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Agenda
Part 1: Leadership as a Journey
Part 2: Discovery of your Authentic Self
Part 3: The Empowering of Others
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True North - Fundamentals
True North
Positional North
TN = Our individual life (Spiritually connected) purposes, motives & values standards
PN = Where personal/societal sin, individual vices, ignorance are pulling us
LIFE Navigation
* Authenticity = The least variation between TN and PN
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True North - Fundamentals
Session 1 - Summary Points
• An Authentic leader is one who has a passion for their purpose, practices their values, leads from their heart, develops connected accountable relationships and builds the self discipline to get results.
• It is a journey (yours alone) following your unique path
• Keeping your “Positional North” aligned closely with your “True North” insures the journey is a success
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True North - Fundamentals
Session 1 - Summary Points
• We go through the journey in stages – some planned – some unplanned- all intended for growth
• All of us have crucibles – whether they are positive growth experiences or obstacles that hold us back is dependent on our view of them
• Many leaders start out well and then loose their way – be vigilant! – avoid the 5 derailment archtypes
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Derailment Archetypes
Imposters – unconsciously lack self awareness and self esteem
Rationalizers – consciously deviate from their values
Glory Seekers – motivated by seeking the world’s acclaim
Loners – Fail to build personal support structures (arrogance/insecurity/narcissism)
Shooting Stars – lack the grounding of an integrated life
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Using The “Compass”
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Self Awareness
Values
Motivations
Support Team
Integrated Life
What's my story? What are my Strengths and Developmental Needs?
What are my most deeply held Values? What Principles guide my leadership?
What motivates me? How do I balance my internal and external motivations?
Who are the people I can count on to guide and support me along the way?
How can I integrate all aspects of my life and find fulfillment?
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Using The “Compass”
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Self Awareness
What's my story? What are my Strengths and Developmental Needs?
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The Fundamental Principle
“Gnothi Seauton”
(Know Thyself)- Inscribed on the wall of the
temple of Apollo at Delphi in Greece during the 6th Century B.C.
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“To Thine own Self…”
“Being true to yourself is the most important thing. If you are ambitious – that’s great… If not, that’s also fine. Just be true to what you want. Not everyone can be at the top of the class. If they try to be – they may not get there. If they did get there they may not be happy. Know who you are and you can overcome
almost any obstacle, unless you are the obstacle…”
- Lynn Forester CEO of Firstmark
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Your Self Awareness
What is that? – Individual/Group Activity
Take 5 minutes and answer the questions 1 & 2 on worksheet page 5 individually, Then…
In your group discuss and share answers to question # 3 & 4.
“Perfection is not the goal of leadership…but to be true to who you are while continuing to develop yourself…” - Peter Drucker
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So You Can:
Find your best role
Increase your self confidence
Become consistent (Authentic)
Continually connect with others
Identify/utilize the complimentary skills of others
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What Drives your Leadership is What
Drives You…(Peeling Back the Onion)
Authentic Self
Shadow side
Vulnerabilities
Life Story Understanding
Blind Spots
Values MotivationsStrengths Weaknesses
Needs
Desires
Appearance
Leadership Style
Body Language
Presence
Journa
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Reading to learn
Introspective (non critical) Thinking
Sampling Opinions of others
Prayer
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suppli
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Therapeutic Work
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Helping Professionals
Business/Life Coaches – guide, nudge, provoke, advise, structure improvements
Consultants/Advisors – provide knowledge, specialized expertise
Christian Counselors – provide Spiritual guidance and insight and suggestions
Psycho-Therapists – provide clinical emotional/cognitive insight, support, clarification, and perspective (Licensed)
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“Getting & Sharing”
Public
Hidden
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Ideal Window – The “Authentic You”
How you know yourself
How others know you Get Honest
Feedback from others (whose opinion you
respect)
Give Honest Sharing of
your Knowledge, insight and Feedback
The “Authentic
You”
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Accept Yourself
Love
yours
elf
uncond
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lly
Have
Self
Compas
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Work
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yourse
lf/soc
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Using The “Compass”
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Self Awareness
Values
What are my most deeply held Values? What Principles guide my leadership?
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What Guides our Leadership?
“Core” of the onion Stuff
Life Goals Beliefs and Convictions
Values that form the basis for Leadership
Leadership Principles/ Standards & Ethical Boundaries
Who we are/where we come from
Who we want to
be
What is Important to us
How/why we want to lead
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Values, Principles & Boundaries
Values: The relative importance of the things that matter in your life
Leadership Principles: A set of standards used in leading others (derived from values) which are translated into actions.
Ethical Boundaries: The limits you place on your actions based on your standards of ethical behavior
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Your Values
What do you really value? – Individual/Group Activity
Take 10 minutes - Fill out the values inventory on Page 6/7 – Then - Answer all of the questions (2 -4) on worksheet page 8 individually. Then…
In your group discuss and share some of your answers with each other
“When you are in trouble and all your defenses get stripped away, you realize what matters and who matters. That’s when you need to get back to your roots and your values - David Gergan
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Help in Holding Boundaries
Don’t take first step!
If you do… confess, repent, reform
Peer support – “stay in the herd”
Accountability – open to feedback
Look at values often
Open to feedback
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Using The “Compass”
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Self Awareness
Values
Motivations
What motivates me? How do I balance my internal and external motivations?
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Your Motivations
What Motivates us? – Individual/Group Activity
Take 5 minutes and read the excerpt on page 8 individually, Then…
In your group discuss and share some of observations and insights on the reading
“Only a few of us can do great things, but all of us can do small things with great love”
- Mother Teresa
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Motivators
IntrinsicDerived from your True NorthExamples:
Personal GrowthSatisfaction of doing good workHelping othersFinding meaning from effortsBeing true to beliefsMaking a difference in the world
ExtrinsicDerived from the external worldExamples:
WealthWinning competitions/public recognitionHaving power, title, position or social statusSymbols such as cars, jewelry, and “stuff”
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Motivated Capabilities
Motivations
Capabilities
Sweet Spot
Intrinsic
Motivation
Extrinsic
Motivation
Strengths
Weaknesses
“Find out what you are good at and what you like to do”
- Dr. Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi
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Your Motivators
What Motivates us? – Individual/Group Activity
Now – Answer individually the questions on worksheet Pg 10
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Using The “Compass”
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Self Awareness
Values
Motivations
Support Team
Who are the people I can count on to guide and support me along the way?
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Building a Support Team Your “MIP”
Family Mentors Close Friends Personal Support Group Professional Support Network Personal BOD
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Your Support Team
Who can we count on? – Individual/Group Activity
Take 5 minutes and do the checklist on page 10 individually, Then…
In your group discuss and share some of observations and insights on the three questions about friendships
“Always have some people around you who will tell you the truth…” - Warren Bennis
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Building Enduring Friendships
“Getting a great relationship is not so much a matter of finding the right
person but of being the right person”
- Josh McDowell
How to make Friends
How to keep Friends
How to be a Friend
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Making & Keeping Friends
Ask people for “their story” & listen
Spend time
Be intentional – reach out
Have fun together (laugh/play/engage)
Find “common threads” to your lives
Share/support common values
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Being a Friend
Be the friend you want others to be
Keep Pursuing (before being pursued)
Support people verbally
Give and receive (feedback & disclosure)
Reminders of their value (notes/calls/thoughtful remembrances)
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Using The “Compass”
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Self Awareness
Values
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Support Team
Integrated Life
How can I integrate all aspects of my life and find fulfillment?
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The “Buckets” of Life
Work and career
Family
Friends and Important Relationships
Community
Ministry
World at large
The same person
(Authentic You) in
each environment
Personal Pursuits
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Integrating Life
How do we stay grounded and Integrate all the aspects of life? – Individual/Group Activity
In your group brainstorm, discuss and share observations, ideas and insights on these questions about Integration
“The hardest choices you and the people you counsel will have to make will not be between good and evil, but between good and good”
- Dr. Howard Hendricks
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Integration – the Biggest Challenge
Keeping Grounded
Balancing our Choices
Measures of Success
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The Balanced Scorecard
Vision &
Strategy
Financial To succeed financially, how should we appear to our shareholders?
Internal Processes To satisfy customers and shareholders, what business processes must we excel at?
Learning & Growth To achieve our vision how will we sustain our ability to change and improve?
Customer To achieve our vision, how should we appear to our customers?
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* Adapted from “The Balanced Scorecard” by
Kaplan & Norton
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Balanced Scorecard (Life)
Personal Mission, Vision, Goals
Personal To succeed & have satisfaction in all life dimensions what must I do, change, improve
Family & Friends To have the quality of family & relationships that I desire what must I do, change, improveCommunity &
Ministry To make my unique contribution, add value & make a difference what must I do, change, improve
Career & Finance To do work I love & to have the resources needed for life what must I do, change, improve
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Moving Toward Integration
What we Expect: I know what I want
I have what I want