The Five Love LanguagesTest Results

By Dr. Gary Chapman

How to Interpret Your Love Language Score

• Your highest score indicates your primary love language.

• Your second highest score indicates your secondary love language.

• If two scores are identical, you are “bilingual”, or you have two primary love languages.

• If your two highest scores are close, within 1-2 points of each other, it indicates both are important to you.

• The highest possible score for any language is 12.

Words of Affirmation• You feel loved when:– you are told that you are loved. – he/she tells you that they value and appreciate you as

a person.– you receive caring words or compliments.– you receive notes expressing his/her love for you.

You need to HEAR that you are loved.

Quality Time• You feel loved when:– you receive focused attention from him/her.– meaningful conversation is shared. – he/she participates in quality activities with you.– you spend uninterrupted time together, no matter

what the activity is.

You need TIME and ATTENTION to know that you are loved.

Receiving Gifts• You feel loved when:– you receive tangible expressions of love.– the gifts you receive symbolize heartfelt memories or

other significance. – he/she gives gifts generously and frequently.– you receive “surprise” gifts unexpectedly.

You need TANGILBE EVIDENCE to know that you are loved.

Acts of Service• You feel loved when:– he/she helps you carry out your responsibilities.– he/she helps you complete tasks unexpectedly or without

being asked.– he/she gives of their time, energy and resources to help

you accomplish your goals. – he/she performs acts of service out of love, not obligation.– he/she helps you with the big things, as well as the little

things.

You need to be SHOWN THROUGH TASKS that you are loved.

Physical Touch• You feel loved when:– you literally make physical contact with another

person.– you are hugged, kissed and embraced.– you hold hands in public and when you’re alone.– you are near or close in proximity to him/her. – you are shown affection unexpectedly.

You need PHYSICAL CONTACT to know that you are loved.

• Not only is it important to figure out what love language you are, but it is even more important to find out what love language your partner is.

• When you figure out what language your partner is speaking, you will be able to communicate and relate to them better in order to strengthen your relationship.

“Love is something you do for someone else, not something you do or feel for yourself.”

Dr. Gary Chapman

Love vs. Infatuation• Love• 1. Grows Slowly• 2. Long- Lasting• 3. Love the entire person

(inside and out)• 4. want other Person To

Grow• 5. Willing to compromise• 6. Trust• 7. Ability to Wait

• Infatuation• 1. Happens Quickly• 2. Short-Lived• 3. Focused Mainly on

Appearance• 4. Become Jealous• 5. Many Arguments• 6. Insecure• 7. Rush Into Marriage

Kinds of Love

Romantic Love: Happy Love

Sexual Love: The intimate

expression of love

Pragmatic Love: A rational reasoning of love

Platonic love: Spiritual and intellectual relationship

Companionship Love: Love felt for friendships

Altruistic Love: Selfless love, or concern for spouse

Manic Love: A crazy, possessive,

jealous kind of love

Self-Love: An egotistic,

narcissistic kind of love

“What True Love Means To A Child”

‘When my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn’t bend over and paint her toenails

anymore. So my grandfather does it for her all the time, even when his hands got

arthritis too. That’s love.”

Rebecca – Age 8

“When someone loves you, the way they say your name is different. You just know that your name is safe in their mouth. “

Billy – Age 4

“Love is when a girl puts on perfume and a boy puts on cologne and they

go out and smell each other.”

Karl- age 5

“Love is when you go out and give somebody most of your French fries without making them give you any of theirs.”

Christy- Age 6

“Love is what makes you smile when your tired.”

Terri Age 4

“Love is when you kiss all the time. Then when you

get tired of kissing, you still want to be together and

you talk more. My mommy and daddy are like that.

They look gross when they kiss.”

Emily- Age 8

“Love is what’s in the room with you at Christmas if you stop

opening presents and listening.”

Bobby- age 7

“If you want to learn to love better, you should start with a

friend who you hate.”

Nikki- age 6

“Love is when you tell a guy

you like his shirt, then he wears it

everyday.”

Noelle- age 7

“Love is like a little old women and a little old man who are still friends even after they

know each other well.”

Tommy- Age 6

“During my piano recital, I was on stage and I was scared. I

looked at all the people watching me and waving and smiling. I

wasn’t scared anymore.”

Cindy- Age 8

“Love is when my mommy gives my

daddy the best piece of chicken.”Elaine- age 5

“Love is when your puppy licks your face even after you left him alone all

day.”

Mary Ann- age 4

“Love is when mommy sees daddy smelly and sweaty and still says he looks handsomer than Brad Pitt.”

Chris- Age 7