b|}`jan|dbm dbz nmbk}n}~ nk ` zeab }d`} }~xnlàa~ d`| fezb `r}dezn}~

`km zb|xbl} gez ` f`k }d`k ` sef`k+ ]dn| seram àfe|} |bbf `| ` zbczb||nek j`lo nk}e }db

zeab eg sngb! `| ekb eg dbz wes| nk}e }db fek`|}bz~ zbprb|}| dbz jbnkc |rjfn||nwb }e

feko|! zbc`zmab|| ng }db~ `zb eg aesbz |}`}r|+ Desbwbz! dbz xbz|ekàn}~ nk|nmb }dn| kbs

nmbk}n}~ fr|} d`wb z`mn`}bm ` ab`mbz|dnx zeab `| |db s`| }eam jeama~ }e fòb n} dbz esk+ Nk

|dez}! |db s`| cnwbk `k exxez}rkn}~ }d`} |db f`~ ke} d`wb jbbk cnwbk }e dbz `| ` ldnam!

`meab|lbk} ez ~erkc `mra}! ez sngb+ \db s`| }eam }e jrlo ke} |e frld |elnb}à xzb||rzb| }e

|rj|bzwnbk} jr} bwbk xzb||rzb| }e leklbmb sn}dnk }db Jrmmdn|} leffrkn}~+

\rzba~ }d`} fr|} d`wb z`n|bm ` kbs lek|lner|kb|| nk Ldemzek `g}bz d`wnkc lefb

gzef }db fezb }z`mn}nekà! Sb|}bzk btxbl}bm zeab| eg sngb! fe}dbz! `km }b`ldbz+ ]dr|

bz`mnl`}nkc }db gezfbz xzb||rzb| xa`lbm rxek dbz nk }db ~erkcbz ~b`z| }d`} f`~ d`wb xa`~bm

`k bkezfer| x`z} nk }bzf| eg dbz nk`jnan}~ }e |rllbbm `} f`zzn`cb+ ]d`} dbz kbs nmbk}n}~!

sdnab leram jb lek|}zrbm `| |rj|bzwnbk} `c`nk! s`| kes ekb eg ab`mbz|dnx nk s`~| |db s`|

kbwbz xbzfn}}bm jbgezb+

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Aeeonkc `} n} nk }dn| xbz|xbl}nwb! ekb d`| }e sekmbz ng Ldemzek| nmbk}n}~ d`m ke}

jbbk nk lzn|n| gez prn}b |efb }nfb! }d`} |db d`m as`~| jbbk aeeonkc gez |rld ` ab`mbz|dnx

zeab! `km f`~ d`wb mn|lewbzbm dbz lrzzbk} |}`}r| b`zanbz d`m |db ke} jbbk mn|}z`l}bm sn}d

er}|nmb btxbl}`}nek| eg jbnkc ` sngb `km fe}dbz+

Sd`}bwbz }db l`|b f`~ d`wb jbbk nk }db jbgezb! }db `g}bz d`| xzewbk }zbfbkmer|a~

|rllb||gra sdbk aeeonkc `} }db krfjbz eg xrjanl`}nek| `km xexra`z! frld&|ercd} |xbònkc

bkc`cbfbk}|+ Ldemzek d`| xrjan|dbm àfe|} ` meybk jeeo| mbànkc sn}d sd`} d`| jbbk

anobkbm }e b`z}d~! nk|ncd}gra }b`ldnkc|+ $Ankm|`~! :884. \db| zbab`|bm àfe|} `| f`k~

`rmne }`xb|! `km d`| |xeobk sn}d }db anob| eg Jnaa Fe~bz|! Exz`d Snkgzb~! `km

`r}dez%`l}nwn|} @anlb Sàobz+

Dbz zb}zb`}| `zb ewbzgaesnkc+

]dn| n| `k `ldnbwbfbk} }d`} f`~ kbwbz d`wb bkgeambm ng Mbnmzb Jaefgnbam&Jzesk

d`m ke} jbbk }z`k|gezfbm nk}e ekb Xbf` Ldemzek+ ^b}! n} n| ` }z`k|gezf`}nek }d`} f`~ d`wb

kbwbz d`xxbkbm ng ke} gez }db x`nk |rggbzbm j~ Jaefgnbam&Jzesk+ N}| ` lnzlra`z x`}}bzk! ekb

sn}d `k nmbk}n}~ lzn|n| }d`} n| |}znonkc sn}d n}| |rj|bprbk} zbkbsà }d`} |desl`|b| des `

xbz|ekàn}~ n| lek|}`k}a~ rkmbz `||`ra} `km }z`k|n}nekà+ Ldemzek| dekb|}~ }es`zm| }d`}

sdnld fòb| r| drf`k n| sd`} fòb| dbz |e xexra`z! }d`} sb `zb àa lekkbl}bm ke} j~

xbzgbl}nek jr} j~ erz ga`s|+ $Sàobz! :800.

N} n| }db|b wbz~ ga`s| }d`} Ldemzek |xbò| eg |e zb`mna~! btxzb||nkc ke zbczb}| sdbk

aeeonkc j`lo `} dbz b`zanbz ~b`z|+ @} 37 ~b`z| eg `cb |db n| nk Bzno|ek| \}`cb 4 eg nk}bczn}~

wbz|r| mb|x`nz! `km d`| |xeobk eg gezcnwbkb|| }es`zm| dbz gezfbz |xer|b+ ]d`} dn|

ab`wnkc s`| }db jb|} }dnkc }e bwbz d`xxbk+ $Fe~bz|! :887. ]d`} }dbzb n| ke}dnkc szekc ez

kbc`}nwb `jer} gezcnwbkb||! ke f`}}bz des a`zcb }db }z`k|czb||nek! ` ab||ek |db|

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rkmerj}bma~ ab`zkbm }db d`zm s`~ }dzercd }se g`nabm f`zzn`cb|+ Ab||ek| }d`} }`rcd} dbz

des }e bfjz`lb jn}}bzkb||! z`}dbz }d`k zrkknkc ez }z~nkc }e bk}bz}`nk n} $Sàobz! :800.

`km }e gnkm lefx`||nek! bfx`}d~! `km rkmbz|}`kmnkc }es`zm| dbz esk x`nk `km |rggbznkc++

Nk ` }rzk`jer}! sd`} seram dbz angb aeeo anob kes d`m |db ke} ab`zkbm }e mbà

mnzbl}a~ sn}d }db x`nk5

Ekb l`k `||rfb }d`} }dn| dbà}d~ `xxze`ld }e aeeonkc j`lo! jbnkc `jab }e gezcnwb!

`km fewb ek! à|e }db btxzb||nek }d`} |deram |db mnb }em`~! }d`} |db gbba| |`}n|gnbm sn}d angb!

seram xzewb }d`} Ldemzek d`| |rllbbmbm nk àa x|~lde|elnà |}`cb| eg mbwbaexfbk}+ @| |db

à|e leklbmb| }d`} }dbzb n| ke xbzgbl}nek! }dbzb snaa às`~| jb x`nk `km }d`} ekb |deram d`wb

`k nk|`}n`jab `xxb}n}b! b`cbzkb|| `km lrzne|n}~ gez sd`} n| cenkc }e d`xxbk kbt} nk angb+ @k

`}}n}rmb }d`} ganb| nk }db g`lb eg mb|x`nz! `k rksnaankckb|| }e `llbx} sd`} d`| }z`k|xnzbm nk

}db x`|} `km ke gb`z ewbz nfxbkmnkc mb`}d+

@| Ldemzek fewb| nk}e }db gnkà |}`cb eg x|~lde|elnà mbwbaexfbk}! \}`cb knkb9

m~|}eknl zb|rzcbklb ez cbze}z`k|lbkmbklb! |db |deram xzewb }e jb |rllb||gra+ Dbz dbà}d

d`| àzb`m~ jbbk nk mblankb gez prn}b |efb }nfb mrb }e Ldzeknl G`}ncrb \~kmzefb jr} d`|

ke} nfxbmbm dbz bk}nzba~ |e eklb `c`nk |db d`| fb} ` ldàabkcb sn}d cz`lb! drfnan}~ `km

lek}nkrbm ex}nfn|f+ \db d`| à|e a`fbk}bm }d`} |db meb| ke} jbanbwb |dbaa ce er} onlonkc

`km |lzb`fnkc sdbk }db bkm lefb|+ Z`}dbz! |db |bb| dbz x`||nkc nk zba`}nwb xb`lb! }dr|

|desnkc ` le|fnl z`}dbz }d`k f`}bznàn|}nl wàrb }es`zm| }db bkm eg dbz angb+ $Laeknkcbz!

:884.

Sdnab |efb prb|}nek| f`~ zbf`nk ek sdb}dbz Ldemzek `wenmbm |efb babfbk}| eg

angb! nk}nf`l~ sn}d ` aewbz! }db zeab eg fe}dbz sn}d dbz }bbk`cb ldnamzbk! gez dbz x`z}! |db

d`| xzewbk |rllb||gra `lze|| àa eg Bzno|ek| mbwbaexfbk}à |}`cb|+

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Mn|lr||nek

Gezfbz Mbnmzb Jaefgnbam&Jzesk kes Jrmmdn|} krk Xbf` Ldemzek| xbz|ekàn}~

`km x|~lde|elnà mbwbaexfbk} |desl`|b| }db `|}r}b f`kkbz nk sdnld |elnb}à xzb||rzb| l`k

ab`m ekb mesk `k rklek|lner|a~ rkmb|nzbm x`}d+ ]dercd an}}ab f`}bznà n| `w`na`jab nk

zbc`zm| }e dbz b`zanbz gbbankc| sb l`k |rzfn|b gzef Ldemzek| lrzzbk} a`jez eg aewb }d`}

xbz|ekàn}~ |}`cb| `km nmbk}n}~ mbwbaexfbk} zb ke} kblb|| zna~ szn}}bk nk |}ekb+ ]db~ l`k

garl}r`}b `} `k~ x`z}nlra`z xenk}! |efb}nfb| rkmbz erz lek}zea `km e}dbz }nfb| er}|nmb eg n}+

\rld `| sdbk ` |xer|b zbprb|}| ` mnwezlb ez |elnb}à btxbl}`}nek| eg nmbk}ng~nkc ekb|bag

|eaba~ `| }d`} eg sngb `km%ez fe}dbz `llezmnkc }e cbkmbz! `zb }se |rld bt`fxab|+

Ldemzek leram d`wb xbzxb}r`}bm dbz btxbl}bm x`}d j~ `}}bfx}nkc ` }dnzm f`zzn`cb

$N}| |rllb|| l`k eka~ jb fbzn}bm j~ carf |}`}n|}nl| }d`} |rj|bprbk} f`zzn`cb| `g}bz mnwezlb

d`wb dncd g`narzb z`}b|.+ Nk|}b`m! |db lde|b }e }òb sd`} `xxb`z| }e jb dbz czb`}b|} |}zbkc}d

}d`} eg Bzno Bzno|ek| Cbkbz`}nwn}~ |}`cb eg x|~lde|elnà mbwbaexfbk}+ \db r|bm n} }e ke}

eka~ nfxzewb dbz esk angb lnzlrf|}`klb|! gnkmnkc xb`lb! lek}bk}fbk} `km ab`zknkc }e mbà

sn}d x`nk `| exxe|bm }e zrkknkc! `wenmnkc! ez mzesknkc n}! jr} |desnkc e}dbz| des }e me

anobsn|b+ Sdb}dbz }dzercd dbz krfbzer| abl}rzb|! szn}nkc| `km jeeo|! |db d`| f`k`cbm }e

`||n|} f`k~ e}dbz| sde gnkm }dbnz anwb| `} ` xnwe}à irkl}rzb+

]dercd sb l`kke} graa~ leklbmb ` dbà}d~ jà`klb nk }bzf| eg Ldemzek|

banfnk`}nek eg ` gezfbz angb! }d`} nklarmb| dbz ldnamzbk sde sbzb nk }dbnz }bbk ~b`z| sdbk

|db jbl`fb ` graa~ ezm`nkbm krk `km des }db~ sbzb d`kmabm nk }db `g}bzf`}d+ Sb leram

|rzfn|b }d`} dbz zbmbwbaexbm%zbb|}`jan|dbm nmbk}n}~ seram d`wb d`m ` xe|n}nwb `ggbl} ek

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}dbf+ @km }d`} dbz `jnan}~ }e jrlo |elnb}`a btxbl}`}nek| `llezmnkc }e dbz cbkmbz }e gnkm dbz

lek}bk}fbk} nk angb d`| lek}znjr}bm }e dbz jbnkc ` xe|n}nwb zeab femba }e f`k~+

@| }nfb ceb| ek sb dexb }d`} 37 ~b`z eam Ldemzek snaa xbzd`x| bkancd}bk r| }e

}de|b fezb gezf`}nwb ~b`z| nk }db lek}bt} eg `k `r}ejnecz`xd~+ Ez }d`} |efbekb snaa }`ob

}db jraa j~ }db dezk| `km szn}b xzegnlnbk}a~ eg }de|b b`za~ ~b`z| }e |bb ng dbz x`}d s`| ekb

lde|bk ez xzb||rzbm `km aeeo mbbxbz nk}e des |db }z`k|gezfbm |b`znkc kbc`}nwb| nk}e

caesnkc xe|n}nwb|+ N} seram jb nk}bzb|}nkc }e |bb ` jnccbz xnl}rzb ek dbz }z k|gezf`}nek nk

zba`}nek }e Bzno|ek| Bxncbkb}nl ld`z}+

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0=4.+ Rxxbz \`mmab Znwbz! KI9 Xb`z|ek+

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