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&nd then there are problems! problems which are meaningless. here are problems which are creative because they lead you to higher awareneshere are problems which lead you nowhere; they simply "eep you tethered! they simply "eep you in your old mess.Love creates problems. #ou can avoid those problems by avoiding love. (ut those are very essential problems2 hey have to be faced! encounterethey have to be lived and gone through and gone beyond. &nd to go beyond! the way is through. Love is the only real thing worth doing. &ll elsesecondary. %f it helps love! it is good. &ll else is +ust a means! love is the end. 3o whatsoever the pain! go into love.%f you don't go into love! as many people have decided! then you are stuc" with yourself. hen your life is not a pilgrimage! then your life is not a rivgoing to the ocean; your life is a stagnant pool! dirty! and soon there will be nothing but dirt and mud. o "eep clean! one needs to "eep flowing. &river remains clean because it goes on flowing. 4low is the process of remaining continuously virgin. & lover remains a virgin. &ll lovers are virgin. hpeople who don't love cannot remain virgin; theybecome dormant! stagnant; they start stin"ing sooner or later and sooner than later because thhave nowhere to go. heir life is dead.

hat's where modern man finds himself! and because of this! all "inds of neuroses! all "inds of madnesses! have become rampant. 5sychological illnehas ta"en epidemic proportions. %t is no more that a few individuals are psychologically ill; the reality is the whole earth has become a madhouse. whole of humanity is suffering from a "ind of neurosis.&nd that neurosis is coming from your narcissistic stagnancy. Everyone is stuc" with one's own illusion of having a separate self; then people go ma&nd this madness is meaningless unproductive! uncreative. Or people start committing suicide. hose suicides are also unproductive! uncreative.#ou may not commit suicide by ta"ing poison or +umping from a cliff or by shooting yourself! but you can commit a suicide which is a very slow procesand that's what happens. 6ery few people commit suicide suddenly. Others have decided for a slow suicide; gradually! slowly! slowly they die.(ut almost! the tendency to be suicidal has become universal.his is no way to live! and the reason! the fundamental reason! is we have forgotten the language of love. We are no more courageous enough to go inthat adventure called love.$ence people are interested in se,! because se, is not ris"y. %t is momentary! you don't get involved. Love is involvement; it is commitment. %t is nmomentary. Once it ta"es roots! it can be forever. %t can be a lifelong involvement. Love needs intimacy! and only when you are intimate does the othbecome a mirror. When you meet se,ually with a woman or a man! you have not met at all; in fact! you avoided the soul of the other person. #ou +uused the body and escaped! and the other used your body and escaped. #ou never became intimate enough to reveal each other's original faces.Love is the greatest 7en "oan.%t is painful! but don't avoid it. %f you avoid it you have avoided the greatest opportunity to grow. -o into it! suffer love! because through the suffericomes great ecstasy. #es! there is agony! but out of the agony! ecstasy is born. #es! you will have to die as an ego! but if you can die as an ego! you wbe born as -od! as a (uddha. &nd love will give you the first tonguetiptaste of ao! of 3ufism! of 7en. Love will give you the first proof that -od is! thlife is not meaningless.he people who say life is meaningless are the people who have not "nown love. &ll that they are saying is that their life has missed love.Let there be pain! let there be suffering. -o through the dar" night! and you will reach to a beautiful sunrise. %t is only in the womb of the dar" night ththe sun evolves. %t is only through the dar" night that the morning comes.0y whole approach here is that of love. % teach only love and only love and nothing else. #ou can forget about -od; that is +ust an empty word. #ou caforget about prayers because they are only rituals imposed by others on you. Love is the natural prayer! not imposed by anybody. #ou are born withLove is the true -od not the -od of theologians! but the -od of (uddha! 8esus! 0ohammed! the -od of the 3ufis. Love is a tari9a! a method! to "you as a separate individual and to help you become the infinite. :isappear as a dewdrop and become the ocean! but you will have to pass through tdoor of love.

&nd certainly when one starts disappearing li"e a dewdrop! and one has lived long as a dewdrop! it hurts! because one has been thin"ing! /% am this! anow this is going. % am dying. / #ou are not dying! but only an illusion is dying. #ou have become identified with the illusion! true! but the illusion is stil l aillusion. &nd only when the illusion is gone will you be able to see who you are. &nd that revelation brings you to the ultimate pea" of +oy! bliscelebration.Whenever you spea" of our failings! you usually mention anger! se, and+ealousy. anger and se, seem fairly straightforward! but there's somconfusionabout e,actly what +ealousy is! and it's harder to get to the core. would youtell us about +ealousy?Osho#es! % ma"e more mention of anger! se,! and less of +ealousy! because+ealousy is not a primary thing. %t is secondary! it is a secondary part of se,.Whenever you have a se,ual urge in your mind! a se,ual happening in yourbeing! whenever you feel se,ually attracted and related to somebod

+ealousyenters because you are not in love. %f you are in love! +ealousy never enters.ry to understand the whole thing. Whenever you are se,ually related you areafraid! because se, is really not a relationship! it is an e,ploitationyouare attached to a woman or man se,ually! you are always afraid that this womanmay go to somebody else! this man may move to somebody els

here is norelationship really! it is +ust mutual e,ploitation. #ou are e,ploiting eachother! but you don't love and you "now it! so you are afraid.his fear becomes +ealousy so you may not allow things! you will guard; youwill ma"e every security arrangement so this man cannot loo" at anoth

woman.Even loo"ing will be a danger signal. his man should not tal" to another womanbecause tal"ing.... and you feel afraid he may leave. 3o you wclose all thepaths! all the ways of this man going to another woman! of this woman going toanother man; you will close all the ways! all the doors.(ut then a problem arises. When all the doors are closed! the man becomesdead! the woman becomes dead! a prisoner! a slave! and you cannot lovedeadthing. #ou cannot love one who is not free because love is beautiful only whenit is given freely! when it is not ta"en and demanded and forced.4irst you ma"e security arrangements! then the person becomes dead! becomesli"e an ob+ect. & beloved may be a person! a wife becomes an ob+ectbelovedmay be a person! a husband becomes an ob+ect to be guarded! possessed!controlled. (ut the more you control! the more you are "illinbecause freedomis lost. &nd the other person may be there for other reasons! but not for love!because how can you love a person who possesses you$e loo"s li"e an enemy.3e, creates +ealousy but it is a secondary thing. 3o it is not a 9uestion ofhow to drop +ealousy; you cannot drop it because you cannot drop sehe9uestion is how to transform se, into love! then +ealousy disappears.


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%f you love a person! the very love is enough guarantee! the very love isenough security. %f you love a person! you "now he cannot go to anyboelse.&nd if he goes! he goes; nothing can be done. What can you do? #ou can "ill theperson! but a dead person will not be of much use.When you love a person you trust that he cannot go to anybody. %f he goes!there is no love and nothing can be done. Love brings this understandinhereis no +ealousy.3o if +ealousy is there! "now well there is no love. #ou are playing a game!you are hiding se, behind love. Love is +ust a painted word! the reality is se,%n %ndia! because love is not allowed much! not allowed at all marriageis arranged tremendous +ealousy e,ists. & husband is always afraid. $hasnever loved so he "nows and the wife is always afraid because she has neverloved! so she "nows that this has been an arrangement. parents arranged!astrologers arranged! society arranged; the wife and husband were never as"ed.%n many cases they never "new each other! they hnever seen each other. 3ofear e,ists. he wife is afraid! the husband is afraid! and both are spying oneach other.he very possibility is lost.

$ow can love grow in fear? hey can live together! but that living togetheris also not living together; they only tolerate together! they somehow caontogether. %t is +ust utilitarian! and out of utility you may manage! but ecstasyis not possible. #ou cannot celebrate it! it cannot become festive; it will aburdensome affair.3o a husband is dead before death! and a wife is dead before death. %t istwo dead persons ta"ing revenge oneach other! because each thin"s that ohas"illed the other. a"ing revenge! angry! +ealous the whole thing becomes sougly.(ut in the West a different type of phenomenon is happening which is thesame on the other e,treme. hey dropped arranged marriage and it is goothatinstitution is not worth "eeping! but by dropping it! love has not arisen! onlyse, has become free. &nd when se, is free you are always afrabecause it isalways a temporary arrangement. #ou are with this girl tonight! tomorrow shewill be with somebody else! and yesterday she was wsomebody else. #esterdaythe girl was with somebody else! tomorrow she will again be with somebody else;only tonight she is with you.$ow can this be very intimate and deep? %t can only be a meeting of thesurfaces. #ou cannot penetrate each other because penetration neeseasoning!it needs time! it needs depth! intimacy! living together! being together. & longtime is needed then depth opens depths tal"ing to eaother....his is +ust ac9uaintance. %t may not even be ac9uaintance in the Westyou can meet a woman on the train and ma"e love! and at midnight you drher atsome station. 3he never bothers that she may never "now you again; she may noteven have as"ed your name.%f se, becomes such a trivial thing +ust a bodily affair where surfacesmeet and separate your depth remains untouched. #ou are agamissingsomething something great! something very mysterious because you becomeaware of your own depth only when somebody else touchesOnly through theother do you become aware of your inner being; only in deep relationship doessomebody's love resound in you and bring your depinto being. Only throughsomebody else do you discover yourself.here are two ways of discovery. One is meditation without the other yousearch for the depth; another is love with the other you search for thedept$e becomes a root to reach to yourself. he other creates a circle! andboth lovers help each other. he deeper love goes! the deeper they feel theyatheir innerbeings are revealed. (ut then there is no +ealousy. Love cannotbe +ealous! it is impossible. Love is always trusting! and if somethihappensthat brea"s your trust you have to accept it; nothing can be done about itbecause whatsoever you do will destroy the other.rust cannot be forced; +ealousy tries to force it. 8ealousy tries! ma"esyou ma"e every effort so that trust can be maintained! but trust is notsomethingbe maintained. %t is there! or it is not there! and % say thatnothing can be done about it. %f it is there! you go through it; if it is notthere! better separate.(ut don't fight for it because you are wasting time! life. %f you lovesomeone and your depth spea"s to the other's depth you have a meeting inbe it is o"ay! beautiful; if it is not happening! separate. (ut don'tcreate any conflict! struggle or fight for it! because it cannot be achieved through fight! atime islost and not only time! your capacity will

be damaged. #ou may start againwith another person repeating the whole pattern.%f there is no trust! separate the sooner! the better so you are notdestroyed! so you are not damaged! so your capacity to love remains fresh andycan love somebody else. his is not the place! this is not the man! this isnot the woman for you. 0ove! but don't destroy each other.Life is very short and capacities are very delicate. hey can be destroyed!and once damaged there is no possibility of repairing them.% have heard that once it happened that Winston )hurchill was invited tospea" in a small club of friends.Everybody "new that )hurchill was a drun"ardand loved alcohol very much! and the man who introduced him! the president ofthe club! said! /3ir Winsthas drun" so much wine up to now! that if wepour all the wine into this hall the level will come up to my head./ %t wasa big hall! and he was +ust +o"ing.Winston )hurchill stood! loo"ed at the imaginary line! loo"ed at the ceiling the ceiling was high became very sad! and he said! /3o much still tobdone! and so little time left to do it./&s far as love is concerned! so much is to be done for everyone and solittle time is left to do it. :on't waste your energy in fighting! +ealousy!conflimove! and move in a friendly way.3earch somewhere else for the person who e,ists who will love you. :on't getfi,ed with someone who is wrong! not for you. :on't be angry! there is pointin it! and don't try to force trust; nobody can force it! it never happens. #ouwill miss the time! you will miss the energy! and you may only becom

aware whennothing can be done. 0ove. Either trust or move.Love always trusts! or if it finds that the trust is not possible it simplymoves in a friendly way; there is no conflict and fight. 3e, creates +ealousy;findiscover love. :on't ma"e se, the basic thing it is not.%ndia missed with arranged marriage; the West is missing with free love.%ndia missed love because parents were too calculating and cunning. heywould not allow falling in love that is dangerous! nobody "nows where

willlead. hey were too clever! and through cleverness %ndia missed all possibilityof love.%n the West they are too rebellious! too young; not clever too young! toochildish. hey have made se, a free thing! available everywhere no needgoso deep to discover love! en+oy se, and be finished.hrough se,! the West is missing through marriage! the East has missed. (utif you are alert you need not be Eastern! you need not be Western. Loisneither Eastern nor Western.-o on discovering love within you. &nd if you love! sooner or later theperson will happen to you! because a loving heart! sooner or later! comes aloving heart it always happens. #ou will find the right person. (ut if you are +ealous you will not find! if you are simply for se, you will not find! ifyou lionly for security you will not find.


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Love is a dangerous path and only those who have courage can travel it. &nd% say to you it is the same! +ust li"e meditation only for those warecourageous. &nd there are only two ways to reach the divine either meditationor love. 4ind out which is your way! which can be your destiny.

What is love?Osho%t is unfortunate that we have to as" this 9uestion. %n the natural course of things everybody would "now what love is. (ut % understand that nobo"nows or only very rarely what love is. Love has become one of the rarest e,periences. #es! it is tal"ed about! filmed! stories are written about songs are composed about it. 4ilms are made! on the 6 you will see it! on the radio! in the maga


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when you are with your boyfriend or your husband what are you doing? &re you not repeating? %f you are a man! watch what are you doing? &re ynot being your daddy? &re you not doing the same nonsense that he used to do? Once you were surprised /$ow can daddy do this?/ and now yare doing the same. 5eople go on repeating. 5eople are imitators! man is a mon"ey. #ou are repeating your daddy or your mummy. hat has to dropped. Only then will you "now what love is; otherwise you will remain corrupted.% cannot define what love is because there is no definition of love. %t is one of those indefinables li"e birth! li"e death! li"e -od! li"e meditation. %t is onethose indefinables % cannot define it.% cannot say! /his is love./ % cannot show it to you! it is not a visible phenomenon. %t cannot be dissected! it cannot be analy


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3o the second thing to remember is never demand perfection. #ou have no right to demand anything from anybody. %f somebody loves you! be than"fbut don't demand anything because he has no obligation to love you. %f somebody loves! it is a miracle. (e thrilled by the miracle.(ut people are not thrilled. 4or small things they will destroy all possibilities of love. hey are not interested much in love and the +oy of it. hey are mointerested in other ego trips. (e concerned with your +oy. (e utterly concerned with your +oy! be only concerned with your +oy. Everything else is nonessential.Love as a natural function! as you breathe. &nd when you love a person! don't start demanding; otherwise from the very beginning you are closing tdoors. :on't e,pect anything. %f something comes your way! feel grateful. %f nothing comes! there is no need for it to come! there is no necessity for it come. #ou cannot e,pect it.(ut watch people! see how they ta"e each other for granted. %f your woman prepares food for you! you never than" her. %'m not saying that you shouverbali


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Only one percent of people "now a little bit deeper. 5oets! painters! musicians! dancers! singers have a sensitivity that they can feel beyond the bohey can feel the beauties of the mind! the sensitivities of the heart! because they live on that plane themselves.*emember it as a ground rule Wherever you live! you cannot see beyond that. %f you live in your body! if you thin" you are only your body! you can attracted only to somebody's body. his is the physiological stage of love. (ut a musician! a painter! a poet! lives on a different plane. $e does not thinhe feels. &nd because he lives in his heart! he can feel the other person's heart. hat is ordinarily called love. %t is rare. % am saying only one perceperhaps! once in a while.Why are many people not moving to the second plane because it is tremendously beautiful? (ut there is a problem anything very beautiful is also vedelicate. %t is not hardware! it is made of very fragile glass. &nd once a mirror has fallen and bro"en! then there is no way to put it together. 5eople aafraid to get so much involved that they reach to the delicate layers of love! because at that stage love is tremendously beautiful but also tremendouschanging.

3entiments are not stones! they are li"e roseflowers. %t is better to have a plastic roseflower! because it will be there always! and every day you can giit a shower and it will be fresh. #ou can put some 4rench perfume on it.%f its color fades you can paint it again. 5lastic is one of the most indestructible things in the world. %t is stable! permanent; hence people stop at thphysiological. %t is superficial! but it is stable.5oets are "nown! artists are "nown to fall in love almost every day. heir love is li"e a roseflower. While it is there it is so fragrant! so alive! dancing in t

wind! in the rain! in the sun! asserting its beauty. (ut by the evening it may be gone! and you cannot do anything to prevent it. he deeper love of theart is +ust li"e a bree

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