Stories are personal and private. Stories not only belong to one person but to their families, tribes and to their people.
A transactional quest: Banking and collecting other peoples stories for the sake of the cause one that the storyteller is usually benefiting from. War, lack of immigration reform, crisis, tragedy, humanitarian disaster. I wanna use your story
Dominant Race Narrative
Can Do Harm Trigger implicit bias rather then a nuanced, layered and realistic contextualized story.
Social Distance Between: audience and characters
characters are from another planet super heroes...villainsvictimsmartyrswomen
Become our Objects The values, motivations, actions, histories, knowledge, ideas of the story characters become our
OUR Talking points Showing off points Look what we have in our toolbox Objectified examples for how our work is successful Inserting ourselves as the hero in the story I have empowered our leaders to do this action
Changing the Narrative The Dignity Model Acceptance of Identity: First thing you need to do when you want to honor peoples dignity is to accept that they are neither inferior nor superior to you. Acknowledgment: People like to feel that they matter. Acknowledgment can be as simple as smiling at others when they walk by to formally recognizing them for something they have done for which they deserve credit. Inclusion: No one likes to feel left out or that they dont belong. When we are included, we feel good about who we are. Safety: There are two kinds of safety that are important to dignity: physical and psychological. Physical threats need no explanation but psychological threats are more complicated. Honoring others psychological safety means not shaming, humiliating, diminishing, or hurtfully criticizing them, especially, but not limited to, violations that are public.
Changing the Narrative : The Dignity Model Fairness: We all have a particularly strong knee-jerk reaction to being treated unfairly. If we want to honor the dignity of others, we need to ensure that we are honoring agreed upon laws and rules of fairnessboth implicit and explicitwhen we interact with them. Freedom: A major dignity violation occurs when we restrict people and try to control their lives. Honoring this element of dignity requires that people feel free from domination and that they are able to experience hope and a future that is filled with a sense of possibility. Understanding: There is nothing more frustrating than to feel misunderstood, especially when you are in conflict with others. Extending dignity means that you give others the chance to explain themselves, actively listening to them for the sole purpose of understanding their perspective.
Changing the Narrative: The Dignity Model Responsiveness: We all want to be seen and heard. Treating people as if they were invisible or ignoring them by not responding to their concerns is a violation of their dignity. Righting the Wrong: When we violate someones dignity, it is important to take responsibility and apologize for the hurt we have caused. It is a way for us to regain our own dignity as well as acknowledging the wrongdoing to the person you violated. Benefit of the Doubt: Treating people as though they were trustworthygiving them the benefit of the doubt that they are acting with good intentionis honoring their dignity.