Decisions,  Decisions  By  Leslie  Jo  Saul  January  27,  2014    

The  decisions  you  make,  no  matter  how  big  or  small,  can  drastically  change  the  course  of  your  life.  If  you  need  help  determining  the  best  course,  there’s  no  shame  in  going  to  a  friend,  a  family  member,  a  therapist,  or  a  life  coach  to  help  sort  out  your  wants  and  needs.    Unfortunately,  the  thing  about  our  society  is  that  lots  of  people  think  it’s  okay  to  offer  you  unsolicited  advice,  especially  if  

you’re  a  woman.  A  lot  of  my  female  life  coaching  clients  feel  they  are  constantly  made  to  question  everything  they  think  about  themselves  and  their  path.  If  you  think  you  have  a  pretty  good  idea  of  who  you  are  and  where  you  want  to  go,  never  apologize  for  decisions  you  make  in  the  following  areas.    

1. Anything  involving  your  appearance.  From  clothing  to  body  hair  to  weight,  if  it’s  a  decision  you  made,  and  you  know  you  made  it  not  out  of  fear  but  out  of  confidence  and  love  for  yourself,  you  don’t  need  to  justify  it  to  anyone.  Shave  your  legs  or  don’t,  wear  that  skirt  or  that  dress,  it’s  entirely  up  to  you.  

2. Anything  sex-­‐related.  Whether  you’re  single  or  in  a  relationship,  you  know  what  you  want  and  need  and  what  you  don’t.  When  it  comes  to  the  who,  what,  when,  where,  why,  and  how,  as  long  as  it’s  happening  between  consenting  adults,  you  don’t  have  to  explain  yourself  to  anyone  about  any  of  it.  

3. Where  you  live.  It’s  the  twenty  first  century  and  yet  some  people  still  find  reasons  to  judge  others’  living  situations.  I  don’t  care  how  old  you  are–live  by  yourself,  live  with  a  roommate  or  two,  live  with  a  lover,  live  with  a  fiance,  or  spend  some  time  back  home  with  the  ‘rents.  It’s  nobody’s  business  but  yours.  

4. Whether  or  not  you  want  to  have  children.  People  assume  that  all  woman  want  to  and  should  have  kids.  Guess  what:  those  people  are  wrong.  Motherhood  is  great  for  some,  but  it’s  not  necessarily  for  everyone.  Next  time  people  ask  you  prying  questions  at  a  cocktail  party  remember  there’s  no  reason  you  should  question  the  way  you  feel.  

5. How  you  balance  your  personal  and  professional  life.  Both  areas  of  life  are  demanding,  and  there  will  always  be  compromise  no  matter  what  gender  

you  are.  Everyone  is  unique,  and  whatever  is  best  for  you  will  also  be  what’s  best  for  your  career  and  for  your  family.  

   Leslie  Jo  Saul  is  a  Certified  Master  Neuro-­‐Linguistic  Life  Coach  (MNLP)  and  Clinical  Hypnotherapist  (C.ht).  Leslie  received  her  diploma  in  Healing  and  Success  Arts  and  Sciences  from  Bennett  Stellar  University,  an  internationally  recognized  school  of  Life  Coaching,  with  emphasis  in  relationships  and  certifications  in  the  additional  areas  of  DreamSculpting®,  TimeLine  Regression  &  Trauma  Release,  Hypnosis  Mastery,  and  Communications  and  Life  Mastery.