Chapter 9, Marriage, A Private and Public...
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Chapter Outline
Marital Status: The Changing Picture
The Time-Honored Marriage Premise:
Permanence and Sexual Exclusivity
From “Yoke Mates” to “Soul Mates” - A
Changing Marriage Premise
Deinstitutionalized Marriage
Chapter Outline
Individualized Marriage and the
Postmodern Family - Decline or Inevitable
Change?
Valuing Marriage- The Policy Debate
Happiness and Life Satisfaction: How
Does Marriage Matter?
Marital Satisfaction and Choices
Throughout Life
Marital Status:
The Changing Picture
The proportion of Americans age 18 and over
who are married has declined significantly in
the last 50 years-from 72 percent in 1960 to
between 51 and 56 percent in 2010. People
are also much more likely to be older at age of
first marriage.
Two major reasons account for this shift:
economic conditions and an increasing desire
to find love in a marriage relationship.
Weddings
Marking a couple’s
commitment,
weddings are public
events because the
community has a
stake in marriage as
a social institution.
The Time-Honored Marriage Premise:
Permanence and Sexual Exclusivity
Expectations of permanence derive from
the fact that historically marriage was a
practical institution.
In the United States today, marriage
seldom involves merging two families’
properties.
Providing love and ongoing emotional
support has become key for most people.
The Time-Honored Marriage Premise:
Permanence and Sexual Exclusivity
Marriage in the United States legally requires monogamy, along with expectations of sexual exclusivity, in which spouses promise to have sexual relations only with each other.
Expectations of sexual exclusivity have broadened to include expectations of emotional centrality, or putting one’s partner first.
Issues for Thought: Three Very
Different Subcultures with Norms
Contrary to Sexual Exclusivity
Polygamy: having more than 1 spouse
Polyamory: “many loves”
Swinging: exchange partners for sex
Polygamy
Polygamy has been illegal in the United States
since 1878, when the U.S. Supreme Court ruled
that freedom to practice the Mormon religion did
not extend to having multiple wives.
The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints
no longer permits polygamy.
Some dissident Mormons follow the traditional
teachings and take multiple wives.
Polyamory
Polyamory refers to marriages in which one or
both spouses retain the option to sexually love
others in addition to their spouse.
Polyamorous spouses agree to openly
acknowledge sexual relationships with others
while keeping the marriage relationship primary.
The Polyamory Society’s Children Educational
Branch offers advice for polyamorous parents
and maintains a PolyFamily scholarship fund.
Swinging
Swinging is a marriage arrangement in
which couples exchange partners in order
to engage in purely recreational sex.
It has been estimated that there are now
about 3 million married swingers in the
United States, an increase of about one
million since 1990.
From “Yoke Mates” to “Soul Mates”
— A Changing Marriage Premise
Individualism and Collectivism
In individualistic societies, one’s own self-
actualization and interests are a valid
concern.
In collectivist societies, people identify
with and conform to the expectations of
their extended kin.
From “Yoke Mates” to “Soul Mates”
— A Changing Marriage Premise
Individualist Orientation and Marriage
With regard to marriage, an individualist
orientation resulted in three developments:
1. The authority of kin and extended family
weakened.
2. Individuals began to find their own marriage
partners.
3. Romantic love came to be associated with
marriage.
From “Yoke Mates” to “Soul Mates”
— A Changing Marriage Premise
Weakened Kinship Authority
Kin includes parents and other relatives, such
as in-laws, grandparents, aunts and uncles, and
cousins.
In Western societies, kinship authority is weak.
Sociologist Talcott Parsons noted that in the
American kinship system married people are
members of their family of orientation and their
family of procreation.
From “Yoke Mates” to “Soul Mates”
— A Changing Marriage Premise
Arranged marriage has characterized
collectivist societies.
It is only recently that love has become
associated with marriage, especially with
the newly developing middle classes.
Deinstitutionalization of
Marriage
A situation in which time-honored family
definitions and social norms count for far
less than in the past.
E.g., childbearing outside of marriage
Marriages have shifted from institutional
to compassionate to individualized
Institutional Marriage
Institutional marriage: A social institution based on dutiful adherence to the time honored marriage premise, particularly the norm of permanence
Family organized around economic production, kinship network, community connections, the father’s authority, and marriage as a functional partnership
The Institutional
Marriage Bond
Couples are “yoked” together by high
expectations for permanence, bolstered by the
strong social control of extended kin and
community.
The Companionate Marriage
Bond
Couples are bound
together by
companionship, coupled
with a gendered division
of labor, pride in
performing spousal and
parenting roles, and
hopes for “the American
dream”—a home of their
own and a comfortable
domestic life together.
Individualized Marriage
Four interrelated characteristics distinguish individualized marriage:
1. It is optional.
2. Spouses’ roles are flexible—negotiable and renegotiable.
3. Its expected rewards involve love, communication and emotional intimacy.
4. It exists in conjunction with a vast diversity of family forms.
The Individualized Marriage
Bond
Spouses in individualized
marriages remain
together because they
find self actualization,
intimacy, and
expressively
communicated emotional
support in their unions.
Individualized Marriage and the
Postmodern Family—
Decline or Inevitable Change?
A Decline View
Individualism has caused moral
weakening and self-indulgence and as a
result are less likely to choose marriage,
are more likely to divorce, and are less
child-centered
Individualized Marriage and the
Postmodern Family—
Decline or Inevitable Change?
A Change View
Nostalgia about the “good old days”
leads to incorrect assumptions.
For example, large families with many
children and higher death rates for
parents with young children meant many
children were not raised in two-parent
households.
Deinstitutionalized Marriage:
Examining the Consequences
Demographer Linda Waite compared
married and unmarried households and
reported that spouses:
1. Had greater wealth and assets.
2. Earned higher wages.
3. Had more frequent and better sex.
4. Had overall better health.
Deinstitutionalized Marriage:
Examining the Consequences
Demographer Linda Waite reported that
spouses:
5. Were less likely to engage in risk-taking.
6. Had fewer alcohol-related problems.
7. Had lower rates of marijuana use.
8. Were more likely to engage in healthy
behaviors.
Deinstitutionalized Marriage:
Examining the Consequences
Waite found that children in married families:
Were about half as likely to drop out of high
school.
Reported more frequent contact and better-
quality relationships with their parents.
Were significantly less likely to live in poverty.
Selection Hypothesis
Posits that many of the benefits
associated with marriage are due to the
personal characteristics of those who
choose to marry.
The experience hypothesis holds that
the experience of being married itself
causes these benefits.
Child Outcomes and Marital
Status: Does Marriage
Matter? The proportion of children under 18 living with
two married parents declined steadily over the
past 40 years.
Considerable research supports the overall
conclusion that growing up with married
parents is better.
However, this is a complex relationship
mediated by several factors
Jumping the Broom
Although controversial
because it can be a
reminder of slavery,
jumping the broom at
African American
weddings is going
through some revival as
couples plan wedding
rituals that incorporate
their cultural heritage
A Closer Look at Diversity
With 43% of black men and 36% of black
women currently married—African
Americans are less likely to be wed than
are other U.S. racial/ethnic groups.
The reasons for these low rates are
structural-cultural in nature.
African American families are increasingly
divided between a middle class that has
benefited from the civil rights movement
and a sector that remains disadvantaged.
Valuing Marriage — The
Policy Debate
From a change perspective, policy advocates
view poverty as causing environments with
negative consequences
From a decline perspective, there are concerns
about “family breakdown” which includes the
amount of money spent on “welfare for poverty-
level single mothers, along with the
irresponsible socialization of children”
Policies from a Decline
Perspective: Covenant
Marriage A type of legal marriage in which partners agree
to be bound by a marriage “covenant”
Three states have enacted covenant marriage
laws — Louisiana, Arizona, and Arkansas.
Couples are required to get premarital
counseling and may divorce only after being
separated for two years or if imprisonment,
desertion for one year, adultery, or domestic
abuse is proved in court.
Policies from a Decline
Perspective: Government
Initiatives Federal law that authorized the Temporary
Assistance for Needy Families (TANF) program and has the following goals:
1. End the dependence of parents on government benefits by promoting job preparation, work, and marriage.
2. Prevent and reduce out-of-wedlock births.
3. Encourage the formation and maintenance of two parent families
Healthy Marriage Initiative
Introduced by President Bush in 2004.
From a total of $1.5 billion in federal monies, states were allotted funds to create state marriage initiatives, characterized by workshops on listening, communication, and problem-solving skills, as well as presentations on the value of marriage.
The programs appear to produce at least short-term improvements in communication and problem solving.
Criticisms of the Healthy
Marriage Initiative
1. Many low-income Americans value marriage, but marriage is a difficult goal to achieve.
2. Remaining unmarried may be the most rational decision for many low-income women.
3. If TANF recipients marry, many of their unions are unlikely to look like the “good marriages” envisioned by the Healthy Marriage Initiative.
4. Relieving poverty will require solutions in addition to the Healthy Marriage Initiative.
Policies from a Decline
Perspective: Marriage and Poverty
14.7% of white, 16.8% of Asian, 34.8% of
African American, and 34% of Hispanic
children live in poverty.
Consequences include: malnutrition;
unhealthy neighborhoods; increased
physical , socioemotional, and behavioral
problems; less academic success; and
increased exposure to violence.
Policies from a Decline
Perspective: Marriage and Poverty
More than 14.7 million U.S. children under
age 18 live at or below poverty.
Children comprise 36% of the poor.
Millions more live in “near poor”
conditions (125% of poverty level).
Residing with married parents does
significantly lessen the likelihood of
growing up in poverty.
Policies from a Decline
Perspective: Marriage and Poverty
U.S. Poverty Rate for Children Under Age
18, 1959-2011.
Policies from a Family Change
Perspective
Policy makers in this camp propose
structural solutions such as support for
education, job training, drug rehabilitation,
improved job opportunities, neighborhood
improvements, small business
development, and parenting skills
education.
Happiness, Well-Being, and Life
Satisfaction: How Does
Marriage Matter?
Both husbands and wives are far more likely
than others to say they are “very happy”
Reasons for this include:
Economy of scale
Enhanced social support
Offered continuity
Marital Satisfaction and
Choices Throughout Life
Preparation for Marriage
Family life courses and premarital counseling
provide guidance and skills for marriage and
family
Research shows they do improve
communication skills and relationship quality
at least in the short term
Success also depends on the personality
traits of the individual and the couple
characteristics
Age at Marriage, Marital
Stability, and Satisfaction
Median age at first marriage today is about 26
for women and 28 for men.
Odds of marital stability increase with age at
marriage.
Marriages occurring today, when spouses are
between ages of 22 and 25, are most likely to
be not only stable but also happy.
Spouses who first married after age 30 reported
lower marital satisfaction.
The First Years of Marriage
First years of marriage tend to be the happiest,
with gradual declines in marital satisfaction
afterward.
Three main, potentially problematic topics for
couples in first marriages:
Money
Sexual frequency
Agreeing on how to spend time together