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Is Non-Violent Communication NVC

consistent with the Trivium Metho

-justification for unwarranted hostility.

-about finding virtue in disrespectful discou Justification for “being a dick” without cau I reserve the right to be a dick with cause.

-saying that polite, respectful or neutral tcommunication have no value.

-saying that the virtues communicated as se of NVC are not valid.

-Saying needs, intentions, feeling are irrele

this is not...

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Is NVC consistent with the Trivium Me

A side-by-side analysis of the Trivium Method toNon-violent communication (NVC) to demonstra 

-how NVC is not an appropriate standard tecuse as the “rhetoric” phase of the Trivium

-A more consistent technique is alreadyembedded in the Trivium Method.

  -the Trivium Method has an intrinsic value swhich NVC contradicts.

this is...

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Trivium

Grammar teaches the mechanics of language to the This is the step where the student "comes to terms",

defining the objects and information perceived by thsenses. Hence, the Law of Identity: a tree is a tree, a cat.

Logic (also dialectic) is the "mechanics" of thought aanalysis; the process of identifying fallacious argumand statements, and so systematically removing

contradictions, thereby producing factual knowledgcan be trusted.

Rhetoric is the application of language in order to and to persuade the listener or the reader. It is theknowledge (grammar) now understood (logic) beingtransmitted outwards, as wisdom (rhetoric).

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Trivium

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Classical Trivium

Grammar Logic Rheto

Concernedwith identity(definitions)and rules oflanguage

Concernedwithnon-contradictionin structure

Concerwith inand per

Each of the above three are treated as separate disciplines, and althare not approached as a sequential process. For instance: McLuhan’sthat societies focussed on logic stagnate, societies focusses on Grarhetoric flourish, implies that each are silos which can be used indepor selectively emphasized.

http://projects.chass.utoronto.ca/mcluhan-studies/v1_iss1/1_1art6.h

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Classical Trivium is an analogy of philosophy appllanguage. This makes sense... language is tightly

coupled with reality. (Language represents realitypurpose of communicating)

Grammar -> Meta-physicsLogic -> Epistemology/dialecticRhetoric -> Conduct/Ethics

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The Classical Trivium: A few flaws.

Grammar

Concerned with identities in A statement.“A” exists as itself only.

Entities are identified through their differences cto other entities and are categorized by their similwith others.

Essence -> Universal -> Genus ->Species->Subject

If definitions are not agreed upon, communication proceed?

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If facts are mis-identified, ignored, or includedirrelevance, one can mislead others to acceptiwhich are not factual, relevant, or accurate.

For example: “Blue eyes are not blue”.“Blue eyes have no pigment, they are actually clear. Ligthroughout the iris letting only blue light escape, thusblue. They are actually clear.” The above is arguing an attribute as though it is a substBlue is an attribute (something which occurs through a The explanation for the blueness of eyes is merely a deswhat happens in the iris - it describes an attribute but tthe blue eyes are false by the standards of a substance

have no pigment or substance responsible for blueness)

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Grammar

The Classical Trivium: A few flaws.

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Logic

Concerned with non-contradiction in its internstructure. It is impossible for “A” to be “A” and nat the same time and in the same respect. 

Do the meanings of statements follow without con

All Men are mortalSocrates is a manSocrates is mortal

All apples are fruitAll bananas are fruitBananas are apples

True False

The Classical Trivium: A few flaws.

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Fallacies

Statements can have a proper logical structurincorrect due to false premises (facts are inco

Or the statements do not follow a proper logstructure.

Logic CANNOT stand on it’s own - this leads torationalism. Logic can be sound, with true premstill be false.

For centuries Trivium has been used successfumeans to argue the arbitrary and give validity

ideas.

The Classical Trivium: A few flaws.

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Rhetoric

Concerned with Instruction and Persuasion.

“Plato (427-347 BC) famously outlined the differenctrue and false rhetoric in a number of dialogues; [...]disputes the sophistic notion that the art of persuascan exist independent of the art of dialectic. [...] he sthe possibility of a true art wherein rhetoric is baseknowledge produced by dialectic, and relies on a dialinformed rhetoric...”

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rhetoric

The Classical Trivium: A few flaws.

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“For Plato and Aristotle, dialectic involves persuasiwhen Aristotle says that rhetoric is the antistrophedialectic, he means [...] that [it] is parallel to, but diffrom, [...] dialectic. [...] When Aristotle characterizes as the antistrophe of dialectic, he no doubt means th

rhetoric is used in place of dialectic [...] The domain ois civic affairs [...], not theoretical considerations ofoperational definitions of terms and clarification of These, for him, are in the domain of dialectic.”

emphasis mine

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Rhetoric

Concerned with Instruction and Persuasion.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rhetoric

The Classical Trivium: A few flaws.

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Rhetoric or desired outcomes can influence logic a

selection. Predefined logic can filter or bias datas

We can present facts in a false context to create awhich appears to be sound (factual).

We can downplay data or justify eliminating data anfocus on rationale or logic to create the impressiotruth which is valid but has no factual basis (a pri

Each area, if emphasized or predetermined, can inflthe others making it inconsistent with reality yet sappear true.

The Classical Trivium: A few flaws.

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Overview of Faults:

Because the Classical Trivium sees each area as seyet related tools, which can be drawn upon indepenor disproportionally to fit ones purpose, it can becreate the appearance of truth yet cause uncertaiconfusion about reality. Essentially it can fail...

the question then is - fail to do what?

The Classical Trivium: A few flaws.

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Overview:

Grammar is the identification of entities which exist

Logic is how one understands the relationship betweentities therefore a complete and accurate set of idmust be known.

Rhetoric is the application of and

therefore both knowledge and understanding need tcomplete and consistent or the application will likel

knowledge unders

The Trivium:

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Rhetoric is dependant on grammar & Logic is deon grammar. Grammar is dependent on REALITY.

By ordering the Trivium into a method, andbecome rooted in reality which leads t

means and provides a foundation for further learnin

logic.

knowledgeunderstanding

The Trivium:

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Axioms - Existence Exist, more than seland impossible with out them, Do not n

Percepts/concretes - observable, quanprovable deductively, includes self-evibut not always.

Concept - induced from observations(foundation is logic built upon observations o

Concept (1) - induced from other conce(foundation is logic built upon concepts root

Concept (2) - induced from other conce(foundation is logic built upon concepts root

Higher orderconcepts arebuilt upon lowerorder concepts

which are builtupon concretesfound in reality.

Regardless ofthe intangibilityof a higher orderconcept, by analysingits foundations we

eventually hitconcretes in reality.

If a concept is notrooted in realitythen it is arbitrary.

Ordering of understanding : (Locke’s Chain of Ideas)

For the sake of this presentation I am using the word “concept” to mean the abstractiothe conclusion drawn from concrete perceptions.

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For the sake of this presentation I am using the word “concept” to mean the abstractiothe conclusion drawn from concrete perceptions.

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Axioms

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The trivium Method has, broadly speaking, done two tIt has approached each area as equal, essential, and

but has also ordered each area into a sequential proof learning.

first, one identifies all relevant entities in a subjectIt is to ask “What am I really looking at?”.

Then, one identifies causal relationships, assess rele

importance... It is to ask “why is it the way it is?”.

Then, it is to ask “How can this be put to use?,” or “Hthis be expressed?”

As a sequence, which begins with reality, the Trivium vets and self-corrects at each step to preserve cons

with reality.

The Trivium Method:

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The trivium method is built upon some tacit assumptions:

Reality exists. Reality can be known. We can fail in our pursuunderstand it. If this is not so, then why use the Trivium Met

Therefore we can infer from this a statement of values for ttrivium Method.

If this is not the case then to what end has the Classical Trchanged into the Trivium Method?

It can be for no other reason than to align our thoughts an

with reality.

The Trivium Method:

It is the pursuit ofknowledge, understanding, and conduc

which is consistent with the reality.

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We now have a standard of measure to use in deciding if NVC for integration into the Trivium Method. it would need to be

with the following statement:

Regardless of any particular method of communication used rhetorical technique, it must fit the criteria of the above st

The Trivium Method:

Rhetoric is the expression ofknowledge and understanding whic

consistent with reality.

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“Non-Violent Communication, a method of using OFN4D's, applied internally and externally, for the pur

creating effective “Bridges of Empathy”.

Designed by Marshall Rosenberg(who was a student of Carl Rogers) in 1972, the Owas existent since at least 1992 (see Empathetic Le

What is Non-violent Communication?

http://schoolsucksproject.com/practical-definitions-voluntary-communication

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What is Non-violent Communication?

http://schoolsucksproject.com/practical-definitions-voluntary-communication

4D's (of Disconnected Communication, or Life-Alienating Comm(see Demands, (Unrequested) Diagnoses, Deserve-Oriented LaDenial of Responsibility).

“Demands: Commands that are given, usually with a “carrot/sattached consequence. (You will do this now, or else!)”

This idea is attached to the use of imperative sentences as viAn sentence should be rephrased to be a request.imperative

or, in NVC speak, “You may want to rephrase a imperative seninto the form of a request”.

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What is Non-violent Communication?

http://schoolsucksproject.com/practical-definitions-voluntary-communication

4D's (of Disconnected Communication, or Life-Alienating Comm(see Demands, (Unrequested) Diagnoses, Deserve-Oriented LaDenial of Responsibility).

“Diagnoses (that are Unrequested): Labels, adjectives, and cwhich are used as attempts to place an individual within a geevaluation. These are often forms of the “Hasty Generalizat

Wiki - “Diagnosis is the identification of the nature and causecertain phenomenon.”

This is to conflate a term which represents critical thinking it with an Ad hominem.

The definitions of “jackal and giraffe” used in NVC would be of “generalized evaluation”. Although it could be argued thathe person’s speech and not the person, the effect is the saIt Invalidates the person’s statement by citing their intentiowhich is to focus, not on content, but on intention.

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What is Non-violent Communication?

http://schoolsucksproject.com/practical-definitions-voluntary-communication

4D's (of Disconnected Communication, or Life-Alienating Comm(see Demands, (Unrequested) Diagnoses, Deserve-Oriented LanDenial of Responsibility).

“Denial of Responsibility: Abdication of an individual in being respond to a given situation, usually represented as a cognitemotional disconnection within an individual. There are many owhere there is an active or passive denial (by an individual) ofthat shows a cause/effect relationship between the choices oindividual and the effects of those choices.(You made me loose control, so it's your fault that I ______ ).”

The underlying idea is that the emotional responses are ultimachoice and not caused by the other person.

It ignores the possibility that people can have emotional impaIn the definition itself it has a “diagnosis,” with qualified lanregarding the person’s inner state (as cognitive/emotional disIt affords a convenient stance for the NVC’r to regard an em

argument as “emotional disconnection”. Intention, not conten

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What is Non-violent Communication?

http://schoolsucksproject.com/practical-definitions-voluntary-communication

4D's (of Disconnected Communication, or Life-Alienating Comm(see Demands, (Unrequested) Diagnoses, Deserve-Oriented LanDenial of Responsibility).

“Deserve-Oriented Language: Similar refusal or abdication(as with Denial of Responsibility) of an individual being able tto a given situation, usually represented as a cognitive and edisconnection within an individual. Punishments and rewards referred to while using Deserve-Oriented Language.(You/I deserve to …., You/I don't deserve …).”

Again, the definition contains a “diagnostic” component regarother person’s inner state.

This idea is linked to either/or, if/then, propositions which woworded as “and/also” statements. This idea undermines the lacause and effect. Changing propositions this way changes thyour statements without changing the content. It allows fordefinitions” which one can retreat from when called out for

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What is Non-violent Communication?

http://schoolsucksproject.com/practical-definitions-voluntary-communication

OFNR:Observations,Feelings,Needs,Requests.

This is a procedure.

IMO, this is whatattracts Trivium peopleto NVC as it appears

to overlap with GLR.

What is themeta-message ofthis image?

 

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What is Non-violent Communication?

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OFNR:

1) Observations without evaluation (note previous image stat  coloured by ego, thoughts, judgement, views, opinion).

2) Feelings (note: no mention that emotion may colour observ

3) Needs (motivating factors). Are all motivating factors bas  Is interpreting or expressing needs relevant to all topics

4) Requests (Actions). Is a request of action always required

What is the underlying assumption?(Needs are met through other people - interdependence)

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OFNR:

Observations 

Feelings

“Needs”(motivating factors)

“Requests” (Actions)

 

Trivium Method

Clarify terms.

If feelings are rto the topic, thwhat is relevan

 

give your train Explain your un

State your posior request acti

 

Grammar

Logic

Rhetoric

What is the underlying assumption?

Feelings and needs are the foundation for action (which is actualized t

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What is Non-violent Communication?

“Inner” application of the trivium:

Be aware of your own inner activity. Somatic sensfeelings, emotions. Be able to identify and clarify

occurrences.

Be able to understand those occurrences and carelationships, and how they rise and settle affec

thinking, etc.

Be able to articulate them, and be able to functiothese influences and motivators which increases

Grammar

Logic

Rhetoric

What is Non-violent Communication?

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http://schoolsucksproject.com/practical-definitions-voluntary-communication

“(The) Language of Obligation: The use of words to imply or ea message using the 4D’s of Disconnection (Demands, [unrequDiagnoses, Deserve-Oriented Language, Denial of Responsibilone’s self or toward another individual, for the known or unpurpose of creating extrinsic (or externally motivated) event(such as threats of punishments or promises of rewards) whresult in strategies often creating (perceived) “winners” and

Examples of the Language of Obligation: Should, Must/Need Right (moral)/Wrong (immoral), Extrinsically created “Rights”Either/Or (Debate), Scarcity Perspective, Win/Lose or Lose/Lo

Engineering, Extrinsic Motivations, Punishments/Rewards recCoercive Situations.”

What is Non-violent Communication?

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http://schoolsucksproject.com/practical-definitions-voluntary-communication

“(The) Language of Choice:The use of words to describe (or make understandable, to onto others) an enhanced perspective of abundant possibilitiesand internal/external evidence of respect and understandingmethod of critical thinking used in conjunction with NVC alllanguage to both [be] understood and spoken.

Examples of the Language of Choice: “Prefer to, (shall) chooto, individually preferable/less preferable, intrinsically geneof individual choices (as opposed to extrinsically generated that is created from fear of punishments or desire for rewar

external/internal “cause & effect” known and used for decisprocesses.”

What is Non-violent Communication?

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(The) Language of Obligation:-Should,-Must/Need to,-Ought to,-Right (moral)/Wrong (immoral),-Extrinsically created “Rights,”-Either/Or (Debate),-Scarcity Perspective,-Win/Lose or Lose/Lose-Engineering,-Extrinsic Motivations,

-Punishments/Rewards received/given,-Coercive Situations.

the Language of Cho-Prefer to,-(shall) choose to,-decide to,

-individually preferabless preferable,-intrinsically generatof individual choices(as opposed to extringenerated “respect” from fear of punishmdesire for rewards),-external/internal “cknown and used for dprocesses.

http://schoolsucksproject.com/practical-definitions-voluntary-communication

What is Non-violent Communication?

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“e·quiv·o·ca·tion

iˌkwivəˈk ā SH(ə)n/ 

nounthe use of ambiguous language to conceal the trto avoid committing oneself; prevarication.”

Softening ones position through modified langua

effort to control the reaction of other people...

What is Non-violent Communication?

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“Bridge of Empathy”: A metaphor for a connectionmutual knowledge and understanding of the Feeli“Needs” (Motivating Factors) of all communicatingindividuals, subjectively measurable by virtue of asigns of caring and respect.

http://schoolsucksproject.com/practical-definitions-voluntary-communication

The gist of NVC:

What is Non-violent Communication?

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Are these two statements consistent or complimentary?

The Trivium Method:“The Expression of knowledge & understanding which is conwith reality.”

NVC:“Creating connection of mutual knowledge and understandinFeelings and “Needs” (Motivating Factors) of all communicatsubjectively measurable by virtue of apparent signs of carin

How accurate are the terms in NVC? do they provide more clor create ambiguity? How does NVC vet “Subjectively Measuapparent signs” for consistency with reality?

By the previous definitions, how does NVC ensure consistenSome would say this is what the Trivium supplies. however NVequivocation of entire subset of language; deeming it violentor obligatory by definition; and uses unfalsifiable, unverifieassessments which are to be kept to yourself (used internal

At first glance it is obvious that NVC is anti-Trivium Method.

NVC, a Deeper look

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linguistics:

Understanding the impact of linguistics on cognition is the kunderstanding the mechanics of NVC, NLP, Delphi etc.

The idea is that social interaction impacts how an individual reality (cybernetics).

Perception of reality can only occur through the developmelanguage. Language cannot develop until it is externalized (others) and they then externalize their thoughts back to us(social interaction). This interaction then frames how reality is constructed. Reatherefore, created out of dominant social frames (consensupopulation or popular narrative) which is built from languag

Primacy of linguistics -> society (narrative) -> consciousness

Therefore reality is created out of the social narrative.Changing the language changes the narrative which dictates

NVC, a Deeper look

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Effect of linguistics on cognition: Milton Erickson

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Milton_H._Erickson

Indirect Technique

“Where classical hypnosis is authoritative and direct, and often resistance in the subject, Erickson's approach is permissive, accoand indirect. For example, where a classical hypnotist might say

", an Ericksonian hypnotist would be more like"... Because the ind

place during the course of a normal conversation, Ericksonian hoften known as Covert or Conversational Hypnosis.

Erickson maintained that it was not possible consciously to instr

unconscious mind, and that authoritarian suggestions were likelwith resistance. The unconscious mind responds to openings, oppmetaphors, symbols, and contradictions. Effective hypnotic suggshould be "artfully vague", leaving space for the subject to fill with their own unconscious understandings - even if they do not grasp what is happening....”

Emphasis mine

going into a trancecan comfortably learn how to go into a trance

NVC, a Deeper look

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Effect of linguistics on cognition: Milton Erickson

the language of choice, a modification of language with the inteless authoritative, falls into the category of Indirect techniqu

By softening one’s position to avoid the Language of obligationthings occur: -The statements become “artfully vague”. Stepping back from a stance obfuscates what the speaker’s position actually is, leavlistener to search for their position. Essentially it creates avoid which draws the listener in. This ambiguity causes confusa mild trance.

-Rewording to avoiding authoritative language removes resistanlistener. It sooths the person into a more receptive state, essdropping their guard.

This is a means of manipulating the context in which a statementwithout changing the content. It is to change the statement inthypnotic suggestion.

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Effect of linguistics on cognition: Milton Erickson

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Milton_H._Erickson

“Confusion techniqueIn all my techniques, almost all, there is a confusion.

A confused person has their conscious mind busy and occupied, amuch inclined to draw upon unconscious learnings to make senseconfused person is in a trance of their own making - and thereforeadily into that trance without resistance. Confusion might be cambiguous words, complex or endless sentences, pattern interrumyriad of other techniques to incite transderivational searches.

...

  ... long and frequent use of the confusion technique has maeffected exceedingly rapid hypnotic inductions under unfavourabsuch as acute pain of terminal malignant disease and in persons but hostile, aggressive, and resistant..”

Emphasis mine

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Effect of linguistics on cognition: Milton Erickson

 transderivational searches

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Milton_H._Erickson

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Transderivational_search

“Confusion technique”

Confusion might be created by ambiguous words, complex or endlsentences, pattern interruption or a myriad of other techniques

.transderivational searches

“...a psychological and cybernetics term, meaning when a search is being a fuzzy match across a broad field...

Unlike usual searches, which look for literal (i.e. exact, logical, or regumatches, a transderivational search is a search for a possible meaning omatch as part of communication, and without which an incoming communicmade any sense of whatsoever. It is thus an integral part of processing of attaching meaning to communication.

A psychological example of TDS is in Ericksonian hypnotherapy, where vasuggestions are used that the patient must process intensely in order tmeanings...”

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What is the intention behind NVC? An example of Erickson’s T

From a proponent of NVC:“... I used to try to start with showing evidence, presenting claimconclusions (which people called "your Beliefs, [name removed]..."resistance, as I would guess you have seen, perhaps?

, and I might agree, but I have found it amaoccur when I stopped trying that method, and when I switched totactics which I now promote. So, by promoting these methods, I d(ever) that this is the more correct way to proceed to communicarather that I have seen evidence that these methods have been yibetter results than my former procedures, and I invite you and othem out. I hope this wasn't confusing, and I hope that you can tnever wish to be more than literal, and I very much am promotingperspective regarding communication choices (which I respect, anmeasure, constantly).So, the question......

Have you ever had problems when you communicate your evidenceconclusions to people, and they refuse to investigate your claimto desire to remain within their own conclusions (

)?”

You might i

as them being deluded

which you and "delusion"

// / /M R

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Non-Violent CommunicationCreate by Marshall Rosenberg a psychologist who in conflict resolution and education reform.

 

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marshall_Rosenberg

“The Center for Nonviolent Communication emerged from worwas doing with civil rights activists in the early 1960s. Durihe provided mediation and communication skills training to coworking to desegregate schools and other public institution

“Rosenberg borrows the phrase "Dominator Culture" from builds upon Walter Wink's theory that we have lived under a dominaparadigm for about 8,000 years. Rosenberg says this culture utilizspecialized language and system of education to allow a small minto rule over the vast majority of the people, so that the majority not serving their own life-needs, but serving their masters'.”

Riane Ei

http://en wikipedia org/wiki/Riane Eisler

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Riane Eisler

 

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Riane_Eisler

“Eisler proposes that new conceptual social categories and paradigms are needed which transcend conventiovs. secular, right vs. left, capitalist vs. communist, Eastern vs. Western, and industrial vs. pre- or post- industrinot describe the whole of a society's beliefs and institutions. She points out that societies in all these categorie

and violent and that a road map to a more equitable and less violent social structure requires a new frame of asocial features that are ignored or marginalized in conventional analyses, particularly the social construction oparent-child and gender relations.[5]

To permit viewing or thinking distinctions which to her are relevant, if not fundamental, between folks and cultunotions of dominator and partnership societies.

Dominator Culture[edit]She coined the term dominator culture to describe a system of dominance hierarchy ultimately backed up by fcore components of this system of authoritarian rule in both the family and the state is the subordination of woGermany, Khomeini's Iran, or in earlier cultures where chronic violence and despotic rule were the norm. She (governance of social organization dominated by males) of Indo-European and other societies, versus what shpartnership model (as distinct from matriarchy) for the social organization of Neolithic Europe and the later Minflourished in prehistoric Neolithic Crete [6]

She provides cross cultural examples of domination oriented cultures and their characteristic configuration in partnership oriented cultures. The configuration of the domination system has four mutually supporting core cocontrol in both families and states or tribes; Rigid male dominance—and with this, the devaluation by both meanything stereotypically considered “feminine,” including care and caregiving; The acceptance, even idealizatimeans of imposing one’s will on others; A system of beliefs that presents relations of dominating or being domdesirable.”

http://en wikipedia org/wiki/Riane Eisler

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Riane Eisler

 

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Riane_Eisler

“Riane Tennenhaus Eisler (born July 22, 1931) is a scholar, writer, feminist, and social activVienna, but her family fled from the Nazis to Cuba when she was a child; she later immigratStates.[3] She has degrees in sociology and law from the University of California. She is the

popular books and articles, and president of the Center for Partnership Studies. Eisler has bcultural historian, an evolutionary theorist, and a second-wave feminist.

...Riane Eisler is a founding member of the General Evolution Research Group (GERG), a f Academy of Art and Science and World Business Academy, a member of the Club of Romecounselor of the World Commission on Global Consciousness and Spirituality [23] along wit

 Archbishop Desmond Tutu, and other spiritual leaders. She is also co-founder of the SpirituIntimate Violence (SAIV). She is the president of the Center for Partnership Studies, dedica

education. In 2003 she was one of the signers of the Humanist Manifesto.”

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Riane Eisler

 As far as I can see:

There are underlying assumptions with Eisler’s work. Change

Dominator culture, is through public and corporate policy(top down governing)

Her arguments hinge on the idea of interdependence vs indep

These ideas spider out into a war on family (as a dominator symasculinity (defined as dominate focussed), Modernity (as a recolonial/dominator systems).

These ripples can be found in extremist views such as dismansociety (Deep green resistance), culling the male population McKenna), dissolution of private property (property is theft)democratic truth (consensus reality). [cultural Marxism]

IMO, Eisler is part of this wave of cultural marxism, as is Ro

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-Colonial cultures are dominator cultures (based in v-Dominator cultures use coercive language to enslav-the enslaved perpetrate the masters by use of the l-changing the language changes the culture from dom

partner culture

Are these true? Are these rooted in reality or can tto reality (explanation vs pseudo-explanation).

She who controls the definitions, dictates the dialec

Syllogism which lead to NVC.

-All human behaviour is an attempt to fulfill needs-All human needs are universal therefore are never

-conflict rises from competing strategies for meeting-violence is a strategy for meeting needs-violence is learned culturally

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Reality.

Reality.

perception/consciousnessof reality.

perceptioconsciouof realit

LanguageCommunication of

perceptions as concepts.

perception/consciousnes(2)higher order concepts whichdepend upon the developmentof language (linguistics).

Perception/consciouness(3)concepts which exist only inlanguage, passed on throughlanguage (cybernetics).

PsycholoPerceptudictate p

experiencCybernetSocial inimpacts t

Linguistilanguagelanguage

frames.

Axioms

Percepts

Concept

Concept (1)

Concept (2)

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NVC is common in activist training. Both Rosenberg aWink (created domination system theory) were both ac

The connection between the idea that “modern cultur

the root of all social injustice” are pervasive throuhousing, poverty, Indigenous rights, educational refoenvironmental activist circles.

Too big for this presentation, however a massive rabbwhich drives directly into current affairs.

NVC ideas have a tight orbit in a constellation of ideinevitably lead to the dismantling of industrial sociename of social justice and sustainability; which can oimplemented through a domination system with near aauthority.

Is NVC what is seems to be?

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This is not just a connection of people but also of ideas -from and overlap with Fabian and A21. It is the destructioProtestant ethic, destruction of modern civilization, a retfeudal economics (no property rights) and centralized glocontrol.

NVC is language meant to disarm minds and renfreedom of thought impotent (or seen as violent).

It is thought control.

Its core premises operate on an assumption of interdepend

This is an attack on the individual.

weaponized