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THAT’S NOT COOL TEEN DATING VIOLENCE AND HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS IN THE DIGITAL AGE February 19, 2019 We will begin at 11:00am (PT) / 2:00pm (ET). Please introduce yourself in the chat box. Your line will be muted to cut down on background interference. This training is supported by Grant Number 90EV0434-01-00 from the Administration on Children, Youth and Families, Family and Youth Services Bureau, U.S. Department of Health and Human Services. Points of view in this document are those of the authors and do not necessarily reflect the official positions or policies of the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services.
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THAT’S NOT COOL
TEEN DATING VIOLENCE AND
HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS IN THE
DIGITAL AGE
February 19, 2019
We will begin at 11:00am (PT) / 2:00pm (ET).
Please introduce yourself in the chat box.
Your line will be muted to cut down on background interference.
This training is supported by Grant Number 90EV0434-01-00 from the Administration on Children, Youth and
Families, Family and Youth Services Bureau, U.S. Department of Health and Human Services. Points of view in this
document are those of the authors and do not necessarily reflect the official positions or policies of the U.S.
Department of Health and Human Services.
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Futures Without Violence
Promising Futures: National Capacity Building Center
to Expand Services for Children, Youth, and Abused
Parents Impacted by Domestic Violence
Website includes information on:
• Resources for DV programs/Advocates to
enhance children’s programming
• Capacity building resources
• Bridging research with practice
• Interventions for children and youth
• Trauma-informed strategies
• Practical tools and resources
FUTURES Provides Free
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Upcoming and past webinars: www.futureswithoutviolence.org
THAT’S NOT COOL
TEEN DATING VIOLENCE AND
HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS IN
THE DIGITAL AGE
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Learning Objectives
• Increase knowledge about innovative, youth-driven teen dating violence prevention education programming.
• Expand understanding of strategies to engage youth in online spaces for violence prevention education and intervention.
• Introduce That’s Not Cool’s digital tools as resources for advocates and adult allies to support teen dating violence prevention programming.
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Are young people really dating?
51% of 7th graders reported
currently being in a
romantic relationship
72%of 8th and 9thth graders
reported “dating”
Source: Futures Without Violence Start Strong initiative.
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Dating Abuse: What is it?
Source: Love is Respect (www.loveisrespect.org)
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Students experiencing violence:
• are 2 ½ times more likely to fail a grade;
• score lower on standardized achievement test scores;
• have more receptive or expressive language difficulties;
• are suspended or expelled more often; and
• are designated to special education more frequently.
(Wolpow & Kincaid 2011)
How does this impact young people?
Teen Dating Violence:
What Adult Allies* Need to Know
*That’s You!!
1. It is far too common…
• One in three adolescents in the
US is a victim of physical, sexual,
emotional, or verbal abuse from a
dating partner. This is way higher
than rates of other types of
violence that affect youth.
…and it starts early.
• Violent behavior typically begins
between the ages of 12 and 18
• Girls and young women between
the ages of 16 and 24 experience
the highest rate of IPV … almost
triple the national average.
Source: Love is Respect (www.loveisrespect.org)
2. Understanding the difference between healthy
and unhealthy relationship behaviors can be tricky.
What is an Unhealthy Relationship?
Partner shames you or makes you feel stupid
Pressures you to do something you’re not ready to do
Tries to control you (how you dress, where you go, what
you do)
Threatens or scares you / makes you feel afraid if you
don’t do what they want
Sends tons of text messages, asks for your online
passwords, pressures you to send them nude or sexy
pics
Partner keeps tabs on you (via GPS location, constantly
texting you about where you are, who you’re with, etc.)
How would YOU define a healthy
relationship?
If a young person asked you how to know
if they’re in a healthy relationship, what
would you say?
What about a HEALTHY Relationship?
What is a Healthy Relationship*?*Many young people don’t know!
Partner makes you feel safe and comfortable
Doesn’t pressure you
Respects your boundaries (sexual and other)
Gives you space to hang out with your friends, and privacy -- online and off!
Supportive and respectful
Open and honest communication
If you feel safe, respected, and happy, you are likely in a healthy relationship.
3. Technology plays a prominent role.
25% of dating teens
report that they’ve
experienced abuse
online or through
technology (e.g. via
phones or social
media)
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Digital Dating Abuse
When someone repeatedly controls, pressures, or threatens someone they’re seeing or dating through their phone or online.
• PRIVACY• PRESSURE• CONTROL
4. It’s more serious than you think.
5. Teens feel alone.
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That’s Not Cool is
a community of
youth leaders &
adult allies
bringing
awareness to the
issue of Digital
Dating Abuse &
Teen Dating
Violence.
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What We Do
That’s Not Cool empowers young
people to identify and prevent abuse
both online and offline.
Educate
Resources to learn, ask questions
Help people identify abuse
Organize
Help people prevent abuse
Take Action!
Youth-Driven Violence Prevention
Promote youth leadership & empowerment
Raise up youth voices
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Cool Tools!
That’s Not
Cool
Adult Allies
Resource
Center
ThatsNotCool.com
Healthy Relationships
Safety card + Poster
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Sound Relationships
Nutrition LabelTeach media literacy and the skills to
examine the social norms that
surround teens
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How & When do I bring this up?
• Ask questions (Hypothetical! About other people!)
• “Why do you think people might send or ask for nude photos?
Do you think people might feel pressured to send a nude photo,
maybe to their boyfriend or girlfriend? How would you handle
the situation if someone asked you for a photo like this?”
• “What are your friends’ dating relationships like? What qualities
are important to someone you would date or go out with?”
• Make the most of “teachable moments” • Use TV episodes, movies, music lyrics, news, community
events, or the experiences of friends to discuss healthy and
unhealthy relationships.
• Use safety card!
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Brief reflection!
Did you learn
anything new?
Surprising?
Anything you want
to learn more about?
Please take a moment to take a short survey regarding today’s webinar:
https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/VKVD9XC
This training is supported by Grant Number 90EV0434-01-00 from the Administration on
Children, Youth and Families, Family and Youth Services Bureau, U.S. Department of
Health and Human Services. Points of view in this document are those of the authors and
do not necessarily reflect the official positions or policies of the U.S. Department of Health
and Human Services.
Futures Without Violence contact (Jess):[email protected]
