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FAMILIES & FRIENDS OF MURDER VICTIMS, Inc.
(FFMV)
Newsletter November 2012
Thank-you: *Carol Anderson – Website
*Kaiser – Oakland *Avaxat Elementary School- Murrieta
*St. Anthony’s Catholic Church-Upland *Christ The Redeemer Catholic Church
Grand Terrace Portola Community Center- Palm Desert
*San Bernardino County District Attorney’s Office of Victim Services/Victim Advocates
*Riverside County District Attorney’s Office of Victim
Services/Victim Advocates
*Family of Kris Flores *Janet Garcia& Barbara Christian
facebook administrators * Ellie Rossi
*Anonymous Donor for sponsoring newsletter for November 2012
Remembrance Prayer Service for those
Lost Due to Murder
When: Wednesday, November 7, 2012 7:00pm—9:00pm
Where: Diocesan Pastoral Center
1201 East Highland Avenue San Bernardino, CA 92404
Refreshments will follow the service.
Those who attend are encouraged to
bring a photo of their loved one.
Please RSVP to Sandra Garcia by November 1, 2012 909-475-5476 or
Need Someone to Talk To?
* Bertha Flores - Parent - Spanish speaking
(909) 200-5499 (after 3pm)
*Rose Madsen – Parent (909) 798-4803 (after
4pm)
*Maxine Russell – (818) 378-2072
Parent/Grief Counselor
*Dawn Hall - Parent(951) 757-4419
*Mary Stewart -Parent (951 698-5317)
Emergency Consult for Suicidal or Homicidal
Participants
*Linda Atencio -Parent – 760-490-7864
* Ellie Rossi - Parent - 909-810-8133
Families & Friends of Murder Victims: A non-profit organization Dedicated to providing information, support, and friendship to persons who have experienced the death of a loved one through the violent act of murder Share Sorrow….. Share Strength Mission: To restore a sense of hope and to provide a pathway to well-being to those who have lost a loved one to murder and to those who are victims of attempted murder.
Love Gifts
Love gifts are a specific tax deductible donation made to the memory of a loved one’s birthday, anniversary of a death, holiday, or just because which are posted in newsletter. They are also made by caring professionals, organizations to help in the work that FFMV does with victims/survivors. These gifts help with the expenses incurred in reaching out to others and operating expenses. When making out a check, please make payable to FFMV and note Love Gift on
check or envelope. Love Gifts can be mailed to FFMV- P.O. Box 11222 San Bernardino, Ca. - 92423-1222
Join Families & Friends of Murder Victims on
Thank-you
Janet Garcia Mother of Jesse Garcia – 6/10/78 – 6/27/94
Barbara Christian Mother of Terri Lynn Winchell–
4/10/63 – 1/8/81
Riverside Chapter
Meets on the 3rd Wednesday of every month at 7pm
Avaxat Elementary School, 24300 La Brisas Road in Murrieta, CA
Contact Dawn (951) 757-4419 For directions ask for PJ at-
951-696-1600 x2177 – M-F 9am-4pm (1-2pm lunch)
Colton Chapter
1st Tuesday of every month
Christ The Redeemer Catholic Church Robinson Hall – Room 6
12745 Oriole Ave Grand Terrace, CA 92313
Time: 6:00pm - 8:00pm Contact person for directions or
information Rose – 909-754-6969 [email protected]
Next Meeting – November 6, 2012
Coachella Valley Chapter New Address
We will continue meeting every
3rd Wednesday of each month
6:00pm – 8:00pm
Portola Community Center Room 2
45-480 Portola Ave
(parking on Shadow Mountain)
Palm Desert, CA 92260
760-568-2560- Call for directions Rose – 909-754-6969 [email protected] Candy- 619-200-0547 [email protected]
NO MEETING in NOVEMBER we will
resume December 19, 2012 for a special
Holiday Meeting
Oakland Chapter
Kaiser in Oakland, Howe St. at Broadway,
12th floor Room 1200 East Contact Helene (510) 452-2553
West End Chapter -Bi-lingual
Meets every 2nd
Thursday of every month at 7:00pm-8:30pm
St. Anthony’s Catholic Church Conference Room
2210 North San Antonio Upland, CA 91786 Participants have the option of the
English & Spanish Meeting
Local Grupo Bilingue Los participantes pueden escoger en Inglés o en
Español Se reunen cada Segundo Jueves del mes a las
7:00 p.m. Contact persons/ Personas de contacto:
Rita Marin (909) 215-7063 [email protected]
Next Meeting November 8, 2012
Grief Support Group
ALL are welcome at our monthly meetings.
Whether you are a parishioner or not. If you
are suffering the loss of a loved one and in
need to talk to someone, we are here to
listen and share emotions.
Together and with the help of the Lord, we
can help each other heal.
Meetings are held every 2nd
Wednesday of
the month 7 to 9 P.M. ~ Room 8
St. Anthony’s Church 1640 Western Ave.
San Bernardino (909)887-3810
Contacts: Hope Morfin (909)820-6163
Ralph & Arlene Payan (909)887-4387
(FFMV Participants)
Danny & Rose Equihua (909) 887-3744
Birthdays, anniversaries &
holidays -times that used to
mean joy and celebration - can
now be among the toughest
now.
Observe them with care and
simple ceremony to ease the
pain.
Resources and Additional Support Services
San Bernardino County District Attorney’s Office
of Victim Witness Centers: San Bernardino
(909) 387-6540
Rancho Cucamonga: (909) 945-4241*
Victorville/Desert area: (760) 552-6994*
Riverside County District Attorney’s Office of
Victim Witness Centers:
Riverside: (951) 955-5450
Murrieta: (951) 304-5680 * Banning: (951) 922-7130
* Indio: (760) 863-8408
*Los Angeles County District Attorney's Victim
Witness Assistance Program offices:
Pomona: 909) 620-3381
*Life.After.Uncivil.Ruthless.Acts.
323-816-9651 www.laurala.org
* WINGS OF JUSTICE – Website
www.murdermislabeledsuicide.com/WingsofJustice
*Women Against Gun Violence – 310-204-2348
www.wagv.org
*www.CrimeVictims.gov—public awareness Web
site
* H.E.A.L. Helping Everyone Acknowledge Loss –
818-378-2072– [email protected]
* Crime Victims United of California – 916-928-
4797 www.crimevictimsunited.com or
* North American Victim Assistance (NOVA)
www.trynova.org
* Victims of Crime Resources Center (800)
VICTIMS
* POMC - (888) 818-POMC www.pomc.org
* Greater Orange County POMC – Marie – 714-999-
7132 – 562-508-2397
* Citizens Against Homicide - (415) 455-5944
* Justice for Murdered Children - (310) 547-1367
* The Crime Victims Assistance Network (iCAN)
Foundation (916) 273-3603
* Memory of Victims Everywhere - (949) 248-5470
* Resource for the Grieving and
Bereavedwww.griefcompanion.com
* Crime Survivors – 949-872-7895
www.crimesurvivors.com Bi-monthly meetings
held in Orange County
* Adela Lavine~Medium: www.adelalavine.com
* MADD – (909) 888-6233
www.maddsanbernardino.org
*JUSTICE FOR HOMICIDE VICTIMS - (310) 457-
0030 [email protected]
* Striving Towards Eradicating Violence In Ennercities
-S.T.E.V.I.E. [email protected]
* www.psychic4themissing.com
*Homicide Survivors Inc.
FFMV Fundraisers Office Depot - Staples – Office Max If you shop at Office Depot or Staples please use FFMV’s Rewards Number for Office Depot which is 1139461170 Office Max – 650756207, Staples- or use just give them 909-798-4803 for all three. We get reward points that help defray the cost of printing, ink cartridges and office supplies.
PLEASE….Don‘t throw away your old ink cartridges! Continue to bring them to us, or take them to Office Max, Staples or Office
Depot and give them 909-798-4803 It’s an easy way to help
FFMV purchase office supplies.
Sunny days seem to hurt the most
Wear my pain like a heavy coat
See you everywhere I go
See your smile
See your face
Hear your laughing in the rain
Still can’t believe you're gone
It isn’t fair you died to young
Like a story that had just begun
But death tore the pages all away
God knows how I miss you
And the hell that I've been through
Just knowing no one can take your
place
Excerpt from "who you'd be today"
Kenny Chesney
Give yourself time to grieve. It may take several years just to accept the
finality of a loss, that someone is gone forever, and even more to
work through your emotions
November 2012 Birthdays
Alfonso Lopez ** Ashley Nicole Randles
Amber Martnez ** Anthony Prudhomme
Anthony Turner Jr. ** Aubrey Maloy
Balam Alcaraz Vega ** Charles Shaw
Christina Duran ** Christhopher Heyman
Damon L. Jones Sr. ** David Leon II
Derek Wiltz II ** Doctor Fernandez
Dwayne Durston III ** Eileen Ponce
Frankie Salas ** Herbert Souther
Jerry Sehrs ** Jonathan Olagues
Jose Tamez III ** Jose Funtes
Juan Macias ** Juanita Martinez
Katie Brennar ** Lindel Fields
Marcus Ringo ** Maria Sanchez
Maria DeLos Angeles Maggallon ** Mark Adam Rodriguez
Michael Villegas Jr. ** Michele Lynette Baily
Michiel A. Hyder-Blamey
Raymond Cole ** Richard Albidrez
Roy Hall ** Sebastian Orioli
Salvador Olivas Jr. ** Teresa Soto Del Rio
Timothy Gaines ** Tommy Matthews Jr.
November 2012 Memories
Alexander Ray Esparza
Amber Martinez
Andrian Rivas
Anthony Prudhomme
Brandon Michael Selph
Bryan O’Meara
Christina Duran
David Garcia
Evan Todd Kinard
Greg W. Gibson II
Gilbert Rivera
Jennifer LeAnne Balber
Jerry Ramirez Jr.
Jose Esparza
Joshua Rexford
Lisel Wiedeman
Mark Mireles
Maraslee Ann Nicholas
Mary Estes
Michele Jeanette Carson
Roberto Nanito De La VegasSr.
Roberto “Bobby” Ruiz
Sonia Herrera
Terry L. Stutson
Thomas Charles Pagent Jr.
Yanize Lizette Mora
We Will Always Remember You
This page is dedicated to
Michele Jeanette Carson
12/22/84 – 11/7/10
November 7, 2010 a day that changed the lives of our family forever. I can’t believe it is going to be 2 years since we lost our daughter Michele. Michele was so loved and we all miss her so much. She was taken from us at such a young age by a senseless murder. Michele was a loving young woman with compassion for her family, friends and strangers. She had a tender heart and true empathy for those who were troubled or less fortunate than herself. She loved children and children just gravitated to her. Her whole life she hungered for knowledge, and just knew she wanted to give back. She was a college graduate and was about to continue her education working towards her Master’s degree. Her goal was to work with children to help lead them in a path to stay out of trouble as they grew older. We all know in our hearts that Michele would have made a wonderful mom. Michele was murdered by someone she cared about very much, and by someone she believed cared about her. She was strangled and her body had been set on fire in the Las Vegas desert. The utter shock and emotional despair our family has endured is truly indescribable and beyond any words. Our beautiful girl was only 25 years old. Her murderer was her ex-boyfriend who is currently in jail awaiting trial in Las Vegas. Reality is that this can happen to anyone. We pray that justice will be served someday. Now, we do all that we can to honor our daughter. Our family will do our best to reach out to as many people as possible and to raise awareness about domestic violence and victim’s rights. Although difficult, we will continue to share our tragedy of how much it has affected our lives. We do not want to see other families have to feel what we are going through. This has become a personal priority and we will reach out, support and speak out against domestic violence whenever possible. No matter how small the gesture we have to try and make this world a little better place to live. We love you Michele, you will always be in our hearts. We will meet again in heaven someday. With Love,
The Carson Family
LOVE GIFTS
In Loving Memory of In Loving Memory of In Loving Memory of
Yanzie Lizette Mora Terry L. Stutson Joshua Rexford 3/28/94 – 11/2/10 4/4/58 – 11/84 10/8/76 – 11/27/94
In Loving Memory David Charles Nystrom – 2/2/64 - 7/27/98 & Lisa Cummings – 11/13/66 – 3/12/11
Brother and Sister in Heaven ….. now together watching over their Mom (Ellie Rossi)
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Donation $_______________
Name (please print):_________________________________________________________________
Address____________________________________City/St.________________________Zip__________
Email address: __________________________________________________________
Your Phone # ( ) ____________________Relationship to Victim: _____________________________
Name of Victim: _________________________________________________________________
Date of Birth: Date of Death: ______________________
Please post my loved ones message and/or picture(s) for the month of: ___________
# of pictures enclosed/attached ____________ Use picture on file_______________
CAMP GOOD GRIEF (SVP)
Camp Good Grief-Special Victims Program (SVP) is a joint effort between the San Bernardino County District Attorney's Office Bureau of Victim Services and Loma Linda University Medical Center Children's Hospital. The 3-day grief camp is geared toward homicide/suicide and is for children ages 10-16 who have experienced a violent death in their family. Campers board a bus at the Ronald McDonald House in Loma Linda and head to Camp Cedar Falls in the San Bernardino Mountains for a three-day camp and grief therapy experience. At camp the children participate in game and team building activities and therapeutic group activities designed to help them learn and understand how to cope with the grief over the violent death of their loved one. This camp has been so successful that it has been expanded to include Camp Good Grief - Special Victims Program Teen Retreat. It will be held annually and provides grief services for teens ages 14-18 who previously participated in Camp Good Grief - SVP and whose lives have been positively impacted by camp. It will be a combination of learning advanced grief management skills as well as a training camp for future Camp Good Grief Peer Counselors. Camp is free of charge to all campers and camperships are funded by unclaimed victim restitution. Therapists and interns from Loma Linda Marriage and Family Therapy Clinic, Loma Linda Child Life Specialists and District Attorney's Office Victim Advocates donate their time to the camp. The Bureau of Victim Services and Loma Linda University Children's Hospital have pledged to continue fundraising activities, presentations to service groups, and outreach events so they may continue hosting future Camp Good Grief-SVP programs. Contact: Dorothy Brooks 909-558-4073
COLD CASES FYI
I attended JHV Memorial in April, guest Speaker Frank Girardot, editor of the Pasadena Star News and
senior editor of the San Gabriel Valley Tribune Group announced that he would to publish pictures and
information regarding unsolved homicide cases on the newspaper website. Many families that I know
personally have UNSOLVED cases which have turned to COLD cases…Everyone deserves JUSTICE
If your loved one was murdered in the greater Southern California area and the case is unsolved, Frank
will get it published in the newspaper.
You can check out the Cold Case Project by going to www.PasadenaStarNews.com/coldcases. The
paper also has the project listed on Facebook …
This is a response Frank gave me when I e-mailed him about this project:
Hi Rose,
If I get a photo from a loved one I will post it on our website as soon as I can. Anyone who is interested
can contact me and I promise to get them set up.
Sincerely,
Frank Girardot
911 E. Colorado Blvd
Pasadena, CA 91106
626-578-6300 ext.4478
Here is some basic information Frank needs when you send him a picture of your loved one:
Your full name, address, phone(s), e-mail address, Victims Full Name and age at time of murder,
Victims DOB-DOD, your relationship to victim, city where murder took place, any suspects arrested?,
Detective’s name & phone, & short bio on how your loved one was murdered
I encourage you to submit your story if you still have an unsolved case!
Come and Join
Families & Friends of Murder Victims, Inc. to their
Annual Christmas Candlelight/Memorial Luncheon
All FFMV chapter members, their family, children, friends and supporters of FFMV are invited to attend
When: Sunday December 9, 2012
Time: 2pm - 5pm Where: The Diocese of San Bernardino Pastoral Center 1201 E. Highland Ave., San Bernardino, CA. 92404-4641
(909) 475-5300
**HONOR YOUR LOVED ONE AT OUR CHRISTMAS LUNCHEON**
You can give special honor to your loved one by making a monetary donation towards the main course,
annual gift raffle, table centerpieces or ornaments to be hung by each family in
Memory of your Loved One.
Your Loved One’s name will be acknowledged in the program.
(We are seeking a sponsor(s) for this event) If you would like to be a sponsor contact: Rose 909-798-4803
FFMV will be accepting gifts/toys for our Annual Raffle
November 1, 2012 thru December 5, 2012, please contact Rose @ 909-798-4803 or email [email protected] to make arrangements for drop-off or we can pick up gifts.
~ Our Goal is to have all children receive a
special gift at Annual Raffle ~
Christmas Memorial RSVP by November 30, 2012
~We ask that you please bring a salad or side dish and dessert to share ~
~ Bring your Loved Ones picture to display on our Memorial Table ~
~ Each family will receive an ornament in Memory of their Loved One ~
~ Our Loved Ones Slide Show Presentation (send your picture) ~
FFMV will provide the main course, & beverage, and one ornament for each family
*We are in need of additional donations. If you are interested in donating a gift/toy for our annual raffle, or if you
know of a business that would like to help sponsor this memorial please call and leave a message at (909)798-4803 or e-mail [email protected] with your interest or questions.
*We will be taking reservations for individual tables if you have 8 or more in your party attending.
This will be on a first come basis only, please mention your interest when you RSVP. Directions to the Diocese: From I-210 East; exit at Waterman Ave. and go right , then go left on Highland Ave. Diocese is on the right From I-10 E, to I-215 N towards San Bernardino, merge onto I-210-E, HIGHLAND / MTN RESORTS, exit at Waterman Ave. and go right , then go
left on Highland Ave. Diocese is on the right From 91 E , 91E becomes I-215 N , merge onto CA I-210 E / HIGHLAND / MTN RESORTS, exit at Waterman Ave. and go right , then left on
Highland Ave. Diocese is on the right, From Beaumont take I-10 W, merge onto I-210-Pasadena/CA-30 W toward HIGHLAND, continue going west on I- 210, exit Del Rosa Ave, and go left, then right on Highland Ave. Diocese is on the left
Diocese is on Highland Ave & Golden Ave (signal) ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- --------------------------
( ) Yes I will be attending ( ) Yes I would like to request an individual family table for a family of _____________ I would like ________ additional ornaments at $1ea - Enclosed is $_____________ for ___________ additional ornaments ( ) Enclosed is my loved ones picture ( ) I will e-mail my loved ones picture ( ) Use my loved ones picture that you have on file
PLEASE PRINT: Your loved ones DOB_________________________ DOD _______________________ Loved Ones First Name________________________ Last Name____________________________________ Your Name: _________________________________________________________________ Your Contact phone # with area code ( ) _____________________email____________________________ # of adults________ # of children ________ # Boys______ Ages_______________________________ # of Girls_______ Ages________________________________________________________________
I will bring (circle one) Salad Side Dish
Mail or e-mail this completed form no later than November 30, 2012 to:
FFMV ~ P.O. Box 11222 ~ San Bernardino, CA ~ 92423-1222 ~ [email protected]
From Rose Madsen, Editor/Chair/co-founder of the
Colton & Coachella Chapter of FFMV
In Memory of my daughter Jennifer LeAnne Balber 12/02/73 – 11/10/94
A 20yr. old SoCal Gas Co. Meter Reader, Fatally Shot in the Line of Service in Rialto, CA
November 10, 1994, my life forever changed….it will be 18yrs that my Jen was
taken…. I continue my journey of healing …still trying to understand why this
happened…. in this journey I have encountered a new circle of friends that
understand me… I cherish their friendship and support. I thank my family for their
continued love and support!
Thoughtfully
Rose
My beautiful Jen…..I can no longer…See you with my eyes…Touch you with my hands… But I will feel you in my heart….Forever…Love, Mom
FFMV is a non-profit organization dedicated to serving survivors of murder victims & victims of attempted murder. Our main purpose is grief support for those victim/survivors. All assistance provided to victims is given free of charge by volunteers. Contributions and/or questions regarding the policies of FFMV may be addressed to: FFMV Executive Board at P.O. Box 11222 San Bernardino, Ca. 92423-1222, e-mailed to [email protected] or phoned to 909-798-4803. FFMV is a tax-exempt organization under the Section 501 (c) (3) of the Internal Revenue Service. Our Organization depends largely upon private donations which will cover operational expenses, Our Annual Family Christmas Memorial Luncheon, and Our Annual Victims’ Rights Week Memorial. We are seeking a sponsor (s) for our events. Please contact FFMV at the above e-mail or phone if you are interested. Tax ID #68-0299211
All Contributions Are Tax Deductible
2013 Participant /Photo Release Form for slide show & picture boards
Families & Friends of Murder Victims, INC (FFMV)
Circle one: New Participant ~ Update my information ~ Agency/Non Victim
Please Print
Date________________ Relationship to Victim_______________________
Victim’s First Name_________________________________________
Victim’s Last Name_________________________________________
Date of Birth _____________ Date of Death__________ Solved: Yes ( ) No ( )
Permission to use photo(s): Yes ( ) No ( ) Just add me to e-mail/mailing list to
receive monthly newsletter and event information
I grant to Families & Friends of Murder Victims, Inc. (FFMV), the right to use photograph(s) of the above-identified subject. I authorize FFMV to use and
publish the same in print and/or electronically.
I agree that FFMV may use such photographs with or without his/her name and for
any lawful purpose, including for example such purposes as publicity, illustration, advertising, and Web content.
I have read and understand the above.
Name of Agency/Non-Victim if applicable: ________________________________
Signature _________________________________________________________
Print Full Name _____________________________________________________
Address___________________________________________________________
City__________________________________ Zip Code____________________
Phone with area code ______________________________________
E-mail ____________________________________________________________
Mail or e-mail participant/release form to: [email protected]
FFMV ~ P.O.Box 11222 San Bernardino, CA ~ 92423-1222
I have included a picture ( ) Yes ( ) No use the one on file
I have included a $_________ donation for 2012
Thank-you… if you have already sent your 2013 donation
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