Positive guidance and discipline
-
Upload
- -
Category
Leadership & Management
-
view
122 -
download
2
Transcript of Positive guidance and discipline
Positive Guidance and Discipline
What I Will Learn
A clearer understanding of discipline and appropriate limits.
Styles of parenting and individual parenting style.
Effective discipline techniques.
A Definition of Discipline
Discipline is a set of rules that govern a person's behavior and conduct.
The process of shaping and molding a child’s attitudes and behaviors over the
years.
Effective Discipline
Teaches What to do Problem-solving Appropriate interactions Self-discipline
Promotes growth Enhances self concept Helps children internalize
A Definition of Punishment
Punishment defined as imposing external controls by force on children to change their behavior.
Types of Punishment
Inflicting pain Imposing suffering Enforcing unrelated
penalties Personal or emotional
attacks
Why Punish ?
The misbehavior often stops immediately Children often show remorse during punishment The parent gets to blow off steam The parent feels in control The parent hasn't let the children "get away with it" The parent was raised that way
Which Parenting Style Are You?
Strict
Demands continuously Punishes harshly Values obedience Discourages independence and individuality Exercises physical punishment Resorts to yelling and threatening Does not allow reasonable choices to the child
The Child Raised in a Strict Home
May lack spontaneity, curiosity and creativity Often have limited independence and
assertiveness Don’t learn how to decide for themselves Not sure how to behave and depend instead on
others for their sense of control May have low self-esteem May be aggressive and defiant
Permissive
Sets no guidelines Asserts no authority Remains distant Remains uninvolved Uses excuses for not spending quality time
with child Gives the child too much Low on making demands Have little structure Parent who is substance abuser or immature
The Child Raised in a Permissive Home
Learns little self-control Immature May be aggressive at home May behave irresponsibly Low self-esteem Delayed emotional development Little ability to handle frustrations School skippers Turn to Drugs May Break Law in their search for attention
Moderate
Sets reasonable standards Has reasonable expectations Encourages independence and individuality Enforces rules firmly and consistently Allows choices Builds a more democratic relationship Recognizes individual rights
The Child Raised in a Moderate/Flexible Home
Responsible Independent High self-esteem and
confidence Better able to control
their aggression
Ages and Stages of Children
understand your child's major job at different ages.
not expect too much from your child too soon (like expecting a three-year old to tie his shoes)
prevent serious problems provide safe ways for your child to do her job
and be ready to move on to the next stage.
Knowing Ages and Stages Helps you
Reasons Children Misbehave
Attention PowerRevenge Inadequacy
Steps in Positive Discipline
Ignore minor, irritating behavior Praise and reward positive behavior Be specific with praise Work with the child to set basic rules Decide together what consequences will result
from breaking the rules Use consequences consistently and calmly
when rules are broken
Discipline Techniques
Anticipate trouble Give gentle reminders early Offer choices Overlook small annoyances
Discipline Techniques
Fix-up Ignore Be Firm Stay in control
Separation Behavior management Redirection Praise
What is it they really need from you?
I tried to teach my child with booksHe only gave me puzzled looks I tried to teach my child with wordsThey passed him by often unheardDespairingly I turned aside "How shall I teach this child?" I cried Into my hand, he put the key "Come, he said, play with me."