Christy Whitman’s intervieW With Jay Fiset · and marketing tells us that we should do and have....

The ArT of Having it all

Christy Whitman’s

intervieW WithJay

Fiset


Christy Whitman, The Acclaimed New York Times Best-Selling Author

A Woman’s Guide to Unlimited abundance

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Having it all is not about striving for perfection, or about living our lives according to someone else’s standards

or expectations (we’ve done that for far too long).

It’s not about working ourselves to a state of exhaustion, spreading ourselves too thin, or trading inner peace and

contentment for outer trinkets of success.

Been there. Done that too.

Having it all simply means having access to all of yourself, in any moment you choose it, and in every

aspect of life that is important to you.

Go here to learn exactly how you too, can “Have it All”’

www.theartofhavingitall.com






4 Questions with Christy whitman

C: how do you define your it and your all in your life?

Jay Fiset: for me I think that it boils down to living my mission and being very selective about how I define having it al. and I am a raving fan and have been teaching and writing about

clarity of mission literally for 20 years. Having it all for me and this might sound a little bit nutty but having it all frankly has more to do with saying no to shiny objects and interesting entertainment and diversions and distractions so I can focus on that which I have chosen and speaks to my heart and soul to be more significant and important in my life. If you were to read my mission it’s comprehensive but very focused on contribution on family on personal accountability on freedom and service on support. When I am consistently living that mission that to me is having it all it is perfectly in alignment with why I am here on earth in nothing else matters. I usually talk about that for an entire weekend so I’m grateful I got it in there quickly.

C: What is your core belief about yourself or the universe that allows you to have the experience of having it all?

Jay Fiset: I think there are two and I know you are fishing for the deepest want but I perceive them to be very interrelated. For me the first one is this we live in an abundant universe

so there is no lack of anything unless my lack of consciousness filters it out or doesn’t allow it or projects pain difficulty scarcity whatever it may be. So that’s the core fundamental believe that we all exist in this abundant universe. Stacked upon that are interwoven it’s a better way to put it is this idea that I hold to be true about me you humanity. Every single one of us is here with a specific set of gifts with the specific calling. One of the phrases of the creator’s code is simply this. There is something within you are called to create are you ready? It’s not effective I have to manufacture it or push it or make it so, it’s actually there. It has probably been there since in my beliefs, since you chose to come here and make your way through the world in the way





you did. I don’t believe there conscious choices but their choices nonetheless. There is this gift this message this connection this unique expression of me of you of each human being that is necessary not just for us before the rest of humanity to grow evolve take the next step rise in consciousness however you want to use the words to frame that. But my piece is as important as your peace and our pieces are important as anyone else’s peace and we are all this is the peace, we are all here in that space of a quality doing our bit. There is something we are called to create we can run and hide from it in people do but that just makes for a tough life. If I am willing to step up to what the calling is which for me is manifest freedom through personal accountability in my life in lives of others that’s the core driver if we get that one piece done our world will transform. Those are the two core beliefs together an abundant universe each of us is called to create it and we are uniquely equipped to do so and it’s my job to step up to it.

C: When you are in a place of having it all what is that bottom line essence feeling for you?

Jay Fiset: I have one word but I think it sorely lacks what it all means the word is presence. This is again I do weekend workshops on this. The word is presence and I will put some

words around it that it will make more sense. It sometimes easiest to talk about this by what it’s not. So it’s not the space of want, it’s not a space of need, it’s not a space of our internal mind racing about anything, there is clearly no worry there is none of it, it all disappears to this one simple space of I am present to myself physically mentally emotionally and spiritually. So I would say I am connected and one with all those aspects. The next basis I am present to what is not what I wish it could be our how it could be different slightly or not how the waitress took 18 minutes to come take my order, but being present with what is, and without judgment and without nagging and without all those pieces. So it’s a really big idea but I would say another way to describe it would be present to what is with cellular certainty meaning that it’s not irrational thing it’s not ahead thing it’s more of a physiological alignment. I sometimes use this metaphor I know you have little ones have you ever seen the movie Finding Nemo? That’s perhaps one of the best movies ever. There is this point where they are lost in the ask for directions and there is a school of macrolls scrolling around and in a nano-second all the macroll position themselves so there are a pointing arrow and described in cellular certainty that is perhaps one of the best ways





to describe it it’s that instantaneous every aspect of ourselves physically mentally emotionally and spiritual lines up in that direction. That often doesn’t make any intellectual sense if you take two steps back and think about it it’s like I’m not so sure but that would be another way of talking about presence when those moments are common not uncommon. What I say to people is imagine if the cells of your body and the elements and energy of your spirit actually had that same capacity and if you paid attention to the sign of that same capacity what would be different in your life? The truth is I actually feel like that happens. My head is going we need to go this way it’s very clear and then everything else lined up this way and it’s like what the? So anyway I think it’s a powerful metaphor that shifts and translates a bunch of the intuition into this is actually not just a woo woo energy there is a physiological spiritual process to this that when those two lineup it’s undeniable.

C: Can you offer one piece of advice to help them to get into that space of having it all?

Jay Fiset: I believe the first step is this. We must set our own standards. I actually think the vast majority of having it all is an unconscious pursuit of what media television

and marketing tells us that we should do and have. And until the standard is set ourselves we don’t have a hope in hell. So the tip is the mission work that is so important to me and this is where if I get really clear about my mission, I borrowed a template from Stephen Covey highly effective people 25 years ago and I still use it. There is an umbrella statement of the mission and then there is a bunch of measures who I must be and what I must do to fill this mission. It’s not airy fairy flowery work stuff, I could actually look at and say yes I contributed today guess I was a good father today I can look and say am I on track off track. So I must be what I must do and there is a third part to it which is the roles that take priority. Quite literally I put them into hierocracy order. Husband is first thought of a second son and brother is third and it helps for me to set my standard around what having it all means because it is not what is being talking about on television and it’s not the Hollywood version it’s about being my particular mission and purpose for being here and how I’m going to show up in the world. Until we set our own standard having it all is impossible because we will just attain it and discover exceptionally quickly that there is a better it and we don’t quite measure up. I think it’s a really big deal and as parents and





I’m sure there will be a bunch of parents reading this book, I actually think that one of the single most important roles that we have as parents is to teach our children to question media because if we take a look at what’s going on in our world and how media is continuing to have a greater and greater influence on but we think having it all is what we think success is all of those pieces, we must, must, must teach our children to have a bit of a critical mind about media so that they have the freedom to set their own standard. Because the truth of the matter is I see people in my classroom all the time who say I set my own standard and what the standard is I need the Prada bag and this and that and if you like that stuff go to town if you really like that stuff. But if it is a way of filling a gaping hole in your soul or a way of keeping up with the Joneses that’s not what you really want or having it all that’s simply trying to cope and keep up and it’s a different thing altogether. The filtering media, helping our children filtering media and question the messages we get I think is one of the most significant jobs as a parent today.

Jay FisetJay Fiset, Husband, Father, President of Personal Best Seminars, Inc. and Found of the global movement called The Creator’s Code, he is a transformational facilitator of 25 years, as well as an Entrepreneurial and Personal Leadership Coach. He is also a Personal Accountability Expert and author of the best-selling book “Reframe Your Blame”.

With over 40,000 graduates over the past 25 years from his transformational programs and seminars, his mission is to live passionately, positively and abundantly and manifesting freedom through personal accountability in his life and the lives of others. He is dedicated to instigating and leading a global movement of Conscious Creators, who, by releasing their mental and emotional blocks and barriers, choose to create lives of meaning and contribution.

www.creatorscode.com





Right at this moment, no matter how you are feeling, no matter how in debt you might be, no matter how old you are or how much you weigh, and no matter what the condition of your relationships might be, you have the power to re-create yourself and your life exactly the way you desire it to be – and quite frankly, the way you deserve it to be.

Regardless of how big a gap exists between what you want and what you currently have, within you is the ability to effortlessly and joyfully bridge that gap in virtually every aspect of your life.

You can have it all, how you define it, how you want it. You do have the power to create it.

Go here to learn exactly how you can start having it all today!


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