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Islamic Guidelines for Physical, Intellectual Islamic Guidelines for Physical, Intellectual

And Spiritual Training of your ChildrenAnd Spiritual Training of your Children

From the Holy Qur’an: O you who believe! From the Holy Qur’an: O you who believe!

Save yourselves and your families from a fire Save yourselves and your families from a fire

whose fuel is men and stones…………. 66/6whose fuel is men and stones…………. 66/6

And admonish your nearest kinsmen. 26/214And admonish your nearest kinsmen. 26/214

Enjoin prayer on your family and be constant Enjoin prayer on your family and be constant

Therein. We do not ask you to provide Therein. We do not ask you to provide

Sustenance, We provide it for you. But the Sustenance, We provide it for you. But the

(fruits of) the hereafter is for righteousness. (fruits of) the hereafter is for righteousness.

20/132. 20/132.

The story of Noah pbuh and his son.11/36-49The story of Noah pbuh and his son.11/36-49

O you who believe! Do not take for protectors your O you who believe! Do not take for protectors your

fathers and your brothers if they love infidelity above fathers and your brothers if they love infidelity above

faith, if any of you do so, they do wrong. Say: if it be faith, if any of you do so, they do wrong. Say: if it be

that your fathers, your sons, your brothers, your that your fathers, your sons, your brothers, your

wives, or your Kindred, the wealth that you have wives, or your Kindred, the wealth that you have

gained, the commerce in which you fear a decline, or gained, the commerce in which you fear a decline, or

the dwellings in which you delight, are dearer to you the dwellings in which you delight, are dearer to you

than Allah, or His messenger, or the striving in His than Allah, or His messenger, or the striving in His

cause, then wait until Allah brings about His decision, cause, then wait until Allah brings about His decision,

and Allah does not guide the rebellious. 9/23-24and Allah does not guide the rebellious. 9/23-24

The training of children begins at conception.The training of children begins at conception.

The three major training periods according to The three major training periods according to

Prophet Muhammad pbuh: Prophet Muhammad pbuh:

A.A. Laa’ibhum sab’an: Play with them from birth Laa’ibhum sab’an: Play with them from birth

to age seven. to age seven.

B. Addibhum Sab’an: Discipline them from age B. Addibhum Sab’an: Discipline them from age

Eight to fourteen. Eight to fourteen.

C. Sadiqhum Sab’an: Become their friends C. Sadiqhum Sab’an: Become their friends

from age fifteen to twenty one.from age fifteen to twenty one.

Prophet Muhammad pbuh said: Guard your Prophet Muhammad pbuh said: Guard your

Children closely and provide them with the best Children closely and provide them with the best

education and training. (Hadith)education and training. (Hadith)

Each one of you is responsible and each one Each one of you is responsible and each one

of you is accountable about your of you is accountable about your

Responsibilities………. (Hadith)Responsibilities………. (Hadith)

Children are trust (of Allah) with their parents.Children are trust (of Allah) with their parents.

Parents and teachers will be rewarded or Parents and teachers will be rewarded or

punished according to their roles with their punished according to their roles with their

Children and students.Children and students.

Children are born with God given faculties which Children are born with God given faculties which can be given a right or wrong direction, can be given a right or wrong direction,

So, give them the right direction and teach So, give them the right direction and teach them that the best of the humankind are those them that the best of the humankind are those Who are the most beneficial of them.Who are the most beneficial of them.Equal treatment of boys and girls: Seeking Equal treatment of boys and girls: Seeking Knowledge is compulsory on every male and Knowledge is compulsory on every male and female Muslim. (Hadith)female Muslim. (Hadith)““Whoever has a daughter whom he did not Whoever has a daughter whom he did not bury alive, did not insult and did not Prefer his son bury alive, did not insult and did not Prefer his son over her, Allah will grant him entry to the paradise. over her, Allah will grant him entry to the paradise. Abu DaudAbu Daud

Allah swt has taught us a prayer through the Allah swt has taught us a prayer through the

holy Qur’an “O my Lord! Advance me in holy Qur’an “O my Lord! Advance me in

Knowledge” 20/114Knowledge” 20/114

And do not pursue that of which you have no And do not pursue that of which you have no

Knowledge, for every act of hearing, or of Knowledge, for every act of hearing, or of

Seeing or of feeling in the heart will be Seeing or of feeling in the heart will be

Enquired into (on the day of reckoning). 17/36Enquired into (on the day of reckoning). 17/36

Our Lord! Grant to us wives and offspring who Our Lord! Grant to us wives and offspring who

will be the comfort of our eyes and give us (the will be the comfort of our eyes and give us (the

Grace) to lead the righteous. 25/74Grace) to lead the righteous. 25/74

The purpose of raising children physically is to The purpose of raising children physically is to

have strong bodied children who can meet the have strong bodied children who can meet the

challenges of life, because a strong and ha stamina challenges of life, because a strong and ha stamina

to fight illnesses, face difficulties which might slow to fight illnesses, face difficulties which might slow

them down in the struggle of this life. That is why, them down in the struggle of this life. That is why,

our Prophet has said: The strong believer is better our Prophet has said: The strong believer is better

than weak believer although there is good in both than weak believer although there is good in both of of

them. It is a known fact that a sound mind is in a them. It is a known fact that a sound mind is in a

healthy body. healthy body.

The means to achieve this goal is to habituate our The means to achieve this goal is to habituate our Children by training them in: 1. Food/diet code: Children by training them in: 1. Food/diet code:

(The first and foremost is parents responsibility to (The first and foremost is parents responsibility to earn their living from lawful sources and provide earn their living from lawful sources and provide only what is lawful).only what is lawful).A. Do not encourage them to over eat. A. Do not encourage them to over eat. B. Wash hands before and after eating B. Wash hands before and after eating C. Say your Grace before and after eating C. Say your Grace before and after eating D. Follow etiquettes of eating individually and D. Follow etiquettes of eating individually and in group. in group. E. Eating wholesome and pure foodE. Eating wholesome and pure foodF. Do not waste. 7/31F. Do not waste. 7/31

““It is no fault in the blind nor in one born lame, It is no fault in the blind nor in one born lame,

Nor in one afflicted wit illness, nor in Nor in one afflicted wit illness, nor in

yourselves, that you should eat in your own yourselves, that you should eat in your own

Houses, or those of your fathers, or your Houses, or those of your fathers, or your

mothers, or your brothers, or your sisters, or mothers, or your brothers, or your sisters, or

your father’s brothers or your father’s sisters, your father’s brothers or your father’s sisters,

or your mother’s brothers, or your mother’s or your mother’s brothers, or your mother’s

Sisters, or in houses of which the keys are in Sisters, or in houses of which the keys are in

your possession. your possession.

Or in the house of a sincere friend of yours: there is Or in the house of a sincere friend of yours: there is no blame on you whether you eat in no blame on you whether you eat in

Company or separately. But if you enter Company or separately. But if you enter Houses, salute each other, a greeting of Houses, salute each other, a greeting of Blessing and purity as from Allah. Thus Allah Blessing and purity as from Allah. Thus Allah makes clear the signs to you, that you may makes clear the signs to you, that you may Understand”. 24/61Understand”. 24/61No son of Adam has ever filled a container No son of Adam has ever filled a container worst than his stomach, a little food is quite worst than his stomach, a little food is quite Sufficient to keep him standing, if you have to Sufficient to keep him standing, if you have to fill it, then 1/3fill it, then 1/3rdrd for food, 1/3 for food, 1/3rdrd for drink and 1/3 for drink and 1/3rdrd for breathing. Tirmidhifor breathing. Tirmidhi

2. Teach them the rules of hygiene: A. Wudu 2. Teach them the rules of hygiene: A. Wudu

and Ghusl, personal cleansing B. Keeping your and Ghusl, personal cleansing B. Keeping your

Room clean and tidy C. Do not neglect the Room clean and tidy C. Do not neglect the

Sickness of your children D. Follow the rule of Sickness of your children D. Follow the rule of

““prevention is better than cure”prevention is better than cure”

3. Physical exercise: A. Running B. Swimming3. Physical exercise: A. Running B. Swimming

C. Horse back riding or any other sportC. Horse back riding or any other sport

4. Parents must provide a role model in all 4. Parents must provide a role model in all

Aspects, especially an environment which free Aspects, especially an environment which free

from bad habits of smoking, drinking etc.from bad habits of smoking, drinking etc.

The purpose of intellectual training of children The purpose of intellectual training of children Is to teach them thinking process to turn them Is to teach them thinking process to turn them in to thinkers. The means of achieving this goal in to thinkers. The means of achieving this goal are: A. Reading B. Writing C. Math D. Thinking are: A. Reading B. Writing C. Math D. Thinking E. Timely completion of all assignments E. Timely completion of all assignments F. Education: 1. Home 2. School 3. Masjid, F. Education: 1. Home 2. School 3. Masjid, G. Curriculum, books, teachers, H. Parents, G. Curriculum, books, teachers, H. Parents, Teachers, children. I. Selection of friends: Teachers, children. I. Selection of friends: A.A. Who are they B. Are they coming from a Who are they B. Are they coming from a functional family? C. Planned vacation D. No functional family? C. Planned vacation D. No Slumber parties without parents supervision.Slumber parties without parents supervision.

The purpose of spiritual training is to prepare The purpose of spiritual training is to prepare The children for the deeds of righteousness The children for the deeds of righteousness and piety, inculcate in them love of Allah and and piety, inculcate in them love of Allah and love of doing good, and keep them away from love of doing good, and keep them away from Evils of all kinds: The means of achieving this Evils of all kinds: The means of achieving this purpose are: A. The parents must be the role purpose are: A. The parents must be the role models B. To explain the need and importance models B. To explain the need and importance of high ethical and moral values, their positive of high ethical and moral values, their positive impact on them, their families, and on the impact on them, their families, and on the society at large, i.e. Truthfulness of Abdul society at large, i.e. Truthfulness of Abdul Qadir Jilani Qadir Jilani

C. To explain the damage of bad manners and their C. To explain the damage of bad manners and their bad impact on individuals and societies.bad impact on individuals and societies.

D. Teaching them the five pillars of Islam by D. Teaching them the five pillars of Islam by Practice. E. Teaching them to be modest and Practice. E. Teaching them to be modest and humble F. To be soft, kind, loving, fair etc. humble F. To be soft, kind, loving, fair etc. G. Teach them the deep connection between G. Teach them the deep connection between ethical and religious values. H. Take them to ethical and religious values. H. Take them to the gatherings of scholars I. Tell them stories the gatherings of scholars I. Tell them stories Of: 1. Prophets and messengers 2. righteous Of: 1. Prophets and messengers 2. righteous people 3. Companions and disciples of people 3. Companions and disciples of prophets and messengers to shape their prophets and messengers to shape their Characters.Characters.

References from the Holy Qur’an: 66/6, 26/214References from the Holy Qur’an: 66/6, 26/214

20/132, 11/36-49, 9 23-24, 31/12-19, 49/1-18,20/132, 11/36-49, 9 23-24, 31/12-19, 49/1-18,

17/11-39, 53, 70, 100, 33/21, 70, 71, 6/118, 17/11-39, 53, 70, 100, 33/21, 70, 71, 6/118,

6/119, 121, 104/1-9, 103/1-3, 107/1-76/119, 121, 104/1-9, 103/1-3, 107/1-7