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“The most important thing is to enjoy your life - to be happy - it’s all that matters.” -- Audrey Hepburn

Thankfully, winter appears to finally be over and the snow a distant memory. We can thankfully start thinking about summer and more importantly vacation plans. Whether those plans include traveling to exotic locales or to your summer cottage upstate, this is undoubtedly everyone’s favorite time of year.

In this issue Rochester Woman Magazine explores travel and leisure topics that are sure to interest all of our readers. Plus, since this time of year is also the beginning of wedding season, we’ve included our first annual RWM Wedding Guide, filled with special offers for some of our incredible advertisers with everything from tuxedos and formalwear to hair and makeup and more. Be sure to check it out starting on page [25] with amazing photography by Brandon Vick.

One of the most popular wineries in the Finger Lakes has to be Dr. Franks, and two incredible women are leading the winery into the next generation. The general manager is fourth generation Meaghan Frank and marketing director Erin Flynn are keeping the award winning trading of Dr. Franks going strong. Read their story on page [18].

Looking for a new and different way to spend your summer? Woman Tours is just the ticket. The organization features incredible cross country bike tours for women of all ages. The tours are offered all over the world and of course throughout the US in some of the country’s most scenic

areas including the Florida Golf Coast, the mountains of New Hampshire, Texas Hill Country, Teton Valley and much more! Check out the story on page [14]. Then get your bike ready for the ride of a lifetime!

For over three decades Rochester’s School of the Arts has been turning out creative talent and further enriching the area’s cultural appeal. Over the years the school has had many famous alumni including Taye Diggs, Dashiell Eaves, Timothy Mitchum, Charlene “Tweet” Keys and Aesha Ash. You’ll find this enhancing story on page [42].

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We invite Anthony House friends and members from all around the country to come to Rochester for an exceptional 4-day, 3-night Susan B. Anthony Legacy Trip from August 4 through 7 this summer! “Be Part of Her Story” includes an extraordinary in-depth and behind-the-scenes exploration of Susan B. Anthony’s life, her friends and family, her times and causes, her lifetime struggle to achieve equality for all people. Organized by our affiliated volunteer group, The Friends of Susan B. Anthony Museum & House, the trip includes three nights’ lodging in a wonderful downtown Rochester hotel, motor-coach transportation to all venues, special seminars on topics related to the suffrage movement with experts in their fields, travel around the historic Finger Lakes region, and visits to Rochester sites of importance to the Anthonys and suffrage. For more detailed information, including the opportunity to register, visit our website here. The trip is limited to 40 travelers, so please act soon! We look forward to seeing you for this all-inclusive, in-depth exploration of Susan B. Anthony’s life and work! National Susan B. Anthony Museum & House i 17 Madison Street i Rochester, NY 14608

The RPO presents its final pops concert of the season with The Music of John Williams on Friday and Saturday, May 9 & 10 at 8 p.m. in Kodak Hall at Eastman Theatre. Rochester na-tive and former RPO Artistic Director and Principal Conductor Bob Bernhardt guest conducts an evening of music by the Oscar-winning composer, including excerpts from Star Wars, Jaws, Jurassic Park, Indiana Jones, Harry Potter, Superman and more. In addition, the 501st Legion’s Garrison Excelsior will provide Star Wars characters prior to performances and during intermis-sion for photographs. May 12-14, the Orchestra and RPO Principal Conductor for Education and Outreach Michael Butterman will be busy performing for area three-to-six year olds as part of the annual Tiny Tots Concert series. This season’s five 40-minute performances of Mr. Butterman’s Neighborhood will introduce children to the instrumental families of the orchestra as well as basic musical concepts. They’ll take place at Roberts Wesleyan College, the JCC of Greater Rochester, and Newark High School. On Thursday, May 22 at 7:30 p.m. and Saturday, May 24 at 8 p.m. in Kodak Hall at Eastman Theatre, guest conductor Thomas Wilkins—music director of the Omaha Symphony and prin-cipal guest conductor of the Hollywood Bowl Orchestra—leads Shostakovich’s Tenth Symphony. The program also includes American composer James Beckel’s Toccata for Orchestra, as well as Armenian composer Alexander Arutiunian’s virtuosic Trumpet Concerto, featuring RPO Principal TrumpetDouglas Prosser. The 2014 RPO Musicians’ Awards for Outstanding Educators will be presented to this year’s five winners immediately following intermission on Thursday evening. The final Sunday Matinee of the season, Music and Literature, is Sunday, May 25 at 2 p.m. in the Performance Hall at Hochstein, and will feature an anthology of works that take their cue from the written word. Conducted by Michael Butterman, the program includes Debussy’s Prelude to the Afternoon of a Faun; Beethoven’s Symphony No. 7, Allegretto; Liszt’s Les Preludes; and Richard Danielpour’s A Woman’s Life, based on a poem by U.S. Poet Laureate Maya Angelou. The concert also features the “dramatic presence of versatility” of Trinidadian soprano Jeanine De Bique. Closing out the RPO’s 2013-14 season on Thursday, May 29 at 7:30 p.m. and Saturday, May 31 at 8 p.m. in Kodak Hall at Eastman Theatre is Holst’s The Planets, with British guest conductor Michael Francis, chief conductor and artistic advisor to Sweden’s Norrköping Symphony Orches-tra. In addition to Holst’s sonic, celestial showpiece, the program also includes William Walton’s Henry V Suite, the stirring score to the 1944 Shakespeare film adaption starring Laurence Olivier. Tickets for Kodak Hall shows start at $22/$10 students; tickets for Sunday Matinees at Hochstein are $24/$10 students. Both are available in person at the Eastman Theatre Box Office and at all Wegmans That’s T.H.E. Ticket! locations, by phone at (585) 454-2100, or online at rpo.org. (Box Office at Hochstein opens one hour prior to concert.)

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The three-martini lunch fell out of favor decades ago -- unless you’re a high-powered investment banker or a diehard Mad Men aficionado. And sometimes that microwaveable meal you keep stashed in the office freezer just won’t cut it. So what’s a hungry downtowner to do, come the midday hour? Why, go to Orange Glory Cafe and Catering, of course.

This tiny lunch spot is appropriately located right next to the Little Theatre, and it’s been in business for almost a decade. Some people might give credit for its longevity, in an area of town where restaurants come and go like fashion, to its stellar cookies (more on those later), but businessman or -woman cannot live on cookies alone (believe me, I’ve tried). Instead, it’s most likely the formula of variety plus simplicity that has kept the working stiffs of Rochester coming back to Orange Glory, even as times and tastes have changed.

Orange Glory is truly one of those places where you can get something for everyone. Vegans, vegetarians, meat eaters, gluten-free folks can all get a sandwich, or something approximating it, at this cafe. In fact, most of the menu is extremely friendly to people who don’t eat the standard American diet that revolves around a hunk of meat. Chef and owner Jackie Powers was quick to point out that six or seven of the restaurant’s standard sandwich offerings are either vegan or vegetarian. The same holds true for the sides and, in many cases, the soups, although some of the soups do contain dairy. All of the soups are gluten-free, however.

When it comes to the sandwich menu, there are grain-based patties and even ones made from a mixture of vegetables -- like the artichoke/mushroom burger I tried when I visited the cafe. Obviously, these are not the kind of burger that’s meant to imitate a standard meat-based sandwich, but instead focus on the flavors and textures that are intrinsic to their ingredients. The quinoa burger, which I also tried, is a gluten-free offering that’s mildly spiced, with nothing to overpower the usual nuttiness that is associated with quinoa. It’s served on top of field greens with a substantial slice of mozzarella cheese. In some ways, this is more akin to a quinoa salad gently formed into a patty, simply because of the discrete ingredients and the lack of mush that one often expects with “substitute” burgers.

On any given day, vegetarians might also find a spinach burger, lentil burger, chickpea burger or other varieties of non-meat sandwiches, which sets Orange Glory apart in terms of the sheer number of veggie-friendly options.

However, meat eaters shouldn’t dismiss the place, either. Powers says that the chicken salad is perhaps the most popular sandwich filling, and it was easy to see why once I tasted it. A solid, homestyle mixture of celery, large chunks of chicken, dried cranberries and just enough mayo to hold it together, the chicken salad comes on apple-cranberry bread, making it just enough of a departure from the traditional version that Mom put in your lunch box, but the flavors are familiar, too. This sandwich doesn’t try any fancy tricks, but sticks to what it knows best.

A roasted potato salad, with a creamy, slightly tangy dressing and chunks of celery to provide crunchy contrast, accompanied the chicken salad. Other side offerings include a popular sesame noodle dish, tabbouleh, field greens, and Greek-inspired orzo.

Don’t -- seriously, DO NOT -- leave without a cookie. Or three. Once you take a bite of the first one, whether it’s chocolate chip, macademia nut, triple chocolate, lemon or oatmeal, you’ll want to try the others. These are large, indulgent treats with the perfect chewy-cookie texture.

Unable to get downtown, or don’t want to brave the lunch crowds that flock to this limited-seating space? Orange Glory provides catering, including box lunches.

Orange Glory Cafe i 240 East Avenue i Rochester NY 14604585-232-7340 i www.orangeglorycafe.com i M-F 11am - 3pm

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Thankfully the summer travel and vacation season is just around the corner. This year’s long, cold, snowy winter is behind us and warm, sunny weather should be the norm from here out. With the warm summer months come family vacations or weekends at the beach or summer cottage. This can be a rough time of year for your hair, especially if you are trying to maintain a color other than the one you were born with! Pool chemicals, lake or salty ocean water combined with intense summer sun can fade that beautiful color fast. Here are some ways to keep that beautiful color looking fashionable all summer long.

That being said…bring on Summer! I did a little research for us girls, how to deal with roots, fading and brassiness - and how to buy us a few weeks before our next color session. Oops, did I let the cat out of the bag? YES, I color, highlight, tone, blow-dry, curl, in other words I tell my hair stylists Robert Buonomo, Jr. that I work hard every day to make his job more difficult! He thanks me for the challenge every two to three weeks.

“Blondes have more fun” But can you keep it bright? When fair hair becomes blah, it’s because you probably have mineral buildup. Blonde and highlighted hair is porous so when it absorbs chlorine or other minerals from pool or shower water, it gets a dingy or muddy look. A clarifying shampoo once a week may help. Or perhaps a new filtration system for your shower head.

“Keep your Red Ravishing” Red pigments fade faster than any other hair color, so you’ll need to go the extra mile to hold onto this high-maintenance hue. Apply a pre-shampoo treatment. These products contain protective oils that lock in color (but not salad dressing soggy)

A primer can help maintain your color twice as long.

Other suggestions to maintain and retain your natural beachy locks and color throughout the summer and travel season:

~Cover Up: Sun exposure doesn’t only damage your skin but also hurts your hair, Look vacation chic- throw on a fabulous hat.

~Stop Frying your hair: Heat from your blow-dryer and flatiron breakdown pigment and melanin in your hair. Use a thermal-protecting creme or spray every time you style your hair

~Be a Shampoo Snob: Don’t wash away your color with a basic shampoo. Color protecting shampoos are just that. They contain sulfate-free and color-safe formulas to clean hair without stripping pigment and washing it down the drain.

~ Get a little dirty: Skip a few days of washing. Water swells the hair allowing color to escape. Use a dry shampoo between regular washings to absorb oils to keep your hair from feeling greasy.

~Condition like crazy: Healthy hair holds color so do your best to give yours lots of moisture.

I like to think of my hair like a guy thinks of his dream truck or favorite vintage car. So I polish my hair, top off its liquids and maintain it to make it perform every time I take it out for a leisurely summertime spin!

Joan Lincoln owns Panache Vintage and Finer Consignment in Brighton Commons. Her Fashion Forward segment can also be heard every Thursday morning during Wake Up With Tony on WARM 101.3 exploring all of the latest fashion trends and styles.

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by ashley cooper

“Cyclers see considerable more of this beautiful world than any other class of citizens. A good bicycle, well applied, will cure most ills this flesh is heir to.” - Dr. K. K. Doty With every monthly issue, Rochester Woman Magazine is awarded the veritable privilege of uncovering some of the Flower City’s most precious hidden gems. This month is no different. What better way to highlight in the role of area women in the realm of “travel and leisure” than to spotlight the first all-women bicycle touring company in the world? WomanTours was founded in 1994 by Gloria Smith in Driggs. Idaho. Prior to her ventures in establishing a now-international cycling tour company, Smith worked on the West Coast as a contractor, designing custom homes. After an on-the-job back injury occurred while working in San Francisco in 1989, Smith endured four years of futile rehabilitative therapy. It wasn’t until Smith opted to join six friends in a coast-to-coast biking trip that Smith finally began to feel better. The extensive trip, which began in Washington and ended in Maine, worked wonders for Smith’s recovery. After three weeks of cycling, Smith’s pain had completely diminished. Smith would never be the same; she had discovered the healing power behind cycling and, in her mid-50’s, fervently pursued her newfound passion.

Though Smith has since retired, her adventurous spirit has hardly ceased. When not cycling with WomanTours, Smith remains active at her favorite stomping grounds: the deserts of Arizona and the Grand Tetons. She continually serves as an inspiration to cyclists all over the world. Today, WomanTours is thriving in its new base at Winton Place in Rochester. The touring company is equipped with a masterful, all-female staff, including Jackie Marchand, who has served as President since 2004. Since Rochester native and avid bicyclist Jackie Marchand purchased the company, WomanTours has tripled in size. Marchand earned her MBA from Simon School at the University of Rochester and worked ten years at a small, local bicycle manufacturing company before venturing out on her own with the purchase of WomanTours. There are four employees in the Rochester office, including Marchand’s two sisters and a cousin. Currently, WomanTours is the only existing company that offers cross-country tours to women exclusively. According to the company, WomanTours is dedicated to providing “trips for women of all ages, abilities and interests, and in the most beautiful places around the United States and abroad.” Epic tour lengths can last anywhere from two weeks to two months, depending on the individual’s interest and proficiency level, as approximately 55-60 miles of ground are covered

each day. There is no camping on said epic tours; cyclistsboard in bed and breakfast and inns, ensuring that participants are comfortable and can look forward to the prospect of a warm, cozy bed after a long day’s journey. When touring through national parks, cyclists stay in cabins or park lodges in order to create as unique, yet restful an experience as possible. Epic tours offered by WomanTours are among the most affordable in the country. In addition, no more than thirty participants at a time are included in the tour so as to encourage lasting friendships, safe travel and an overall unforgettable experience. As WomanTours designs trips to appeal to all women in all phases of life, riders in past years have ranged in age from 18 to 79. An SUV SAG vehicle travels along with each tour to provide relief assistance to cyclists when necessary. Also accompanying the tours are appointed chefs, proficient in providing healthy, delicious meals for participants each night. WomanTours has truly thought of everything! Participants are supplied with a tour packet, which includes a six week training schedule in order to ensure that they are fit and ready to ride! The support van is always present to shorten miles in the event that a participant did not have time to adequately train. However, WomanTours insists that if a participant, prior to embarking on the trip, can ride just five miles per day, they can train to 20 miles rather easily. WomanTours has hosted trips all over the world. From Ireland to Italy, to Bermuda and Bhutan, touring exotic locations by bike is one of the greatest ways to truly take in the traveler’s experience. Argentina, New Zealand, Antarctica and Prince Edward Island are among some of the foreign nations that WomanTours will be venturing in the coming year. Of course, cyclists can also choose from several American tour options, including the Florida Golf Coast, the mountains of New Hampshire, Texas Hill Country, Fargo to Cleveland, Idaho: Teton Valley and much more! Locals might even opt to do a closer tour: ride around Lake Ontario, cycle the Niagara Falls Pathways or pedal your way through New York State Wine Country! Whether you’re new to biking or a veteran cyclist, WomanTours has an adventure awaiting you! Tourists hail from all over the United States, and many even come from foreign countries to enjoy the experience. Accomplish goals that you never throught you could surpass, build lifelong friendships and tour the breathtaking scenery on the homeland or overseas! It will surely be an experience you will never forget. To learn more about WomanTours, please visit www.womantours.com or call 1-800-247-1444 today!

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Located in the heart of the Thousand Island region, ABay as the locals refer to it, is a great destination to explore the Thousand Islands. Whether you get there by boat or car, once you arrive you can tour Boldt Castle, head over to Clayton and see the boat museum or take the Thousand Island Bridge over to Canada for a day. Our recommendation is that you make your way there in August for the annual Pirate Week festivities. www.visitalexbay.org

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This incredible museum is just a quick hop down Rt 390 in Corning. The museum cares for and stores the world’s best collection of art and historical glass. Here you and your family can explore the world of glass, innovations in technology, experience the amazing hot glass show and even make your own glass creation! For more information visit www.cmog.org

Corning Museum of Glass

From Lake Ontario, to the Erie Canal to the Finger Lakes, there are many incredible waterways to explore around the area. No boat, no problem there are several local tour boats in the area for you to enjoy. The Harbor

Town Belle offers cruises on the Genesee River, the Lake Ontario shoreline and

Irondequoit Bay, The Sam Patch Boat and Mary Jemison Tours cruise the Erie Canal in Rochester and The Colonial Belle, offers a scenic trip on the canal starting in Fairport Visit their websites for hours and pricing.

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Looking for something to do that also offers great exercise? Kayaking or SUP (Stand Up Paddling) is a great way to get out on the water and get some exercise too. Bay Creek Paddling Center offers Kayak and SUP rentals for you to enjoy. If you are new to the sport they also offer classes to get you started. For more information visit their website www.baycreek.com.

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This incredible museum is just a quick hop down Rt 390 in Corning. The museum cares for and stores the world’s best collection of art and historical glass. Here you and your family can explore the world of glass, innovations in technology, experience the amazing hot glass show and even make your own glass creation! For more information visit www.cmog.org

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Of course we can’t talk about exploring the region without mentioning wine tours of the Finger Lakes region. In just a couple of hours you can be sipping some of the finest wines in the country along the shores of the beautiful Finger Lakes. Drive down yourself and tour at your own pace or schedule a guided wine tour offered by most of the local limo companies. Either way, you’ll enjoy great wine and incredible scenery. For more information visit www.senecalakewine.com, www.keukawinetrail.com or www.cayugawinetrail.com

wine toursFrom Lake Ontario, to the Erie Canal to the Finger Lakes, there are many incredible waterways to explore around the area. No boat, no problem there are several local tour boats in the area for you to enjoy. The Harbor

Town Belle offers cruises on the Genesee River, the Lake Ontario shoreline and

Irondequoit Bay, The Sam Patch Boat and Mary Jemison Tours cruise the Erie Canal in Rochester and The Colonial Belle, offers a scenic trip on the canal starting in Fairport Visit their websites for hours and pricing.

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by randy agnessFourth generation General Manager Meaghan Frank of Dr.

Konstantin Frank Vinifera Wine Cellars. Ltd and Marketing Manager Erin Flynn provided a truly unique experience spending time discussing the history and vision forward in an exclusive

interview. The Finger Lakes Wine Region would not be the premier destination for Riesling wines

without the foresight of legendary wine pioneer Dr. Konstantin Frank who was determined to prove that cold climate grapevines and specifically Rieslings

could thrive in the Finger Lakes terroir which closely matched the climate, soil and geography of Germany’s

Mosel River Valley.

From the 1870s through the prohibition, the Great Depression and WWII, the entire Finger Lakes wine

region had previously been dominated and known for its native grapes – Concord, Niagara and Catawba and

French-American Hybrids producing the traditional Sparkling (Champagne) wines and the sweeter wines. That

was until 1958, when Dr. Frank broke against the accepted paradigm and began planting Vitis Vinifera grapevines grafted

with the disease resistance native rootstocks on the property purchased on Keuka producing his first vintage of wine four years later. “Once hired by world renowned French winemaker

Charles Fournier, Dr. Frank spent many years of research at Gold Seal Vineyards grafting vitis labrusca with vitis vinifera,” explained Meaghan Frank. Although previous attempts at growing Rieslings and other cold climate vines in the Finger Lakes had failed, “Dr. Frank was convinced that the proper combination native rootstock conditioned to the region grafted to these Riesling vines held the key to success,” continued Erin Flynn.

Over the past fifty years, Dr. Konstantin Frank’s vinifera wines have become the gold standard of Rieslings to which all other Finger Lakes wineries are judged. In competition, Dr. Frank’s Rieslings are in a class of their own routinely awarded with Gold, Double Gold and Best of Competition medals for outstanding quality. Meaghan Frank mentioned that “to compliment and expand of the winery’s success, my father and third generation wine pioneer Fred Frank introduced a new line called Salmon Run.” These wines are value priced and quickly grew in sales volumes and makes up half of our production today.”

“Today, the Dr. Konstantin Frank label stands for quality and consistency from bottle to bottle and vintage to vintage,” commented Meaghan. It’s difficult when faced with the decision about which wine and producer to choose when purchasing wine, so reputation is everything. “We have extremely loyal customers who specifically understand the superior aromas and tastes associated with Dr. Frank’s wines and has helped propel increasing sales annually,” explained Erin Flynn. The tasting room staff is truly considered seasoned Wine Educators with many years of providing insight to the thirty-six different wines offered. “It’s unusual to provide free wine tastings to our visitors, but we try to expand their palates to our wines and especially those which are produced in limited case quantities and only available on-site,” said Meaghan Frank, “and by keeping to a manageable numbers, our Wine Educators can focus on providing a unique and memorable experience for every guest.”

Even though Dr. Frank and Salmon River Rieslings are prominently featured at Wine & Liquor Retail locations, Meaghan is focusing beyond education to the next generation of

wine drinkers – the Millennials. “With the bar raised, we have a difficult job with exceeding expectations after being named NYS Winery of Year and achieving the most competition gold medals among New York State wineries”, stated Meaghan. To stay ahead of the wine curve, Dr. Frank’s committed to planting other less common known varietals such as Gruner Veltliner which will target and appeal to the entry level wine drinkers who are looking for interesting, experimental, food-friendly wines. “Our research into eastern European cold climate grapes had us convinced that Grüner could be successfully grown in the Finger Lakes region and become the next fashionable wine trend”, remarked Meaghan.

After our discussion, the real treat began as Meaghan and Erin opened the library of Dr. Frank wines for a private review. “You can’t really talk about Dr. Frank without experiencing the wines first hand,” said Erin Flynn. First flight consisted of the Chateau Frank Sparkling wines fermented in the méthode champenoise and designated as Crémant.

The traditional process require the carbonation to dissolves into the still wine and where each bottle is inverted and riddled (or turned a quarter rotation daily) to allow the additional yeast and sediment settle in the neck, then removed by freezing the neck of the bottle. “Basically the wine must undergo a second fermentation in the bottle itself”, explained Erin.

Unlike many sparkling wines, the Chateau Frank’s Célèbre Crement and Blanc de Noirs have residual sweetness and wonderful tastes. No tasting would be complete without sampling Dr. Frank’s Dry Riesling and Semi-Dry Riesling.

These two wines form the cornerstones of the Dr. Frank collection and the result from decades of careful refinement. “The Dry Riesling is made from estate vines on the Keuka Lake vineyard whereas the Semi-Dry Riesling with a uniquely separate taste profile comes from our vineyard on the south eastern end of Seneca Lake, the so called Banana Belt”, described Meaghan.

Every vintage of the Riesling wines are understandably perennial champions. Erin eagerly wanted to show off some of their limited production wine selections including the Rkatsiteli, Gewürztraminer and Grüner Veltliner along with a delicately beautiful Pinot Noir Dry Rosé and the Sauvignon Blanc. Vinted with traditional eastern European characteristics, the elegant flavors and complexity are expectedly realized. The Pinot Dry Rosé was simply outstanding while the Sauvignon Blanc was a delight to the nose and palate.

To my surprise, the elite wines of Dr. Frank’s collection – the Riesling Reverse and the Bunch Select Late Harvest Riesling were uncorked. “These are by far the finest wines of the six Rieslings produced by Dr. Konstantin Frank Cellars,” exclaimed Meaghan Frank. Among champion wines, the Riesling Reserve and Bunch Select Late Harvest could only be described as liquid gold. “The hand-picked bunches of grapes individually selected exhibiting only superior noble rot were allow to be pressed and fermented into a very small case quantity vintage”, comment Meaghan. Erin poured the Rieslings into the glass with care and grace deserving of such fine wines. The intoxicating nose gave the mind a realization of what brilliant tastes were about to occur. The wine has almost a magical golden color delightful to one’s vision. The accumulation of this sensory experience became fulfilled by the first sip and pure enjoyment followed. Sometimes you don’t know what should be on your bucket list, but as stated “you can never go wrong with Dr. Franks.”

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When a traditional vacation isn’t enough, maybe a mental health get away is the better ticket!

It’s tempting to think that the sunny skies and sandy beaches that temporarily soothe job stress or invite love will magically dissolve the problems left back home. Unfortunately, sometimes a vacation just isn’t enough.

if You: Feel empty despite a successful career, Are ruled by the tyranny of the urgent, Struggle with emotional pain that drains your competence or efficiency, Have to sweep your private life under the rug, Suffer with bad habits, or addictions that paralyze you, Live with constant marital tension, Seem derailed, and unable to get where you want to be in life Have relationships that need a major overhaul, Are sick and tired of being sick and tired,

If your life is just not working… You may be a candidate for a Therapeutic Intensive

My many years as a clinical psychotherapist have confirmed that emotional wounds can sabotage our ability to achieve relational,

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Traditional weekly therapy helps us heal these emotional wounds and identify the obstacles that prevent the completion of early developmental tasks. However, when difficult habits, patterns, or problems have become entrenched over time, weekly therapy sessions can sometimes be ineffective. Therapeutic Intensives are designed to overcome impediments and accomplish therapy goals in significantly less time, through a concentrated immersion experience. ou can think of it as a mental health vacation: a short term investment that creates long term change.

Therapeutic Intensives have become an increasingly popular way to treat addiction, trauma, marital dissatisfaction, and eating disorders in the United States. A participant receives 7 to 12 hours of individual, marital, family, and/or group counseling each day. The schedule generally consists of 20-50 hours of therapy spread over several days or weeks, depending on the client’s treatment objectives, time constraints, financial considerations, and work/family responsibilities. Each intensive is tailored to address the individual needs of the client.

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Whereas in weekly counseling a portion of each hour is often spent recuperating from the past week, continuous immersion in the therapeutic environment results in significantly more time spent with core issues, and tremendous healing is accomplished in less time as a result. Doing therapy in such a concentrated way causes minimal disruption to family life, professional obligations, and daily responsibilities, and the rapid change that results enables a much faster stabilization of any relationships or situations that were previously in jeopardy.

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A Therapeutic Intensive requires effort and commitment, but it can generate the change you long for. Hundreds of people who have completed an Intensive now experience deeper fulfillment in their personal and professional lives as a result of their mental health vacation with us here at InterAct.

To see if a Therapeutic Intensive would be right for you or your family member, call InterAct Counseling at 585-388-8010 or read more about it at: www.InterActCounseling.com. The InterAct staff are here to help you realize your full potential and live the life you were created to enjoy. A mental health get away really can be the ticket you were waiting for.

Intensives are conducted either independently or in conjunction with a client’s existing treatment team. Our staff will collaborate with private therapists, religious organizations, partial hospitalization programs, inpatient therapists, and independent outpatient practitioners to design a therapeutic experience that will compliment the client’s existing therapy. Where appropriate, they support the treatment methodologies used by the referring professional and incorporate them into the Intensive design.

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by brandy Whitbourne

“[W]hen you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.” ~Nora Ephron, When Harry met Sally

Now that spring is finally here, brides everywhere are preparing for the big trip down the aisle. What better way to prepare and ease the stress than with help from Lisa Murley, wedding planner and owner of Limedrop Events?

Planning corporate events at a consumer packaging company, Murley decided she loved what she was doing and wanted to bring it to a more personal level by quitting her job and opening her own business in 2010. Originally renting studio space in downtown area, she moved the company to her home in Pittsford, turning one of her living rooms into her current office.

“The best part of my job is working with the clients and listening to their wish list,” said Murley. “I love watching this list come true in a unique way that meets their budget and aesthetic criteria. Someone may have a dream of tons of floral with a smaller budget. We create that look and feel by mimicking it with textured linen and candles. In the end I get to hear them tell me that, it’s better than I ever imagined.’”

As a full-service event design and planning company, they liked to be thought of as “creative designers, budgetary geniuses, contract negotiators, facilitators, fact-checkers, directors, crisis averters, list-makers and a resource center for everything you need.”

Limedrop Events primarily services weddings, but also coordinate anniversaries, birthdays, showers, Bar and Bat Mitzvahs and engagement proposals. They offer various forms of event planning: Full Service Planning and Coordination where they design and plan the entire event, Month of’

Coordination where they step in at the end of the planning, Consultations for Advice, and Customized Plans for people with specific needs.

“Because I had a career in brand management, I have an eye for consistency and design” said Murley. “I am meticulously organized and can think quickly on my feet when things change. Vendors and venues like us because our level of organization and willingness to stretch. We help to make their lives easier, which is why they like to refer us.”

Murley has noticed that over the years weddings are becoming more personalized and brides are finding creative touches that reflect them and their relationships. For example, couples are steering away from wedding cakes and using pies and s’mores.

“We’re also seeing a lot more rustic and barn weddings,” said Murley. “They are no longer using six-foot round tables but rather the eight feet by 40 feet tables that serve food family style. They are not typically given menu choices, but serve the food in big portions and pass down the table. We’re seeing more burlap, mason jars and casually arranging flowers.“

Murley also said that brides are looking for an easier guest experience, for example, having the ceremony and reception at the same place and without a time gap and availability to be able to book a hotel close by.

Brides are also doing what Murley calls, “first look pictures,” in which couples are together prior to the ceremony for a more relaxed photo session.

“Each wedding or event is so special that we have tears in our eyes,” said Murley. “From the bride walking down the aisle, to the look on the grooms face, there’s pockets of time during the day when you get misty eyed and just know that it’s worth it. Brides end up becoming good friends. We get birth announcements a couple years later and sometimes I’ll meet up with some brides for coffee to catch up. It’s a friendship that just endures. I’m glad I get to be part of someone’s special day.”

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at the Averell Council’s 1st annual

DEVOUR ROCHESTER Wine & Culinary Classic

Saturday May 31 from 2 to 9 pm @ MAG

Featuring 40+ food artisans, wineries, breweries, distilleries and epicurean purveyors from around the region

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• VIP Ticket ($75) includes: wine tote bag, tasting glass, unlimited tastings,

VIP tasting reception with private performance by the John Nugent Trio,

culinary classes and demonstrations*, Top Chop chef competition

• General Admission ($25) includes: wine tote bag, tasting glass,

8 tasting tickets, culinary classes and demonstrations*,

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Buy in person at MAG or online at DevourRochester.com.

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by Vittorio’s mensWear and tuxedoThink about the formality of the wedding. Some weddings are very elegant in which even the guests are expected to wear formal wear. Others are more casual affairs in which a suit or even more casual dress might be more appropriate.

It’s usually better for you to select your styles and colors on your own as a couple, rather than with your full wedding party in tow.

Tuxedo colors used to be limited to basic black but in today’s marketplace are available in various shades of grey, midnight blue, white, ivory, silver brown and even red. Think about your overall theme and how the tuxedo or suit color works with that theme.

Beyond color, you can choose various configurations, numbers of buttons and style lapels. These really come down to personal preference but having a chance to see a few options on your groom will help to narrow your choices.

Consider the fit of the tuxedo or suit – Current fit options include, “classic” more relaxed fits, as well as trim and skinny fits that are more tapered in the sides, arms and legs. Try on examples of each of these if possible to see how they look on your frame.

Are you trying to coordinate with colors in bridesmaid dresses or décor? If so, using the vest or accessories to do this is generally the way to go. Some couples look for an exact match, others try for a coordinating color. For more color presence, use the vest, tie and pocket square. For less, just use the tie or pocket square.What color is your wedding dress? If it is white, the groomsmen should have white shirts. If ivory, their shirts should be ivory too. Stark white next to ivory can sometimes make the dress look dingy.

Personalize with individualized touches like custom cufflinks, suspenders or other accessories to make it your own.

If you have out of town groomsmen, consider a store with a nationwide fitting network. Don’t assume that this only means chain stores as many locally based independent stores are able to accommodate this. The final fitting when your groomsmen pick up prior to your wedding is an important aspect that allows for last minute adjustments to fit. As tempting as it might be to, “grab and go” take the time for a proper fitting.

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Winter has finally decided to let Spring enter our lives, and how glorious she feels! Unfortunately, it is going to be a short season before summer,

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Andrea, one of our incredible licensed aestheticians at DermaSpa, and I sat down to put together our highly recommended treatments for the next few months that will help refresh and invigorate the face, body, and spirit as well as help restore a youthful glow, especially entering into this time of year when we tend to show more of less. But no checklist would be complete without focus on preventive medicine and tips to help keep premature aging at bay, which we happily provide!

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With a deep concern for the betterment of others that began at an early age, Joy Bergfalk continues to hold her passion for helping those around her. As a clergy, she has worked with countless people whom have suffered from trauma or addiction of some sort, and has made an effort to expand her assistance through her program, Project Empower, which she started in 2006. “Project Empower” encourages women to live to their full potential and is responsible for leading Bergfalk into the realm of dealing extensively with women in Rochester area programs, assisting them through rehabilitation.

“The Coffee Connection” was founded in 2001 as an employment-training program for women in recovery from addiction. Finding that many women failed their recovery after leaving halfway houses because they lacked the essential skills many employers look for, the Coffee Connection became an answer. In 2011, Project Empower raised enough money to purchase the Coffee Connection on South Avenue, which was at risk of closing, and took over officially in November of that year.

With an open mind and an open heart, Bergfalk and her team take in women whom struggle in all aspects, give them opportunities to grow and learn, and even when things don’t go as planned—they don’t give up on them.

“Just because they may not be able to work for us anymore doesn’t mean we’re done with them,” Bergfalk shares.

“We’re building our entire infrastructure from the inside out,” says Bergfalk. Growing beyond an entry-level training program, the Coffee Connection has now created jobs and expanded to another location on East Main St, with plans for a third next month.

“We’re doing things no one else is doing,” said Bergfalk. With contributions from several local businesses, programs, and foundations, the Coffee Connection is growing every year. Selling both wholesale and retail coffee which is fair trade, organically grown, sustainably farmed, and roasted on site, the not for profit business maintains their reputation well.

Bergfalk says her favorite part about being so heavily involved in all areas of the Coffee Connection is that “the job enables me to use all the skills that I have and to develop others that I’ve never had an opportunity to at another job.” Coming from a diverse background and having a diverse education, Bergfalk is able to do many things with the Coffee Connection and utilize all of her skills.

“I’ve seen lives change, knowing I’m making a difference, always gets me… My siblings and I were raised to believe that we can change the world, and though I’m not trying to change the whole thing anymore—we see miracles here,” says Bergfalk.

“If someone is taken from us by addiction, because addiction is a fatal disease, the rest of the world is robbed from what they can do,” says Bergfalk.

“There are reasons, but no excuses. And we try to understand these reasons—which encourages responsibility rather than blame or shame,” shares Bergfalk.

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Considerable progress has been made in understanding the role of obesity in healthcare. The old concept was that all fat was bad; that it was associated with hypertension and diabetes. Yet, some more recent studies report that certain overweight or obese individuals actually do not demonstrate these health risks. Now we are beginning to understand why.

Body fat can be divided into subcutaneous fat and visceral fat. Subcutaneous fat is the fat that is deposited on our hips, buttock, arms, and belly. This fat does not seem to carry the health risks of visceral fat. Visceral fat, on the other hand, is fat that is deposited around our abdominal organs but also around our heart. Unlike subcutaneous fat, visceral fat cells are capable of generating many of the inflammatory proteins that attack our blood vessels and our heart. They also may play an important role in many other perimenopausal or menopausal conditions, such as memory loss, mood disorders, hot flashes, bone loss, and skin changes.

How do clinical scientists know where these fat deposits reside in our body? The gold standard for assessing body fat is derived from studies using magnetic resident imaging (MRI) or computerized tomography (CT scan). A close parallel has been found between these sophisticated and expensive methods and measuring hip or hip-to-waist measurements. Recently, ultrasound measurements of the distance from the back of the abdominal wall to the spine (or to the aorta in a modified protocol) has proved as effective as MRI or CT Scan for finding a correlation between these measurements and serum lipid determinations.

But how does the biology support the imaging? Using animal models, investigators have sampled subcutaneous fat and visceral fat and have demonstrated in the laboratory that only visceral fat cells generate the inflammatory proteins interleukin-1, interleukin 6, and Tumor Necrosis Factor (TNF), the same proteins that have been linked to most menopausal symptoms.

Do both types of fat increase in a similar way throughout life? No. Subcutaneous fat increases gradually as a product of aging and reduced activity. Visceral fat, on the other hand, rapidly increases in the three to five years prior to onset of menopause. Accompanying that increase in visceral fat are increases in carotid artery wall thickness and alterations in one’s lipid profile.

Is there any good news? Yes. Exercise, when begun in earnest, associated with diet control reduces visceral fat more quickly than subcutaneous fat in the early weeks of the program.

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By ashley cooper I photos By Ken rIemer photography“To be creative means to be in love with life. You can be creative only if you love life enough that you want to enhance its beauty, you want to bring a little more music to it, a little more poetry to it, a little more dance to it.”-Osho

Taye Diggs. Dashiell Eaves. Timothy Mitchum. Charlene “Tweet” Keys. Aesha Ash.

Aside from irreproachable talent in the performing arts, what do these individuals share in common?

The above-mentioned expressive souls are all alumni of Rochester’s prestigious School of the Arts (SOTA). The progressive and independent community of learning has been producing creative talent in the Flower City for over three decades, further enriching the area’s cultural appeal. In 1980, SOTA began as an experimental sector of Wilson Jr. High School. The following year, the arts magnet established itself at Monroe High School and became known as “The School of the Arts at Monroe” where it served students in 7th-9th grade.

The School of the Arts at Monroe began to popularize, expanding over the following sequence of years. Today, SOTA is firmly planted in its own facilities, the former dormitories of the Eastman School of Music. Approximately 1200 students, in grades 7-12 are now fully represented as the institution continues to develop talent in various capacities including creative writing, drama, instrumental and vocal music, dance, visual arts, theater technology and strings.

According to www.sotarochester.org, “admission to the School of the Arts is based on a formal audition process.” Students are permitted to accentuate one field of study exclusively in the above-mentioned artistic categories. The intensive, 4-hour-long audition process involves a written essay, a confidential application snapshot, and a presentation with specific requirements according to the chosen field of study. For example, a student aspiring to specialize in dance must prepare a choreographed piece to perform in front of a panel comprised of faculty members. A student interested in the visual arts must have an extensive portfolio in tow of two-dimensional artwork. The portfolio must

also contain a sketchbook, self-portrait and landscape, among other materials. All auditions will be judged according to a standard rubric and in “a combination of group and individual settings.”

Students of SOTA are also required to carry a full academic course load in addition to their fine arts concentration. Specific program requirements may result in an extended day. Students, faculty and the community, at large, reap the rewards of the investments made at SOTA. Each year, SOTA offers several opportunities for the public to attend exhibitions and theatrical productions, allowing the students to showcase their work. Apart from hosting dance concerts, produces two large musicals, and instrumental recitals, the school produces two musicals and three plays per year. Moreover, according to the institution’s website, “Students who attend SOTA may also wish to participate in any of the more than 80 athletic teams and events throughout the school year.”

The school’s mission emphasizes special demands of its students in three essential realms: the arts, humanities and academics. To meet rigorous academic standards, SOTA offers advanced placement courses as well as foreign language courses. Approximately 90% of SOTA graduates will go on to extend their education at various colleges and universities. Alumni are attending a variety of prestigious institutions of higher learning including Harvard, Smith, Cornell, Yale and NYU.

A primary support of SOTA is the charitable, 501(c)(3) not-for-profit organization, “Friends of the School of the Arts.” The Friend of the School of the Arts not only serves to promote the success of SOTA, but also provides financial assistance. The organization hosts several scholarships for low-income students and produces multiple cultural events throughout the year which serve as fundraisers.

Over 2500 schools across the continent apply to perform at 2014 American High School Theatre Festival in Edinburgh, Scotland. Only 75 schools are annually selected; SOTA’s Drama Department has been selected to perform at AHSTF-- as part of the Fringe Festival in Edinburgh Scotland, The Scotland Fringe is the largest and more revered arts festival in the world While the event will occur in August 2014, SOTA is actively endeavoring to raise funds in order to make this dream a reality. To learn more, please visit www.sotarochester.org.

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“Float like a butterfly…sting like a bee.” –Mohammed Ali

Rochester native Mercedes Vazquez-Simmons knows that a little hard work and determination goes a long way; a lot of hard work and determination, like a full-force jet stream, propels one on the sufficing path to fulfilling one’s wildest dreams. The wearer of multiple hats including both on-the-go SOTA-Mom and manager of National VAR Program/Indirect Channel for Time Warner Cable, Vazquez-Simmons also serves as president of Pretty Girl Productions, LLC—the first Latino female boxing promoter in New York State.

The youngest of three, Vazquez-Simmons was born to Puerto Rican parents who first introduced her to the sport.

“I’ve always loved boxing,” she shares. “It is one of those things that have always been part of my life. From a cultural perspective, it was part of the Puerto Rican experience. We watched it as a family and now, when I go to Puerto Rico, we definitely have to go to a boxing match. It’s a multigenerational family affair,” she laughs.

Though Vazquez-Simmons attended Rochester’s School of the Arts during her early academic career, she spent each summer of her formative years in Puerto Rico.

“My mother made sure we were as culturally diverse as possible, but that we stayed true to our Puerto Rican culture,” says Vazquez-Simmons.

It was through working with Steve Nelson of Rock Solid Management that Vazquez-Simmons began to develop a deeper understanding and appreciation of boxing. Witnessing the intensive training undergone by world class fighters following in the footsteps of predecessors like Oscar De La Hoya and Hasim “The Rock” Rahman, Vazquez-Simmons aspired to launch her own promotional company that met the holistic needs of champions-in-training.

“We’re an entire support system inside and outside of the ring,” says Vazquez-Simmons.

Pretty Girl Productions not only focuses on providing quality physical training in a variety of local gyms, but also in equipping fighters with the life skills necessary outside of the ring. Among the services offered by the promotional company are lessons in financial management and health education.

“This sport does require a [high] level of discipline,” states Vazquez Simmons, who strives first and foremost to protect the health of the fighters, and thereby protecting the longevity of their careers. “It’s cardio, it’s technique, it’s science—there are countless hours that go with the training. New York State is one of the stricter commissions when it comes to health. All fighters go through rigorous medical testing and they have to pass. I’ve had to cancel events because of

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“I would rather walk with a friend in the dark, than alone in the light.” ~ Helen Keller

For women, bonds of friendship are as life-sustaining as the air we breathe. We need each other to encourage, to inspire, and to remind us that we’re not alone. Who is it that we turn to in our darkest hours and times of greatest joy, but our friends? For Mary Palermo and Georgianna Zicari, friendship has been a source of comfort and hope that continues to encourage and inspire the world over.

A two-time cancer survivor, Georgianna was diagnosed with Hodgkins Lymphoma at 15 and Thyroid Cancer at 29. You can’t hear her story and not be moved by her strength, her heart, and her faith. She is one of those people who exudes an authentic zest for life and her joyful spirit is contagious. It is no wonder she was the 2013 Inspiration Award Winner for Wilmot Cancer Center. She continues to volunteer, advocate, and use her life and story of survival as an inspiration to others. Some people are truly remarkable; Georgianna is one of those people.

It is said that “like attracts like.” Such is the case for Mary and Georgianna who met fourteen years ago while working as pharmaceutical sales reps for the same company. The kindred spirits hit it off immediately and became fast friends.

When Georgianna was diagnosed with cancer for the second time, Mary designed a ring for her as a gift of encouragement. Georgianna says it was the most thoughtful gift she has ever received. The sterling silver ring was engraved with scripture from Psalm 23 that read: “He leads me and restores my soul.” Georgianna says the ring was a source of solace and peace. “I was really terrified and going through a lot emotionally after this second diagnosis. The ring Mary designed for me was the most meaningful gift I could have received at that time. I continue to wear it to my doctor appointments and follow up scans and it reminds me that I’m not alone - I can do this.” When Mary realized the profound effect her jewelry had on her friend, she decided to pursue this new-found passion. With the goal of encouraging people all over the world with messages of hope, Believe Bands, Mary’s inspirational Christian jewelry company, was born.

One little ring provided hope in the midst of sickness and adversity, spawned a new career for Mary as a jewelry designer, and inspired a brand. Georgianna couldn’t be more proud of her dear friend: “I give her so much credit for pouring so much of herself into this business she has created. It has been so cool, to see this all come to life. In so many ways Believe Bands reminds me of my friendship with Mary: fun and meaningful. I love her jewelry because I think it’s for anyone and any situation. Her pieces are not only pretty, but very meaningful.”

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A single mom with two young boys picks family over career in NYC. Colleen O’Brien made what would seem to be a huge sacrifice when, after visiting relatives in Rochester, she decided that the Upstate lifestyle presented her with an option to balance work and family, which ultimately turned out to be the best decision. After completing a graduate degree in Finance and International Business at NYU, Colleen worked in corporate banking at several large financial institutions, but her path in life started much earlier when attending SUNY New Paltz pursuing a Bachelor’s degree in Fine Arts and Art History. Prior to, and after completing her undergraduate studies, O’Brien ventured to Finland twice, the first year as a student and the second year as a jeweler apprentice for a jewelry manufacturing company. Each trip left Colleen with a unique perspective, as the first stay was sponsored by well-travelled, middle class families that spoke English, while the second trip was in a working-class factory environment where only the Finnish language was spoken. Each experience had a lasting impact as she became exposed to such different surroundings only a short distance from each other. “It was like two different worlds”, said O’Brien, “both culturally and economically.”

Upon returning to the U.S., Colleen landed a bench jeweler’s position with Tiffany’s in a workshop located at their flagship 5th Avenue location, where she gained stature eventually executing signature pieces and prototypes for the firm’s designers. O’Brien indicated that there was little to no upward career mobility so she returned to school pursuing an MBA degree and began her second career. Living in Westchester County and commuting daily to NYC, combined with long working hours, life became especially challenging as one of her fraternal twin sons was diagnosed on the autism spectrum, thus requiring much more attention and 24/7 parenting and scheduling various therapies. “Early intervention is critical to long term development and success “ stated Colleen.

“I traveled to Rochester for family visits and realized that I would be able to maintain my corporate career and have a reasonable commute, allowing more time to care for the boys”, commented O’Brien. She moved to Pittsford and started with Fleet Bank which soon became part of Bank of America.

Within a short period of time, Bank of America recognized O’Brien’s capabilities and promoted her to Senior Vice President handling regional corporate credit and lending, servicing businesses with revenues ranging from $50 million to $2 billion and above. Colleen works with teams in both the Rochester and Buffalo regions, providing credit solutions to finance acquisitions, capital improvements and general working capital needs. Colleen’s passion for work and family remain clearly evident with her choices. Now with her sons in college, Colleen relocated to a more urban environment where she experiences life within short walking distances. “I still love the arts and travel, and enjoy being close to the center of the arts community in Rochester”.

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It’s said that people come into our lives for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. For Mary Palermo and Georgianna Zicari, friendship provided hope and support in the face of cancer and inspired a company that continues to pay it forward. Theirs is a story is of faith, friendship, giving back, and using talents and your passion, to impact lives and change the world. It’s a story about love; about everything that matters, the only things that matter. To quote Willa Cather, “Where there is great love there are always miracles” …and friendship may be the greatest miracle of all.

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injuries. I don’t want to risk their health; it’s not worth it to me. We have medical respondents waiting at the ring.”

The other side of Vazquez-Simmons’ vision for Pretty Girl Productions is bringing New York City-level shows upstate, chiefly, in Western New York. She thrives on raising champions locally in order to break the mold of the region’s reputation as a mere opponent pool. So far, Vazquez-Simmons has succeeded in both ventures. She has promoted a string of up and coming fighters, including Hector Camacho, Jr. and Jonathan “Bomba” Gonzalez.

Vazquez-Simmons finds the aspect of helping others launch successful careers as most rewarding in her promotional undertakings. One day, she may be promoting her own son; though now seventeen and attending the School of the Arts, Vazquez-Simmons shares that he is indeed expressing a vested interest in amateur fighting. “I’ll support him in whatever he decides,” she assures.

On May 29th, Pretty Girl Promotions will be hosting “Fight Night” at the Buffalo Convention Center. The impressive card includes Jonathan “Bomba” Gonzalez, Milos “Buffalo Bomber” Pantelic, Greg Juice Brady, Vincent Vinsanty” Arroyo, Emanuel Colon, Mike Jackson and Ivan Hernandez, among others. For more information and ticket purchasing, please visit www.prettygirlpromo.com.

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Colleen has several volunteer outlets in the community, serving on the Board of the MCIDC, a member of the Finance Committee of the Rochester Zen Center, and the Communications Committee of the Women’s Council. “Bank of America strongly encourages local community involvement and volunteerism. Currently,

Bank of America is Event Sponsor for the American Red Cross’ Inaugural Women’s Casting for Caring Fishing Tournament, and I accepted the invitation to serve as Committee Chair.” The event held on May 5th at the Rochester Yacht Club, included boats of four women each for an afternoon of fishing on Lake Ontario, along with an experienced boat captain, followed by a cocktail reception/networking event at 5:30 and silent auction at the Yacht Club.“Volunteering as program Chair has been personally rewarding, as the proceeds help such a worthwhile organization”, explained O’Brien. Proceeds from the event will remain local and help the Red Cross deliver its services to almost 400 families in the area each year, among its many other programs.

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By Wendy scInta, md, ms

Say it with me: It was a long, tough winter! But now it’s May, and although the weather may not be perfect, it’s good enough. It is time to pick up your chin, feel the sunshine on your face, and start living again. Spring is the time for new beginnings and time to rearrange your priorities, and move your health to the top. As a woman, you have likely put the needs of others ahead of your own, holding up the fortress like a good cornerstone should. But even the cornerstone becomes frail, and without proper care piece can break off, and the building can begin to crumble, which we can’t have — because so many people depend on us.

During the dark winter months, several things happen that drain us of our motivation. The days are shorter, so our circadian rhythms tell us we need to rest more. The cold weather can make us want to jump under the covers, and participate in a Syracuse pseudo-hibernation. Lack of sunshine, dark days, and cold weather can deplete our bodies of serotonin — our feel good chemical. Serotonin is responsible for our mood, our sleep, our appetite, and our sense of peace and wellbeing. Fortunately, longer days, brighter skies, and warmer weather help us restore our “happy hormone,” but here are some ways to speed up the recovery process.

1. Exercise. According to the U.S. Surgeon General, only one in four adults exercise. The primary excuse for not exercising is “not finding the time.” But when we don’t exercise, we are shooting ourselves in the foot. Exercise is a key component to relieving stress, regulating mood, and increasing productivity. In effect, it gives us back that time we feel we are lacking to do the exercise in the first place! Consider getting up 30 minute earlier in the am, and do some stretches, or work out to one of the many early morning exercise shows. Meet a friend at lunch and go for a walk. Consider biking to work, parking far away from the office and tracking your steps with a pedometer, or driving to a park on your way

home for a walk or run. Keep some workout clothes in the car — you never know when the moment will arise!

2. Develop a new bedtime ritual. The importance of sleep cannot be overemphasized. Adequate sleep helps your immune system fight infections, controls your appetite, and raises your serotonin levels to improve your mood. Aim for six to nine hours of sleep per night. Focus on your sleep hygiene, which involves turning the TV and your cell phone off, putting on some white noise or soft music, reading, and allowing your body to relax. Make sure you don’t drink too many fluids before bed — especially alcohol or caffeine which can affect the quality of your sleep. Developing a healthy ritual signals to the brain that it’s “sleep time”, and allows your brain to secrete important neurotransmitters that prepare the body for a good night’s rest.

3. Get plenty of sunshine (or at least bright light). You may have heard of a condition called SAD or Seasonal Affective Disorder — where the lack of sunshine during winter months lowers our serotonin and makes us feel blue or depressed. Think about it, just a few generations ago, most of the world population was involved in agriculture and was outdoors for much of the day. This would have resulted in high levels of bright light exposure even in winter. (On a cloudy day, the light outside can be greater than 1000 lux, a level never normally achieved indoors.) Take time during the day to poke your head outside, or at the very least, purchase a set of lights that you can use in your home or office that can raise your serotonin levels indoors. A 300-watt bulb within three feet for 20 minutes three times a day can help.

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Simona took the flute from Hannah and raised it high. “Well, just one more. After all, I do love a bit of the bubbly,” she said and took a swallow. “To Eddie.”

A long arm reached over Simona’s head and plucked the glass from her fingers.

“You’re a killjoy,” Simona said without glancing around.

“You’re flushed,” Jesher returned and handed off the glass.

Hannah turned toward the husky voice behind her. Like everyone attending the gala tonight, Jesher had donned formal attire. But unlike many, he wore his traditional tuxedo with as much ease as he had worn his sweater and casual trousers the night before. “You’re here,” Hannah breathed and felt herself relax a bit. “I was beginning to think you weren’t going to make it.”

Jesher lowered his chin slightly and took in the woman by his mother’s side. But tonight his eyes weren’t devouring Hannah like an entomological specimen; tonight he was sipping her like a rare wine. Because tonight this woman looked nothing like the functionally streamlined person who kept his mother’s daily calendar – and life – in perfect order.

Jesher allowed his eyes to meander from the loose cluster of black curls held from Hannah’s face by no more than a pin or two, to his mother’s black pearl choker at her throat. There he paused to enjoy the blush of color that rose to her cheeks, knowing that he had put it there. Then his eyes wandered to the shimmery black bandeau and the soft swell of breasts that rose and fell with each breath she took. He felt himself stir and forced his eyes away from her.

It occurred briefly to Jesher that Hannah knew nothing of the heady response she evoked in him, dressed as she was with so much of her delicious, tawny skin exposed. Just as easily, he tossed aside the notion. Experience reminded him that women of her merit knew the effect they had on men. And they used it like a home field advantage.

Eventually Jesher returned his attention to his mother. “Would you like to see the exhibit, Mother?” he said and kissed her cheek.

“That would be lovely,” Simona returned.

“You lead the way, then,” Jesher said and urged her forward with a tilt of his head. Then he took Hannah’s elbow, holding her back until his mother had sifted into the crowd. “Nice job,” he whispered into her hair. “I leave Mother in your care and you get her drunk.”

“I’ve done nothing of the sort,” came Hannah’s sharp return. “You told me to keep her away from the Blochet and I was doing the best I could under extenuating circumstances.”

“Extenuating circumstances? You knew Mother and the Blochet both would be here.”

Hannah’s irritation rose at his apparent need to press the obvious. “But I expected you to be here as well,” she went on and willed down the blood that had risen sharply to her cheeks.

“And here I am,” Jesher returned, his husky tone oddly soothing to Hannah despite her exasperation.

“No Ordinary Man” is the third novel by local author S. Carmen Knight. Her books are all available on Amazon, Barnes and Noble or Smashwords. For more information on the author and her novels visit www.scarmanknight.com.

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By Kate reedAs a female, setting foot into your local video game store can be daunting. Most, if not every time, the store is predominately occupied by males, including the employees. It is quite rare to see a female employee at a video game store. Going up to the register and asking the availability of the newly released Playstation 4 results in an answer that assumes that the Playstation 4 isn’t for me and that it therefore must be a gift for someone else. These assumptions come from the stereotypes associated with female gamers because, as we know, men play video games and women don’t, right?

Hunter Wexler, a female gamer who has been playing video games for approximately 14 years has never felt too comfortable in video game stores.

“I never feel welcome in video game stores because either people move away from me like the plague or they stare at me awkwardly,” Wexler says. “The male workers constantly feel the need to explain what a first-person shooter is compared to a role playing game because for some reason my gender makes me ignorant.”

Playing a video game online, like Call of Duty or Halo, and revealing to the online community that one is a female through the sound of her voice often can lead to offensive sentiments, such as being told that women shouldn’t be playing video games at all. But there’s no greater satisfaction than proving those naysayers wrong by defeating them in the next round. However, when that happens, the sore losers appease their esteem by presuming that all female gamers must be a rather unattractive bunch.

Now, this isn’t to say every man in an online game is like this. I have some great male friends, some of whom I have known close to ten years that I met on Xbox Live. However, the stereotypes that come with girl gamers does seem to make these interactions rather uncommon.

Wexler knows these interactions all too well. “When playing online, my authenticity as a gamer is often called into question and I must run down the list of so-called legitimate games I have played,” she says. “I have to run a gauntlet of questions in order to prove that I belong online with men.”

Wexler concedes that these instances are occurring less frequently as years pass, but she can’t forget being made to feel out of place in the gaming world.

“I do get pestered and questioned less than I did three years ago,” she says.

It isn’t just stereotypes of women who play video games, but of also women featured in video games, that upset female gamers.

What image is usually associated with women in video games?

From characters that have been around for years like Cortana in the popular Halo series to Lara Croft in the Tomb Raider series, I’m sure we can all agree these are

overly sexualized characters.

Cortana’s near-naked appearance, albeit she is a hologram, or Croft’s curvy figure showcased by short shorts and cleavage-baring tank tops, set the

standard for what women should look like in video games today. This is essentially so that video game companies can market their games

toward men, the general population of video gamers; or so that’s how it used to be.

Today, according to an article from USATODAY, 45 percent of the video game population is comprised of women. So, when

do these marketing strategies make a U-turn? When do we see the marketing of these games not necessarily geared more toward women but so that the line is non-existent? These

games should not market toward men specifically or even women. Gender should be irrelevant. We may be seeing a slow start

to this progression happening already.

Robin Moore, who has over two years of experience selling video games at retail level in the Rochester area, has high hopes for one day when video games don’t

include female characters as sexual objects.

“I think there will always be over sexualized women in video games. Will there be less of them? Definitely,” Moore says. “Reinventions of characters like Lara Croft of the Tomb Raider series speaks highly of how developers are realizing that people want to play a character they can relate with and truly root for and isn’t just a piece of eye candy.”

Time will tell whether we see more video game developers take the approach Moore describes.

Kate Reed is working toward her Journalism and Broadcasting degree at the College at Brockport. She aspires to work in the entertainment side of journalism and in her spare time enjoys spending time with her family, watching the latest films and playing video games.

a look at the role of Women in the Video game Industry

More and more women are choosing to own a firearm both for the pleasure of participating in shooting sports but also for personal protection. In 2005, just 13 percent of gun owners were women. Today, that number is over 35% — a 77 to 80% increase in just nine. Many experts cite higher crime, more awareness of assault or rape incidents, or just the basic need of taking responsibility for personal safety and that of your family and other loved ones as reasons for the increase.

Let’s say you have a good idea of the handgun you plan on carrying, and now you need to decide on how you want to carry it. First, you must carry in a holster. Safety is always the primary criteria for choosing a carry method or location and a holster will afford you a way to carry the firearm so that the trigger is covered, the firearm is protected from damage, and you can prevent most preventable mishaps — and that means using a holster.

Where can you carry? There are two main categories for carry. One is called “Off-Body Carry” and the other is “On-Body Carry”. Let’s look at the options of both:

Off Body Carry usually involves a purse, daytimer/briefcase, fanny pack or other type of bag/sack. At first, you would think that the Off Body Carry options are great. No clothing changes are needed, chances are that you will probably have a purse or bag with you, and if you come across a place that does not allow guns, you can discreetly lock it in your car. That’s where the advantages end. Think about this: How often have you seen unattended planners, purses, or other sacks out in public? Now, imagine that it is your purse and that you have your gun secured inside of it. That’s a big security issue, not to mention irresponsible by leaving your gun unattended. Purses, bags, planners, etc. are usually the primary target for thieves as well. Normally, there wouldn’t be anything in your purse worth fighting over, but what if your gun is inside?

On Body Carry is usually the most preferred method as it offers the most reliable and secure option. Most of the popular spots for carry are: Ankle, waist, underarm, and bra type holsters. YOU have to be the one that ultimately decides where you want or need to carry.

Ankle carry is an option as most women’s pant legs are cut to afford enough looseness to hide a holster and handgun. Not many people would normally look at people’s ankles anyway.

Waist, or beltline, carry is a more natural location and offers a good balance of access, security, concealment, and comfort. Options here can be an inside or outside the waistband holster, carried in front of your hips or behind. From our training, most women seem to prefer an appendix carry, meaning in front of the hip in that natural hollow where the abdomen and legs come together. There are also some elastic bellyband type holsters that are fairly helpful when you cannot wear a belt or clothing that would allow a waist mounted holster.

Underarm carry is basically having your gun in your armpit. There are specialized shirts and holsters that have pockets designed to secure a handgun and keep it concealed. For most of you, your body type and build can be an advantage with this method, giving you an advantage in concealment.

Bra type holsters can secure a smaller sized handgun, either on the side (close to your armpit) or in the center, placed over your sternum. This carry method can work for women of all sizes, just some better than others based on body type. The catch is that it really requires a bra with an underwire. If you don’t use an underwire or aren’t used to wearing them, this holster probably won’t work for you. Also, be aware that the draw is designed to come from below the holster, so you won’t be able to draw from the neckline with this carry option. It works well with shirts and blouses, but don’t expect it to work well under a dress.

As we enter the summer travel and vacation season, you may decide to take your handgun with you in you travels. Whether or not you can legally take it with you will depend on your destination. If you have a New York State CCW Permit you can carry your firearm anywhere in NY State, except for NYC and as long as there are no other laws preventing you from carrying or possessing a handgun where you travel. Some of those could be schools, some churches, city parks, county parks, amusement parks the canal path, even some state parks. Your best bet is to check before you go. If you are traveling out of New York or into Canada, leave your gun safely locked away at home.

David Jenkins owns Rochester Personal Defense and is a certified instructor in firearms training and personal defense. For more information, visit www.safeinrochester.com

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