Christian Family- II

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F A M I L Y The strength of a nation lies in the homes of its

people.

Abraham Lincoln.

AQUAINTANCE FRIENDSHIP COMPANIONSHIP

ABC ABOUT ONES LIFE-PARTNER:

Age, Beauty, Character, Dowry,Education, Family, God-fearing, Honest,Intelligent, Jovial, Kind, Loving,Magnanimous, Neat, Obedient, Punctual,Quick, Responsible, Sincere, Truthful,Understanding, Valiant, Wise, Yearning,Zealous. (All stand cancelled)(Hudson Taylor did not marry the girl he lovedbecause she was not committed to the cause of Missionary work in China.)

THE CHRISTIAN FAMILY

Invocation: Ps. 118: 23, 24. Judges.14: 4.


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This is the Lords doing; it is marvellous in oureyes.

This is the day that the Lord hath made; we will

rejoice and be glad in it.Eccl: 3:11 - He hath made everything beautifulin his time. (Prov.18:22; 31:10-31. Is.34:16.Numb: 36:6>)

THE CHRISTIAN FAMILY IS A GOD-ORDAINED SOCIALINSTITUTION

Gods first social institution: Gen.1:27.

The disintegration of the family will reflect inpersonal life; in social life; in vocationalenterprise; in political life.

Matrimony is a Psychological / Physiological Need.1Cor. 7.

Marriage is not any experiment, but a covenant, nota mere contract. Contracts are conditional; Acovenant is unconditional.

Christian Family relationship is not just for problem-

solving, but for a deeper commitment andrelationship. It is no mere adjustment.

Gen. 2: 24 - Leave father and mother and Cleave.Leaving has to

be complete, to cleave


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Marriage Math: 1+1

=

1

The Plaited hair:EccI. 4: 12.(A THREEFOLD CORD ISNOT QUICKLY BROKEN)

Parents are not tobe too possessive. The Teak &Rosewood cotCulture(The Wifes Teak Cot and theHusbands Rosewood Cot)

TO THINK BEFORE MARRIAGE:

II Cor. 6: 14 Be ye notunequally yoked together withunbelievers: for, what fellowship

hath righteousness withunrighteousness? And whatcommunion hath light withdarkness?

I Cor.7: 16, 39 For What

knowest thou O wife, whetherthou shalt save thy husband?Or how knowest thou, O man,whether thou shalt save thy wife?


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HIERARCHY IN MARITALRELATIONSHIP.

I Cor. 11:3 But I would haveyou know, that the head of everyman is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and thehead of Christ is God.

Family Bicycle

Children

W H

Willing SubmissionLoving Leadership

The back wheel bears:SeatPedalsChainCarriageBreak

ChristGod


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DynamoStand.

FIVE COMMANDMENTS /WARNINGS- Col: 3: 18-21.

SUBMIT LOVE OBEY PROVOKE NOT - OBEY-

THREATEN NOT. (These are

not to be demanded)

SUBMIT (Not Submissive !) - Notenforced, but Willing.(Eph. 5: 22, 23, 24, 33; Col.3:18-

21; I Pt.3:1)- Joyfully Ps. 40:8

- Purposefully Eph 5: 22

- Sacrificially Ps. 45: 10

- With Dignity I Pt. 3: 3,4

(The man wants to feel manly, a He-Man,heroic, not henpecked)

LOVE -- (Un-loving !) Cor. 13 -Loving Leadership:


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(Eph.5:25; I Pt.1:22; Jn.15:12;Rom.13:8) Inter-relationship Mutual Trust.

OBEY -- (Disobedient !)Willing Obedience. (Eph.6:1-3)Children! Obey your parents in the Lord: for,this is right. Honour thy father and mother;(which is the first commandment withpromise;) That it may be well with thee, andthou mayest live long on the earth.

(Col.3:20) Children, obey your parentsin all things: for, this is well pleasing unto theLord.

ABOUT CHILDREN:(Prov.17:6)

PROVOKE NOT - (And ye fathers!Provoke not your children to wrath: but bringthem up in the nurture and admonition of theLord.)

Physical Growth Nourishment.Shall we Play? No Time.


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I Tim. 4:8 For bodily exercise profiteth alittle; but godliness is profitable unto all things.

Emotional- They want to be

accepted (love, praise, care.)Intellectual: Teach them to exploreand experiment;

Dont Criticize themalways. Do not

compare two children,to reprimand. Give

them time andattention. (Play with them)Spiritual: Deut.6: Begin before achild is born. Do not leave

responsibility to Sunday Schoolteachers and Grand Parents. Tellthe child to tell a lie to someone, the child isbound to lie to the parents later. Teach achild, a little by what you say; Teach more bywhat you do; Teach them most by what youARE. (Do as I say, not as I DO !!?)


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SERVANTS, BE OBEDIENT Eph.6: 5.Servants, be obedient to them that are yourmasters, according to the flesh, with fear andtrembling, in singleness of your heart, as untoChrist; 6. Not with eye-service, as men-pleasers;but as servants of Christ, doing the will of God fromthe heart; 7. With good will, doing service, asto the Lord and not to men. 8. Knowing thatwhatsoever good thing any man doeth, the sameshall he receive of the Lord, whether he be bond orfree.

THREATEN NOT Eph.6:9 And, yemasters, do the same things unto them, forbearingthreatening: knowing that your Master also is inheaven; neither is there respect of persons withHim.


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FINALLY, GUARD YOURRELATIONSHIP : I Pet. 3: 1,2,6,7.

1. Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your ownhusbands; that if any obey not the Word, they alsomay without the Word be won by the conversationof the wives, 2. While they behold your chasteconversation coupled with fear. 6. Even as Sarahobeyed Abraham, calling him Lord: whosedaughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are notafraid with any amazement. 7. Likewise, yehusbands, dwell with them according to knowledge,giving honour unto the wife, as unto heirs togetherof the grace of life; that your prayers be nothindered.

Heb: 13:4. Marriage is honourable in all, and thebed undefiled. Mal. 2:15 Let none deal

treacherously against the wife of his youth.Do not take counsel from non-believers to solveyour issues. I Tim.5:14.

ROLES: HUSBAND: PROTECTS,PROVIDES, LEADS Eph.5: 28,29(Priest Gen.18:19) II Kings 21:13. I willwipe Jerusalem as a man wipeth a dish, wiping it,and turning it upside down.


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WIFE: COMFORTS, NURTURES,COUNSELS. (Titus.2: 3-5, I

Tim.2: 11,12)

EXAMPLES OF HUSBANDS AND WIVES IN THE WORD:

Abraham Sarah Isaac-Rebecca Jacob Rachael, Joseph - Asneth(Gen.41:45)

Aquila Priscilla (Acts 18) they livedwith Paul in Corinth and Ephesus.Rom.16:3; II Tim.4:19.

- Commitment to faith.

- Compatibility in vocation.- Cordiality at Home

(Hospitality).

- Considerate to the needs of others.

- Church-life within home.

Wrong Influence: Ahab Isabel(I Kings: 21:7); WrongConnection: Samson Delila (Judges:


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14: 1-3) Wrong Counsel:Ananias Saphira (Acts. 5:2)

PRACTICAL HINTS:

1. Study Bible passages related to couples.

2. Survey a glossary of Bible verses onMatrimony.

3. Attend Christian Family Conferences ororganize one.

4. Regularly attend worship together.

5. Never break house worship held twice.

6. Restitute instantly if there occurred a

difference of opinion. (Forgive and Forget BeProud to be a loser)

7. Communicate constantly. Patiently listen toyour partner, however silly the subject be.

8. Visit families (like-minded), and places of interest.

9. Keep financial Account and maintain individual/ family diary.

10. Do together, things of common interest.

THE MANIFESTO OF A CHRISTIAN HOMEThe Christian Home is:

1.A place of peace and pleasure.


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2.A place of Love and Liberty.3.A place of Safety and Security.4.A place of Hospitality and Entertainment.

5.A place of recreation.

WHAT MAKES A HOME CHRISTIAN?1. A Christian Home is a place of

Relationships.

2. a place of Equality.

3. a place of Harmony.

4. a place of MutualSubmission.

THE HOLY SPIRIT IS THE LUBRICATOR OFRELATIONSHIPS.

7 TRUTHS ABOUT A CHRISTIAN HOMEFROM EPHESIANS 5.

1.A place of Spirit-filled life (v.18)

2.A place of Communication (v.19a) (HolySpirit is a Spirit of Communication.)

3.A place of Worship (v. 19 b)4.A place of Harmony (v. 19) where

feelings are respected.

5.A place of Acceptance (v. 20)

6.A place of gratefulness and Thankfulness(v. 20)


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7. A place of God-fearing and MutualSubmission (v.21)

10 MANIFESTATIONS OF DEPRESSION INMARRIAGE.

1. Absence of Romantic love 2. In-lawconflict

3. Low self-esteem / Ego 4.Problems with the children

5. Financial Difficulties 6. Sexualproblems

7. Physiological problems 8.Loneliness,isolation,boredom

9. Fatigue & Time pressure 10.

Aging

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I CORINTHIANS7.

1.It is good for aman not to touch awoman.

2. Nevertheless toavoid fornication,let every man have

his own wife, andlet every womanhave her ownhusband.

7. For I would thatall men were evenas I myself.

9. But if theycannot contain, letthem marry: for itis better to marrythan burn.

10. And unto themarried Icommand, yet notI, but the Lord, Letnot the wife departfrom her husband.

11. But and if shedepart, let

her remainunmarried, or bereconciled to herhusband: and letnot the husbandput away his wife.

15. But if theunbelieving depart,let them depart. Abrother or a sisteris not underbondage in such

cases; but Godhath called us topeace.

29. But this I say,brethren, the timeis short: itremaineth, thatboth they thathave wives be asthough they hadnone;


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39. The wife isbound by the lawas long as her

husband liveth;but if her husband

is dead, she is atliberty to bemarried to whom

she will; only inthe Lord.

Prepared by Prof.Abraham Joseph Padinjattidom, Director, Lingua Franca

International, Kesavadasapuram Jn., Trivandrum, Keralam, India.0091-9447-551699 [email protected]

SONG: (TUNE: NJAANUMENTEI KUDUMBAVUMNJANGAL YEHOVAYEI SEIVIKUM)

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AS FOR ME AND MY-OWN HOMESTEADWE WILL SERVE THE LORD JEHOVAH (2)TRUSTWORTHY IN ALL OUR LIFERELI-ABLE TO ALL-WHO TRUST

A FORTRESS HE IS, HOPE IN SORROWTHE CLEFTED ROCK AND-OUR-REFUGE.

(A)-COMPANION IN TRIBULATIONGRATIFYING MASTERMIND

CONSTANTLY HE GIFTS HIS CHILDRENOUR-PROVIDER-IN EVERY

NEED.. AS FOR ME

LIBERATING EVERY SINNERRELEASING THE TORTURED ONES

PRESERVING ALL DESTITUTES AND
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HEALING ALL THEAILING CROWD.. AS FOR ME

LORD OF ALL OUR GENERATIONLEADER AND A SHEHERD SURE

OUR PROTECTOR TO THE VICTORY THROUGH THE CLOUD

AND FIRE BEAMS.. AS FOR ME

INCOME / EXPENDITURE FOR THE MONTH OF.. YEAR .

INCOME:

EXPENDITURE:

1. TITHE..

2. RENT..

3. SALARY.

4. ELECTRICITY..

5. TELEPHONE..

6. TELEPHONE CARDS.


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7. CABLE..

8. COOKING GAS

9. NEWSPAPER..

10. L.I.C

11. P.O / R/D / CHITTY

12. PETROL

...

13. PROVISION.

14. VEGETABLE

15. FISH / MEAT..

16. MILK / CURDS..

17. BAKERY

18. TRAVEL.

19. MEDICINE

20. INCIDENTAL EXPENSES.

1.


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2.3.4.5.

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