LEARNINGr Commit to a weekly Torah classr Learn from one of the “Lesson a Day” booksr Read only “Kosher” magazines and booksr Recognize G-d’s divine providence in your lifer Choose a Rabbi and ask your Halachic questions to himr Be involved in your child’s school/ PTAr Read or tell a Torah story to your child/grandchildr Choose a proper role model

SHABBATr Make Challah r Call your Mother/Mother-in law to wish her Shabbat Shalomr Set the table on Thursday or early Friday morning r Put away Mukseh items before Shabbatr Dress yourself and your family in honor of Shabbatr Be ready 15 to 20 minutes earlyr Give Sedaka/say Tehilim before candle lightingr Say “Lekavod Shabbat Kodesh” during your preparationsr Read about the Perashar Encourage Divrei Torah at the Shabbat tabler Read only Jewish reading material on this holy dayr Review the laws of Shabbatr Wash for Seuda Shelishitr Eat Melave Malka

TEFILAH/PRAYERr Say Modeh Ani with Kavanar Say Bircot Hashachar first thing in the morningr Trust in Hashemr Daily Tehilim/say a chapter of Tehilim for all those who need itr Talk to Hashemr Include Hashem in your daily activities and let His Name always be on your lips (Use words like Baruch Hashem, Be’ezrat Hashem)r Think about Olam Habar Don’t speak in Shul(during Sefer Torah, Kaddish)r Pray for someone elser Concentrate on one Beracha in Amida at a timer Pray for your childrenr Say Berachot out loud

r Say Birchat HaMazon or Al hamihya from a textr Answer Amenr Say Asher Yasar with kavanar Kabalat Ol Malchut Shamayim in Shema

CHARACTER IMPROVEMENTr Look for peacer Give the benefit of the doubtr Wake up before the childrenr Don’t cry over spilled milkr Don’t overspendr Don’t be jealous - be happy with what you haver Keep your wordr Take on an hour of Shemirat Halashonr Be patientr Thank your children’s Rebbes/teachersr Be a good listenerr Be the first to say hellor Don’t procrastinate/do a Mitsva when it comes to mindr Stand up to peer pressurer Choose friends who will be a good influencer Cut down on “media”r Use clean languager Try to make a Kiddush Hashemr Do not take revenger Be happyr Be prompt/Don’t make people waitr Compliment your friendr Control temptations - avoid negative influencesr Forgive and forget

Elul and High Holidays Accounting Checklist

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The Hida writes, “We should keep track of our deeds all year, but especially during Elul.“ We should take advantage of the Yemei Ratzon to prepare for Rosh hashana. But…where do you start? Pick items on this list that best apply to you, and try working on perfecting them this month. Check off the Kabalot that you’ve mastered one by one. Everyone at their own level can be on their best behavior preparing for the Day of Judgment.

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HESEDr Cook a meal for someone in needr Offer an errand, especially when you are going anywayr Offer to babysitr Do a Hesed that nobody knows aboutr Direct your giveaways to people that can really use it (old clothes etc)r Visit your parents/in-lawsr Comfort a mournerr Suggest a Shidduchr Provide a listening earr Offer a rider Do an errand for someone who can’t get outr Volunteerr Welcome guestsr Visit the sickr Help a needy brider Gladden a brider Give someone encouragementr Call an aunt/uncler Bring a friend to class

HALACHAr Review the laws of family purity (take a refresher course) r Be careful with Netilat Yadayimr Don’t eat while standingr Say Berachot out loudr Take on a higher lever of Kashrut (Yashan, Bet Yosef, Halav Yisrael)r Stand for a parent/Rabbi/elderr Grow in modestyr Keep a secretr Take care of your healthr Return a lost object (if someone left an item in your home)r Watch the housekeeper in the kitchen (Bishul Yisrael)r Check your and your family’s clothing for Shaatnezr Make sure all your dishes are dippedr Learn the laws of checking vegetables

SHALOM BAYITr Spend ten relaxing minutes with your husband/ kids when they come homer Wait for the “right” time to discuss important issues r Create a warm and happy environment in your homer Don’t put unnecessary financial pressure on your husbandr Pray for your husband’s successr Teach your children to show respect to their father(stand up for their father, don’t sit in his place)r Speak softlyr Respect your in-lawsr Correct wiselyr Avoid sarcasmr Avoid disagreements in front of the childrenr Avoid texting/phone calls at meal timer Install a filter for the internetr Praise your son/daughter-in-lawr Avoid going to sleep in a disagreementr Be home for your children when they come home

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Please print additional copies for daily accountability

Refuah Shelemah for Moshe ben Luna and Meir ben Jamie

In Memory of Isaac Sasson a”h and Celia Saff a”h

“Perfect is the enemy

of good.”

This list is not perfect

but it’s a good start.

Good Luck!

Tizku L’Shanim Rabot