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Demonstrate supportive and realistic responses to children
and young people’s questions, ideas, suggestions and
concerns
In the same way that you are able to self-examine during your reflective time, and
put strategies in place that enable the positive aspects of your ability to build
relationships, you also need to have a strong awareness around the way children
behave and respond, both as individuals, and in groups.
If you are able to predict what they are likely to do next, you can offset problematic
situations and pick up with positive aspects of these. For example, if you know that
when two friends sit together, they tend to spend the whole lesson whispering and
chatting instead of listening, you could sit just behind them or next to them, or even
join their 'group' to ask them about the class and check their understanding of the task
at hand. Engaging them with the task without passing comment on their chatting is a
positive way to get them to participate productively.
Supportive and realistic responses to children and young people.
Children's behaviour comes from a variety of sources, both inter- and intra-personal
responses to external stimuli. Those stimuli may be their background and the culture
at home in which they are growing up; it could be fed by their economic background,
their previous experiences of school or groups, their relationships with other children,
and their relationships with adults.
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How you respond to their thoughts, ideas, issues, and questions, is really important
to how they see you in your relationship with them. In other words, your responses
feed the way in which they respond to you. If you are supportive, accepting, and
realistic towards them and their ideas, they will mirror this attitude back to you, and
are likely to continue this type of attitude around their peers too.
Consistency
We already know that consistency is one of the key factors in establishing rapport and
maintaining positive relationships with children and young people. When we talk about
consistency, we do not mean delivering the same responses to all the children in a
class on a variety of issues. However, it does mean ensuring that the same levels of
attention are given to individuals throughout the class, and that no-one is favoured, or
less favoured, than anyone else.
An example of this is in the acceptance of ideas or questions. You couldn't take
several questions around a task from a couple of children in the class, and answer
them fully, but then later belittle another question from a different child - even if it is a
question that has already been asked and answered. Answering consistently, and
giving fair and reasonable responses to all queries, comments, and opinions, are all
strategies that can be easily applied and will work good things in terms of your
relationship building with them.
Congruency
Part of consistency is about ensuring your responses are congruent. That is,
congruent with your body language, with your behaviour in general, and with the
expectations of the class as a whole or of the individual children to whom you
respond.
For example, telling a child that they have done really well at an activity, but using a
bored tone of voice, while looking away across the classroom at some other children,
would introduce incongruence into the situation. Although the words you use may say
one thing, your body language and tone may say another.
Congruency feeds the supportive aspects of your work, and you should be very aware of it when working with children and young people