Identify Your Style

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IDENTIFY YOUR STYLE

A SUBMISSIVE PERSON:

surrenders his/her rights in an effort to avoid conflict.

Submissive person cant fight in consistency for his rights with his opponent, they

usually leave the argument to avoid further disagreement and let others to be as thewinner of the issue.

feels threatened by others.

Submissive person feels insecure in his life and always expect bad happening made by

others. Their behavior usually brought under threat emotions.

is afraid to express his/her feelings, needs, opinions and reactions.

Submissive person got introvert personality traits and they usually scared to say

something about current discussion in the group or society, and avoid taking part in groupdiscussions.

feels guilty when saying no

Submissive person has no confidence on his own thinking, they usually thinks thatthey are perceived as failed person by others & feels hesitate if they say NO even for

the wrong or unethical thing.

lacks self-confidence.

Submissive person deficient in having self-belief and assurance. They avoid to acceptnew tasks and challenges and failed to compete with others.

hesitate to make legitimate requests.

Submissive person avoid fighting for their rights and accepting defeat easily, even

they have strong position in the issue with positive points. They never ask for those

things, for which they are legally eligible.

feels imposed upon.

Submissive person take others as their master and their routine communication as theirorder. They face others under pressure and thinks that other person forced them.

does what others want rather than expressing his/her own wants.

Submissive person avoid making their own opinion or decision due to lack of

confidence, and follows others way. They accept thing in peer-pressure.


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suffers in silence.

Submissive person avoid taking part in discussion, and prefer to be silent, even he

avoid saying such things which he want to. Due to his this habit, he undergo in such

circumstances, where he failed to express his point of view.

has a poor self-image.

Submissive person always think negative about him and feels to be failed in all sectorsof life. It leads him to be de-motivated. He is involved in inferior complex, which can be

easily noticeable in this behavior.

is uncomfortable giving or receiving compliments

Submissive person usually avoid to give or accept compliments because of his lack of

confidence to judge others and having poor self image to accept positive aspects about

him.

AN AGGRESSIVE PERSON:

express and acts on his/he own needs and rights, but ignores the needs and rights

of others.

Aggressive Person usually acts as a selfish person and always look upon own needsand rights and how to get personal benefits. They avoid considering others opinion and

benefits during decision making process.

needs to dominate and put down others.

Aggressive person always pretend to be over confident, being pose their decisionsover others. They never give chance to other for expressing their views.

is insecure.

Aggressive person always think negative about themselves, which make them

unconfident and timid. It leads to their aggressive behavior, where they try to impose

their point of view over others.

has a poor self-image

Aggressive persons negative approach builds a bad image in their own perception.

Having such approach brought aggression and hostility in their performance to prove

them as positive. He is involved in inferior complex & tries to conceal this by his overaggression.


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communicates in ways that put down people.

Aggressive person usually use such words in their communication which degrades and

insults other because of their aggression & hostility in nature and try to be dominant overothers.

gives you message (blaming others) rather than I messages (taking

responsibility for ones feelings)

Aggressive person prefer You-Approach instead of having I-Approach in their

communication. They decrease their psychological aggression by pointing their finger onothers. They put their liabilities on others and try to achieve the targets by using others

effort.

demands, rather than requests.

Aggressive person pose their demands on others as orders, instead of making requestsby considering the current possible circumstances. Their poor self-image compels them to

make orders for achieving their self interest in order to satisfy themselves.

lacks trust in and respect for others.

Aggressive person always think about them selves and about their own benefits, which

leads to disbelief and disrespect in their behavior with others.

expects, but does not give compliments.

Aggressive person try to achieve their targets by using others efforts and skills, thats

why they have higher degree of expectations from others but due to their hostile nature,

they avoid to appreciate others.

cannot negotiate a position or demand.

Aggressive person does not have flexible nature to adjust in some specific

circumstances. They never ask for others opinion before making any decision, and such

habit make them a dictator in the social circle.

using lots of eye contact and body gestures.

Aggressive person due to his dominating nature, always dominate others with their

words with a psychological support of eye contact and body gesture. Due to their extra

postures they impose their decisions on others.


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AN ASSERTIVE PERSON:

has self-respect and respect others.

Assertive person prefer to obey the philosophy of give respect and take respect.

They give chance to others; in return other will return same performance to them.

expresses his/her feelings openly and with confidence.

Assertive person always convey their opinions to others with logical background, itbrought confidence in their dialogue too.

recognizes his/her rights and those of others.

Assertive person always ask for those things, for which they are legally eligible. Such

eligibility helps them to identify their rights and follows a practical approach by utilizingown efforts for achieving own rights and they offer same opportunity to others too. As

they always give respect to others, thats why they always do respect others rights too.

acts on his/her rights while allowing others to do the same.

Assertive person follow the philosophy of Do Live & Let Others to Live. That they

do action according to their rights & Obligation, for which they are eligible, while allowsothers too, to do action according to their own rights & never impose heir pressure on

others.

establishes personal goals and works towards them.

Assertive person setup their personal goals and objectives and adopt realistic approachby making own efforts for attaining those personal goals. Assertive person always cleared

about what is their destination and where they want to go.

is spontaneous, direct and considerate of others feelings.

Assertive person is natural, impulsive and always keep in mind others point of view

and needs. Assertive person directly target towards the considered issues.

communicates in a way that does not put down or take advantage of others.

Assertive Person prefers to communicate in positive manner in favor of all. Rather

than use such words in communication which degrades & insults others or communicate

in a way which mislead their motive and cunningly utilizes others for gaining theirpersonal goal.

assumes responsibility for his/her actions and feelings.


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Assertive person always accept the responsibilities for their assigned jobs. They act asa answerable person for their all deeds.

deals with relationship problems when they occur, rather than letting them build

up and get out of control.

Assertive persons treats & tackles relationship issues & problems with full wisdom &

try to solve them initially rather than ignores them and let them so big that these problems

become out of your approach & you will not able to solve them later.

uses eye contact and confident body language.

Assertive person show active body state and use non-verbal communication at normal

rate, which develop good understanding with others, instead of creating irritation forothers.

speak clearly and audibly without becoming loud or offensive.

Assertive person always speak in attractive communication quality with clear delivery

of sentence and with natural level of sound frequency.

uses facts and reason to explain or debate a point.

Assertive persons always clear their points with logical values and have strongbackground and use concrete & statistical figures over which they communicate with

others even they can do argument.

recognizes that assertive interaction with another individual may involve

negotiating a mutually agreeable compromise.

Assertive persons easily resolve the conflicts with the tool of negotiation, i.e.involving the essence of Give & Take with mutual consent and then interaction would

be result oriented.

is able to say no without feeling guilty.

Assertive person never being a victim of others. They can easily deny the offers withnegative results or for those opportunities, which they could not do in better manner.

assertive person is self-confident.

Assertive person have self belief and have full confidence over their skills because of

sound knowledge and logical reasoning. They accept new asks & challenges & succeed

to compete with others.

makes requests, not demands


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Assertive person always make request by considering the current possiblecircumstances instead of posing their demands on others as orders.

has a positive self image.

Assertive person always think positive about him and his positive approach builds a

good image in his own perception. Having such approach brought gianess & justice in hisperformance.

gives and receives compliments.

Assertive person never being hesitate to appreciate others and accept othersappreciation as honor.

gives I messaging

Assertive person always taking responsibilities for all their deeds and never blaming

others, if they make any mistake.

feels secure & trusts others

Assertive person always think positive about themselves, which make them feelingconfident and trust others. It leads to their assertive behavior.

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