Personality Developmentव्यक्ति�त्व की� विवकीस

GEMS DCC Inspectors & Managers Training

18th March 2011

Personalityव्यक्ति�त्व

• Inside or Outside? अं�दर या� बा�हर?

• To please man or God? सं�तु�ष्टि� – मनु�ष्या या� परम�श्वर

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“euq"; rks ckgj dk :i ns[krk gS] ijUrq ;gksok dh n`f"V eu ij jgrh gSA” (1 'kew,y 16:7)

“Hkyk] euq"; eu ds Hkys HkaMkj ls Hkyh ckrsa fudkyrk gS( vkSj cqjk euq"; cqjs HkaMkj ls cqjh ckrsa fudkyrk gSA” (eÙkh 12:35)

A good inside A good outsideएक अंच्छी� भी�तुर एक अंच्छी� बा�हरPleasing God Pleasing Menपरम�श्वर प्रसंन्न प्रसंन्न मनु�ष्या 3

What makes a person’s Personality?

• Attitude दृष्टि�क ण• Behaviour व्यवह�र - Action & Reaction क्रि%या� और

प्रक्रितुक्रि%या�• Character चरिरत्र• Discipline अंनु�शा�संनु• Etiquettes शिशा��च�र

• Final Word आखि.र� शाब्द

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Attitudeदृवि की�ण

• Attitude towards SELFस्वया� क� प्रक्रितु दृष्टि�क ण

• Attitude towards OTHERSदूसंर2 क� प्रक्रितु दृष्टि�क ण

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Attitude towards SELF स्वया� क� प्रक्रितु दृष्टि�क ण

“D;ksafd tSlk og vius eu esa fopkj djrk gS] oSlk og vki gSA” (uhfropu 23 :7)

Self Image आत्म छक्रिव/शिचत्र : +ve Self-Image or -ve Self-Image?

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स्वयं� की� प्रवि� दृवि की�ण

Self Esteem आत्मसंम्म�नु :

Low Self Esteem – Inferiority Complex ह�नु भी�वनु�

High Self Esteem – Superiority Complex (Pride)

उच्च भी�वनु� (घम�ड)

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Self Image आत्म छविव/क्ति�त्र

A healthy self image is seeing yourself as God sees you – no more and no less (Josh McDowell)

“rqe esa ls gj ,d ls dgrk gwa] fd tSlk le>uk pkfg,] ml ls c<+dj dksbZ Hkh vius vki dks u le>s ij tSlk ijes'oj us gj ,d dks ifjek.k ds vuqlkj ckaV fn;k gS] oSlk gh lqcqf) ds lkFk vius dks le>sA” (jksfe;ksa 12:3)

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How does God see you?की� स� परम�श्वर � म्हें# दे�ख� हें�

• Acceptance स्व�क�र– YOU ARE ACCEPTED by God in Jesus Christ

• Belonging अंपनु�पनु– YOU BELONG to the family of God

• Competence क्षमतु�– YOU CAN do all things through Christ who strengthens you

“ijUrq rqEgkjh cqf) ds u;s gks tkus ls rqEgkjk pky&pyu Hkh cnyrk tk,” (jksfe;ksa 12:2)

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Attitude towards OTHERSदूसंर2 क� प्रक्रितु दृष्टि�क ण

“gj ,d viuh gh fgr dh ugha] cju nwljksa dh fgr dh Hkh fpUrk djsA” (fQfyfIi;ksa 2:4)

“tks dqN rqe pkgrs gks] fd euq"; rqEgkjs lkFk djsa] rqe Hkh mu ds lkFk oSlk gh djk”

(eÙkh 7:12)

“ ,d nwljs dks vius ls vPNk le>ks” (fQfyfIi;ksa 2:3)

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दूसर' की� प्रवि� दृवि की�ण

• Become genuinely interested (व�स्तुक्रिवक दिदलचस्पी�) in other people.

• Smile. म�स्क� र�हट• Be a good listener (अंच्छी� श्रो तु�). Encourage others to

talk about themselves. • Talk in terms of the other person's interests

अंन्या व्यशिA क� क्रिहतु2. • Make the other person feel important - and do it

sincerely. दूसंर� व्यशिA महत्वपBणC महसंBसं करD

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Behaviour - Action & Reaction

व्यवहेंर - वि(यं और प्रवि�वि(यं

ACTकीयं*

STOPर�कीना

THINKस��ना

प्रवि�वि(यं

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Action & Reaction वि(यं और प्रवि�वि(यं

10 % is what happens क्या� ह तु� हF

90 % is how we react/respond to what happens and that’s your

attitude प्रक्रितुक्रि%या�

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How much do you see of an Iceberg? विहेंमशै�ल

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Icebergविहेंमशै�ल

10 % is above the Sea Level90 % is below the Sea

10 % - Knowledge & Skills ज्ञा�नु एव� कHशाल

90 % - Attitude दृष्टि�क ण/ मनु भी�व

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Consequences of such Reactionइस �रहें की� प्रवि�वि(यं की� परिरणम

• Blame, Complain, Frustration द ष, शिशाक�यातु, क्रिनुर�शा�• Bitterness अंप्रसंन्नतु� / कड़ुव�पनु• Resentment नु�र�ज़गी�• Broken Relationship टBट� हुई रिरश्तु�• Ego and Hurt अंहम और च ट• Panic and Anxiety दहशातु (आतु�क) और चिंचQतु�• High level of Stress उच्च स्तुर कR तुनु�व

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Press the PAUSE button & RESPONDर�की बटना देबएँ3 और उत्तर दे�

ACTकीयं*

STOPर�कीना

THINKस��ना

Let’s RESPOND instead of REACTING

  प्रवि�वि(यं कीरना� की� बजायं  उत्तर दे�

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Character

�रिरत्र• Loving प्या�र�• Joyful आनु�दपBणC• Peaceful शा��क्रितुपBणC• Patient संहनुशा�लतु�पBणC• Kind d`ik• Good अंच्छी�• Faithful संच्च�• Gentle संज्जनु• Self-Controlled la;e

Galatians 5:22, 23xyfr;ksa 5:22,

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Character

�रिरत्र“vkSj blh dkj.k rqe lc izdkj

dk ;Ru djds] vius fo'okl ij ln~xq.k] vkSj ln~xq.k ij le>A, vkSj le> ij la;e] vkSj la;e ij /khjt] vkSj /khjt ij HkfDrA vkSj HkfDr ij HkkbZpkjs dh izhfr] vkSj HkkbZpkjs dh izhfr ij izse c<+krs tkvksA”

2 irjl 1:5-7

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Discipline

अना शैसना1. Appetite (भीB.) – “D;k rw us e/kq ik;k\ rks

ftruk rsjs fy;s Bhd gks mruk gh [kkuk] ,slk u gks fd vf/kd [kkdj mls mxy nsA” (uhfropu 25:16) / Philip 3:18

2. Body (शार�र) – “ijUrq eSa viuh nsg dks ekjrk dwVrk] vkSj o'k esa ykrk gwa…” (1 dqfjfUFk;ksa 9:27)

“The first victory that every Christian should have is victory over bed” – Hudson Taylor

3. Clock – Time (संमया) 20

समयं - 24 घं�ट�Then why we often say that we do not have

time?

Areas we spend time / Time robbers (संमया ल�ट�र�)सं नु� तु�ज़गी� स्नु�नु भी जनुस्कB ल .र�द�र� तुFया�र� क� संमया प्र�र्थCनु� द स्तु2 गीपशाप Simply Sitting Extra curricular (प�ठ्यचया�C अंक्रितुरिरA)

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Sleeping (स�ना) औसंतु - 6 to 7 hours a day is healthy

Early risers 10 p.m. to 5 a.m.Late sleepers 12 a.m. to 6 a.m.

As you discipline your body your body clock will set.

Holiday sleeping may be avoided.

Unstructured sleeping may be avoided.

(These will affect your body clock)22

Work for yourself now सं नु� 6 घ�ट�

तु�ज़गी� & भी जनु 4 घ�ट� स्कB ल 7 घ�ट�

Total 17 घ�ट�

बाFलDसं 7 घ�ट� द स्तु2 1 घ�ट�

अंक्रितुरिरA (Extra) 1 घ�ट�

Still 5 hours are there for you to use !!!      दFक्रिनुक संमया सं�रण� आवश्याक हF

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Etiquettesशिशै �र

• Sitting बाFठनु�

• Standing .ड़ा� ह नु�

• Speaking बा�तु करनु�

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Sittingब�ठना�

• Sit Erect सं�धा� बाFठनु�

• Handling Hands ह�र्थ क� प्रया गी

• Do not shake your legs अंपनु� पFर क्रिहल�नु� मतु

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Standingखड़ा हें�ना�

• Standing until offered seat सं�ट दिदए ज�नु� तुक .ड़ा� रह

• Avoid standing with hand on waist (in formal occasions) कमर पर ह�र्थ

• Do not stand on one leg/cross legged• Do not stand very close to anyoneक्रिकसं� क� बाहुतु कर�बा .ड़ा� मतु ह ज�ओ

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Speaking

ब�लना• Do not interrupt while the other person is

talking (बा�च मD मतु बा ल )• Do not hurt or demean other’s self-respect

दूसंर2 क�  आत्म संम्म�नु क च ट नुह\ पहु�च�नु�• Do not speak from the lips – but from the heart &

mind (ध्या�नु)• Do not gossip (गीपशाप)• Speak politely & not rudely: “Excuse Me”; “Thank

You”; “Please” ; “Sorry”

विवनाम्र� स� और ब�रूख> (अशिशै �)स� नाहें?27

rqEgkjk opu lnk vuqxzg lfgr vkSj lyksuk gks] fd rqEgsa gj euq"; dks mfpr jhfr ls mÙkj nsuk vk tk,A (dqyqfLl;ksa 4:6)

dksbZ xUnh ckr rqEgkjs eqag ls u fudys] ij vko';drk ds vuqlkj ogh tks mUufr ds fy;s mÙke gks] rkfd ml ls lquusokyksa ij vuqxzg gksA (bfQfl;ksa 4:29 )

vkSj u fuyZTtrk] u ew<+rk dh ckrphr dh] u Bës dh] D;ksafd ;s ckrsa lksgrh ugha] cju /kU;okn gh lquk tk,aA (bfQfl;ksa 5:4 )

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Final Word आखिखर> शैब्दे

Johari Window

Known to Selfस्वयं� जाना��

Not Known to Selfस्वयं� नाहें?जाना��

Known to Othersअन्यं जाना�� Open

ख लBlindअ�धा

Not Known to Others

अन्यं नाहें? जाना��Hidden

क्तिछप हुआUnknown

अज्ञा�

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Final Word आखिखर> शैब्दे

1. Make a DECISION today to change बादलनु� क� फैF संल�

2. Be more CURIOUS instead of Judgmental अंनु�म�नु क�  बाज�या उत्सं�क

3. Develop an ATTITUDE of Gratitude आभी�र कR दृष्टि�क ण

4. Take Action….. Now क�रCव�ई ल�..... अंबा

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आप स नाना� की� क्तिलएँ 

धान्यंवदे

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