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Chapter 8
Resolving Conflict and Achieving Emotional Balance
© 2012 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved.
Learning ObjectivesAfter studying Chapter 8, you will be able to:
8–2
List and describe the causes of workplace conflict.
Utilize assertiveness skills in conflict situations.
Understand when and how to implement effective negotiation skills.
Identify key elements of the conflict resolution process.
Describe how emotions influence thinking and behavior.
Describe factors that influence emotional development.
Learn how to deal with your anger and that of others.
Describe strategies for achieving emotional control.
© 2012 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. 8–3
A New View of Conflict
• Traditional (Negative) View– A clash between incompatible people, ideas, or
interests
• New (Positive) View of Conflict– As a meaningful opportunity for personal growth
through the development and constructive use of conflict resolution skills
– As necessary for effective problem solving and for effective interpersonal relations
Finding the Root Causes of Conflict
• Unless the root cause (trigger) is identified, conflict is likely to recur
• If the trigger… – Stimulates constructive conflict, it can
be allowed to continue– Stimulates destructive conflict, steps
need to be taken to correct the problem
How do you distinguish the difference between constructive and destructive conflict?
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© 2012 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. 8–5
FIGURE 8.1
Iceberg of Conflict
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Root Causes of Conflict
Sources of Conflict
Ineffective Communication
Value and Culture Clashes
Organizational Change
Adversarial Management
Competition for Scarce Resources
Work Policies and Practices
Personality Clashes
Conflict Triggers
• Organizational Change
– Most organizations have tension between stability and change
– Too much stability and the organization may lose its competitive position in the market place
– Too much change and the mission blurs and employee anxiety develops
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Conflict Triggers
• Ineffective Communication– Conflict may arise due to a misunderstanding
rather than a true disagreement
• Value and Culture Clashes– Differences in values and cultural traditions in
diverse workplaces may give rise to conflict
What is an example of work-related conflict that may arise due to confusing disagreement with misunderstanding?
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Conflict Triggers
• Work Policies and Practices– Conflict may arise when policies are disobeyed
or perceived as unfair or confusing
• Adversarial Management– Conflict can occur when managers view
employees and other managers with distrust and suspicion
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Conflict Triggers
• Competition for Scarce Resources– Downsizing and cost cutting can lead to
destructive competition for scarce resources
• Personality Clashes– Conflicts may arise due to differing
temperaments, communication styles, attitudes, or unknown reasons
“Some people just don’t get along.” Are personality clashes are resolvable?
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© 2012 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. 8–11
Resolving Conflict Assertively
• Nonassertive Behavior– Attempting to avoid conflict by simply ignoring it.
• Assertive Behavior– Standing up for one’s rights and expressing
one’s thoughts and feelings in a direct, appropriate way
• Aggressive Behavior– Expressing thoughts and feelings and defending
rights in a way that violates the rights of others
Resolving Conflict Assertively
How do you assertively resolve conflict with these characters?
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© 2012 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. 8–13
FIGURE 8.2 Dealing with People You Can’t Stand
The Bully
Keep your cool. Immediately respond calmly and professionally to let the bully know you are not a target. Ask the bully to fully explain what he or she is trying to say, and then paraphrase your understanding of the bully’s real intentions.
The Backstabber
Once you’ve discovered your saboteur, tell key people that the person is, in fact, not a friend, which takes power from the backstabber and reveals the smear campaign.
The Whiner
Listen and write down their main points. Interrupt and get specifics so you can identify and focus on possible solutions. If they remain in “it’s hopeless” mode, walk away saying, “Let me know when you want to talk about a solution.”
The Jerk
They do not respond to normal pleas to change their behavior, so just back off. Do not take their bait; limit your contact with them, avoid conflict when possible, and always be on guard.
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FIGURE 8.2 Dealing with People You Can’t Stand
The Know-It-All
Acknowledge their expertise, but be prepared with your facts. Use “I” statements, such as “From what I’ve read and experienced. . . .”
The Nebbish
Help them feel comfortable and safe in their decisions and stay in touch until the decision is implemented. Arrange deadlines and describe consequences that will result when they complete the tasks and what will happen if they don’t.
The Exploder
When an explosion begins, assertively repeat the individual’s name to get his or her attention, or repeat a neutral comment such as “Stop!” Calmly address what they said in their first few sentences, which usually reveals the real problem. Give them time to regain self-control. Suggest that they take time out to cool down, and then listen to their problems in private
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TABLE 8.1 Behaviors Exhibited by Assertive, Aggressive, and Nonassertive Persons
Resolving Conflict Assertively
• How to Become More Assertive:
– In the beginning, take small steps in asking that your desires or rights be considered
– Use nonthreatening messages and nonverbal cues to enhance the assertiveness of your requests for action
– Be soft on people and hard on the problem by focusing of the problem
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Learn to Negotiate Effectively
When would you use each approach?
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Empowered workers resolve conflict themselves
Win\Lose Approach
Each side attempts to achieve its goals at the expense of other side’s goals
Lose\Lose Approach
Both sides give up something and both may become frustrated
Win\Win Approach
Both sides attempt to achieve a creative solution that is mutually satisfying to both
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FIGURE 8.3 Rob Walker
Learn to Negotiate Effectively
• Beware of Defensive Behaviors– When one person becomes defensive,
others may mirror the behavior– Progress is stopped because people stop
listening and think about defending
• Know That Negotiating Styles Vary– The style a manager develops is based on
personality, assertiveness skills, and past experiences dealing with conflict
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© 2012 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. 8–20
FIGURE 8.4 Behavioral Styles for Conflict Situations
Conflict Resolution Process
5-Step Conflict Resolution Process
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© 2012 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. 8–22
FIGURE 8.5 Behavior Is Influenced by Activating Events
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Emotional Balance—An Introduction
• Emotion– Is a strong, temporary positive or negative
feeling– Can alter thought processes by directing
attention toward or away from things– Can trigger irrational thinking and behaviors
• Emotional Imbalance– Is inhibition in expressing certain emotions and
overexpression of other emotions
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Emotional Balance—An Introduction
• Emotional Intelligence (EQ)– Is the ability to monitor and control one’s
emotions and behavior at work and in social settings.
• Dimensions of EQ– Personal competence in achieving and
maintaining an emotional balance– Social competence in relationships with others
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Emotional Factors at Work
• Relationship Strategy– Is a firm’s plan for establishing, building, and
maintaining quality relationships with customers
• Emotional Labor– Taxes the mind and is often more difficult to
handle than physical labor.
• Toxic Emotions– Demoralize employees, damage performances,
and contaminate the health of the organization
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Emotional Factors at Work
• Temperament– Is a person’s individual style of expressing
needs and emotions– Is both biologically and genetically based
• Unconscious Mind– Is the part of the mind of which we are unaware– Is a vast storehouse of forgotten memories,
desires, ideas, and frustrations
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Emotional Factors at Work
• Cultural Intelligence (CQ)– Is the ability to interpret human actions,
gestures, and speech patterns in an unfamiliar cultural situation and then respond appropriately
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Coping with Your Anger and the Anger of Others
• Anger Defined:– A strong feeling of displeasure and antagonism
• Managing Your Anger– Self-monitor your anger:
• How often do you get angry?• What is its source or cause?• How upsetting is your anger?• How well do you manage your anger?
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Effective Ways to Express Your Anger
1. Avoid reacting in a manner that could be seen as emotionally unstable.
2. Do not make accusations or attempt to fix blame.
3. Express your feelings in a timely manner.
4. Be specific as you describe the factors that triggered your anger, and be clear about the resolution you are seeking.
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How to Handle Other People’s Anger
1. Recognize and accept the other person’s anger.
2. Encourage the angry person to vent his or her feelings.
3. Do not respond to an angry person with your own anger.
4. Give the angry person feedback.
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Strategies for Achieving Emotional Control
• Identifying Your Emotional Patterns– Keep a record or journal of feelings– Spend time in quiet reflection– Chart your emotional landscape
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TABLE 8.2 Charting Your Emotional Landscape
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Strategies for Achieving Emotional Control
• Fine-Tuning Your Emotional Style– Take responsibility for your emotions– Put your problems into proper perspective– Take steps to move beyond toxic emotions such
as envy, anger, jealousy, or hatred– Give your feelings some exercise
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Strategies for Achieving Emotional Control
• Adjusting to Cope with Difficult Decisions– Take only actions that feel good at the moment– Behave in a manner that is acceptable to the
people around you
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KEY TERMS
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conflict
conflict trigger
nonassertive behavior
assertive behavior
aggressive behavior
win/lose approach
lose/lose approach
win/win approach
conflict resolution process
emotion
emotional intelligence
temperament
unconscious mind
cultural intelligence
anger