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I N S I D E T H I S
I S S U E :
Peaceful NotesPeaceful Notes J U N E 2 0 1 3
S H E L T E R H O M E O F C A L D W E L L C O U N T Y , I N C .
P O B O X 4 2 6 • L E N O I R , N C 2 8 6 4 5
Board of
Directors
Nancy Martin
Chair
Brent Phelps
Vice-Chair
Chris Cole
Secretary
Betsy Wilson
Treasurer
Jennifer Bowman
Kim Britt
Angie Clark
Greg Cornett
Anita Dula
Debbie Eller
Ruth Kincaid
Terri Neiderhammer
Morris Reaves
Rose Reighard
Trena Riddle
Dr. Jane Roberts
Deborah Teeters
Shelter Home
Phone Numbers:
Lenoir (828) 758-0888
Taylorsville (828) 635-
8055
Crisis Lines:
(828) 758-7088
(828) 635-8851
24 hours a day
Leaving is not easy. On
average, it takes a victim
seven times to leave be-
fore staying away for
good. Exiting the rela-
tionship is the most un-
safe time for a victim. As
the abuser senses that
they’re losing power, they
will often act in danger-
ous ways to regain con-
trol over their victim. We
know victim’s frustra-
tions with feeling like the
abuse is somehow their
fault. If only they’d
leave, right? Wrong. We
know better. In fact,
we’re taking a closer look
at 50 reasons why it may
be near impossible to
leave.
In her book “Fifty Obsta-
cles to Leaving, a.k.a.,
Why Abuse Victims
Stay” Sarah M. Buel
shares 50 different rea-
sons that she has encoun-
tered throughout her 22
years of work in the do-
mestic violence field that
victims share for Why
they did not leave until….
We will be sharing these
with our Newsletter read-
ers in the next four edi-
tions of Peaceful Notes.
WHY? Because, as advo-
cates, this is the single
MOST asked question
that we all hear. It is im-
portant that people know
it is not as simple as it
may appear to someone on
the outside looking in.
Obstacles 1-10:
1. Advocate: The victim
doesn’t have an enthusiastic
supporter on their side so they
may feel discouraged or hope-
less.
2. Batterer: The batterer is
wealthy, famous, powerful in
the community, etc., and can
afford to hire private counsel
and pressure decision-makers.
3. Believes Threats: The
victim believes the batterer’s
threats to kill them and the
children if they attempt to
leave.
4. Children’s Best Interest: The victim believes it is in the
children’s best interest to
have both parents in the
home, especially if the abuser
doesn’t physically abuse the
children.
5. Children’s Pressure: The
chi ldren put pressure
(independently or by the
abuser’s influence) on the
abused parent to stay with
their partner.
6. Culture and Race: Be-
cause of differences in race or
culture, the victim worries
about being treated unequally
by the justice system if they
come forward, or believes
stereotypes about acceptable
actions in their own culture.
7. Denial: The victim is in
denial about the danger, in-
stead believing that if they
could be better partners, the
abuse would stop.
8. Disabled: Victims who are
disabled or physically chal-
lenged face obstacles in gain-
ing access to court and social
services, and may be isolated
from basic info about re-
sources.
9. Elderly: Elderly victims
may hold traditional beliefs
about marriage and believe
they must stay, or are depend-
ent on the batterer for care
even in the face of physical
abuse.
10. Excuses: The victim be-
lieves the abuser’s excuses to
justify the violence, blaming
job stress or substance abuse
for example.
(This is the first 10 of 50 rea-
sons from Sarah Buel’s 50
Obstacles to Leaving.
National Domestic
Violence Hotline
1-800-799-7233
1-800-787-3224 (TTY)
Why Don’t They
Leave? 1
How Can I Help? 2
Shelter Wish List 2
The Fisherman’s
Garden 3
Seeds of Hope 3
Donors List 4
Renovation Project 5
Volunteers in Action 5
Why Don’t They Leave? Why Don’t They Leave?
P A G E 2
P E A C E F U L N O T E S
I pledge to give:_____ $5,000 _____$2,500 _____ $1,000 _____$500 _____$100 or Other $_______
My pledge is _____ a one time donation _____ Monthly _______Quarterly ______ Annual pledge of support for this Mission.
Pledge CardPledge Card
Name: __________________________________
Address: __________________________________
Phone: __________________________________
E-mail: __________________________________
Proud to be sponsored by the United Way of Caldwell County and United Way of and Alexander County
I have enclosed my donation of $__________
Shelter Home of Caldwell
County
P.O. Box 426
Lenoir, NC 28645
Pledge is designated for: Shelter Operations____ Capital Project_____
This pledge is in honor of :_______________________________
Mail notification to:_____________________________________
_____________________________________
The Shelter Home of Caldwell County, Inc. is a 501(c)3 private non-profit since 1978
Shelter Home Wish List
Household Items
Paper Towels
Toilet Paper
Paper Plates
Kleenex
Laundry Baskets
Dryer Sheets
Laundry Detergent
Cleaning products
Trash Bags
Shower Gel
Soft Soap
Towels
Wash Clothes
Food CANNED FOOD
Pasta
Coffee
Creamer
Sugar
Diapers Size 3, 4 and 5
New bed pillows
Twin sheet sets
Shaving Cream
Razors
Deodorant
Personal Items
New Bras
Bedroom Slippers
Pajamas for Ladies
and Children’s PJs
Socks
Miscellaneous Items
Alarm Clocks
Small Kitchen
Appliances
Gift Cards: Gasoline,
Wal-Mart, Grocery Storesf
of our clients, we
On behalf of our clients, we
accept gently used clothing,
furniture, dishes and appli-
ances. Our greatest wish for
the Wish List is donated time
from volunteers. If you are
interested in becoming a part
of the mission and work that is
the Shelter Home of Caldwell
County, contact the Commu-
nity Outreach Coordinator at
(828) 758-0888.
How can I help?
Have you ever wondered “ What can I do to help?’ There
are many ways you can help the Shelter Home Of Caldwell
County. Below is a Wish List of items needed at the Shelter
on a daily basis. You will find a pledge card if you wish to
make a one time gift or give monthly. You may also go to
www.shelterhomecc.org and donate through Paypal. How-
ever you choose to donate, your help is appreciated by the
victims served at the Shelter Home. You can also Volunteer
your time. The Shelter is in current need of Child care provid-
ers several hours a week and Receptionist / Crisis Call takers.
You can find the volunteer opportunities listed on the Shelter
webpage. Download the application to volunteer today. If you
have questions, please call 828-758-0888.
P A G E 3
A very special Thank You
to the youth and adults
from St. Paul Christian
Church in Raleigh for
their mission work at the
Shelter Home .
Give a man a fish; he will eat for a day.
Teach a man to fish; he will eat for life."
Thank You to the “Seeds of Hope 2013” Sponsors
The Fisherman's Garden
Mid-May John Elian of the Fisherman's Garden came by the Shelter and spoke with Executive Director, Sharon Poarch about starting a raised bed vegetable garden on the Shelter Home’s adja-cent lot. Fisherman’s Gar-den is a project of the Unitarian Universalists of Caldwell County. The Fisherman’s Garden has started two raised beds
at the Shelter. The pur-pose of these beds are to teach clients and their children how to raise and maintain a garden; as well as, having a fresh produce source for the shelter. John and volun-teers have visited several times to nurture the gar-den. Staff members and clients have been assist-ing in watering and
weeding the garden—and harvesting our first vegetables of the year.
All-American Jersey
Rococo Rionel
The Rusty Rooster
Kimbrell’s
Greene’s Furniture
Cedar Rock Home Furnishings
River Valley Pets
Yesteryear’s Antiques and
Collectibles
Treasures Gifts
Studio 131
Garon’s Jewelry
Sherrill’s Jewelry
The Gold Mine
Mine by Design Studio
Granite Hardware LLC
Antiques and More
Cottage 321
Granite Drug Center
American Trade and Loan
Delicate Touch Florist
Holiday Pools & The Fireside
Shop
Venti’s Casa
All God’s Creatures
Hickory Crawdad’s Baseball
Bo’s of Lenoir
Catawba Science Center
Suzanne’s Flowers & Gifts
O! My Soap!
Lake Hickory Veterinary Hos-
pital
Goody’s in Taylorsville
Nature’s Edge in
Flowers for Less
Martin and Company
Trilla S. Annas
Communities in
Schools
Compensatory
Education Class
Curves Complete
Turning Heads Hair Salon &
Tanning
Riviera Tan
Baton Tire and Auto
Bolick’s Discount Tire
White Tire Center
Appalachian Tire and Auto
Ty Watts, Lenoir Golf Club
Bumgarner Camping Center
Not-Just-Fishin
Guns Too
Cajah’s Mtn. Discount Drug
Sawmills Hardware and Sup-
ply
Sherwin-Williams
The Salon at Park Square
Alray Tire Center
O’Reilly Auto Parts
Top Choice Grooming Salon
Club Canine
P E A C E F U L N O T E S
Staff and Clients would like to say “Thank You” to the very generous donors listed below.
Without your support we could not continue to serve victims of Domestic Violence.
We are grateful for your monetary donations this quarter in 2013
Unifour Community Foun-dation United Way of Alexander County United Way Of Caldwell County Valeria & Dale Andrews Valerie & Peter Purcell MD Wanda Prince Warren West Winnefred I. Harding Yadkin Valley Baptist Church Z.Smith Reynolds Founda-tion Inc
Donations were made to the Shelter Home this quarter in Honor Of: Jane Carswell Roberts by Bobbie and Harry Curtis
Donations were made to the Shelter Home this quarter in Memory Of: Arthur Carswell by Bobbie and Harry Curtis Judy Carswell Avent and Arthur Carswell by Drs. Debra and Dennie Templeton Judy Carswell Avent by Jane Carswell Roberts
The Shelter Home is now serving victims of Domestic
Violence and Sexual Assault in Caldwell and Alexander
Counties.
P A G E 4
Allison & Brent Jensen
Allison & Donald Stewart
Altrusa Club of Caldwell County
Alvin Daughtridge
Ann Hancock
Ann Miller
Annette Beam
Baker Tire Center, Inc
Barbara F Freiman
Barbara Hartley
Basil & Linda Roberts
Becky & Herb Stevens
Betsy M Herron
Betty & Eugene Purcell Jr
Betty Early
Bobbie & Harry Curtis
Caron & James Wike
Cedar Rock Baptist Church
Chili & Company
Christopher Cole
College Avenue Baptist Church
Confidence Advent Christian
Connie & Martin Vermillion
Dawn Carroll
Deborah Ashley Smith
Debra L Eller
Debra Philyaw
Diane Carpenter
Diane Jensen
Donna & James Bradshaw
Donna Whitson
Dr & Mrs. Robert S. Belk
Dr Annie K Prestwood
Drs Debra & Dennie Templeton
Elaine Bush
Elizabeth & Wayne Keller
Elizabeth (Betsy) Wilson
Elizabeth (Lily) Bunch
Emergency Solutions Program
Ervil Anderson
Evelyn Beam
Fellowship Baptist Church Inc
First Prebyterian Church of Lenoir
Flemings Chapel Baptist Church
Frances Scheil
Gail & Richard Greer
Galye & Samuel Trivette
Governors Crime Commission
Grey Scheer
Gwendolyn Elaine Phillips
Hattie Steele Missionary Circle
Heidi E Downs
Hudson United Methoist Women
Ingunn & Gerald Griffin
Jamie Jennings
Jan C Nash
Jan Pennell
Jane Carswell Roberts MD
Janet & James Spoon Jr
Janet Wilson
Janine & Matthew Hannibal
Janna Stefanek
Jeanne & Sandy Winkler
Jeannie M Corriher
Jeff & Rita Joines
Jennie Deal
Jessie Roper
Joan Snyder
Johnna W Coffey
Joyce & Barry Edwards
Judith E Barlow
Julie Miller Gootman
Kathryn R Jackson
Kathy McAteer
Kim Watson
Kimberly B Britt
Lavina Smith
Lee Carol & Bob Giduz
Lee Cox
Lenoir Service League
Lida Martinat
Lily Moody
Linda Campbell
Magda Colton
Marjorie O Strawn
Mary & Osborne MacGuire
Mary Gail & Allen Stewart
Megan Roberts
Melissa & Scott Jett
Mr & Mrs Oscar Dobereiner
Mr & Mrs Wilbern Brown (Willie)
Nancy T Martin
NC Council for Women
Norma Suddreth
Options, Inc.
Pamela Thomas
Patricia E Barry
Patricia Gale Pennington
Poovey's Chapel Baptist Church
Reliable Insurance Agency, Inc.
Rev Parker & Patricia William-son
Reva M Pennell
Richard & Dorothy Hedrick
Robin & Greg Cornett
Rose Reighard
Ruth L Kincaid
Sharon Porach
Sheila Miller
Shirley Gray
Steffanie M Jimenez
Susan & Bob Powers
TelecomPioneers
Teresa Almquist
Terri S Niederhammer
The Jonas Foundation
Town of Gamewell
Trilla Annas
UMW Gamewell
http://shelterhomecc.org
Renovation and Expansion
P A G E 5 V O L U M E 1 , I S S U E 1
The Renovation and
Expansion project is
nearly complete. In
mid April, clients
moved into the new
bedrooms while reno-
vation began on the
existing Shelter. Many
of the Bedrooms have
been “adopted” by
sponsors, and will have
new furniture arriving.
Before the renovation,
clients shared one
washer and dryer. Now
they have 3 sets to use
which makes daily life
much simpler. Could
you imagine sharing
your washer and dryer
with 20 other people?
Last year the shelter
served almost 400 women
and children. We were at
or over capacity and full
79 times in 2012 when vic-
tims needed shelter, and
we had to help locate shel-
ter in other areas for them.
Sometimes the shelter
overflowed its capacity
and the toy room was used
for overflow. Now, with a
total of 15 bedrooms and
capacity for 40 people, the
Shelter Home will be able
to better meet the de-
mands for emergency
shelter for victims in both
Caldwell and Alexander
counties.
Without the support of the
community, this very nec-
essary but very ambitious
project would not have
been possible. This
Renovation has been a
“Journey of Re-
newal” for our mission
of service to the victims
of domestic violence and
sexual violence in our
community.
Clients are enjoying
newly constructed bed-
rooms, and more spa-
cious and comfortable
Community Living
areas .
The past few months have been very
busy at the Shelter Home of Cald-
well County. Employees and clients
moved out of the existing part of the
shelter into the newly built edition.
Ten volunteers assisted in the move .
The Shelter also hosted “ Seeds of
Hope” at 1841 Café. Volunteers
Jennifier Houge, Sue Bumgarner and
Heidi Downs helped with the event.
Wilma Mikeal helped with gathering
donations for the silent auction.
We now have a new reception area
and with that reception area comes a
need for volunteers . If you would
like to volunteer as a receptionist,
please contact Hope Bumgarner at
758-0888.
We have moved Domestic Violence
Group meetings to Tuesday at 5:30-
7:30pm. We need volunteers for
childcare for this group as well as
our RASA Group which meets every
other Thursday. Jerry Crump, Jerry
Greene, Russel Colvard, Willie Lefe-
vers and George Carrol (pictured
right) helped relocate 3 storage
buildings from our Taylorsville of-
fice to the Lenoir Location. These
gentlemen also assist in moving cli-
ents from the shelter into their New
housing when there is a need.
If you would like to volunteer at the
Shelter Home of Caldwell County, please
v i s i t o u r w e b p a g e
www.shelterhomecc.org and look under
Volunteer Opportunities to see how you
can help. Shelter Staff and clients would
like to say “Thank you“ to ALL our vol-
unteers.
Volunteers in Action
"Extend a hand
whether or not
you know it shall
be grasped." -
Ryunosuke Satoro
PO Box 426
Lenoir, NC 28645
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Shelter Home Staff
The Shelter Home provides crisis services 24/7 and is able to do this because of a fine staff
which is dedicated to making the Shelter Home a place of “Hope, Help and Healing”.
Sharon Poarch, Executive Director .................................................................... [email protected]
Jan Nash, Business Manager ............................................................................. [email protected]
Lisa Triplett, Court Advocate ............................................................................ [email protected]
Kim Watson, Rape & Sexual Assault/Child Advocate....................................... [email protected]
Lily Moody, Domestic Violence Program Manager ........................................... [email protected]
Hope Bumgarner, Community Outreach Coordinator………………………[email protected]
Shannon West, Child Advocate…………………………………………………[email protected]
Tina Gilbert, Housing Coordinator…………………………………………………[email protected]
Patty Burke ,Victim Advocate Alexander County…………………………………[email protected]
Dawn Chumley, Court Advocate Alexander County……………………………[email protected]
Shelter Managers:
Barbara Price, Safety Program Manager ............................................................ [email protected]
Anita Hicks…………………………………………………… ……………………[email protected]
Jan Smith……………………………………………………………………...……[email protected]
Hannah Lowman………………………………………………………………...…[email protected]
E-mail us or Contact us at: 828-758-0888
Fax: 828-758-8949
PO Box 426
Lenoir, NC 28645
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to [email protected] or simply call (828) 758-0888 and ask for
the Community Outreach Coordinator. Get a Volunteer Application and get involved
with us! Thank you!