Lesson Lesson 33Dating and Setting Limits

What are the things a person should decide before beginning a dating relationship?

Lesson Lesson 33Lesson Objectives

• Identify behavior in a dating relationship that will enhance the dignity relating to marriage

• Establish strategies for maintaining safe and healthy dating relationships

In this lesson, you will learn to:

Lesson Lesson 33Reasons for Dating

• Dating provides opportunities to develop social skills, such as communicating and interacting with a person of the opposite gender.

• It allows people to learn more about themselves.

• Some people discover new interests, reaffirm their values, and start thinking about the type of person with whom they might like to build a future.

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Lesson Lesson 33Infatuation and Affection

• Sometimes when a teen is attracted to someone, an infatuation develops.

• Although such feelings are natural, it is important not to mistake them for genuine affection.

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Lesson Lesson 33Ways of Expressing Affection

• Communicating with and listening to each other

• Holding hands

• Hugging

• Spending quality time together

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There’s no reason to let anyone pressure you into dating if you’re not ready for it. Some teens choose not to date because:

• They’re shy around persons of the opposite gender.

• They have other interests or time commitments.

• Their family traditions or values don’t allow it.

Deciding to Date

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Lesson Lesson 33Group Dating

As a way of easing into dating, many teens go out with groups of friends of both genders. Being part of a group:

• Allows teens to develop and practice their social skills without having the pressure of focusing on only one person.

• Takes some of the attention away from the individual, helping him or her relax.

• Relieves the pressure of being alone with someone new.

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Lesson Lesson 33What to Do on a Date

• What you decide to do on a date depends on the person you are with and your common interests.

• If you don’t know the person well, a movie might be a good choice.

• Going out to dinner or to a school dance are also good options.

• You might also try attending a sports event such as a baseball game.

• When you get to know each other, you will probably find activities that both you and your date enjoy.

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Lesson Lesson 33Sports or Athletic Activities

• You can consider a date that includes athletic activities such as horseback riding, cycling, hiking, and bowling.

• Athletic activities promote health and provide a way for dates to share and develop common interests.

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Lesson Lesson 33Community Activities

What you and your date could do within your community:

• Visit the zoo or a local museum.

• Go to concerts or plays.

• Sign up for a painting, dancing, or photography class together at a local community center.

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• Volunteering together can help build

strong friendships and dating relationships.

• It allows you and your date to contribute to the community in positive ways.

• Volunteering is also a great option for group dates.

Charitable Activities

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Find out who else will be there. Discuss what time your parents expect you home.

Avoid places where alcohol and other drugs are present.

Avoiding Risk Situations

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Know where you’re going andwhat you will be doing.

Avoid being alone with a date at home or in anisolated place.

Understand the role of individual responsibility regarding personal risk behaviors.

Lesson Lesson 33Healthful Behaviors in a Dating Relationship

Dating Relationships

• Some teens choose to have an ongoing dating relationship with only one person.

• This type of relationship may help you develop skills and behaviors that will someday help you mature into a thoughtful caring adult who can commit to a relationship.

• However, remember that your teen years are a time for trying many different roles and relationships.

• Although beginning and ending dating relationships can be difficult, such experiences help you mature emotionally.

Lesson Lesson 33Importance of Setting Limits

• Your parents or guardians may set limits regarding your dating relationships, such as a curfew to protect your health and safety.

• As you mature, you’ll need to know how to set your own limits.

• You need to set limits with your date regarding places you’ll go, how you’ll get there, and what you will do.

• Setting such limits and making them clear before a date helps you avoid potentially risky situations.

Setting Limits

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• Communicate your limit on sexual activity and be clear and firm about your decision to practice abstinence.

• You can make this task easier by developing and rehearsing avoidance techniques and refusal skills.

Setting Limits on Sexual Activity

Setting Limits

Lesson Lesson 33Quick Review

Q. For which of the following reasons do students choose not to date?

1. They are shy about dating issues

2. Their hearts have been broken before, and they need to take time and space for themselves

3. They are simply not interested in dating

4. All of the above

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A. 4. All of the aboveStudents choose not to date because they are shy about dating issues, their hearts have been broken before, and they are simply not interested in dating.

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Q. Which of the following does not help you to avoid high-risk dating situations?

1. Knowing where you’re going and what you will be doing

2. Finding out who else will be there

3. Leaving all your money at home so you’ll be sure not to have to pay

4. Discussing with your parents what time you’ll be home

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A. 3. Leaving all your money at home so you’ll be sure not to have to payAvoiding high-risk dating situations requires all of the following except: Leaving all your money at home so you’ll be sure not have to pay. It’s a good idea to make sure you have money with you in case something goes wrong and you need to call home for a ride.

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Q. It’s not particularly important to

set limits in a dating relationship.

Choose the appropriate option.

True

False

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A. False. To avoid potentially risky situations and to protect your health and safety, it is important to set limits in a

dating relationship.

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Q. Substance abuse plays a significant

role in increasing the risk of unsafe behaviors such as sexual activity.

Choose the appropriate option.

True

False

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A. True. Substance abuse plays a significant role in increasing the risk of unsafe behaviors such as sexual activity.

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• Sometimes when a teen is attracted to someone, an infatuation develops.

• Although such feelings are natural, it is important not to mistake them for genuine affection.

Infatuation and Affection

Infatuation refers to the exaggerated feelings of passion for another person.

Infatuation refers to the exaggerated feelings of passion for another person.

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• Sometimes when a teen is attracted to someone, an infatuation develops.

• Although such feelings are natural, it is important not to mistake them for genuine affection.

Infatuation and Affection

Affection is a feeling of fondness for someone.

Affection is a feeling of fondness for someone.

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• Your parents or guardians may set limits regarding your dating relationships, such as a curfew to protect your health and safety.

• As you mature, you’ll need to know how to set your own limits.

• You need to set limits with your date regarding places you’ll go, how you’ll get there, and what you will do.

• Setting such limits and making them clear before a date helps you avoid potentially risky situations.

Importance of Setting Limits

A curfew is a set time at which you must be home at night.

A curfew is a set time at which you must be home at night.

Setting Limits

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A. Correct! Students choose not to date because they are

shy about dating issues, their hearts have been broken before, and they are simply not interested in dating.

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A. Correct! Avoiding high-risk dating situations requires all

of the following except: Leaving all your money at home so you’ll be sure not have to pay. It’s a good idea to make sure you have money with you in case something goes wrong and you need to call home for a ride.

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A. Correct! To avoid potentially risky situations and to protect your health and safety, it is important to set limits in a dating relationship.

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A. Correct! Substance abuse plays a significant role in increasing the risk of unsafe behaviors such as sexual activity.

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