How to Know Your Passion

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Passion Before Profit: Following

Your Passion Is The EssentialEntrepreneurial TraitComment NowFollow Comments

Restaurateur, investor, philanthropist, and environmentalist Sean Meenan is now seeing the benefits of

focusing on passion before profit. (Photo credit: Jamel Toppin

A little over fifteen years ago, a young wayward New Yorker dressed like a

!"#$s pi%p i%agined owning a restaurant on the &orner of Eli'a(eth and

Prin&e streets ) an interse&tion nestled in the yet*to*(e*na%ed trendy No+ita

neigh(orhood -ith its rough fa.ade and re%nants of drug paraphernalia, the

neigh(orhood linked the esta(lished East /illage and 0o1o neigh(orhoods,

and inha(ited old guard Italian, 2hinese and 3o%ini&an i%%igrants Portions

of the world &ollided within the s%all New York 2ity neigh(orhood every

single day, and one %an wanted to &onne&t that &o%%unity with the power offood

Today, that sa%e New Yorker has turned his idea into an ever*e4panding

e%pire that in&ludes si4 restaurants, a non*profit organi'ation, an i&oni&

residential (uilding, an award winning &lothing &o%pany, and one of the

world$s largest e*&o%%er&e we(sites The a%(itious %an, however, still
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speaks with the sa%e enthusias% and &onvi&tion as a re(ellious twenty*

so%ething year old, (arely taking a (reath or even leaving roo% to annotate

pun&tuation The only differen&e: he$s traded his platfor% shoes and wide*

&ollared shirts in for a &olle&tion of 5angol hats and flat*(illed (ase(all &aps

1is na%e is 0ean 6eenan 1e is a restaurateur, investor, philanthropist,

environ%entalist, and developer But, you would never know it when first

%eeting hi%, or even (y looking at his (usiness &ard It$s his unpretentious

sin&erity, pier&ing passion, and undenia(le instin&t that give away his evident

su&&ess 1e is a rare spe&ies of 2E7 that doesn$t have to win anyone over with

industry 8argon or an elevator pit&h

This was all e%anating fro% a %an who (uilt the 2af9 1a(ana (rand,

pioneered &o%%er&e in the now trendy No+ita and Ft reene neigh(orhoods,opened New York$s first solar powered restaurant, and was an initial investor

in the glo(ally renowned e*&o%%er&e we(site, Etsy 1e didn$t have to %ention

his list of a&&o%plish%ents That is, until I grilled hi% for infor%ation

A re&ent &onversation with hi% got %e thinking a(out those not*so*o(vious

traits that su&&essful entrepreneurs share Those traits that aren$t &onfir%ed

through a sta&k of water%arked (usiness &ards or designer suits, aren$t

vo&ali'ed (y dropping na%es or %ade up %ultisylla(i& 8argon, and aren$t

perfe&ted with pra&ti&e or learned fro% a (ook These are innate traits thatpeople with the entrepreneurial spirit posses, (ut truly su&&essful people

%anifest the% through all their endeavors

But where do those traits &o%e fro%; I reali'ed that it all starts with passion )

the intense &o%pelling e%otion, desire, and enthusias% for so%ething

0o%eti%es, it$s not a(out sear&hing for the ne4t (ig idea, disrupting the

industry, or &reating the ne4t


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%e, that$s really the (eauty of Brooklyn ) the (eauty of life And, I was a(le to

do that ) &ele(rate people and (ring people together ) in a way that was even

(igger than I &ould at 2af9 1a(ana=

In ##C, he opened the1a(ana 7utpost, New York$s first fully solar powered&af9, and it ?ui&kly witnessed the sa%e fa%e that its older si(ling did in

6anhattan The spa&ious area and outdoor seating gathered even %ore people

fro% the Ft reene neigh(orhood, and 6eenan was again i%%ersed in his

new neigh(orhood

2ontinuing with his urge to s&ale his passion, 6eenan &ontinued to %anifest it

in different ways ?ui&kly 1e founded a nonprofit &alled 1a(ana -orksthe

following year The foundation offers weekend progra%%ing for &hildren and

parents, a design progra% that gave ar&hite&ture students the opportunity to

help the neigh(orhood through design, and initiatives that worked to greenthe area with &o%%unity gardens

Feeling fully &onne&ted to the neigh(orhood, 6eenan pur&hased a residential

(uilding that would (e&o%e a Brooklyn i&on The Brooklyn +ove (uilding also

a&ts as pu(li& art, with Brooklyn*&entri& %urals painted (y lo&al raffiti artists

and art students, who &o%%e%orated for%er Brooklyn*ite Biggie 0%alls on

the (uilding$s e4terior wall

Eventually, 6eenan$s 1a(ana (rand (e&a%e an i&oni& neigh(orhood staple inits own right 7thers (egan to take noti&e and wanted a pie&e of Brooklyn

-ithin the ne4t few years, 6eenan opened several %ore 2af9 1a(anas as the

opportunities arose ) two restaurants were opened in the Bar&lays 2enter,

ho%e to the Brooklyn Nets, and others were opened in 6ali(u and 3u(ai

Passion can inspire others

6eenan ad%its that when he opened his e&o*&ons&ious 1a(ana 7utpost in

Brooklyn, he drank the prover(ial solar*powered 5ool*Aid -hat (egan assolar panels installed on the rooftop ?ui&kly snow(alled into (i&y&le*powered

(lenders and (en&hes %ade fro% re&y&led lu%(er The Brooklyn &af9 (e&a%e

the first fully solar powered restaurant, and su(se?uently taught others a(out

the value of taking &are of the environ%ent
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Passion &an inspire others organi&ally, and 6eenan has done so su&&essfully

(y leading through e4a%ple, whi&h works %u&h %ore effe&tively than wearing

Birkensto&ks and s%elling of pat&houli


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'laudia 'han, ounder, S../. 0lobal Media1 -ubov 23ria, 'hief 'reative 4fficer, !'!0M2526R720R48P1

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After ! years of &o*running a su&&essful &o%pany, 0he&ky$s, known for its irls

Night 7ut events that &o%(ine &o&ktails, shopping and networking, 2laudia

2han wanted %ore purpose in her life

Open yourself up to opportunity

You &an$t know where opportunity lies, if you$re not aware of what$s going onin the world2han (e&a%e a sponge, soaking up %arketpla&e trends until she

fi4ated on one: wo%en$s advan&e%ent had stagnated -hether it is the

per&entage of wo%en leading Fortune ,### &o%panies, serving on their

&orporate (oards, holding politi&al offi&e or raising %oney to s&ale their

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Know what youre good at

1ow &ould 2han inspire and en&ourage wo%en to (reak (arriers; By starting

a %ore purposeful wo%en$s %edia &o%pany that &ould provide a%(itious

wo%en with honest advi&e and stories of today$s leading fe%ale role %odels

that they nor%ally would not have a&&ess to And (y &onvening these wo%enat live events, she &ould help the% (uild the networks they need to a&hieve

their goals

-hile wo%en (uild deep relationships with ea&h other, to unlo&k our potential

we need to open %ore doors for ea&h other 8ust as %en doFro% her past

e4perien&e, 2han knows how to throw events that foster (onding 0he had

done this for nearly a de&ade with 0he&ky$s Now she had a (igger purpose

1er &o%pany 01E lo(al 6edia has laun&hed two %edia (rands sin&e it$s

6ar&h # in&eption 2laudia2han&o%, a we(site that shares hundreds ofe4&lusive interviews with inspirational wo%en fro% 0o%aly 6a% to 2hristy

Turlington Burns, and 01E 0u%%it) an annual Dune wo%en$s week of

events that (rings the &ontent to life The (rands are designed to inspire

wo%en to drea% (ig and do (ig with passion and purpose

2han evaluated the %arketpla&e and found there was no dire&t &o%petition

There were so%e high*end &onferen&es, (ut no pu(li&ation or &onferen&e

&onne&ting today$s wo%en leaders with the %asses 0in&e wo%en approa&h

their lives holisti&ally, not separating personal fro% (usiness, 2han$s &ontentalso &o%(ines leadership with lifestyle

Self funding your businesses requires creative marketing tactics

2han &hose not to raise %oney, she funded the &o%pany herself 0he

(ootstrapped everything, in&luding %arketing the event 0he was &reative in

pro%oting her events, partnering with other (rands that ai%ed to inspire

wo%en, fro% wo%en$s organi'ation C Broads to fitness &hain Physi?ue C" to

fashion (rand B2B6AAG>IA a%ong others The ta&ti& worked 7nly in its

se&ond year, the 01E 0u%%it -eek attra&ted thousands of wo%en to its##H events a&ross the 0 and glo(ally

Build a great culture around your teams skill sets and passions

2han doesn$t run her &o%pany in a traditional way 0he finds people that get

her %ission, (elieve in the drea%, and have &he%istry with her 0he will

&usto%i'e a 8o( to the skill set and interests of the person she hires so they
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flourish 7ne of the advantages wo%en have in (usiness is that they nurture

their tea%s

-hat$s to &o%e;


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disease*&reating ver%in, or give people a %ore hu%ane %ouse*re%oval

option, (ut to win the %ousetrap (usiness lottery: to e4it the %ousetrap

(usiness altogether with a very fat &he&k in hand, having &reated a &o%pany

that so%e larger entity sees as having tre%endous potential in the %ousetrap

innovation spa&e, and retire with the pro&eeds to the 0outh of Fran&e Theygenerally (uild a tea% and a &o%pany with an eye toward s&ala(ility and

independen&e fro% the% In the pro&ess, these folks ?uite often &reate

wonderful new things ) (ut their fo&us, what they really want to do, is figure

out how to (uild so%ething that &an (e s&aled up and sold

Flavor #2: The richar !ran"on ($) entrepreneur. This

entrepreneur is passionately &o%%itted to (ringing a produ&t or servi&e to the

world that$s (etter, faster, sleeker, si%pler, %ore sustaina(le, %ore delightful,

easier, et& 1e or she wants to (uild a (etter %ousetrap (e&ause he or she &ansee so &learly how %u&h coolerit would (e than anything that &urrently e4ists

And this person &an$t wait to see how it$s going to happen ) and &an$t wait to

%ake that new reality happen They generally (uild a tea% and a &o%pany

(ased pri%arily in their passion for the thing Kservi&e, produ&t, &apa(ilityL and

their relentless %ove%ent toward %anifesting it in the world Now, this kind

of entrepreneur ?uite often also gets ri&h Kas witness the a&tual >i&hard

BransonL and so%eti%es even (uys a house in in the south of Fran&e ) (ut

then he or she pro(a(ly keeps working on the ne4t, even &ooler version of


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so%ething together For instan&e, I$% wat&hing %y son ) who is heavily

weighted toward the >B side ) having lots of diffi&ulty finding an operating

rhyth% with his (usiness partner, who is a pure, unadulterated, ##M 6A5

They have these frustrating &onversations where Ian fo&uses KpassionatelyL on

(rand and how they &an (uild a (usiness and a reputation (y giving their&usto%ers an e4perien&e that$s uni?ue attra&tive to a parti&ular

de%ographi& in a very spe&ifi& way And his partner 8ust wants to fo&us on

redu&ing &osts, in&reasing operational effi&ien&ies and turning ta(les over

?ui&kly, so their restaurant will (low up and turn a (ig profit and they &an

ulti%ately e4it They$re speaking two different languages entirely, with al%ost

no overlap, and I know that ea&h thinks the other isQnot wrong, e4a&tly, (ut

8ust not that appealing

And it see%s to %e that if you$re an entrepreneur, it$s i%portant to (e&o%eaware of your pri%ary flavor It will help you get &lear a(out what su&&ess

looks like for you, and it will also help you %ake sure that your partners share

enough of your %indset to speak the sa%e language and (e e4&ited a(out the

sa%e future

-hi&h %ay very well in&lude that house in the 0outh of Fran&e, whatever your

flavor

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The 6ost 0u&&essful +eaders 3oC Things Auto%ati&ally, Every

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Beyond de&ision %aking, su&&essful leadership a&ross all areas (e&o%es

learned and instin&tual over a period of ti%e 0u&&essful leaders have learned

the %astery of anti&ipating (usiness patterns, finding opportunities in

pressure situations, serving the people they lead and over&o%ing hardships

No wonder the (est 2E7s are paid so %u&h %oney In #, salaries for the## top*paid 2E7s rose C per&ent to a %edian UC %illion per year,

a&&ording to a study (y &o%pensation*data &o%pany E?uilar for The New

York Ti%es

If you are looking to advan&e your &areer into a leadership &apa&ity and V or

already assu%e leadership responsi(ilities ) here are C things you %ust do

auto%ati&ally, every day, to (e a su&&essful leader in the workpla&e:

1 !ake Others "eel Safe to Speak#$p6any ti%es leaders inti%idate their &olleagues with their title and power

when they walk into a roo% 0u&&essful leaders defle&t attention away fro%

the%selves and en&ourage others to voi&e their opinions They are e4perts at

%aking others feel safe to speak*upand &onfidently share their perspe&tives

and points of view They use theire4e&utive presen&eto &reate an

approa&ha(le environ%ent

% !ake &ecisions

0u&&essful leaders are e4pert de&ision %akers They either fa&ilitate the

dialogue to e%power their &olleagues to rea&h a strategi& &on&lusion or they doit the%selves They fo&us on


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tra&k The proto&ol she i%ple%ented ) (y &learly &o%%uni&ating

e4pe&tations ) in&reased perfor%an&e and helped to identify those on the

tea% that &ould not keep up with the standards she e4pe&ted fro% us

+ (hallenge People to ,hink

The %ost su&&essful leaders understand their &olleagues$ %indsets,

&apa(ilities and areas for i%prove%ent They use this knowledgeVinsight to

&hallenge their tea%s to think and stret&h the% to rea&h for %ore These

types of leaders e4&el in keeping their people on their toes, never allowing

the% to get &o%forta(le and ena(ling the% with the tools to grow

If you are not thinking, you$re not learning new things If you$re not learning,

you$re not growing ) and over ti%e (e&o%ing irrelevant in your work

- Be .ccountable to Others

0u&&essful leaders allow their &olleagues to %anage the% This doesn$t %ean

they are allowing others to &ontrol the% ) (ut rather (e&o%ing a&&ounta(le to

assure they are (eing proa&tive to their &olleagues needs

Beyond 8ust %entoring and sponsoring sele&ted e%ployees, (eing a&&ounta(le

to others is a sign that your leader is fo&used %ore on your su&&ess than 8ust

their own

/ 0ead by )*ample+eading (y e4a%ple sounds easy, (ut few leaders are &onsistent with this one

0u&&essful leaders pra&ti&e what they prea&h and are %indful of their a&tions

They know everyone is wat&hing the% and therefore are in&redi(ly intuitive

a(out dete&ting those who are o(serving their every %ove, waiting to dete&t a

perfor%an&e shortfall

!easure 2 3eward Performance

reat leaders always have a strong 7I, they are a&tive in a&knowledging

hard work and efforts Kno %atter the resultL 0u&&essful leaders never take

&onsistent perfor%ers for granted and are %indful of rewarding the%

4 Provide (ontinuous "eedback


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E%ployees want their leaders to know that they are paying attention to the%

and they appre&iate any insights along the way 0u&&essful leaders always

provide feed(a&k and they wel&o%e re&ipro&al feed(a&k (y

&reatingtrustworthyrelationships with their &olleagues They understand the

power of perspe&tive and have learned the i%portan&e of feed(a&k early on intheir &areer as it has served the% to ena(le workpla&e advan&e%ent

5 Properly .llocate and &eploy ,alent

0u&&essful leaders know their talent pool and how to use it They are e4perts

at a&tivating the &apa(ilities of their &olleagues and knowing when to deploy

their uni?ue skill sets given the &ir&u%stan&es at hand

16 .sk 7uestions8 Seek (ounsel

0u&&essful leaders ask ?uestions and seek &ounsel all the ti%e Fro% the

outside, they appear to know*it*all ) yet on the inside, they have a deep thirstfor knowledge and &onstantly are on the look*out to learn new things (e&ause

of their &o%%it%ent to %aking the%selves (etter through the wisdo% of

others

11 Problem Solve9 .void Procrastination

0u&&essful leaders ta&kle issues head*on and know how to dis&over the heart of

the %atter at hand They don$t pro&rastinateand thus (e&o%e in&redi(ly

profi&ient at pro(le% solvingJ they learn fro% and don$t avoid un&o%forta(le

&ir&u%stan&es Kthey wel&o%e the%L

etting ahead in life is a(out doing the things that %ost people don$t likedoing

1% Positive )nergy 2 .ttitude

0u&&essful leaders &reate a positive and inspiring workpla&e &ulture They

know how to set the tone and (ring an attitudethat %otivates their &olleagues

to take a&tion As su&h, they are likea(le, respe&ted and strong willed They

don$t allow failures to disrupt %o%entu%

1' Be a :reat ,eacher

6any e%ployees in the workpla&e will tell you that their leaders have stopped

(eing tea&hers 0u&&essful leaders never stop tea&hing (e&ause they are so

self*%otivated to learn the%selves They use tea&hing to keep their &olleagues

well*infor%ed and knowledgea(le through statisti&s, trends, and other

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0u&&essful leaders take the ti%e to %entor their &olleagues and %ake the

invest%ent to sponsor those who have proven they are a(le and eager to

advan&e

1+ ;nvest in 3elationships0u&&essful leaders don$t fo&us on prote&ting their do%ain ) instead they

e4pand it (y investing in %utually (enefi&ial relationships 0u&&essful leaders

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C -ays To Identify Bad +eaders;> comments, ?@ called


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In a previous pie&e entitled +ooking For +eadership, I share a nu%(er of

&on&erns a(out &orporate A%eri&a$s o(session over leadership assess%ents

There$s a not so su(tle a(di&ation of responsi(ility that has o&&urred as

rationali'ations take pla&e around 3I02 s&ores, or 8ustifi&ations surrounding a

O# review are used to defend an ineffe&tive leader 6y ?uestion is this: whata(out real world tests; If your enterprise has trou(le identifying leaders, or

has a shortage of leaders, you don$t have a testing pro(le% ) you have a

leadership pro(le% 7ne of the pri%ary responsi(ilities of leadership is to

&reate %ore and (etter leaders I (elieve it was Dohn 6a4well who said, hen leaders fail to lead themselves: A leader who la&ks &hara&ter or

integrity will not endure the test of ti%e It doesn$t %atter how intelligent,

affa(le, persuasive, or savvy a person is, if they are prone to rationali'ing

unethi&al (ehavior (ased upon &urrent or future needs, they will eventually

fall prey to their own undoing 7pti&s over ethi&s is not a for%ula for su&&ess

' Put#up or shut#up: Nothing s%a&ks of poor leadership like a la&k of

perfor%an&e No(ody is perfe&t, (ut leaders who &onsistently fail are not

leaders, no %atter how %u&h you wish they were -hile past perfor%an&e isnot always a &ertain indi&ator of future events, a long*ter% tra&k re&ord of

su&&ess should not (e taken lightly 0o%eone who has &onsistently

e4perien&ed su&&ess in leadership roles has a %u&h (etter &han&e of su&&ess

than so%eone who has not It$s i%portant to re%e%(er unproven leaders
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&o%e with a high risk pre%iu% 0%art &o%panies re&ogni'e potential, (ut

they reward perfor%an&e

+ Beware the know#it#all: The (est leaders are a&utely aware of how %u&h

they don$t know They have no need to (e the s%artest person in the roo%, (ut

have the unyielding desire to learn fro% others I$ve often said, leaders whoare not growing &annot lead a growing enterprise 7ne of the hall%arks of

great leaders is their insatia(le &uriosity If a leader isn$t e4tre%ely &urious

a(out every aspe&t of their organi'ation, trust %e when I say there are huge

pro(le%s on the hori'on

- >hen theres a failure to communicate=-hen leaders are &onstantly

flu%%o4ed (y those who don$t see% to get it, there e4ists (oth a leadership

and &o%%uni&ations pro(le% 0how %e a leader with poor &o%%uni&ation

skills and I$ll show you so%eone who will (e short*lived in their positionreat leaders &an &o%%uni&ate effe&tively a&ross %ediu%s, &onstituen&ies,

and environ%ents They are a&tive listeners, fluid thinkers, and know when to

dial it up, down, or off

/ ;ts all about them: If a leader doesn$t understand the &on&ept of eal leaders take the (la%e and give the &redit ) not the

other way around +ong story shortJ if a leader re&eives a vote of non*&onfiden&e fro% their su(ordinatesQga%e over

Sing a little Kumbaya: -hile loveand leadership are &ertainly two

words you don$t often hear in the sa%e senten&e, I &an assure you that rarely

does great leadership e4ist without love (eing present anpra&ti&ed In fa&t,

if you e4a%ine failed leaders as a &lass, you$ll find that a la&k of love,

%ispla&ed love, or %isguided love were a &ontri(uting &ause of said failures, if

not the root &ause E%pathy, hu%ility and kindness are signs of leadership

strength ) not weakness4 One si?e fits all leadership style: The (est leaders are fluid and fle4i(le

in their approa&h They understand the power of, and ne&essity for &onte4tual

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haul Think open*sour&e not proprietary, surrender not &ontrol, and

&olla(orate not di&tate

5 0ack of focus: +eadership is less a(out (alan&e and %ore a(out priority

The (est leaders are ruthless in their pursuit of fo&us Those leaders who la&k

the fo&us and attention to detail needed to apply leverage and resour&es in anaggressive and &o%%itted fashion will perish +eaders who are not intentional

and are not fo&used, will fail the%selves and their tea% +eaders who la&k

dis&ipline will %odel the wrong (ehaviors and will inevita(ly spread

the%selves too thin 7rgani'ations are at the greatest risk when leaders lose

their fo&us Intentions %ust (e aligned with results for leaders to (e effe&tive

16 &eath by comfort ?one: The (est organi'ations (eat their &o%petition

to the future, and the (est leaders understand how to pull the future forward

+eaders satisfied with the status ?uo, or those who tend to (e %ore &on&erneda(out survival than growth won$t do well over the long*run The (est leaders

are fo&used on leading &hange and innovation to keep their organi'ations

fresh, dyna%i& and growing Botto% line ) leaders who (uild a stati& (usiness

doo% the%selves to failure

11 @ot paying attention to the consumer: +eaders not attuned to the

needs of the %arket will fail As the old saying goes, if you$re not taking &are of

your &usto%ers, so%eone else will (e %ore than happy to 0u&&essful leaders

fo&us on the &onsu%er e4perien&e, whi&h in turn leads to satisfa&tion and

loyalty The (est leaders find ways to &onsistently engage the &onsu%er andin&orporate the% into their innovation and planning initiatives If you ignore,

%istreat, or otherwise don$t value your &usto%er (ase, your days as a leader

are %ost &ertainly nu%(ered

1% :et ;nvested: +eaders not fully &o%%itted to investing in those they lead

will fail The (est leaders support their tea%, (uild into their tea%, %entor

and &oa&h their tea%, and they truly &are for their tea% A leader not fully

invested in their tea% won$t have a tea% ) at least not an effe&tive one Never

forget the old saying, people don$t &are how %u&h you know until they knowhow %u&h you &are ) words to live (y for leaders

1' ,he A. word: >eal leaders are a&&ounta(le They don$t (la%e others,

don$t &lai% &redit for the su&&ess of their tea%, (ut always a&&ept

responsi(ility for failures that o&&ur on their wat&h 6ost of all, leaders are

a&&ounta(le to their tea% I$ve always said that leaders not


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a&&ounta(le totheir people will eventually (e held a&&ounta(le !+their

people

1+ ;ts the culture stupid: The lesson here is that &ulture %atters ) forget

this and all other efforts with regard to talent initiatives will (e dysfun&tional,

if not altogether lost 3on$t allow your &ulture to evolve (y default, &reate it (ydesign The first step in &ultural design is to (e very, very &areful who you let

through the front door People, their traits, attitudes, and work ethi& Kor la&k

thereofL are &ontagions This &an (e positive or negative ) the &hoi&e is yours

The old saying,


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By Diane Pauley

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Once you enter the or!in" orl#, you$ll hear o%%ice banter li!e, &'ou !no you$(e ma#e it hen the

bi" "uy ants to see you) or &*ll the har# or! is "oin" to be orth it some#ay+)

Do you really ant to ait %or someday

'ou$re %ocuse# on the bi" payo%% o% success+ But hat #oes successe(en loo! li!e -t may inclu#e

the house, car an# 401.+ Or it mi"ht be ma!in" enou"h to retire later on an# en/oy li%e+ sually, it

has somethin" to #o ith the hope o% a "oo# /ob a%ter colle"e+

But somethings missing, and thats the other seven-letter word you may have orgotten:

!assion"

Figuring out what !assion loo#s li#e

hen you$re li(in" out your passion, you #on$t nee# to ait %or retirement to en/oy li%e+ Passion

euals happiness+

hat #oes passion loo! li!e

-t loo!s a little somethin" li!e this a!in" up re%reshe#, bein" ecite# %or or! because it #oesn$t%eel li!e actual &or!,) antin" to share hat you$re #oin" ith others, %eelin" totally satis%ie# on

the insi#e an# antin" to scream %rom the roo%tops+ 'ou$re /ust that happy+

-% that$s the case, hy are so many still li(in" on the success pen#ulum
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or one thin", the !assion route may $e more rewarding, $ut its harder+ -t ta!es

#etermination, har# or!, thic! s!in an# some %aith 6here are en'ers out there ri"ht no li(in" a

passion8%uele# li%ebecause it is achie(able+

%ow do you go a$out living a !assion-driven

liestyle&

Start by %olloin" these %our simple steps

1+ rite #on your core (alues 9a+!+a+ principles an# belie%s that you li(e by:+

2+ rite #on hat you lo(e to #o hobbies, si#e pro/ects, etc+

3+ *## your core valuesto your loved ho$$iesan# rite #on hat /obs ha(e both+

4+ Pursue careers 9or create your on;: that in(ol(e both your (alues an# your hobbies+

9 passion+:

?ost o% us miss this simple %ormula+ -t really isthat easy@ there$s nothin" to o(ercomplicate+ 'ou

can e(en start by as!in" a %e uestions+ or eample, i% you$re in a pro%ession you #espise, hy

are you still there -% your A8to85 /ob is "i(in" you mil# to se(ere #epression or aniety, is it orth it

to stay

'he $iggie: dont settle

Don$t settle %or a career that un#ermines your talents, s!ills, (alues an# belie%s+

* paychec! may be a means to an en#, but a paychec! is not orth losin" your core i#entity o(er+

here oul# e be no i% #ison #eci#e# to "i(e up an# not create the %irst incan#escent li"ht

here oul# our technolo"y be in 2013 i% Ste(e obs ha#n$t %oun#e# *pple -% you$re rea#in" this

ri"ht no on a ?acBoo! Pro in a ell8lit room, then you "et the point+

Don$t "i(e up on your passion %or a &smarter) path+ 6hat &smart) career mi"ht en# up buyin" you

e(ery material possession your heart #esires, but it on$t buy you happiness+ 'our time is (aluable

an#it #eser(es to be spent isely+

-% you ha(e to #i" that bachelor$s #e"ree out o% your closet to remin# you hat your #reams ere

%reshman year, #i" it out+ -% it means rumma"in" in your basement or attic to %in# those action

heroes or comic boo!s you a#mire# as a chil#, #o it+

Find that micro!hone, that ca!e, that (ournal or that !aint$rush" )a#e an eort to

rediscover what you used to love and what used to matter to you" 6hat$s the only real ay %or

you to unco(er your core (alues an# belie%s+

Because it$s ne(er too late "et o%% the success pen#ulum+ 'ou ha(e the ultimate poer to #eci#e

hen to start li(in" your li%e+ 'our boss, partner or %rien# can$t #eci#e that %or you+ Only you can+
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Be bra(e+ Be coura"eous+ Be passionate+ Because that$s your true %orm o% success+

Diane Pauley is a life coach who uses her passion for the written word to help young postgrads

find their life calling at PostGradolescence. You can also follow her optimistic tweets on Twitter.

Brazen Lifeis a lifestyle and career blog for ambitious young professionals. Hosted by Brazen

areerist! we offer edgy and fun ideas for na"igating the changing world of wor#. Be Brazen$

*+* Im!ortant Lie Princi!les 'o Live By very aybyCeleson?ay 21, 2012 Share6his mail 6his Post

Do you ha(e a personal manualith a list o% li%e principles to li(e by

-n to#ay$s article, -$# li!e to share the 101 important li%e principles to li(e by e(ery #ay+ ?any o% the

principles liste# are lessons hich - learne# at one point or another+ 6his list complements the other

101 sister lists e ha(e at P to #ate, such as 101 ays 6o Ei(e Ei%e 6o ullest, 101 ays 6o Be a

Better Personan# 101 -mportant Fuestions 6o *s! 'oursel% in Ei%e+ -n a ay, this li%e principles list is

a repurposin" o% the principles con(eye# in the other lists as a#a"es to %ollo e(ery #ay+

Don$t #iminish this list /ust because there are 101 points, because e(ery sin"le one o% them is

important+ - recommen# you to boo!mar! this list, rea# 283 principles each ee!, #i"est them, thenreturn the net ee! to pic! out another 283 principles to pon#er o(er+

.eep #oin" that until you are #one ith the 101 li%e principles, a%ter hich you ill probably see ne

meanin" behin# the principles you ha(e rea# be%ore+ 6hat$s because these li%e principles are

timeless lessons ith bottomless #epths+ - continually %in# ne layers o% meanin" behin# each

principle no matter ho many times - ac!nole#"e it+

- no present to you the 101 li%e principles
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1+ .$ility is more o% a %unction o% the time you spen# honin" your cra%t, rather than a result o%

hat you ere born ith+ Gea# 10,000 Hours 6o De(elop 6alent

2+ .$undance e li(e in a orl# o% abun#ance+ 6here are unlimite# ealth an# unlimite#

opportunities %or e(eryone+ So #on$t orry about hether you can succee# in somethin" an#

%ocus on ho to succee# in it+

3+ .ction is a necessary part o% success+

4+ /.nd0, not /1r0 -t$s not about choosin" Option * or Option B+ -t$s about Option C I an

option you create hich has e(erythin" you ant, an# more+

5+ .nger: is the most (olatile %orm o% emotion you can e(er bur#en yoursel% ith+ (ery bit o%

an"er you hol# on to #ama"es your soul+ hene(er you %eel an"ry, remember that theperson you are hurtin" is yoursel%+

J+ .nnoyances (erythin" that annoys you mirrors somethin" insi#e you+ Gather than loo!

outar# %or the solution, loo! insi#e to un#erstan# here that annoyance is comin" %rom+

Gea# Day 22 ?irror an *nnoyance, Be a Better ?e in 30 Days Pro"ram

7+ .ttachment only causes an"uish in the lon" run because nothin" is permanent in this

orl#+ Don$t mourn o(er the loss o% somethin"+ Be happy that it happene# instea#+ Principle
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K10 o% 10 Sure%ire ays 6o Be nhappy in Ei%e

L+ .wareness is the %irst step to the resolution o% any problem+

A+ Beauty Physical beauty is "reat but it #oesn$t last+ -nner beauty, on the other han#, stan#s

the test o% time+ 6his #oesn$t mean e shoul#n$t impro(e our physical beauty I e shoul#

%ocus on bein" beauti%ul, both on the insi#e an# out+

10+ Beauty, 23 6here is no one stan#ar# o% beauty+ Beauty comes in all shapes, all siMes, all

%orms, all colors+ 'ou are beauti%ul as you are+ Stop tryin" to con%orm to the ima"e o% beauty

constructe# by the society an# embrace the beauty that is you+

11+ Being yoursel -t is better to be a %irst rate (ersion o% yoursel% than a secon# rate (ersion o%

someone else+ 9u#y arlan#:12+ Belies 'our belie%s a%%ect your li%e more than you thin! they #o+ -% you ant to ha(e the best

li%e eperience you can e(er ha(e, sitch out your #isempoerin" belie%s ith empoerin"

ones+

13+ Belies, 23 Hal% the thin"s you say are usually more to #o ith your internal belie%s an#

issues than to #o ith other people+

14+ Blame: hene(er you point a %in"er at someone else, there are 4 other %in"ers pointin" bac!

at you+

15+ Business -n business, bein" the co" in the system also means you are the clo" in the

system+ Eearn to ha(e your business run ithout you, be it (ia automatin"or outsourcin"+

(en i% you still ant to or! on your business a%ter that, that$s %ine I it$s important that you

or! on the business an# not in the business+ Gea#?illion Dollar 6ip K4 Scale p 'our
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or!

1J+ 4hange ust because you ha(e realiMe# somethin" #oesn$t mean the orl# aroun# you ill

chan"e ri"ht aay+ -t ta!es time %or your thou"hts to ripple out an# e%%ect the reality because

the physical orl# is #enser than the spiritual one+ So #on$t be hun" up ith hat$s on the

outsi#e but stay true to hat$s insi#e you+ Be %ocuse#+ 9Ge%er to K33 ocus:

17+ 4hange that lasts -t$s better to create sustainable chan"e than chan"e that is uic! but

#oes not last+ Stop "oin" %or the easy ay out+ Eearn ho to create lastin" chan"e instea#+

1L+ 4hanging !eo!le 'ou can$t chan"e other people+ 'ou can only chan"e yoursel%+

1A+ 4om!aring 6here is no nee# to compare because e(eryone is #i%%erent+ 'our "oal is not to

be li!e others but to be yoursel%+ Stop comparin" ith others an# %ocus on bein" yoursel%instea#+ 9See K11:

20+ 4om!etition 6he only competition you ha(e is yoursel%+

21+ 4onditional things Somethin" that is con#itional can ne(er stan# the test o% time+ or

eample, i% your partner ants to be ith you only i% you #o N, ' an# , hereby N, ' an#

are not thin"s that you belie(e in+ Or say, i% a parent ill only lo(e his chil# i% he aces his

eams+ 6hese are relationships roote# in %ear an# not hat you ant to be a part o%+

22+ 4onidence is a uality that comes %rom !noin" onesel%+ -t can$t be manu%acture#

re"ar#less o% ho many material ob/ects you on or hat statuses you ha(e+ Gea# Ho 6o
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Be 6he ?ost Con%i#ent Person -n 6he orl#

23+ 4riticism helps you to become better+ Gather than re/ect it, celebrate it+ Gea#Ho 6o i(e

Constructi(e Criticism J Help%ul Su""estions

24+ 4riticism, 23 Gecei(in" criticism means hat you are #oin" is orthhile enou"h %or

people to critiue on+ One ill not criticiMe unless heshe %eels heshe has a sta!e in it+ 6he

more criticism you "et, the better, because that means you are #oin" somethin" o% real (alue

an# orth+

25+ 4ynics, S#e!tics, and Pessimists are not orth ar"uin" ith+ 6hey are ne"ati(e time

bombs aitin" to "o o%%+ 'ou ill only en# up 9more: bitter, #ama"e#, an# upset at the en# o%

the echan"e+ Gea# Ho 6o Deal ith ner"y


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31+ Fear is a #isempoerin" emotion to li(e ith+ 'our real sel% is not %ille# ith %ear+ Discar# it

an# you ill be set %ree+ Gea# Ho 6o O(ercome ear938part series:

32+ Fear, 23 Qo matter ho much %ear you ha(e, your %ear can be conuere# ith lo(e+ 9By

lo(e, -$m re%errin" to uni(ersal lo(e, not speci%ically romantic lo(e+:

33+ Focus is hat happens hen you stop lettin" yoursel% "et #istracte# by the unimportant

thin"s+

34+ Force 'ou can$t %orce thin"s to happen i% they are not meant to be+ 6here is a time an#

place %or e(erythin"+ 'ou can only #o hat you can an# let the uni(erse ta!e care o% the rest+

35+ Forgiveness isn$t about %or"i(in" other people+ -t$s really about %or"i(in" yoursel%+ 6o

uote Eeis Sme#es, &6o %or"i(e is to set a prisoner %ree an# #isco(er that the prisoner asyou+) Gea# Day 25 or"i(e 'oursel%,Be a Better ?e in 30 Days Pro"ram

3J+ Friendshi!s * %rien#ship is a bon# beteen to li!e8min#e# souls+ -% there are %rien#s you

no lon"er %eel an a%%inity %or, perhaps it$s time to let the %rien#ships "o an# or! on buil#in"

ne %rien#ships+ Gea# hy - Parte# ays ith ?y Best rien# o% 10 'earsan#Ho 6o

Ha(e ?ore Best rien#s in Ei%e 6he Heart%elt ui#e

37+ Frustration ma!es you %eel ba# an# #oesn$t help you sol(e your problem+ Gelease the

%rustration in you an# or! on the issues instea#+ Gea#13 Helpin" Points hen 6hin"s
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Don$t o 'our ay

3L+ Fulillment 'ou create a more %ul%illin" li%e by "i(in" attention to the "oo# thin"s, not the ba#

thin"s@ by celebratin" the "oo# stu%%, not hinin" about the ba# stu%%@ by or!in" on thin"s

that you lo(e, not #oin" the thin"s that you hate+

3A+ Future 'ou can$t control the %uture, but you can a%%ect the present moment+ -% you ant to

ha(e a better %uture, create it+ 9Chec! out inspirational uotes on theuture+:

40+ 5enerosity Bein" "enerous #oesn$t #epri(e you+ hen you are "enerous to others, you

subseuently recei(e more into your li%e+ Gea#*re 'ou motionally enerous

41+ 5iving and 6eceiving Gather than thin! about hat you can recei(e 9hether %rom people

or %rom the uni(erse:, thin! about hat you can "i(e to others+42+ 5rowth *lays challen"e yoursel% to reach "reater hei"hts+ 6here is alays room to be

better, re"ar#less o% ho you are or hat you ha(e #one+ Be attache# to the notion o%

"roth, not an en# state+

43+ %a$its 'our habits ma!e you ho you are+ cellent habits "i(e you an ecellent li%e+

Gea# Culti(ate Ei%e 6rans%ormin" Habits in 21 Days

44+ %a!!iness is the result o% #oin" hat brin"s you /oy+ -t is not a "oal to be achie(e#+ Gather

than %ocus on bein" happy 9%or the sa!e o% bein" happy:, #o hat ma!es you happy instea#+
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Gea# Ho 6o Be Happy 10 6imeless Principles %or Eastin" Happiness

45+ %aste Sometimes, more haste lea#s to less spee#+ Bein" in a hurry can lea# to more

mista!es compare# to i% you ere not+

4J+ %umility ill earn you more respect, ac!nole#"ment an# reco"nition than arro"ance e(er

ill+ 6here$s no nee# to be a sho o%%+ -% you are really "oo# at hat you #o, it ill

automatically sho throu"h your accomplishments+

47+ Ideals are "oo# but #on$t let them stop you %rom li(in" in the present+ 6hey are meant to

inspire you an# "i(e you a #irection to mo(e toar# so that you can maimiMe your present

moment 9not to ta!e you aay %rom li(in" in it:+

4L+ Im!roving: -% you thin! you can$t impro(e any %urther in somethin", then you are /ust notaare o% your areas %or impro(ement+

4A+ Individuality (eryone is #i%%erent+ *ccept that each an# e(ery person is uniue+ Stop

imposin" epectations on people+

50+ Ins!iration comes %rom bein" in the state o% %lo+ -% you$re not %eelin" inspire#, you$re not in

a state o% %lo+

51+ Intuition hen in #oubt, %ollo your intuition+ -t ill "ui#e you to here you nee# to be+

52+ Intuition and Logic Contrary to popular belie%, intuition an# lo"ic are not at o##s ith each

other I they "o han#8in8han#+ Hone your analytical min# throu"h constant thin!in"+ Culti(ate

your intuition by listenin" to your "ut+ 6hey ill be the bi""est tools you ha(e at your

#isposal+

53+ 7ealousy is hat happens hen you resent someone$s success+ But you #on$t ha(e to,

because you are capable o% achie(in" that same le(el o% success, an# more+

54+ 7udgement u#"in" people #oesn$t ma!e you a better person+ -t only ma!es you an u"ly

one+
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55+ Laughter Perhaps a little cliche, but lau"hter is one o% the best me#icines %or the soul+

hen$s the last time you ha# a "oo# lau"h -% you ha(en$t been lau"hin"smilin""rinnin" %or

a hile, maybe you ha(e been too sti%le# in your li%e+ o #o somethin" that ma!es you

loosen up an# lau"h out lou#+

5J+ Let go Sometimes you ha(e to let "o o% hat you ha(e no in or#er to mo(e %orar#+ Gea#Day 2L Eet o,Ei(e a Better Ei%e in 30 Days Pro"ram

57+ Let go, 23 -% there is somethin" you can$t let "o o%, #i" #eeper+ 6here is probably somethin"

in you aitin" to be unco(ere#+ Gea#*s! Celes I -s -t Possible 6o Eet o o% nhappy Past

ore(eran#Ho 6o ?o(e On rom a Gelationship958part series:

5L+ Lie is an eperience that you acti(ely create, not somethin" you ait aroun# to &happen)+

5A+ Limits 6he only limit in li%e is yoursel%+ Qo one$s stoppin" you %rom becomin" better an#

achie(in" more ecept yoursel%+ 6o reach "reater hei"hts, i#enti%y your limits an# remo(e

them accor#in"ly+

J0+ Love isn$t somethin" you #eliberately see! out+ -t$s somethin" that happens hen you %ollo

your li%e path, become the ri"ht person, an# meet that ri"ht person alon" your li%e$s /ourney+

J1+ Low consciousness !eo!le -% you #o not ant to be a%%ecte# by people o% lo

consciousness, simply raise your consciousness to a le(el here you are sa%e %rom them+
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Gea# ?ap o% Consciousness

J2+ Low consciousness !eo!le, 23 Eo consciousness people hol# you bac! %rom reachin"

"reater hei"hts+ 6hese inclu#e ener"y (ampires, critical people, #ishonest characters, an#

people ith temperament issues+ Eet them "o %rom your li%e an# sen# them lo(e as you #o

that+

J3+ )aterial o$(ects are /ust tools to help you en/oy your li%e+ 'ou #o not carry them ith you

hen you #ie+ So, #on$t in(est yoursel% in them+ Gather, in(est yoursel% in the #e(elopment o%

your consciousness+ Gea# ?aterialism Bree#s nhappiness

J4+ )eaning o lie is up to you to create+ 'ou can either treat li%e li!e it has no meanin" or see

it as this amaMin" opportunity that the uni(erse has blesse# you ith+ Gea# Disco(er 'our

Purpose in the Qet 30 ?inutes
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J5+ )ista#es are there to help you learn more about yoursel%+ Don$t be hun" up about the

mista!es you ma!e+ Don$t be a%rai# o% ma!in" 9more: mista!es either+ Be hun"ry about the

lessons they embo#y+

JJ+ )oney is a symbol o% (alue echan"e beteen people+ 6he amount o% money you earn is

simply a representation o% the (alue you are "i(in" to others+ 6o earn more money, simplycreate more (alue %or others+

J7+ )otivation comes naturally hen you #o hat you lo(e+

JL+ 8asty !eo!le 6here is alays somethin" "oo# in e(eryone I e(en in the nastiest o% people+

-t$s up to you to reco"niMe that+

JA+ 8asty !eo!le, 23 6he nastiest o% people are also the unhappiest o% people+ Be !in# to them

because they are the ones ho nee# your lo(e the most+

70+ 1$stacles 6he obstacles that lie beteen you an# your "oals are not there to stop you %rom

reachin" your "oals+ 6hey are there to stop the people ho #on$t ant them enou"h+

9Ori"inal uote by Gan#y Pausch+ atch his commencement speech at Carne"ie ?ellon 10

Poer%ul an# -nspirin" ra#uation Speeches 'ou Don$t ant 6o ?iss9K3 on the list::

71+ 1!!ortunities #on$t come !noc!in" on your #oor /ust by (irtue o% you #oin" nothin"+ 'ou

can either passi(ely ait %or opportunities to %all onto your lap or acti(ely create them

yoursel%+

72+ Passion -% you aren$t %olloin" your passion, you ha(e nothin" to lose+ Seriously+ -% you

ha(e to or! %or at least 23s o% your li%e, you mi"ht as ell base it o%% your passion+ Stop

lettin" yoursel% be hun" up by %ear an# start pursuin" your #reams+ Gea# Ho 6o O(ercome

ear O% Eoss *n# Pursue 'our Dreamsan# Passion or ?oney

73+ Past: 'ou can$t chan"e the past@ it has happene# an# it is hat it is+ iatin" on it isn$t "oin"

to "et you anyhere+ 'ou can only chan"e the present to create a better %uture+

74+ Peo!le you disli#e 'our li%e is limite#, so spen# it aroun# people you li!e+
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75+ Pleasing other !eo!le hen you li(e a li%e tryin" to please others, you en# up not li(in" a

li%e at all+ 'ou are /ust li(in" others$ li(es un#er the %aca#e o% your li%e+

7J+ Positivity -% you ant to ha(e more positi(ity in your li%e, start by bein" more positi(e

yoursel%+ Spot the sil(er linin" behin# e(ery #ar! clou#+ Geco"niMe the stren"ths o% the

people you are ith+ See the "oo# si#e o% e(erythin" you ha(e+77+ Possi$ilities e li(e in a orl# o% possibilities+ *nythin" you ha(e e(er #reame# o%,

ima"ine#, or ishe# %or, is possible, as lon" as you set your heart an# soul to it+

7L+ Power 'ou ha(e all the poer in you to #o e(erythin" you e(er ant, an# more+ So start

#oin" hat you ant an# let the poer in you emer"e+

7A+ Procrastination is a si"n o% a bi""er issue+ Stop tryin" to %i your procrastination as a

problem an# start thin!in" about hy you are procrastinatin" in the %irst place+ Gea# Ho 6o

O(ercome Procrastination958part series:

L0+ Progress Celebrate ho %ar you$(e come, an# not ho much you ha(e yet to achie(e+ 6he

%ormer ill empoer you to "reatness, hile the latter is roote# in %ear an# only ser(es to

hol# you bac! %rom "reatness+

L1+ Priorities .no hat matters to you an# or! on them+ 6hese are the thin"s that ill brin"

you the "reatest happiness in li%e+ Gea# Put irst 6hin"s irst

L2+ Lead $y e9am!le -% you ant to initiate chan"e, lea# by eample+ or#s can only #o so

much+ * li(in" eample shos e(erythin"+

L3+ 6eality ust li!e ho the !in# o% %ruit a tree bears is a result o% the see# it is son %rom, your

eternal reality is merely a re%lection o% your internal belie%s+ Chan"e your belie%s an# your

reality ill %ollo suit+ 9See K12:

L4+ 6egret is hat happens hen you are stuc! ith the impression that you #i# 9or #i#n$t #o:

somethin" you ish you #i#n$t 9or #i#:+ But you can$t chan"e the past@ no one can+ ?il! that

is spiltcan$t be unspilt+Stop li(in" in the past an# start li(in" in the present+
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%&ore

inspirational 'uotes atPersonal ()cellence *uotes+

L5+ 6elationshi!s * relationship is a bon# beteen to #ynamic in#i(i#uals+ -t shoul# be

acti(ely create# beteen the parties in(ol(e#, an# not somethin" you base o%% o% norms an#

other relationships+ Don$t impose epectations on your relationships@ nurture them an# let

them come into their on+ Gea# Ho 6o -mpro(e 'our Gelationship ith 'our

Parents9series:

LJ+ 6esistance 6he more you resist somethin", the more it ill persist+

L7+ 6es!ect (eryone, no matter ho, #eser(es respect+ -% you ant others to respect you, it$s

important you respect them %irst+

LL+ 6es!onsi$ility Qobo#y is responsible %or your li%e+ 'ou are+ -% you #on$t ta!e responsibility%or your li%e, no one ill+ 6he #ay you stop pushin" blame onto others is the #ay your li%e is
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"oin" to turn aroun#+ Gea# 'ou are the CO o% 'our Ei%e

LA+ 6esults 6he results you "et in li%e are a %unction o% the actions you ta!e+ 6he more actions

you ta!e, the more results you ill see+

A0+ 6oot cause Behin# e(ery occurrence is a root cause+ Di" %or the root cause an# a##ress

that+ Gea# Create Geal Chan"e -n Ei%e *##ress Goot Cause (s+ %%ects

A1+ See#ing love -% you are #esperately see!in" lo(e, perhaps there$s somethin" insi#e you

that$s bloc!in" you %rom seein" it+ Because lo(e is e(eryhere, aroun# you, an# in you+

6here$s no nee# to see! lo(e so much as you /ust nee# to be aare o% its presence + 'ou are

the pro#uct o% lo(e+ 'ou are the bi""est source o% lo(e+ 'ou li(e in a orl# o% lo(e+ Gea# L

6ips on *ttractin" *uthentic Eo(e -nto 'our Ei%e

A2+ Settling Settlin" is %or losers+ Don$t e(er, e(er, settle %or somethin" less than your i#eal+

'our i#eal is yours to ha(e+ i"ht %or it+

A3+ S!ite hen you try to spite other people, you are really /ust hurtin" yoursel%+ 6he people

you are tryin" to spite may not care+ -n %act, they may not e(en !no ho hun" up you are

o(er them+ *ll you are #oin" is /ust actin" out a sel%8create# story an# script in your min#+

A4+ Success Success is the result o% bein" "reat at hat you #o+ Bein" "reat at hat you #o is

the result o% har# or!+ Har# or! is the result o% #etermination, persistence, an# relentless%ocus+

A5+ Success, 23 6here is no such thin" as an o(erni"ht success+ (ery success you see, e(en

i% it seemin"ly uic!, is the result o% lon" perio#s o% har# or! that too! place lon" be%ore the

point o% success+

AJ+ 'ime is a construct create# by man so e can ha(e structure in our li(es+ 'ou become a

sla(e to time hen you alays thin! in terms o% the time you ha(e an# hat you shoul# #o
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rather than o% results an# outputs+ Gather than try to mana"e time, or! on sel%8mana"ement

an# acti(ity mana"ement+ Gea#Become the ?aster o% 'our 6ime

A7+ 'ruth -t is alays better to tell the truth because you stay clean that ay+ hen you tell a lie,

you li(e a lie %ore(er+ Qot only that, you almost alays ha(e to co(er it up ith ne lies+ -t is a

cycle that ne(er en#s+

AL+ nha!!iness 100R o% the unhappiness you eperience in your li%e is a pro#uct o% your

thou"hts+ -% you ant to be happy, then ma!e aconscious choiceto be happy+ 9See K44:

Gea# Ho 6o Be nhappy 10 Sure%ire ays 6o Be nhappy in Ei%e

AA+ ;engeance is an act o% %orce%ear that #oesn$t sol(e the problem+ Eoo! at the history o%

man!in# an# the ars that ere a"e#+ o ith the path o% lo(e, not %ear(en"eance%orce+100+ Whats meant to $e -% somethin" is meant to be, it ill happen 9pro(i#e# you #o

your part in ma!in" it happen:+ 6he more ti"htly you try to "rab on to somethin", the more it

ill slip aay+ -t$s /ust li!e tryin" to "rab san# I it slips throu"h the crac!s o% your %in"ers

re"ar#less ho ti"htly you "rab it+

101+ Yoursel Don$t #o thin"s %or others@ #o them %or yoursel%+

Ho about you Do you ha(e any li%e principles to share ith the rea#ers eel %ree to #o that in

thecomments section+

6his is a timeless "ui#e, so be sure to boo!mar! it+ Share this ith your %rien#s an# %amily (ia the

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1ther .rticles in the *+* Series

-% you li!e this post, you$ll lo(e the other posts in the 101 series

1+ 101 6hin"s 6o Do Be%ore 'ou Die

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4+ 101 ays 6o Ei(e Ei%e 6o 6he ullest

5+ 101 ays 6o Be a Better Person

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Somehere alon" the ay, - became a bi" %an o% introspection, en/oyin" the process o% sel%8

re%lectin" an# thin!in" o(er uestions+

6o#ay, - belie(e uestions are a !ey to sel%8aareness an# personal "roth+ -n my 181 coachin"

sessions, - enable my clients to #isco(er the ansers to their "oalsuestions by as!in" them the

ri"ht uestions+ -t$# be easy i% - /ust tell my coachees hat they &shoul#) #o an# hat they &shoul#not) #o+ But that$s not the point+ -t$s about empoerin" my clients to #isco(er themsel(es throu"h

as!in" the ri"ht "ui#in" uestions, catere# to their situation an# their pro%iles+ 6he ri"ht uestions ill

help them untan"le the bloc!a"es in them an# connect ith their inner sel%+

-t #oesn$t matter i% you "et stumpe# in the be"innin", or i% you #on$t !no the ansers to the

uestions at %irst+ Our min#s are boun#less+ ust because you #on$t "et an anser imme#iately, it

#oesn$t mean there are no ansers+ 6he ansers are there I it$s /ust that your min# is too %o""y

since you$(e not consulte# it be%ore+ 6he more you as!, the clearer your min# ill be, an# the more

rea#y you$ll be to recei(e the ansers+

-$(e come up ith a set o% important uestions %or your sel%8re%lection+ Some are uestions hich -

as! my 181 clients, to unco(er the real them+ 6hese uestions ill help you %ocus on hat$s important

to you, an# hat you ant+ 6hey are not meant to be ansere# all at one shot I they are to be

thou"ht o(er a"ain an# a"ain, as part o% your "roth /ourney+ Pic! out a %e uestions to re%lect on

to#ay, then boo!mar! an# chec! bac! a ee! later to thin! o(er the others+ Chec! bac! re"ularly to

re%lect on the uestions+

Gemember, there is no one %inal anser+ -t$s a continuous #isco(ery process+ 'our ansers to the

uestions to#ay ill be #i%%erent %rom your ansers one month, three months, si months, an# one

year #on the roa#+ *## these important uestions to your ee!ly re(ie sessions+ 6his is a hi"hly

important article %or your "roth /ourney+

Here they are

1+ ho are you

2+ hat are you passionate about

3+ hat are the achie(ements you are most prou# o%

4+ hat are you most "rate%ul %or in li%e 9Day 14 o% Ei(e a Better Ei%e in 30 Days Pro"ramis

about epressin" "ratitu#e+:

5+ hat are the most important thin"s to you in li%e

J+ Ho oul# you #escribe yoursel%

7+ hat are your (alues hat #o you represent hat #o you ant to embo#y 9On Day 15

o% Ei(e a Better Ei%e in 30 Days Pro"ram,you ill i#enti%y your (alues+:
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1mage 2

L+ Do you lo(e yoursel%

A+ hy or hy not

10+ Ho can you lo(e yoursel% more to#ay

11+ hat is your i#eal sel% hat #oes it mean to be your hi"hest sel%

12+ Eoo! at your li%e no+ *re you li(in" the li%e o% your #reams

13+ -% you ha(e one year le%t to li(e, hat oul# you #o

14+ -% you ha(e one month le%t to li(e, hat oul# you #o

15+ -% you ha(e one ee! le%t to li(e, hat oul# you #o

1J+ -% you ha(e one #ay le%t to li(e, hat oul# you #o

17+ -% you ha(e an hour le%t to li(e, hat oul# you #o1L+ -% you ha(e one minute le%t to li(e, hat oul# you #o
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1A+ hat oul# you #o to#ay i% there is no more tomorro

20+ hat are the bi""est thin"s you$(e learne# in li%e to #ate

21+ hat a#(ice oul# you "i(e to yoursel% 3 years a"o

22+ -% you are yoursel% 1 year %rom the %uture, ho oul# you a#(ise the you no 9On Day 22

o% Ei(e a Better Ei%e in 30 Days Pro"ram,e tra(el to the %uture to "i(e a#(ice to the us

to#ay+:

23+ -s there somethin" you$re still hol#in" on to -s it time to let it "o

24+ hat are you busy ith to#ay ill this matter 1 year %rom no 3 years 5 years

25+ hat are your Fua#rant 2tas!s

2J+ hat opportunities are you loo!in" %or27+ Ho can you create these opportunities

2L+ hat are your bi""est "oals an# #reams

2A+ hat$s stoppin" you %rom pursuin" them hy Ho can you o(ercome them

30+ -% you are to #o somethin" %or %ree %or the rest o% your li%e, hat oul# you ant to #o

31+ hat oul# you #o i% you cannot %ail@ i% there are no limitations in money, resources, time or

netor!s
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32+ hat #o you ant to achie(e 1 year %rom no

33+ 3 years

34+ 5 years

35+ 10 years

3J+ Ho important are these "oals to you

37+ hat i% these "oals are #ouble# 6riple# ?a"ni%ie# by 10 Ho oul# you %eel oul# you

pre%er to achie(e these or your pre(ious "oals

3L+ ho are the people ho ha(e achie(e# similar "oals hat can you learn %rom them

3A+ *re you puttin" any parts o% your li%e on hol# hy

40+ hat$s the top priority in your li%eri"ht no41+ hat are you #oin" about it

42+ -% you ere to #ie tomorro, hat oul# be your bi""est re"ret hat can you #o no to

ma!e sure that #oesn$t happen

43+ or e(ery eperience you "et hat are the bi""est thin"s you ha(e learne#

44+ Ho can you #o this better the net time

45+ -% you ha# 1 million #ollars, hat oul# you #o ith it
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4J+ Do you lo(e your /ob

47+ hat is your i#eal career

4L+ Ho can you start creatin" your i#eal career startin" to#ay

4A+ hat is your i#eal #iet

50+ hat #o you nee# to #o to achie(e your i#eal #iet

51+ hat is your i#eal home li!e

52+ hat #o you nee# to #o to achie(e your i#eal home

53+ hat is your i#eal physical loo!

54+ hat #o you nee# to #o to achie(e your i#eal physical loo!

55+ hat is your i#eal li%e5J+ hat can you #o to start li(in" your i#eal li%e

57+ hat oul# you ant tosay to yoursel% 1 year in the %uture

5L+ 3 years

5A+ 5 years
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J0+ 10 years

J1+ hat #o you %earmost in li%e

J2+ -s there anythin" you arerunnin" aay %rom

J3+ *re you settlin" %or less than hat you are orth hy

J4+ hat is your inner #ialo"ue li!e 9Day 2J o% Be a Better ?e in 30 Days Pro"ramis about

unco(erin" your limitin" thou"hts+:

J5+ hat limitin" belie%s are you hol#in" on to

JJ+ *re they helpin" you achie(e your "oals

J7+ -% not, is it time to let them "o

JL+ hat empoerin" belie%s can you ta!e on to help you achie(e your "oalsJA+ hat ba# habits #o you ant to brea!

70+ hat"oo# habits#o you ant to culti(ate

71+ hat are the bi""est actions you can ta!e no to create the bi""est results in your li%e

72+ here are you li(in" ri"ht no I the past, %uture or present

73+ *re you li(in" your li%e to the %ullest ri"ht no

74+ hat is the meanin" o% li%e

75+ hat is your purpose in li%e hy #o you eist hat is your mission
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7J+ Ho can you ma!e your li%e more meanin"%ul, startin" to#ay

77+ hat #ri(es you

7L+ hat are the times you are most inspire#, most moti(ate#, most char"e# up

7A+ hat #i# you #o #urin" those times Ho can you #o more o% that startin" to#ay

L0+ Ho can you chan"e someone$s li%e %or the better to#ay

L1+ ho are the 5 people you spen# the most time ith

L2+ *re these people enablin" you or hol#in" you bac!1mage 2

L3+ hat ualities #o you ant to embo#y 9Ge%er to F7


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LJ+ hat is your i#eal li%e partner li!e

L7+ here can you %in# himher

LL+ Ho can you "et to !no himher

LA+ *re you a%rai#o% lettin" others "et close to you

A0+ hy 1mage 2

A1+ ho isare the most important person9s: to you in the orl#

A2+ *re you "i(in" them the attention you ant to "i(e

A3+ Ho can you spen# more time ith them startin" to#ay

A4+ hat !in# o% person #o you en/oy spen#in" time ith

A5+ Ho can you be this person to othersAJ+ ho #o you ant to be li!e in 1 year

A7+ 3 years

AL+ 5 years

AA+ 10 years

100+ ho are your mentors in li%e 9%ormal or in%ormal:

101+ hat is one thin" you$re "oin" to #o #i%%erently a%ter rea#in" this article

et the mani%esto (ersion o% this article6he Sel%8Ge%lection ?ani%esto

1ther .rticles in the *+* Series

-% you li!e this post, you$ll lo(e the other posts in the 101 series

1+ 101 6hin"s 6o Do Be%ore 'ou Die

2+ 101 ?ost -nspirin" Fuotes o% *ll 6ime


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Eo(e this article on important uestions to as! yoursel% Be sure to boo!mar! this pa"e, reteet an#

%aceboo! share it ith others 9(ia buttons at the bottom o% the post:+ 6han!s, - really appreciate this;

This is part of theInspiration & Motivationseries. hec# out the other articles in the series3

10 Poer%ul T -nspirin" ra#uation Speeches 'ou Don$t ant 6o ?iss

12 ?eanin"%ul ?o(ies ith -mportant Ei%e Eessons 6o Eearn 15 *maMin" Commercials 6hat ill -nspire the reatness in 'ou

25 -nspirational Son"s 6o Bri"hten 'our Day

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2004 or the &Ea School) thin" - as #oin" the summer a%ter+ 9maybe - atche# Legally Blondetoo

many times@ - #on$t ant to tal! about it+: Gi"ht no, it$s either upcyclin" or %urniture buil#in"@ -

ha(en$t or!e# it out yet+

-n beteen, there$s alays a %e other, lon"er ones li!e the &apanese 6oy Collectin") that$s been

on"oin" until my sisters came o(er to my house, ent into my bathroom 9that$s here my collectionas: an# %orcibly ma#e me mo(e them into a closet+

6hese coul# be classi%ie# as phases+ Or obsessions i% you ant to use the less politically correct,

but possibly more appropriate, term+ *nyay, the thin" that all o% these &phases) ha(e in common

is that they are hobbies, an# it has ta!en me years to %i"ure out the #i%%erence beteen a hobby

an# my &true callin"s+)

Ha(e you e(er rea# the stories in nespapers an# ma"aMines here a oman ho or!s in an

accountin" o%%ice su##enly uits to open a lobster %arm in ?aine Or some (ersion o% it 6hat$s the

type o% story that ma!es me start thin!in", &'eah, - shoul# be a %ull8time upcycler+) Here are some

ays to help you tell your hobbies %rom your passion+

*" .s# yoursel honestly: o I disli#e my current (o$&

6his one is important, because i% the anser is yes, then all you nee# is a career chan"e+ -t$s

entirely possible that you can %in# a hobby that you li!e hile you #isli!e your /ob an# con(ince

yoursel% that your hobby shoul# be your ne /ob+

3" 4ould you get sic# o your ho$$y and still do it&

6his one is important, too, because e(ery sin"le career "ets annoyin" or borin" at some point+

(en the lobster la#y has to #eal ith cleanin" lobster tan!s e(ery once in a hile, an# that can$t

be a %un tas!+ -% you can$t see yoursel% eatherin" the realistic #onsi#es on a re"ular basis, then

!eep it as a hobby+

=" Is it something you do to rela9&

.eep in min# that the minute you #eci#e that your passion can be your career, you$ll ha(e to %in#

somethin" else to #o to rela+ People ho on their #ream cupca!e shop #on$t "o home an# ma!e

cupca!es %or %un+

>" What is it you li#e a$out your ho$$y&

in#in" the common #enominator can help you #etermine i% your hobby coul# be a career+ or

eample, - li!e to ma!e thin"s, an# - ha(e been a #iehar# ma"aMine si%ter since - as (ery youn"+

or!in" in the social me#ia %iel# %its li!e a "lo(e an# spea!s to the core reasons - li!e my hobbies

9luc!y %or me, since there$s no real career path %or &ma"aMine brosers):+

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'he ltimate Secret to iscovering YourPassion

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By Gyan Chatterton

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e all !no those people+ 6he ones ho seem born to #o hat they #o+ 6he ones ho can$t ait

to "et to or! each #ay+ hether they$re musicians, actors or all Street stoc! bro!ers, they

oul#n$t #o anythin" else+ 6his passion enables them to plo throu"h li%e$s #i%%iculties ith ra,unbri#le# enthusiasm+

Ho #i# they lan# in these careers *n# ho can e %ollo in their %ootsteps

Eet$s "et one thin" out o% the ay %irst /Follow your !assion0 is misleading"(en i% it seems li!e

certain people ere #estine# to rite, play "ol% or stu#y the stars, it isn$t because they ere born

ith these interests+

'he cultivation o !assion

Consi#er Cal Qeport$s ar"uments+ Qeport is a computer scientist an# author o% %our boo!s about

passion+ He #oesn$t buy into the &%ollo your passion) mantra+ -n aninter(ie ithoshua iel#s

?illburn, Qeport says, &6here is no special passion aitin" %or you to #isco(er+ Passion is

somethin" that is culti(ate#+)

So let$s eamine an euation -$(e #e(elope# ith this in min#

?curiosity @ engagementA 9 time !assion
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e start by bein" curious+ rom a youn" a"e, e$re #ran toar#s the thin"s that e$re curious

about, an# as e "et ol#er, e$re epecte# to hone in on one that particularly appeals to us+

6his is here most o% us "et stuc!, because e$re a%rai# to pic! somethin" &ron"+) But remember

hat Qeport sai# &6here is no special passion aitin" %or you to #isco(er+) -n other or#s, there

isnt a /wrong0 choice $ecause there isnt a /right0 choice, either+ Pic! an interest an# rollith it+

Once e$(e pic!e# somethin", e acuire !nole#"e about that sub/ect, hich reuires more

curiosity+ e pic! up some boo!s, rea# articles an# atch (i#eos about our interest+ e choose

ma/ors in colle"e that allo us to eplore our interest more #eeply+ 6his "ets us acuainte# ith its

orl#, but e #on$t stop there+

'he im!ortance o the com!any we #ee!

Besi#es acuirin" !nole#"e the tra#itional ay, e also nee# to meet other people en"a"e# in

our interest+ 6his ser(es to purposes+ irst, it$s easier to "ather #etaile# !nole#"e %rom peoplethan %rom static me#ia+ Secon#, social engagement revolving around our interest reinorces

our commitment and uels that interest even urther+

6here$s a reason parents #on$t ant their !i#s han"in" out ith the ba# cro# e become li!e the

people e han" aroun#+ &People$s li(es,) says*nthony Gobbins, a orl#8renone# li%e coach, &are

o%ten a #irect re%lection o% the epectations o% their peer "roup+)

hat Gobbins is sayin" is that e set the bar %or our li(es base# on ho those aroun# us set

theirs+ -% e$(e pic!e# the (iolin as the passion to culti(ate, but e #on$t han" out ith other

musicians, there$s nobo#y to compare oursel(es to or to share our thou"hts an# eperiences ith+

On the other han#, hen e /oin a music scene, e meet people ho become our mentors an#

peers+ 6hey cheer us on an# hol# us accountable+

ngagement, engagement, engagement

But all this curiosity an# social contet oul# be orthless ithout consistent en"a"ement+

6his is here the passion euation really comes to li%e+ n"a"in" ith our interest re"ularly an#

repeate#ly ma!es it more interestin", plain an# simple+ 6he more interestin" it becomes, the more

it e(ol(es into a passion+

/Whatever we ocus on actually wires our neurons,0says .are *n#ersonin a Har"ardBusiness 4e"iew article+ &hate(er you pay attention toUor notUhas a hu"e e%%ect on ho you

see the orl# an# %eel about it+)

Culti(atin" our passions reuires prolon"e# interaction o(er months an# years+Durin" that

"estation perio#, the passion becomes more an# more anchore# in our min#s+ -% e$re in #esi"n,

e be"in to see the interconnecte#ness beteen our art an# the messa"e e$re tryin" to con(ey+ -%
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e$re in accountin", e be"in to internaliMe the relationship beteen the balance sheet an# cash8

%lo statement+

Consistent en"a"ement #ri(es our curiosity an# social en"a"ement as

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